In this episode of Get Out of Your Head, Rachel dives into the concept of self-abandonment—a pattern that many high-achieving women unknowingly fall into. Self-abandonment occurs when we betray our own needs and desires to accommodate others, leaving us feeling depleted, unfulfilled, and disconnected from our true selves. It’s often subtle, masked as being responsible, caring, or helpful, but it ultimately leaves us feeling resentful or empty. Rachel explores the different forms self-abandonment takes, from neglecting our inner truths to prioritizing others' needs over our own, and why it’s so hard to recognize.

But here's the twist: often, what we perceive as self-honoring behavior—like overworking, saying yes to everything, or avoiding difficult conversations—can actually be forms of self-abandonment in disguise. In this episode, Rachel helps you break down these behaviors and teaches you how to discern between what’s truly self-honoring and what’s just self-abandonment masked as responsibility or kindness.

She also shares practical tools and reflection questions to help you identify moments of self-abandonment in your own life and shift towards making choices that truly align with who you are and what you need. If you’re ready to take the next step in honoring yourself and making empowered decisions, tune in!

Key Topics Covered:

• How to define self-abandonment and why it’s so hard to recognize

• The hidden patterns that contribute to self-abandonment

• How to discern between self-honoring and self-abandoning behaviors

• Why making choices from fear can lead to self-abandonment, and how to break the cycle

• How to use pause and reflection to make self-honoring decisions

• Practical questions to ask yourself when faced with tough choices to ensure they align with your truth

Have you ever felt stuck in that uncomfortable, in-between phase—like moving from one job to another, transitioning from single to a relationship, or stepping into any unknown territory? That space where everything feels messy, uncertain, and just plain hard? This week on Get Out Of Your Head, Rachel dives into the "Messy Middle" and shares how understanding and working with your somatic body can help you navigate these transitions with more ease and confidence. 

In this episode, Rachel introduces the concept of somatics, explaining how your body holds wisdom beyond your conscious mind. You'll learn why those tight, jittery sensations arise when you're stepping into something new and how they're rooted in your unconscious mind's resistance to change. Most importantly, Rachel offers practical ways to reframe those feelings and use them to move forward, rather than retreating to what feels safe but unfulfilling. 

If you've ever second-guessed yourself, stayed in situationships too long, or hesitated to take bold action because it felt too uncomfortable, this episode will help you shift your perspective. Discover how to embrace the discomfort of change, reshape your somatic body, and keep moving toward a life of greater fulfillment and authenticity. 

Key topics covered: 

• How to understand the connection between your body and your emotions. 

• How to identify the somatic signals that keep you stuck. 

• How to navigate the "Messy Middle" when transitioning to something new. 

• How to reframe discomfort as a sign of growth, not danger. 

• How to practice small actions that help reshape your somatic body. 

Listen now to learn how to make peace with the Messy Middle and step into the next chapter of your life with courage and clarity. 

Ever find yourself stuck in the endless loop of overthinking? That moment where you know what you want to do, but fear, doubt, or second-guessing keeps you frozen? This week on Get Out Of Your Head, we’re diving into the game-changing 3-Second Rule—a simple yet powerful technique to bypass hesitation, override fear, and take bold action in your life.

In this episode, Rachel unpacks the brain’s role in hesitation, showing how fear often tricks us into staying stuck. She shares personal stories, real-life examples, and actionable steps to help you build confidence and momentum, one small decision at a time. Whether it’s speaking up at work, pursuing a creative goal, or having a tough conversation, this rule is your guide to taking back control in those pivotal moments.

Tune in to discover how a 3-second countdown can transform the way you approach hesitation, fear, and self-doubt—opening the door to new opportunities and a more courageous life.

Key Topics Covered:

• How the 3-second rule can help overcome hesitation and doubt.

• Why fear and overthinking keep us stuck.

• How to take action before your inner critic takes over.

• Practical ways to implement the 3-second rule in everyday life.

• The science behind quick action and its impact on confidence

Ready to take the first step? Start by pressing play. You’re just three seconds away from a new way of showing up for yourself!

Have you ever been in a meeting or discussion where someone talked over you or cut you off mid-sentence? It’s a frustrating experience that can make you feel unseen and unheard. As someone who’s navigated spaces as the youngest and only female voice in the room, I know how crucial it is to reestablish your presence with grace and authority.

In this short and powerful episode, Rachel shares a simple yet effective strategy to handle interruptions without escalating tension. Borrowed from a TikTok tip (credit to the brilliant creator, even though their name escapes her), this method is all about using body language and timing to command attention and reclaim your space in the conversation.

Whether you’re leading a presentation, participating in a discussion, or advocating for your ideas, this tool is one to keep in your arsenal. It’s easy, practical, and designed to help you maintain control while radiating confidence.

Key Topics Covered:

• How to handle interruptions with calm authority

• How to use body language to draw attention back to yourself

• How to confidently reclaim your voice without talking over others

This episode is short, sweet, and a must-listen for anyone navigating professional spaces. Tune in to add this simple yet effective technique to your toolkit!

Life constantly presents us with choices, and at every crossroads, we’re faced with two paths: the path of safety or the path of desire. Neither is inherently good or bad, but understanding which path you’re on—and why—can be the key to living a life that feels authentic and fulfilling.

In this episode, Rachel explores what it means to walk the path of safety, where predictability and external stability reign, versus the path of desire, which demands courage to step into the unknown. She challenges common misconceptions about these paths and delves into the emotional truths that emerge when we choose to honor what we truly want.

What happens when we choose safety out of fear rather than a full-bodied yes? What inner turmoil arises when we abandon our desires? And, most importantly, how can we start taking small steps toward the life we deeply crave?

If you’ve ever felt stuck, like you have no choice in a situation, or wrestled with regret over the road not taken, this episode is for you. Listen in to uncover practical insights and empowering perspectives that will inspire you to reclaim your agency and align with your true desires.

Key Topics Covered:

• How to differentiate between the path of safety and the path of desire

• How to recognize when safety becomes a trap

• How to predict inner fulfillment despite external unpredictability

• How to reframe feelings of being “stuck” and reclaim your choice

• How to take the first step toward the life you truly want

Tune in to redefine what it means to live courageously and authentically.

In this episode of Get Out Of Your Head, Rachel explores the powerful and often unnoticed voices that influence our thoughts and decisions. If you’ve ever found yourself hesitating to take bold actions or second-guessing your ideas, you're not alone. We all have that inner dialogue, but how can you tell when it’s your true self speaking versus the conditioned, fear-based voice that’s holding you back?

Drawing from her own experiences, Rachel breaks down how these internal voices can stem from societal conditioning, past experiences, or even a fear of judgment. But the good news? They’re not necessarily yours, and you don’t have to let them control your life. In this episode, Rachel will guide you on how to differentiate between these voices and how to embrace the voice that is aligned with your authentic self. Through practical steps like mindfulness, reframing negative thoughts, and tuning into your core values, you'll learn how to create space between the fear-based narrative and the true, grounded decisions you want to make.

By the end of the episode, you’ll be equipped to take back control of your thoughts and actions, and move forward with confidence, even in the face of uncertainty. It's time to stop second-guessing and start trusting yourself.

Key topics covered:

• How to recognize when your inner critic is taking over

• How to distinguish between your authentic voice and conditioned thoughts

• How to pause, breathe, and reframe negative thoughts

• How to set boundaries with your inner critic and empower your decision-making

• How to connect with your core values and trust your intuition

Take a moment to tune in, explore your inner dialogue, and find the clarity you've been looking for. Your authentic voice is waiting to be heard!

In this episode of Get Out Of Your Head, Rachel dives deep into the powerful, often humorous realization that we don't have as much control over our lives as we think. Using her personal experience and coaching insights, she talks about the tendency of "heady" people to get trapped in cycles of worry and overthinking. In these moments of internal tension, it can feel impossible to escape the anxiety that seems so real. However, Rachel shares a vital piece of wisdom: recognizing these patterns is the first step to breaking free. By becoming aware of the "alarm bell" that signals when you're stuck in a cycle of overthinking, you can shift your perspective, create space between your thoughts and actions, and view your circumstances through a clearer lens.

Rachel explores the concept of the "cosmic joke" — a spiritual and philosophical idea that highlights the paradoxical nature of life. She takes us on a journey of recognizing how the need for control, particularly over major life events like career, relationships, or health, often feels like a burden. Yet, when we step back and understand the bigger picture, we realize that the universe operates on its own logic, far beyond our attempts to control it. This realization is not only humbling but also liberating, offering freedom from unnecessary stress.

Key topics cover:

• How to recognize when you’re trapped in a cycle of overthinking and worry

• How to identify your “alarm bell” and create space to break free from your patterns

• How to shift your perspective on challenging situations and view them with fresh eyes

• How to understand the concept of the "cosmic joke" and its liberating power

• How to surrender control and find freedom in embracing life’s unpredictability

The Cosmic Joke:

The "cosmic joke" is a philosophical or spiritual metaphor for the ironic, paradoxical, and often humorous nature of existence. It suggests that life, with all its mysteries, struggles, and complexities, may ultimately have an underlying sense of absurdity, playfulness, or hidden meaning that transcends our understanding.

In spiritual contexts, it’s often associated with awakening or enlightenment, when a person might realize the futility of overthinking or the illusion of control, and instead find joy or freedom in simply being. The "joke" lies in how humans often take life so seriously while the universe itself may operate on a completely different, almost playful logic.

Some common interpretations include:

1. Paradox of Life: We seek meaning and purpose, but life’s meaning might be found in surrendering to the moment rather than searching for answers.

2. Human Ego: The idea that our ego-driven pursuits are insignificant in the grand scheme of the cosmos, and recognizing this can be both humbling and liberating.

3. Duality and Nonduality: The cosmic joke could be that the apparent dualities we see—good and bad, success and failure, self and other—are illusions, and everything is inherently interconnected.

What makes it a "joke" is that, once you see it, the burden of life feels lighter—like the punchline of a well-timed jest.

Ever wonder how you can make your partner feel truly seen and valued? In this episode of Get Out Of Your Head, Rachel dives into a listener’s question on fostering meaningful connection. With practical steps to deepen listening and empathy, Rachel shares her own experiences on how small changes can create lasting intimacy. From unexpected revelations in her relationship to moments of feeling truly understood, this episode is packed with relatable insights.

Key Topics Covered:

• How to listen without attempting to “fix” your partner’s feelings

• How to validate your partner by reflecting their own words back to them

• How to check your understanding with specific questions

• How to show you’re truly listening by adapting your actions

In this episode, Rachel breaks down the concept of “values” in a refreshingly personal way, moving beyond corporate jargon. Have you ever felt pressured to adopt values that didn’t truly resonate? Today, we explore values as a genuine compass for life—not just for career decisions, but for relationships, wellness, and growth.

Rachel dispels common myths, like the idea that values are set in stone, only for serious situations, or must be profound. Instead, we’ll see that values can be simple, evolving, and surprisingly impactful in daily life. Through a guided visualization, Rachel helps you identify your authentic values by revisiting moments that made you feel most alive. This isn’t about lofty ideals but discovering what really matters to you right now.

She closes with practical advice on bringing values into your daily decisions, showing that living authentically doesn’t require big moves—just consistent, intentional choices. Tune in to align your actions with what truly matters.

Key Topics Covered:

• How to understand the true purpose of personal values

• How to uncover your values through guided reflection

• How to debunk myths about values

• How to check if your life aligns with your values

• How to reassess values as you grow

In this episode of Get Out Of Your Head, Rachel continues the conversation on emotional connection, diving into practical tools for reconnecting with and processing emotions in a healthy way. Building on Episode 45’s exploration of the seven core emotions, Rachel reviews why feeling "tongue-tied" about emotions is often a sign that too much energy is stuck in our heads, disconnecting us from what’s going on inside our bodies.

This week, she introduces the "Change Triangle" framework from Hilary Jacobs Hendel's book It’s Not Always Depression, highlighting how disconnecting from core emotions can lead to defensive reactions. With easy-to-follow steps, Rachel explains how to recognize and reconnect to your emotions, offering listeners a path toward feeling more grounded, calm, and clear-headed.

Looking to deepen your understanding of emotional health? 

Book a call with Rachel here: Discover Your Path Call, or reach out by email at [email protected].

Key Topics Covered:

• How to apply a framework for understanding core emotions

• How to identify emotional disconnect and its effects

• How to recognize the difference between core emotions and defense mechanisms

• How to use the Change Triangle to navigate difficult feelings