Full-Time Grievers

Reiki Master, Grief Specialist, Performance Artist, and former Full-Time Grievers CoHost, Selysa Love talks about stepping away from the show and what it took to honour herself and her own growth and healing above all else.

To find out more about Selysa's work go here.

To see Selysa's TEDx Talk go here.

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A threshold episode. Honouring how we began and looking ahead to where Full-Time Grievers is going in Season 2 and beyond. The episode closes with a short grounding practice and a seasonal blessing for anyone moving through grief at the end of the year.

You can download your free grief journal here.

Send your Grief Confessional here.

And contribute to the show here.

While the world turns up the sparkle, gatherings increase, and social media floods with picture-perfect celebrations, grief can feel more isolating than ever.

In this episode, we explore:

💛 How to use the holidays as a potent time for grief work. 

💛 Finding your balance between isolation stress and social overwhelm. 

💛 The neurochemistry of connection — and how it can soften the season

💛 Permission to opt out, slow down, rest more, or be delightfully “Grinchy”

💛 How to design a holiday experience that meets your needs — not anyone else’s

We’re grateful you’re here. You’re not alone 🤍

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Selysa and Nathan offer another session of journal prompts to support the listener in consciously attending to and expressing specific elements of grief. You can pause the episode and write along with each prompt, and/or pick and choose from the options throughout. 

If you’ve been looking for ways to let more grieving  out, this is for you. 

(Companion to episode 18.)

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We’ve all said it — “I’m fine.”

But what’s the real cost of staying “fine” when we’re not? In this episode, Nathan and Selysa explore the physical, emotional, and relational consequences of suppressed grief — the kind we avoid, bury, or rationalize away.

Together, they unpack how grief gets stored in the body, why we sometimes can’t feel until it’s safe to, and how numbness becomes both protection and prison. This is a conversation about what happens when we don’t grieve — and how we can begin to feel again, gently and safely.

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We're back!

Nathan and Selysa head into uncharted territory for many full-time grievers – actually having time set aside for grieving. Starting with the concept that writer and grief advocate, Rebecca Finegloss, calls Grieve Leave, and exploring the macro and micro opportunities from there for making time to be with our process, as well as the emotional terrain around it all – this episode is about how we can make time and space to let grief out and let resourcing in.

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This is the second part of the conversation from episode 16 - You Don’t Owe Forgiveness, so Why Offer it?  When someone dies, anger often follows. We can find ourselves blaming doctors, family members, even God—or the person who died. In this episode, we talk about the messy, honest process of acknowledging blame, feeling the anger, and finding our way to forgiveness in grief. 

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What happens when the person you're grieving also hurt you?

In this episode of Full-Time Grievers, Selysa shares her deeply personal experience navigating grief after ending abusive relationships—including with her parents—and the emotional complexity of mourning people who caused harm. Together with co-host Nathan, they explore what Selysa calls “forbidden grief,” the kind of mourning our culture denies us because the person we lost was abusive, toxic, or harmful.

Selysa speaks candidly about the shame, isolation, and confusion that often accompany this grief—and how giving ourselves permission to feel the full spectrum of emotions is essential to healing and breaking cycles of abuse.

This conversation offers validation, guidance, and a new language for survivors, supporters, and anyone confronting the messy intersections of love, loss, harm, and healing.

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If you're experiencing acute grief or struggling to process overwhelming emotions, this interactive journaling episode is for you. Selysa & Nathan will gently guide you through a process of identifying, validating, and expressing your feelings. We'll explore the physical manifestations of your emotions and conclude with a moment of comforting self-touch.

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Not as a way to side-step or bypass our grief, but sometimes, even as we are allowing, fostering, and following our grieving process, we have moments of also getting to witness profound and moving beauty. Because these moments can happen in between, alongside, or even as a direct result of our mourning, in this episode Nathan and Selysa spend some time talking about how we can allow, welcome, and even cultivate them. This is a tender celebration of some of the gifts that come along with all that we may lose in bereavement, and an encouragement to let ourselves receive them. (If you are sharing this with someone earlier in their grieving process, please consider a different episode.)

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