FULFILLMENT THERAPY - Marriage & Family Therapy, Self Mastery, Self Actualization, Unmet Needs, LDS Parent, Family Connection

Show Notes:

Today I’m sharing my sexual abuse story publicly for the first time (part 2 final). It’s raw. It’s real. It’s still hard. Guest co-host Kensi Evans is back to interview me about my experiences. We discuss healing, growth, and challenges that continue even today. Join us to find out how you can heal from your own wounds- AND have patience for yourself and others in their healing journeys. 

I hope it helps you in your own healing

-Kendra

ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy 

Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org

Contact → [email protected]

Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy 

Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy 

Facebook Group → Private FB Group 

Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching 

Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests

Save on the $600 off the flash sale! Apply the code SAVE600 to get $600 off our last flash sale for the Costa Rican Retreat when you sign up on FulfillmentTherapy.org. 

Our Adventure & Personal Growth Retreat includes:

All-Inclusive 6 Day & 6 Night Stay in Costa Rica

Luxurious Private Villa overlooking Bay

Enjoy Latin Cuisine as our Private Chef prepares 3 meals / Day 

& Drinks at our Unlimited Open Bar (fancy non-alcoholic drinks included)

Airport shuttle To & From Included

Professional Therapists / Coaches & Expert Team

Women’s, Men’s, and Couples Retreat at Neighboring Villas

5 Specially Created Fulfillment Meditation Sessions

Immersive Training to Elevate your Relationships & Personal Life

Transformative Meditation sessions and yoga

Private Villa is a short Walk from a Quiet, Beautiful Beach (rare for most retreats)

Breathtaking, Unforgettable Excursion in Nature like Ziplining, Hanging Bridges in the Rainforest, a 1500 ft Jungle Water Slide, Waterfall Hikes, Hot Springs, Volcanic Mud Baths, Snorkeling with Sea Life

Sailing, Surfing, Aquatic Adventures, Saunas, and even more…

Breakthrough Fulfillment Workshops + Coaching, Professional workbooks and resources

1 Week Pre-Retreat Virtual Integration Materials 

Costa Rican Retreats 

Sexual Abuse

1. My experience:

Neighbor kids abusing me between 3-5.  I remember feeling like it was my fault and I was a burden, so I didn’t share again.

Family member abusing me around 5 or 6. Never recovered enough to have a healthy dating life after that until mid-college. “Not that bad” mantra. Rarely talked about it.

4+ in high school that I didn’t see as abuse. I thought it was my fault for getting into the situation.

1. What helped me find healing?

Counseling in undergrad and grad school, talks with husband, A LOT of journaling, trauma therapy / visualizations, VALIDATING my experience, classes, psycho-education

Sexual abuse robs us of our sense of safety and trust, but through healing, we can reclaim our power and rebuild our lives.

Speaking out about sexual abuse is not just an act of courage; it's a vital step towards breaking the cycle of silence and stigma.

Healing from sexual abuse is not a linear journey; it's a series of brave, incremental steps over decades.

"It's my fault": Victims often internalize blame for the abuse, feeling responsible for what happened.

"I'm damaged": Victims may believe that the abuse has irreparably harmed them, leading to feelings of worthlessness or inadequacy.

"I'm alone": Victims may feel isolated, believing that nobody else understands what they're going through or that they're the only ones who have experienced such trauma.

"I can't trust anyone": Due to betrayal by the abuser, victims may struggle to trust others, fearing that they'll be hurt again.  (I can’t rely on anyone)

"I'm powerless": Victims may feel helpless and powerless, believing they have no control over their lives or their circumstances.

    3.What have I learned?

The lasting impact of trauma on mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

The importance of setting and enforcing personal boundaries. (learning the importance of your voice and saying no)

The significance of seeking support and finding safe spaces to share experiences.

The resilience of the human spirit and the capacity for healing and growth.

How our wounds make us who we are–and how scars help us discover our purpose.

Show Notes:

Today I’m sharing my sexual abuse story publicly for the first time. It’s raw. It’s real. It’s still hard. Guest co-host Kensi Evans is back to interview me about my experiences. We discuss healing, growth, and challenges that continue even today. Join us to find out how you can heal from your own wounds- AND have patience for yourself and others in their healing journeys. 

I hope it helps you in your own healing

-Kendra

ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy 

Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org

Contact → [email protected]

Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy 

Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy 

Facebook Group → Private FB Group 

Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching 

Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests

Save on the $600 off the flash sale! Apply the code SAVE600 to get $600 off our last flash sale for the Costa Rican Retreat when you sign up on FulfillmentTherapy.org. 

Our Adventure & Personal Growth Retreat includes:

All-Inclusive 6 Day & 6 Night Stay in Costa Rica

Luxurious Private Villa overlooking Bay

Enjoy Latin Cuisine as our Private Chef prepares 3 meals / Day 

& Drinks at our Unlimited Open Bar (fancy non-alcoholic drinks included)

Airport shuttle To & From Included

Professional Therapists / Coaches & Expert Team

Women’s, Men’s, and Couples Retreat at Neighboring Villas

5 Specially Created Fulfillment Meditation Sessions

Immersive Training to Elevate your Relationships & Personal Life

Transformative Meditation sessions and yoga

Private Villa is a short Walk from a Quiet, Beautiful Beach (rare for most retreats)

Breathtaking, Unforgettable Excursion in Nature like Ziplining, Hanging Bridges in the Rainforest, a 1500 ft Jungle Water Slide, Waterfall Hikes, Hot Springs, Volcanic Mud Baths, Snorkeling with Sea Life

Sailing, Surfing, Aquatic Adventures, Saunas, and even more…

Breakthrough Fulfillment Workshops + Coaching, Professional workbooks and resources

1 Week Pre-Retreat Virtual Integration Materials 

Costa Rican Retreats 

Sexual Abuse:

1. My experience:

Neighbor kids abusing me between 3-5.  I remember feeling like it was my fault and I was a burden, so I didn’t share again.

Family member abusing me around 5 or 6. Never recovered enough to have a healthy dating life after that until mid-college. “Not that bad” mantra. Rarely talked about it.

4+ in high school that I didn’t see as abuse. I thought it was my fault for getting into the situation.

1. What helped me find healing?

Counseling in undergrad and grad school, talks with husband, A LOT of journaling, trauma therapy / visualizations, VALIDATING my experience, classes, psycho-education

Sexual abuse robs us of our sense of safety and trust, but through healing, we can reclaim our power and rebuild our lives.

Speaking out about sexual abuse is not just an act of courage; it's a vital step towards breaking the cycle of silence and stigma.

Healing from sexual abuse is not a linear journey; it's a series of brave, incremental steps over decades.

"It's my fault": Victims often internalize blame for the abuse, feeling responsible for what happened.

"I'm damaged": Victims may believe that the abuse has irreparably harmed them, leading to feelings of worthlessness or inadequacy.

"I'm alone": Victims may feel isolated, believing that nobody else understands what they're going through or that they're the only ones who have experienced such trauma.

"I can't trust anyone": Due to betrayal by the abuser, victims may struggle to trust others, fearing that they'll be hurt again.  (I can’t rely on anyone)

"I'm powerless": Victims may feel helpless and powerless, believing they have no control over their lives or their circumstances.

    3.What have I learned?

The lasting impact of trauma on mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

The importance of setting and enforcing personal boundaries. (learning the importance of your voice and saying no)

The significance of seeking support and finding safe spaces to share experiences.

The resilience of the human spirit and the capacity for healing and growth.

How our wounds make us who we are–and how scars help us discover our purpose.

Show Notes:

Today we're tackling situational depression head-on – the natural response to life's curveballs. We’ll explore its impact on personal, marital, and parental life, as well as coping strategies that work. Let’s be honest–we all struggle at times, and this episode wasn't just for my clients–it was for me. Find out how I’m making it through and how you can, too. 

Enjoy!

-Kendra

ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy 

Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org

Contact → [email protected]

Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy 

Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy 

Facebook Group → Private FB Group 

Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching 

Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests

Save on the $600 off the flash sale! Apply the code SAVE600 to get $600 off our last flash sale for the Costa Rican Retreat when you sign up on FulfillmentTherapy.org. 

Our Adventure & Personal Growth Retreat includes:

All-Inclusive 6 Day & 6 Night Stay in Costa Rica

Luxurious Private Villa overlooking Bay

Enjoy Latin Cuisine as our Private Chef prepares 3 meals / Day 

& Drinks at our Unlimited Open Bar (fancy non-alcoholic drinks included)

Airport shuttle To & From Included

Professional Therapists / Coaches & Expert Team

Women’s, Men’s, and Couples Retreat at Neighboring Villas

5 Specially Created Fulfillment Meditation Sessions

Immersive Training to Elevate your Relationships & Personal Life

Transformative Meditation sessions and yoga

Private Villa is a short Walk from a Quiet, Beautiful Beach (rare for most retreats)

Breathtaking, Unforgettable Excursion in Nature like Ziplining, Hanging Bridges in the Rainforest, a 1500 ft Jungle Water Slide, Waterfall Hikes, Hot Springs, Volcanic Mud Baths, Snorkeling with Sea Life

Sailing, Surfing, Aquatic Adventures, Saunas, and even more…

Breakthrough Fulfillment Workshops + Coaching, Professional workbooks and resources

1 Week Pre-Retreat Virtual Integration Materials 

Costa Rican Retreats 

Navigating Situational Depression: Healing and Growth

Section 1: Understanding Situational Depression

• Definition and characteristics of situational depression.

• Situational depression, or reactive depression, is a type of depression triggered by stressful life events. Unlike clinical depression, which may happen without a clear cause, situational depression is directly linked to identifiable stressors such as loss of a job, divorce, financial problems, or a serious illness. Symptoms are similar to major depression, like feelings of sadness, hopelessness, irritability, changes in appetite or sleep patterns, difficulty concentrating, and loss of interest in activities once enjoyed. Situational depression is usually time-limited and resolves once the stressful situation improves.

Personal experience: situational depression in personal, marital, and parental contexts. (job loss, miscarriages, hospital stays, stay-at-home mom, financial setbacks, child struggles, marriage problems)

• Situational depression is a natural response to life's challenges, but it doesn't define us. It's a phase, not our identity.

Section 2: Coping Strategies and Impact on Relationships

• Practical tips for managing situational depression, including giving yourself permission to feel and process emotions.

• Set Realistic Goals: Break tasks into smaller, manageable steps. Focus on achievable goals to regain a sense of control and accomplishment.

• The impact of situational depression on marriage and parenting dynamics.

• Situational depression can strain marriage and parenting dynamics, leading to increased conflict, communication breakdowns, and emotional distance between partners. In marriage, one or both partners may feel overwhelmed or disconnected, impacting intimacy and mutual support. In parenting, situational depression can affect a parent's ability to engage with their children, leading to decreased involvement, irritability, and difficulty in providing emotional support and stability. Children may also sense changes in their parent's mood and behavior, affecting their own emotional well-being and sense of security within the family unit.

Importance of communication in expressing needs and seeking support from loved ones.

• In the midst of situational depression, it's okay to press pause, hibernate for a bit, and focus on self-care. This is not a sign of weakness but a path to resilience.

Section 3: Healing and Moving Forward

• Strategies for healing from situational depression, such as seeking professional help, engaging in self-care activities, and setting boundaries.

Seek support and implement positive changes to foster growth and resilience.

• Healing from situational depression requires compassion, patience, and proactive steps towards self-improvement. It's about embracing the journey of growth and coming back stronger than before.

Section 4: Cultivating Resilience and Well-Being

• Explore the insights you learned from situational depression and the wins.

• Through our winters of situational depression, we discover our strength and capacity for growth.

Other Mentioned Episodes:

The Gift of Anxiety & Depression

Seasonal Affective Disorder

Show Notes:

Today we dive into the rollercoaster of emotions when life throws unexpected challenges our way. From shock and disbelief to healing and growth, we explore how families can navigate these trials together. Learn practical tips for managing emotions, fostering open communication, and finding fulfillment amidst adversity. Join us as we uncover the resilience within and emerge stronger from life's unexpected twists and turns.

Enjoy!

-Kendra

ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy 

Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org

Contact → [email protected]

Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy 

Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy 

Facebook Group → Private FB Group 

Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching 

Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests

Costa Rica

Our Adventure & Personal Growth Retreat includes:

All-Inclusive 6 Day & 6 Night Stay in Costa Rica

Luxurious Private Villa overlooking Bay

Enjoy Latin Cuisine as our Private Chef prepares 3 meals / Day 

& Drinks at our Unlimited Open Bar (fancy non-alcoholic drinks included)

Airport shuttle To & From Included

Professional Therapists / Coaches & Expert Team

Women’s, Men’s, and Couples Retreat at Neighboring Villas

5 Specially Created Fulfillment Meditation Sessions

Immersive Training to Elevate your Relationships & Personal Life

Transformative Meditation sessions and yoga

Private Villa is a short Walk from a Quiet, Beautiful Beach (rare for most retreats)

Breathtaking, Unforgettable Excursion in Nature like Ziplining, Hanging Bridges in the Rainforest, a 1500 ft Jungle Water Slide, Waterfall Hikes, Hot Springs, Volcanic Mud Baths, Snorkeling with Sea Life

Sailing, Surfing, Aquatic Adventures, Saunas, and even more…

Breakthrough Fulfillment Workshops + Coaching, Professional workbooks and resources

1 Week Pre-Retreat Virtual Integration Materials 

Costa Rican Retreats

Show Notes:

Join us for a heartfelt conversation with Shan Wright, a fellow parent and podcaster, as we explore holistic parenting tips and her inspiring journey to prioritize whole health for her family. Through Shan's candid experiences, we'll discover actionable insights on nurturing a positive mindset and proactive approach to overcome challenges and find fulfillment in parenthood.Tune in as we share stories, laughter, and wisdom to support each other on this crazy journey of increasing fulfillment in life and parenthood.

Enjoy!

-Kendra

ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy 

Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org

Contact → [email protected]

Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy 

Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy 

Facebook Group → Private FB Group 

Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching 

Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests

Save on the $600 off the flash sale! Apply the code SAVE600 to get $600 off our last flash sale for the Costa Rican Retreat when you sign up on FulfillmentTherapy.org. 

Our Adventure & Personal Growth Retreat includes:

All-Inclusive 6 Day & 6 Night Stay in Costa Rica

Luxurious Private Villa overlooking Bay

Enjoy Latin Cuisine as our Private Chef prepares 3 meals / Day 

& Drinks at our Unlimited Open Bar (fancy non-alcoholic drinks included)

Airport shuttle To & From Included

Professional Therapists / Coaches & Expert Team

Women’s, Men’s, and Couples Retreat at Neighboring Villas

5 Specially Created Fulfillment Meditation Sessions

Immersive Training to Elevate your Relationships & Personal Life

Transformative Meditation sessions and yoga

Private Villa is a short Walk from a Quiet, Beautiful Beach (rare for most retreats)

Breathtaking, Unforgettable Excursion in Nature like Ziplining, Hanging Bridges in the Rainforest, a 1500 ft Jungle Water Slide, Waterfall Hikes, Hot Springs, Volcanic Mud Baths, Snorkeling with Sea Life

Sailing, Surfing, Aquatic Adventures, Saunas, and even more…

Breakthrough Fulfillment Workshops + Coaching, Professional workbooks and resources

1 Week Pre-Retreat Virtual Integration Materials 

Costa Rican Retreats 

Shan Wright

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/holistic-moms-health-and-wellness-tips-christian-mom/id1710946348

@theshanwright

bit.ly/holistichacks

bit.ly/shanwright for coaching

[email protected]

Show Notes:

Join us for a heartfelt conversation with Shan Wright, a fellow parent and podcaster, as we explore holistic parenting tips and her inspiring journey to prioritize whole health for her family. Through Shan's candid experiences, we'll discover actionable insights on nurturing a positive mindset and proactive approach to overcome challenges and find fulfillment in parenthood.Tune in as we share stories, laughter, and wisdom to support each other on this crazy journey of increasing fulfillment in life and parenthood.

Enjoy!

-Kendra

ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy 

Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org

Contact → [email protected]

Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy 

Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy 

Facebook Group → Private FB Group 

Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching 

Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests

Save on the $600 off the flash sale! Apply the code SAVE600 to get $600 off our last flash sale for the Costa Rican Retreat when you sign up on FulfillmentTherapy.org. 

Our Adventure & Personal Growth Retreat includes:

All-Inclusive 6 Day & 6 Night Stay in Costa Rica

Luxurious Private Villa overlooking Bay

Enjoy Latin Cuisine as our Private Chef prepares 3 meals / Day 

& Drinks at our Unlimited Open Bar (fancy non-alcoholic drinks included)

Airport shuttle To & From Included

Professional Therapists / Coaches & Expert Team

Women’s, Men’s, and Couples Retreat at Neighboring Villas

5 Specially Created Fulfillment Meditation Sessions

Immersive Training to Elevate your Relationships & Personal Life

Transformative Meditation sessions and yoga

Private Villa is a short Walk from a Quiet, Beautiful Beach (rare for most retreats)

Breathtaking, Unforgettable Excursion in Nature like Ziplining, Hanging Bridges in the Rainforest, a 1500 ft Jungle Water Slide, Waterfall Hikes, Hot Springs, Volcanic Mud Baths, Snorkeling with Sea Life

Sailing, Surfing, Aquatic Adventures, Saunas, and even more…

Breakthrough Fulfillment Workshops + Coaching, Professional workbooks and resources

1 Week Pre-Retreat Virtual Integration Materials 

Costa Rican Retreats 

Shan Wright

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/holistic-moms-health-and-wellness-tips-christian-mom/id1710946348

@theshanwright

bit.ly/holistichacks

bit.ly/shanwright for coaching

[email protected]

Show Notes:

Join us today as we dive into the topic of pride, and how it subtly destroys personal and family fulfillment. Learn its antidote and how it will help your relationships thrive. We’ll even talk about the wise, ancient Stoic philosophers, and how they discovered the balance that led to the ultimate fulfillment–or transcendence. Don’t miss it–because these concepts are game changers!

Enjoy!

-Kendra

ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy 

Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org

Contact → [email protected]

Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy 

Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy 

Facebook Group → Private FB Group 

Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching 

Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests

Save on the $600 off the flash sale! Apply the code SAVE600 to get $600 off our last flash sale for the Costa Rican Retreat when you sign up on FulfillmentTherapy.org. 

Our Adventure & Personal Growth Retreat includes:

All-Inclusive 6 Day & 6 Night Stay in Costa Rica

Luxurious Private Villa overlooking Bay

Enjoy Latin Cuisine as our Private Chef prepares 3 meals / Day 

& Drinks at our Unlimited Open Bar (fancy non-alcoholic drinks included)

Airport shuttle To & From Included

Professional Therapists / Coaches & Expert Team

Women’s, Men’s, and Couples Retreat at Neighboring Villas

5 Specially Created Fulfillment Meditation Sessions

Immersive Training to Elevate your Relationships & Personal Life

Transformative Meditation sessions and yoga

Private Villa is a short Walk from a Quiet, Beautiful Beach (rare for most retreats)

Breathtaking, Unforgettable Excursion in Nature like Ziplining, Hanging Bridges in the Rainforest, a 1500 ft Jungle Water Slide, Waterfall Hikes, Hot Springs, Volcanic Mud Baths, Snorkeling with Sea Life

Sailing, Surfing, Aquatic Adventures, Saunas, and even more…

Breakthrough Fulfillment Workshops + Coaching, Professional workbooks and resources

1 Week Pre-Retreat Virtual Integration Materials 

Costa Rican Retreats 

Pride

1: Understanding Pride & its Antidote 

• Define pride and its manifestations, including healthy and unhealthy forms.

• Negative Pride: An excessively high opinion of oneself, often accompanied by arrogance and a lack of humility. It can be an inflated sense of your importance, accomplishments, or abilities, leading to a dismissive or condescending attitude towards others. pride  (conceit, boastfulness, superiority, haughtiness, self-importance, egotistical, selfish, vain)

• Positive Pride: This can look like joy in the accomplishments of others, like your children, or even in your own accomplishments, if it’s not boastful, but grateful. It often has a view of the big picture and how the thing, person, or act can help others and contribute to the world. 

• Pride can hinder personal growth, relationships, and overall fulfillment as you lose sight of the big picture and how we’re all connected. 

• To maintain effectiveness, we need to cultivate humility.

• Pride is the root of many other character flaws like contention, having a hard or stubborn heart, or rebelliousness.

• Beware of intellectual pride.

• The role of humility in growth and progression. Success comes as we’re humble and give thanks where it is due.

• Humility is being modest, unassuming, and not overly self-important. It’s having a realistic and modest view of your importance, abilities, and achievements. There’s often an openness to learning from others and acknowledging one's own limitations. Humility is a lack of arrogance or pride and a willingness to listen, learn, and grow. It is often associated with qualities such as modesty, selflessness, and a sense of gratitude. It’s not getting caught up in the opinions of others. 

2: Recognizing Unhealthy Pride

• Signs of unhealthy pride: defensiveness, unwillingness to admit mistakes, and a sense of superiority.

• Pride can manifest in parenting, marriages, and personal life, illustrating its detrimental effects. (ex. Parenting- unwillingness to admit mistakes to your children like when you blamed them for making a mess that wasn’t theirs, or in marriage when you refuse to validate your spouse's perspective because you’re angry and stubborn, or in your personal life like at work where you’re not teachable because you don’t see others as being as competent as you are)

• The Stoics were ancient philosophers who emphasized the importance of developing virtues and maintaining inner tranquility regardless of external circumstances. They believed that pride was a destructive force that led to arrogance, selfishness, and an exaggerated sense of self-importance. Instead, they advocated for humility, seeing it as essential for cultivating wisdom, self-awareness, and moral excellence. The Stoics believed in the importance of character refinement, or the ongoing process of improving one's moral and ethical qualities through self-discipline, introspection, and philosophical inquiry. They viewed humility as a key virtue that allowed individuals to recognize their own limitations, embrace their humanity, and strive for personal growth and moral integrity.

3: Healing from Pride

• We can stay humble by practicing gratitude, seeking feedback, and cultivating a growth mindset, as well as apologizing, and giving credit where it’s due.

• Openness and vulnerability help overcome pride and foster genuine connections.

• Share quotes from Marcus Aurelius and Seneca on the importance of humility and self-awareness.

4: Cultivating Personal and Family Fulfillment

• When we look beyond ourselves, see the big picture, and cultivate gratitude and humility, we move more into a later-added level on Maslow’s pyramid that he called “Transcendence.” This is more spiritual and comes after we’ve found true connection and healing. This is where they transcend their own personal concerns and see from a higher perspective. This is where they experience true joy, peace, and awareness. It’s the highest level of human development, where people are driven to contribute to the greater good and find meaning beyond themselves. People experience a deep sense of fulfillment and purpose by connecting with something larger than themselves, such as serving others, pursuing creative endeavors, or seeking spiritual enlightenment. They prioritize altruism, compassion, and selflessness, striving to make a positive impact on the world and leaving a lasting legacy. This phase involves transcending personal concerns and ego-driven desires to embrace higher values and ideals, leading to a profound sense of fulfillment and inner peace.

• When we apply this to personal growth, marriage, and parenting, we can see how pride only makes us regress and diminishes our potential and fulfillment. 

• My clients often ask me how parents can make their own needs a priority when this isn’t selfless or how to become our best selves. I respond by reminding them that each family member has value and each person needs to honor and address their neglected needs. As family leaders, we need to lead by example through healing, validation, and cultivation of gifts and talents while maintaining a balance of confidence and humility, time, energy, and focus on the things that matter most. 

Show Notes:

Join us for an inspiring episode with Lemon Price, where she shares invaluable insights on maintaining courage and faith amidst life's interruptions. Discover how to lead with authenticity and resilience, even in the face of challenges. Lemon's contagious energy and unwavering faith will leave you feeling empowered to embrace your values and navigate life's twists with grace.

Enjoy!

-Kendra

ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy 

Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org

Contact → [email protected]

Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy 

Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy 

Facebook Group → Private FB Group 

Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching 

Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests

Save on the $600 off the flash sale! Apply the code SAVE600 to get $600 off our last flash sale for the Costa Rican Retreat when you sign up on FulfillmentTherapy.org. 

Our Adventure & Personal Growth Retreat includes:

All-Inclusive 6 Day & 6 Night Stay in Costa Rica

Luxurious Private Villa overlooking Bay

Enjoy Latin Cuisine as our Private Chef prepares 3 meals / Day 

& Drinks at our Unlimited Open Bar (fancy non-alcoholic drinks included)

Airport shuttle To & From Included

Professional Therapists / Coaches & Expert Team

Women’s, Men’s, and Couples Retreat at Neighboring Villas

5 Specially Created Fulfillment Meditation Sessions

Immersive Training to Elevate your Relationships & Personal Life

Transformative Meditation sessions and yoga

Private Villa is a short Walk from a Quiet, Beautiful Beach (rare for most retreats)

Breathtaking, Unforgettable Excursion in Nature like Ziplining, Hanging Bridges in the Rainforest, a 1500 ft Jungle Water Slide, Waterfall Hikes, Hot Springs, Volcanic Mud Baths, Snorkeling with Sea Life

Sailing, Surfing, Aquatic Adventures, Saunas, and even more…

Breakthrough Fulfillment Workshops + Coaching, Professional workbooks and resources

1 Week Pre-Retreat Virtual Integration Materials 

Costa Rican Retreats 

Lemon Price’s Info

Website: lemonprice.co

Podcast: Milk and Honey with Lemon

beacons.ai/lemonprice

Show Notes:

Join us as we explore the pitfalls of toxic positivity, and how the pressure to 'stay positive' can harm our mental health and strain our relationships. You’ll learn how to  identify toxic positivity in yourselves and others, and find out how to embrace authentic emotions and cultivate genuine happiness. By challenging the culture of 'good vibes only,' we can create a more resilient family culture that fosters true connection and personal growth, leading us to a more fulfilling and purpose-driven life.

Enjoy!

-Kendra

ALL LINKS → https://linktr.ee/fulfillmenttherapy 

Website → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org

Contact → [email protected]

Instagram → @fulfillmenttherapy 

Facebook Community → http://bit.ly/fulfillmenttherapy 

Facebook Group → Private FB Group 

Schedule 1:1 Coaching → https://fulfillmenttherapy.org/1-on-1-coaching 

Chat → 1-986-910-5172 *text questions & topic requests

Save on the $600 off the flash sale! Apply the code SAVE600 to get $600 off our last flash sale for the Costa Rican Retreat when you sign up on FulfillmentTherapy.org. 

Our Adventure & Personal Growth Retreat includes:

All-Inclusive 6 Day & 6 Night Stay in Costa Rica

Luxurious Private Villa overlooking Bay

Enjoy Latin Cuisine as our Private Chef prepares 3 meals / Day 

& Drinks at our Unlimited Open Bar (fancy non-alcoholic drinks included)

Airport shuttle To & From Included

Professional Therapists / Coaches & Expert Team

Women’s, Men’s, and Couples Retreat at Neighboring Villas

5 Specially Created Fulfillment Meditation Sessions

Immersive Training to Elevate your Relationships & Personal Life

Transformative Meditation sessions and yoga

Private Villa is a short Walk from a Quiet, Beautiful Beach (rare for most retreats)

Breathtaking, Unforgettable Excursion in Nature like Ziplining, Hanging Bridges in the Rainforest, a 1500 ft Jungle Water Slide, Waterfall Hikes, Hot Springs, Volcanic Mud Baths, Snorkeling with Sea Life

Sailing, Surfing, Aquatic Adventures, Saunas, and even more…

Breakthrough Fulfillment Workshops + Coaching, Professional workbooks and resources

1 Week Pre-Retreat Virtual Integration Materials 

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Toxic Positivity

• Definition of toxic positivity: The tendency to excessively focus on positive thinking and emotions, while invalidating or dismissing negative feelings and experiences.

Identifying Toxic Positivity:

• Signs and symptoms: Ignoring or minimizing negative emotions, pressure to always be happy, invalidating others' struggles, fear of expressing vulnerability.

MESSAGE: Your experience isn’t as valid as others. SHAME follows when anything except positive feelings are experienced.

• Negative consequences of toxic positivity: Increased stress, feelings of inadequacy, difficulty processing emotions, strained relationships, and lack of authenticity.

• Toxic positivity may seem harmless, but it can deeply invalidate genuine emotions, hindering true connection and personal growth.

• Suppressing negative emotions doesn't make them disappear; it only buries them deeper, leading to unresolved conflicts and emotional distress.

Healing from Toxic Positivity:

• Recognizing the need for balance: Embracing both positive and negative emotions as valid parts of the human experience.

• Healing from toxic positivity starts with acknowledging that it's okay not to be okay. Give yourself permission to feel and express your emotions authentically.

• True healing begins when we validate our own experiences and extend compassion to ourselves, recognizing that all emotions have value and deserve acknowledgment.

Changing Family Culture:

• Cultivating open communication: Encouraging honest conversations about emotions, struggles, and challenges within the family.

• Shifting family culture requires creating a safe space where everyone's feelings are acknowledged and respected, fostering deeper connections and mutual understanding.

• Embracing a growth mindset means embracing the full spectrum of human emotions, allowing for growth and learning in times of adversity.

Personal and Family Fulfillment:

• Embracing authenticity leads to deeper personal fulfillment and stronger family bonds.

• Authenticity fosters genuine connections and allows us to fully embrace our experiences, leading to greater fulfillment and joy in life.

• By embracing our true selves and supporting each other authentically, families can thrive and individuals can reach their highest potential.

Show Notes:

The Polyvagal Theory and the Autonomic Nervous System offer insights into how our bodies respond to stress and social interactions, delineating three distinct states: social engagement, fight or flight, and freeze. As we understand this, we can recognize our physiological reactions and learn better strategies for emotional regulation AND learn to be more resilient. Whether we’re parents trying to create a calmer environment for our families or in our own personal growth journey, understanding these principles unlocks greater well-being and emotional balance in navigating life's challenges.

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-Kendra

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Polyvagal Theory and ANS

The Autonomic Nervous System (ANS):

 A complex network of nerves that regulates involuntary bodily functions, such as heart rate, digestion, and respiratory rate. It is divided into two main branches: the sympathetic nervous system, which activates the body's fight or flight response during stress, and the parasympathetic nervous system, which promotes rest and relaxation. The ANS plays a crucial role in maintaining physiological balance and responding to environmental stimuli.

Polyvagal Theory:

Polyvagal Theory, developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, provides insights into the role of the vagus nerve in regulating the Autonomic Nervous System and influencing social behavior. The theory proposes that the vagus nerve mediates between different physiological states, including states of safety and connection (social engagement), mobilization (fight or flight), and immobilization (freeze). By understanding these states and their associated physiological responses, individuals can gain awareness of their own emotional and relational experiences, leading to improved self-regulation and interpersonal connections. 

3 Tiers:  ventral vagal-safe and social (joy, playful, love, empathy), sympathetic- fight or flight, adrenaline, ACTION state, anxious, hyperactive, lots of tension in body, dorsal vagal- shut down, disconnected, low energy, hopeless, foggy, alone, playing possum, UNABLE to act, shame, inability to self motivate, moving through molasses, in a well, )

Location in the Brain

The vagus nerve originates in the brainstem, specifically the medulla oblongata

Social engagement linked to higher brain regions such as the prefrontal cortex

Fight or flight and freeze responses involve the limbic system and brainstem

Manifestation in the Body

Social engagement: relaxed facial muscles, steady breathing, open body language

Fight or flight: increased heart rate, rapid breathing, tense muscles

When your body perceives danger and assesses you can overcome the threat, it triggers a fight response. This leads to physical readiness for combat as your brain signals your body. Signs of a fight response include a tight jaw, teeth grinding, a strong urge to hit or kick, intense anger, and a burning sensation or pit in the stomach, and an readiness to attack.

When your body perceives danger but assesses you can escape it, you enter flight mode. Hormones like adrenaline fuel your body, allowing you to run longer than usual. Signs include excessive movement, feeling trapped or tense, restlessness, numbness in limbs, and darting eyes.

Freeze: immobility, shallow breathing, decreased heart rate (shock) ex. Simon & the candle, Vienna not breathing

The freeze response occurs when your body perceives you can neither fight nor flee from the threat. Signs include a sense of dread, pale skin, stiffness, coldness, numbness, and a loud, pounding heart, followed by a decreasing heart rate. (time slows or stops, you feel far away or distant from others)

Fawn: appeasing behavior, seeking approval

The fawn response often masks internal distress caused by trauma, especially stemming from childhood abuse, where individuals become overly agreeable to appease their abusers. This reaction, driven by the need for survival, can lead to confusion and guilt, as victims prioritize soothing their abusers over self-protection. Common signs of fawning behavior include overdependence on others' opinions, lack of boundaries, susceptibility to manipulation, and codependency, often stemming from a history of neglect or rejection by narcissistic parents. Ultimately, the fawn response can erode one's sense of identity and perpetuate codependent patterns in adulthood.

Underlying Needs and Meeting Them

Social engagement: need for connection, safety, and trust

Fight or flight: need for safety and control

Freeze: need for protection and dissociation

Fawn: need for approval and acceptance

Gaining Awareness and Eliminating Shame

Recognizing bodily sensations associated with each response

Understanding the role of the ANS in survival (when we understand what state we’re in, we can calm ourselves down before engaging)

Using knowledge as a tool for self-regulation and emotional resilience

By understanding the Polyvagal Theory and the Autonomic Nervous System, individuals can gain insight into their physiological responses to stress and learn strategies to regulate their emotions and improve their overall well-being.

Polyvagal Theory Explained Simply