From Surviving to Thriving: A No Tools, No Techniques Shift from Stress and Overwhelm to Fulfilment

There is something which falls away when you realise that your ability and your thinking are not connected. That they have nothing to do with each other. It's like magic. Firstly you learn to ignore the voice in your head. Then 'negative nelly' turns up less. Finally you are free and can go full steam ahead! This is available when you understand the nature of thoughts and feelings!

Have you noticed that the meaning of words can create stress. A couple of the ones I don't like are 'hate' and 'should'. But I end up thinking people shouldn't say 'should' and hating people for using 'hate'. It's actually laughable when you think about it. We give words energy that the person saying them might not have done. We create the meaning. Worth watching out for if you want to feel less stressed.

The thoughts which are causing your stress work like an algorithm. The more you focus on them, the more they turn up. And that focus can even be your attempts to change your thoughts. Then you feel that thinking in your body. The more attention, the more horrible the feeling. Just like an algorithm, when you starting letting them pass, they just don't show up so much. Simple but true!

Planning or presence - which is the least stressful? Of course we have to plan. I have dates in my diary and things booked in. But there is something wonderful which happens when we let go a bit. When we allow things to unfold from the present moment.

Suffering is not coming from where you might think. By suffering I am talking about stress, anxiety, unhealthy behaviour, anger to name but a few. It's the suffering which comes from a misunderstanding about where our feelings are coming from. That is the ultimate misunderstanding after all. Once we see the way things really work, which is inside out, not outside in, the suffering falls away. Do you want to suffer less?

We are made of love and once we know this everything changes. It's what is underneath our conditioned thinking. Seeing this can change all your relationships. As our thinking looks less real to us, we connect to love which is our essence! Who we really are. Imagine being in this place of love more of the time.

We are being told a lie about the source of stress. At the moment it is the cost of living. Previously it has been lockdowns and before that ... well the list goes on doesn't it? We are being told a lie but not knowingly. People really think stress comes from the outside world but it does not. Stress comes from thoughts about things not the things themselves and once you understand this, you experience a lot less stress.

Workaholism works like any other addiction! Like all other addictions, it comes from a misunderstanding about where your feelings are coming from. It's the reason why we feel compelled to do anything. It looks like a feeling can be added or removed by doing something in the outside world so we do that thing. Simple when you realise. And when you realise that your feelings don't come from the outside world, it's super simple for the behaviour to fall away.

Your comfort zone does not exist! It is only a collection of thoughts. Something magical happens when you start to take it less seriously. It begins to simply falls away. The thoughts might still be there for a while but they get easier and easier to dismiss. It's simpler than you might think to experience this.

Why is the Gazelle so calm? Because she doesn't think like us. She doesn't worry, 'what if' or time travel in her head. 

What if you could be more gazelle?