Gender Reveal

In this extra-nice episode, Tuck answers listener questions with their roommates Taegan Wolfe (they) and Tehya (they). Topics include:

• Navigating a gender transition in a previously "straight" relationship
• Androsexual, gynesexual, sapiosexual… are they problematic?
• What should I do if I'm triggered by my partner's gender expression?
• How can I feel sexy in a non-normative body?
• Also: how and why did you choose to be gay?

This Week in Gender: Marvel announces its first nonbinary superhero… Snowflake (via Pink News)

We've got NEW merch, including "Surf Don't TERF" sweatshirts & mugs and a shirt that says "at least it's spring in hell," only available until April 1. Browse all of our shirts, stickers, mugs and more at bit.ly/gendermerch.

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Do you have gender questions that you'd like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form.

Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2.

Support Tuck's new full-time gender detective gig! Pledge any amount at patreon.com/gender to receive our weekly newsletter. We also appreciate donations via PayPal or Cash App.

Questions? Comments? Feelings? You can reach us at genderpodcast.com or on Twitter or Instagram.

Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we'll read on the show. Today's Theymail message is from the Heart.

Logo: Ira M. Leigh

Music: Breakmaster Cylinder

Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

Tuck speaks with Bangladeshi Muslim artist and organizer (and Gender Reveal grant winner) Farhat Rahman (they/he). Topics include:

• Bangladeshi gender roles and trans identities
• Creating spaces for films about trans, gender nonconforming, and intersex POC
• The tokenization of trans voices by cis folks for clout
• Should we be hopeful for/jealous of trans youth?

CW: suicide (33-35)

This Week in Gender: Chelsea Manning is out of prison and her fines have been paid. (CW: suicide in this article as well.)

Find Farhat on Instagram @thirdworldtrans and follow their film festival projects at @movinggendersnyc.

Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2.

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We've got merch! Browse all of our shirts, stickers, mugs and more at bit.ly/gendermerch.

Support Tuck's new full-time gender detective gig! Pledge any amount at patreon.com/gender to receive our weekly newsletter. We also appreciate donations via PayPal or Cash App.

Questions? Comments? Feelings? You can reach us at genderpodcast.com or on Twitter or Instagram.

Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we'll read on the show. Today's Theymail message is from the Heart.

Do you have gender questions that you'd like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form.

Learn more about Tuck's trans-focused equity consulting company at Sylveon.co. Production help: Allyson McCabe

Logo: Ira M. Leigh

Music: Breakmaster Cylinder

Additional Music: "Sylvestor" and "Louver" by Blue Dot Sessions

Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

Tuck speaks with Canadian writer and activist Niko Stratis (she/her). Topics include:

• Safety tips and advice for protesting anti-trans activists
• Getting a punch card at the Dept. of Vital Statistics
• Coming out and accessing trans healthcare in a super remote territory.
• Developing a podcast about trans voices
• Plus: American Dirt! Garfield Eats! Porn! Blowing up gender!

Find our respective Garfield Eats threads here and here if that's your kink.

Find Niko on Twitter and Instagram @nikostratis and at nikostratis.com. Check out transresourceyukon.com and subscribe to You Don't Sound Like a Girlfriend wherever you're listening to this show.

We've got NEW Surf Don't T*RF! merch that raises money for Niko and Girls Rock Camp Toronto. Browse all of our shirts, stickers, mugs and more at bit.ly/gendermerch.

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Support Tuck's new full-time gender detective gig! Pledge any amount at patreon.com/gender to receive our weekly newsletter. We also appreciate donations via PayPal or Cash App.

Questions? Comments? Feelings? You can reach us at genderpodcast.com or on Twitter or Instagram.

Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we'll read on the show. Today's Theymail message is from B URSLF LLC.

Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2.

Do you have gender questions that you'd like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form.

Learn more about Tuck's trans-focused equity consulting company at Sylveon.co. Logo: Ira M. Leigh

Music: Breakmaster Cylinder

Additional Music: "Neon Drip" by Blue Dot Sessions

Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

Tuck speaks with two-spirit artist and Gender Reveal grant winner Elijah Forbes (he/him). Topics include:

• "What does being a man mean, and how attached to those meanings am I?"
• Why cis people prefer tragic trans stories to happy ones
• Censorship in trans and two-spirit art
• Navigating healthcare systems as a trans Indigenous person
• Plus: Why indie trans patreons always trump Disney

Support Elijah's work on GoFundMe as well as patreon.com/twospiritgroup, and join him at facebook.com/twospiritgroup and indigenouscomicscollective.com. You can find Elijah on social media @paintedturtleco and at paintedturtleco.com, where you can hire him for illustration work.

You can also find Tuck on recent episodes of the What The Trans!? podcast and Dear Prudence podcast.

We've got all sorts of merch that raises money for trans designers & LGBTQ orgs! Browse our shirts, stickers, mugs and more at bit.ly/gendermerch.

Support Tuck's new full-time gender detective gig! Pledge any amount at patreon.com/gender to receive our weekly newsletter. We also appreciate donations via PayPal or Cash App.

Questions? Comments? Feelings? You can reach us at genderpodcast.com or on Twitter or Instagram.

Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2.

Do you have gender questions that you'd like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form.

Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we'll read on the show.

Learn more about Tuck's trans-focused equity consulting company at Sylveon.co. Logo: Ira M. Leigh

Music: Breakmaster Cylinder

Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

Tuck answers listener questions with Mckenzee Griffler (she/her) at our first Gender Reveal live show. Topics include:

• Am I trans enough to try HRT?
• Does all expression count as gender expression?
• Should I get top surgery if I like myself naked?
• What does "gay" and "straight" mean for nonbinary people?
• OK, but what the heck IS gender?

This Week in Gender: Visit equalrecognition.scot to learn how to support Scotland's GRA reform bill.

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Do you have gender questions that you'd like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form.

We've got NEW merch (including Nature is Queer shirts and Femmes Can Be Thems hoodies) that raises money for trans designers & LGBTQ orgs! Browse our shirts, stickers, mugs and more at bit.ly/gendermerch.

Support Tuck's new full-time gender detective gig! Pledge any amount at patreon.com/gender to receive our weekly newsletter. We also appreciate donations via PayPal or Cash App.

Questions? Comments? Feelings? You can reach us at genderpodcast.com or on Twitter or Instagram.

Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2.

Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we'll read on the show.

Learn more about Tuck's trans-focused equity consulting company at Sylveon.co.

Production help: Mckenzee Griffler

Logo: Ira M. Leigh

Music: Breakmaster Cylinder

Additional music: "Slimheart" and "Tidal Foam" by Blue Dot Sessions

Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

Tuck speaks with Paige Kreisman (she/her), a democratic socialist running for statewide office. (See content warnings below.) Topics include:

• Why many trans folks hate the military… but enlist at twice the rate of cis people
• Why so many trans people are socialists
• How "progressive" states fail at trans healthcare
• Why the prison industrial complex is a trans issue
• What trans people should know about running for office

Content notes: mentions of rape (13, 21), trans death (22), and death threats (13, 32).

This Week in Gender: Giggle.

Donate to Paige's campaign at paige2020.com. It's a win for trans folks everywhere.

We've got NEW merch (including Nature is Queer shirts and Femmes Can Be Thems hoodies) that raises money for trans people! Find our shirts, stickers, mugs and more at bit.ly/gendermerch.

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Support Tuck's new full-time gender detective gig! Pledge any amount at patreon.com/gender to receive our weekly newsletter. We also appreciate donations via PayPal or Cash App.

Do you have gender questions that you'd like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form.

Questions? Comments? Feelings? You can reach us at genderpodcast.com or on Twitter or Instagram.

Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2.

Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we'll read on the show.

Learn more about Tuck's trans-focused equity consulting company at Sylveon.co.

Logo: Ira M. Leigh

Music: Breakmaster Cylinder

Additional music: "Slimheart" and "Slow Line Stomp" by Blue Dot Sessions

Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

Tuck speaks with activist and labor organizer Alyssa Pariah (she/her) at Gender Reveal's first live show. Topics include:

• What trans healthcare would look like under Medicare for All
• How to be a better ally/accomplice for sex workers
• How the Black Lives Matter movement supports trans liberation better than many LGBTQ orgs
• Coping with survivor's guilt as a 32-year-old trans woman of color
• What will it take to end trans oppression?
• Also: an army of trans bitches in the class war!

This Week In Gender: We discuss state legislatures' attempts to block trans kids from transitioning (3:30-6:30). Read the referenced Katelyn Burns article on Vox and Laura Thompson's article on Mother Jones. Emoji news is via Emojipedia.

Learn more about the Audre Lorde Project; Don't Shoot PDX; Critical Resistance; Pride at Work; and Jobs with Justice. (Also, never cross a picket line!)

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We've got NEW, limited-edition merch that raises money for trans designers & LGBTQ orgs! Browse our shirts, stickers, totes and more at bit.ly/gendermerch.

Support Tuck's new full-time gender detective gig! Pledge any amount at patreon.com/gender to receive our weekly newsletter. We also appreciate donations via PayPal or Cash App.

Learn more about Tuck's trans-focused equity consulting company at Sylveon.co.

Do you have gender questions that you'd like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form.

Questions? Comments? Feelings? You can reach us at genderpodcast.com or on Twitter or Instagram.

Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2.

Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we'll read on the show.

Production help: Mckenzee Griffler

Logo: Ira M. Leigh

Music: Breakmaster Cylinder

Additional music: "The Back Lot" and "Sylvestor" by Blue Dot Sessions

Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In the Season Five premiere, Tuck speaks with Cyrus Dunham (he/him), author of the memoir A Year Without a Name. Topics include:

• Top surgery's role in colonialism
• The guilty eroticism of he/him pronouns
• Writing for trans people that don't have all the answers yet
• Watching your loved one become a commodity
• Is cisness a delusion?
• Also: Big Libra Energy and the destruction of the state

This Week In Gender: Tuck discusses The Word of the Year Is "They" on NPR Morning Edition.

Buy Cyrus's book, A Year Without a Name, via Powell's or your local bookstore.

Support Tuck's wild new full-time gender detective gig! Pledge any amount at patreon.com/gender to receive our weekly newsletter. We also appreciate donations via PayPal or Cash App.

Learn more about Tuck's trans-focused equity consulting company at Sylveon.co. (Also, heck, order the Portland visitors guide for free if you want, why not???)

We've got BRAND NEW merch that raises money for trans designers & LGBTQ orgs! Browse our shirts, stickers, totes and more at bit.ly/gendermerch.

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Do you have gender questions that you'd like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form.

Questions? Comments? Feelings? You can reach us at genderpodcast.com or on Twitter or Instagram.

Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2.

Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we'll read on the show.

Production help: Isaura Aceves Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional music: "Boston Landing" by Blue Dot SessionsSponsors: YOU! Thank you!­

In this bonus episode, Tuck updates listeners about all matter of topics in the Gender Reveal universe, including (but not limited to) Gender Reveal Season 5; exciting new holiday merch (and 10% off the whole store with the offer code BETRANS!); the seven(!!!) Gender Reveal grant winners; and our fantastic first live show.

Then, we listen to an important Personal Gender Update from friend of the show Callie Wright. (This portion of the episode originally aired on Queersplaining under the name "saying it out loud.")

Listen to Tuck on the Gender Stories podcast with Alex Iantaffi!

Please donate to our grant fund (and podcast) at patreon.com/gender, or make a one-time donation via PayPal or Cash App.

We've got all sorts of new merch, including four rad sweatshirts; "femmes can be thems" tanks, Gender Reveal pillows and a spooky ghost mug! Browse our shirts, stickers, totes and more at bit.ly/gendermerch, and use the promo code "BETRANS" to save 10% on everything (through Dec. 25).

Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2.

Questions? Comments? Feelings? You can reach us at genderpodcast.com; via [email protected]; or on Twitter or Instagram.

Do you have gender questions that you'd like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form.

Logo: Ira M. Leigh(!!)Music: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: "Silver Lanyard and "Feathersoft" by Blue Dot Sessions (yes we've used these before and yes they didn't super fit but I was just trying to get the podcast out lol) Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In the Season Four finale, Tuck speaks with journalist Lewis Raven Wallace (ze or he). Topics include:

• Why transphobia and homophobia aren't binary
• What folks don't understand about being trans in North Carolina
• How the concept of journalistic objectivity harms trans folks
• Being trans in the previous millennium
• "Gender is a universe and we're all stars"

Buy Lewis's book, The View from Somewhere, from the University of Chicago Press. Subscribe to hir podcast, also called The View from Somewhere, wherever you get this podcast.

This Week In Gender: read more about Mattel's gender-neutral dolls in this TIME article. Read Tuck's first NPR interview here and hear their second interview here.

We're giving away $1,500+ in grants! Apply by October 31 at genderpodcast.com/grant, or donate to our grant fund at patreon.com/gender.

We've got NEW, limited-edition merch that raises money for trans designers & LGBTQ orgs! Browse our shirts, stickers, totes and more at bit.ly/gendermerch.

Support trans media (and our grant program)! Pledge any amount at patreon.com/gender to receive our weekly newsletter. We also appreciate donations via PayPal or Cash App.

Do you have gender questions that you'd like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form.

Questions? Comments? Feelings? You can reach us at genderpodcast.com; via [email protected]; or on Twitter or Instagram.

Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2.

Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we'll read on the show.

Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: "Night Watch" and "Plasticity" by Blue Dot SessionsSponsors: YOU! Thank you!