Get Sex-Smart is back! After a few months' hiatus, Valeria and Sarah have returned with a new format, new ideas, and new sex-smart episodes! Tune into this short announcement episode to hear why we took some time off, what we've been up to, and how Get Sex-Smart is changing - hopefully for the better. And make sure to tune in on August 15th when our new season will return full force!

Today, Dr. Valeria and Sarah Martin are celebrating the past 99 episodes of Get Sex-Smart. In this more informal and intimate episode, we talk about how the show got started, what we love about it and maybe not so much, our favorite episodes, some personal stories - and a few rounds of a sex-themed game of "Would You Rather". 

Recent studies show that there is a big orgasm gap between men in women: roughly 65% of heterosexual women orgasm in partner sex, compared to an overwhelming 95% of heterosexual men. What's really interesting though is that lesbian women's orgasm rates are very close to those of heterosexual men at 85%. On today's episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin talk about some of the reasons why orgasm rates are so much higher in lesbian women, and what contributes to their superior sexual satisfaction compared to heterosexual women. 

EPISODE NOTES:

Guardian article, "Do Lesbians Have Better Sex Than Straight Women?" https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/jul/09/do-lesbians-have-better-sex-than-straight-women

Breakups are often painful, heartbreaking, and difficult to navigate. In this episode, Sarah Martin shares her recent personal experience of breakup and chats with Dr. Valeria about the newest science of breakups; why we are often so bad at breaking up; and what we can do to reduce the pain of ending our relationships. 

EPISODE NOTES:
Break up as a signifiant stress event, and "broken heart" syndrome: https://www.nbcnews.com/think/opinion/can-you-die-broken-heart-science-proves-broken-heart-syndrome-ncna847831

In today's episode, Dr. Valeria and Sarah Martin break down the groundbreaking concept of arousal non-concordance. Simply put, our physical (genital) arousal doesn't always match our psychological arousal. This dramatically changes the way we view sexual desire, pleasure and consent. Tune in to learn why arousal non-concordance is important, and how it can change your sex life.  

EPISODE NOTES:

Emily Nagoski's Ted Talk, "The Truth About Unwanted Arousal" (a must wath!) https://www.ted.com/talks/emily_nagoski_the_truth_about_unwanted_arousal?language=en

Get Sex-Smart is back from the summer break! In today's episode, Dr. Valeria and Sarah Martin chat about high libido women. Conventional thinking tells us that men tend to be more interested in sex than women and that women with high libidos are rare. But how true is that? And, while many men say that they would love for their female partner to be more sexually assertive, what actually happens when a woman wants sex more than her male partner? We answer these questions and more in this episode. 

EPISODE NOTES:

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski: https://amzn.to/2PGjmbA

One of the questions we get asked most often is how much sex it's "normal" to have. Today, Dr. Valeria and Sarah Martin answer the question of what is normal sexual frequency. We also share our tips on how to tell whether you're having the right amount of sex; why you may not be satisfied about your sexual frequency; and how to be more satisfied with the amount of sex you're having. 

In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin take a look at the concept of "sexual scarcity" or lack of sex, and the idea of the right to sex (or as some would call it, sexual entitlement). Tune in to find out how the sexual scarcity mindset affects our intimate relationships and sexual satisfaction, and how we can positively address the real feelings of frustration, sexual shame and disconnect that are the driving force behind this mindset. 

EPISODE NOTES:

Amia Srinivasan's essay in London Review of Books: https://www.lrb.co.uk/v40/n06/amia-srinivasan/does-anyone-have-the-right-to-sex

Today, Dr. Valeria and Sarah Martin are sharing their expert tips that will help take your masturbation practice from merely good to amazing. But that's not all! In today's fun bonus feature, Dr. Valeria and Sarah play a rousing round of sexual "Would You Rather" - with pretty hilarious and unexpected results. Make sure to stick around after the main discussion of masturbation is wrapped up, both to learn a fun and sexy game and to get up close and personal with your podcast hosts!

If you want to jump directly to the fun bonus content, it starts around the 40 minute mark. 

EPISODE NOTES:

Sarah's featured interviews:

BBC World https://www.bbc.com/news/world-44041947

The Guardian https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/jun/19/multiple-orgasm-clitoris-science-research

Dr. Valeria's featured print and video interview in Psychotherapy Networker: https://psychotherapynetworker.org/magazine/article/1159/silent-and-confused/00000000-0000-0000-0000-000000000000

Dr. Valeria's article in Business Insider: http://www.businessinsider.com/how-men-react-to-sexual-harassment-claims-according-to-intimacy-coach-2017-11

In today's episode, Dr. Valeria is interviewing therapist, researcher, author and kink sex educator Galen Fous. Galen shares his 5 keys to exploring our personal kinks and to successfully integrating them into our sex lives. We also discuss sexual shame, the challenges of sexual incompatibility between partners, the need for more sexual and kink education for therapists, and more. An in-depth and fascinating interview!

EPISODE NOTES:

Galen Fous' website: https://galenfous.com/

Personal Erotic Myth survey: https://galenfous.com/pem/

Galen's book, Decoding Your Kink: https://www.amazon.com/Decoding-Your-Kink-Explore-Wildest-ebook/dp/B017CKIIAE/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1528996097&sr=8-1&keywords=galen+fous