From Surviving to Thriving: A No Tools, No Techniques Shift from Stress and Overwhelm to Fulfilment

There's a confusion which pervades our world right now and it is causing a lot of suffering. Someone recently asked me to talk about why people feel bad but cannot understand why. They can’t quite put their finger on it and, as a result, can’t fix it. I suppose the word here that would be good to address is “ confusion”

It's a great question with seems like it might have a complicated answer but really it is simpler than you might think. There is one reason we feel an emotion and that is because of where our thoughts and attention are in any moment. And the biggest misunderstanding which is causing most human suffering is the that we don't know the above and are confused about where our feelings are coming from. So there is nothing to fix and we are trying to fix it which of course creates stress.

Anticipation is a source of stress. It is defined as, 'the action of anticipating something; expectation or prediction.' Here's what I see happening. We anticipate the future, predict something terrible and then expect that we won't be able to cope. It feels awful and that's the clue. The awful feeling is your system letting you know your thinking is off. Simple to avoid once you know that the source of the feeling is thought.

Realising innate wellbeing relieves stress because something magic happens when you see how you work. That the feelings you are feeling are not you. They are something which is passing through you. Underneath that you are a diamond. The true you is unbreakable. Thought is powerful but it is not true and it is not you! If you want to see this more, drop me a message.

Perhaps you have noticed how your feelings of stress fluctuate despite the circumstances staying the same. You might have also had a moment when you have felt stressed about something which isn't happening right now. Maybe you have noticed that other people do not get stressed about the same things as you. 

That's because there's a missing piece of the jigsaw. The real reason we feel stressed is our stressful thinking which acts like a virtual reality generator. Making stressful feelings grown the more we think about the thing we are stressing about. It's a simple energy in = energy out equation really. The more power you give the virtual reality machine, the more you feel your thinking about the circumstance.

But once you see this is how it works, something magical happens in the space.

When we are connected to wisdom, we experience less stress. We are guided and can navigate through life more easily. Sometimes people call it intuition and say it comes from a quiet place but it is so much more than that. Every moment of every day we are being guided. This guidance comes from our feelings.

Uncomfortable feeling = uncomfortable thinking = time to pause

Calm feeling = calm thinking = go ahead

It's so simple it sometimes blows my mind. If you would like to feel more guided to wisdom, drop me a message.

I am noticing there is more and more laughter. It seems to me that it can break a spell. When we are feeling stressed and realise we are creating that, it signals that we have noticed it. I see it more and more in my work with clients. Those laughing realisations and in myself - noticing the craziness of life and laughing at it! Perhaps as I share today, you might notice you would like to laugh at yourself more!

On Monday I spotted a source of stress in my life. It was something I had not realised before. Some thinking I am involved in. It's probably been around a long time and it was definitely pivotal in the burnout. I realised yesterday that I do a lot of judging, monitoring and supervising. My children, my fiancé and anyone who is doing it wrong really. 🤣

It creates a current of underlying stress. Things to think about that are really nothing to do with me. And when you realise that all stress is created via our thinking, it suddenly doesn't make so much sense to go there. Maybe as I talk about this, you might see it in yourself and it might help it to fall away.

Worry ... It feels awful; anxious, scary and fearful. There's a clue in that feeling. It's let us know the truth. Not about what we are worrying about but about our state of mind. The feeling is letting us know that we are believing something which isn't true. It's so much simpler than you think. When you realise the feeling is coming from worrying thinking, it suddenly makes whole lot less sense to worry.

Stress can result when we don't listen to our bodily wisdom. We have learnt to ignore it. We are much more likely to listen to that voice in our heads. But the voice in our heads is just the echo of the past. It's old habitual thinking. Our bodies are wise and guiding us all the time. Maybe just listen for today.

Not seeing our potential creates stress. It has us believing that we cannot do things, solve things and that we don't have the answers. But our potential is so much more than we can see. That's mainly because our thinking gets in the way; the beliefs we have about ourselves. But I see your potential and my favourite thing is to help you see it. Not just see it but access it in every moment. Then stress just melts away because you realise you've got this! Imagine that!