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Many couples face challenges around sexual compatibility, including differences in libido, eroticism, and sexual fantasies and preferences. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin discuss the problem of erotic incompatibility, when one partner's sexual fantasies, fetish or turn ons are different from those of the other partner. We discuss how to manage complicated emotions around erotic incompatibility, ways of communicating and negotiating, and possible solutions. 

Studies show that about 8% to 10% of adult population describe themselves as virgins. Partners of virgins often feel the pressure to make first-time sex as good as possible. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin talk about the concept of virginity; what difficulties and anxieties can come with being an adult virgin; how partners of virgins can overcome their own concerns and anxieties about sexual performance; and how to make sure both partners have amazing and pleasurable first-time sex. 

Traditionally, sex toys have been the domain of women. These days though, men are increasingly interested in trying sex toys for their own pleasure, and the market offers a great variety of products. In this episode, Dr. Valeria interviews guest Katy Zvolerin, PR Director for Adam & Eve, a popular online seller of adult products. We discuss why sex toys for men are becoming more popular; the variety of products available - from the simplest and most expensive to more advanced; prostate stimulation, pegging, and more; and finally, our advice on how to use sex toys both solo and with a partner to bring more pleasure and variety into your sex life. 

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In the recent weeks, the #MeToo movement swept over social media in the wake of the Weinstein sexual harassment scandal. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin discuss why the movement is so important; share their own perspectives on #MeToo; and make the argument that the movement may have a great potential to heal and improve the intimate relationships between men and women. 

This may come as a surprise to many, but male erotica and pornography are incredibly popular among women. In fact, gay male pornography has been consistently at the top of the most searched pornography topics for women. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin discuss what's behind this high level of interest; what it tells us about women's sexuality; and some of the good resources for those of you who are interested in exploring this genre. 

We're looking at a recent study published by Pornhub that complied 10 years of porn searches. Each year, different sexual fantasies seemed to be especially popular. Dr. Valeria and guest, sex coach Sarah Martin review the most popular searches on Pornhub and discuss what they say about our sexuality in this raunchy and hilarious episode. 

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Original article on The Cut: https://www.thecut.com/2017/06/pornhub-data-sexual-habits.html

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In this new dating-focused episode, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin talk about a common source of anxiety for a lot of people: the fear of coming across as "creepy". We talk about what defines creepy behavior; the difference between being creepy and socially awkward; and how not to come across as creepy in dating situations. 

This is a common situation: you make a sex or intimacy-related request of your partner; they seem to agree to it, but never actually follow through. You find yourself feeling frustrated, dismissed, and dissatisfied. In this episode, Dr. Valeria looks at some reasons why your sexual requests are going unfulfilled, and what you can do to improve the situation. 

Dr. Valeria chats with relationship coach Valerie Greene about how balancing our male and female energies can help us create better relationships; how to become more magnetic to the masculine; and how to communicate your feelings in an authentic way. 

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Valerie Greene's free e-guide to Man-ifesting lasting love: http://www.coachvaleriegreene.com/eguide/

Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin are back with another anal sex episode. Today, we're sharing 5 advanced tips and techniques for taking anal sex to the next level. (Make sure to check out Episode 47, our first anal sex episode, which is a must-listen for anyone interested in exploring anal pleasure!)

Sarah's website: www.goodsexlifestyle.com

Dr. Valeria's website: www.drvaleriachuba.com

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