Get Sex-Smart

In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin give you a behind-the-scenes, candid look at the joys and challenges of being sexologists. 

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Many people (especially women) face this dilemma: their male partner refuses to wear a condom during sex, for various reasons. Negotiating safe sex can become quite tricky if one partner is resistant to condom use. What can (and should) you do? Dr. Valeria breaks it down. 

EPISODE NOTES: 

Study about young men's condom resistance tactics

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Hacking and cyber crime seem to be par for the course these days. In the past couple of years, two major attacks on big dating sites impacted hundreds of millions of people: the AshleyMadison.com hack in 2015, and the AdultFriendFinder.com hack in 2016. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin discuss the fallout of these cyber hacks; what it means for our privacy; and how the hacks have exposed the depths of sexual shame in society.

EPISODE NOTES:

Sarah Martin's website: www.goodsexlifestyle.com

Dr. Valeria's website: www.drvaleriachuba.com

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In this second episode of our Conscious Sexuality series, Sexual Empowerment coach and Tantra master Elise Carr talks to Dr. Valeria about the principles of Tantra and how it can be used for solo sex and self-pleasure.

EPISODE NOTES:

Elise Carr's free instructional videos:

Tantra Sacred Sexuality & Spirituality 

With the current popularity of pick-up artistry and so-called "player" tactics in the dating world, it's important to recognize when these manipulative tricks are being played on you. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin share their tips on how to recognize different types of manipulation and what to do to protect yourself should you find yourself facing it. 

EPISODE NOTES:

The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker

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Many people have experienced sex when tipsy or drunk. Now, as marijuana is becoming legalized throughout the world, many more are getting high and having sex. A recent study compares the effects of alcohol and marijuana on our sexual performance and on the way we experience sex. Dr. Valeria breaks it down. 

EPISODE NOTES:

Read the original research article here

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Whenever we start a new romantic relationship, one of the biggest decisions (and causes of anxiety) is when to start having sex with our new partner. There are many arbitrary rules out there (like the "three date" rule) that only make things more confusing. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and Sarah Martin share a 5 point strategy to help you decide when it's the right time to start having sex in a new relationship - and how to make sure that you start off your new sexual relationship on the right foot. 

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The past decade has seen a growth in popularity of conscious sexuality: a variety of spirituality-based approaches to sex and intimacy (including but not limited to tantra, kama sutra, Tao, and others). In this first episode of a six-part monthly series, sexual empowerment coach and spiritual sexuality teacher Elise Carr talks to Dr. Valeria about the principles of conscious sexuality, and how spiritual sexuality can improve our sex lives and relationships.

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Many couples today are living in long distance relationships. Jobs, school, military service - there are a lot of reasons why a couple may need to separate for any length of time. It's common to believe that long distance relationships are extremely challenging to maintain - especially when it comes to sex and intimacy. But is that really true? In this episode, Dr. Valeria looks at some of the research about long distance relationships and shares her tips and strategies for keeping your long distance relationship alive, passionate, and intimate. 

EPISODE NOTES:

Long distance relationship study: Dargie, E., Blair, K. L., Goldfinger, C., & Pukall, C. F. (2015). Go long! Predictors of positive relationship outcomes in long-distance dating relationships. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 41(2), 181-202

Long distance partner sex toys (for both heterosexual and same sex couples):

Kiiroo Onyx and Pearl

Lovense Max and Nora

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Many of us grew up with negative sexual education or no sexual education at all. We know the pain, confusion, and damage that sexual ignorance can cause. Unfortunately, for many of us, our kids are headed down the same path, thanks to the poor state of sexual education in many schools around the world. In this episode, Dr. Valeria looks at the findings of a new study that reveals that teenagers are extremely unsatisfied with the sex ed they receive in schools. In addition to the 5 ways in which school sex ed is failing our children, Dr. Valeria discusses how we can help our kids receive comprehensive, sex-positive education they need.

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