Getting After It

I spent most of my life trying to outrun suffering. A brutal 24-mile training run, months of unexplained illness in my early twenties, and a long fight with depression taught me I had it backwards.

Suffering is not the obstacle. It is the work.

In this episode I break down what suffering is actually for; why most people either avoid it entirely or grind through it without collecting what it owes them, and what changes when you stop treating hard things as interruptions to your life and start treating them as the thing that builds it.

What you will walk away with:
— Why your mind puts a ceiling on you long before your body needs one
— How to find something good on the darkest days (and why that skill compounds)
— The one thing that makes suffering heavier every time — and how to stop doing it
— What Epictetus, Cameron Hanes, and Churchill understood about hard seasons that most people miss

If you are someone in your 20s or 30s who knows your are capable of more but keeps getting in his own way, this episode is for you.

Share it with someone who needs it. Leave a rating on Apple Podcasts or Spotify; it helps more people find the show.

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You're not lazy. You're not lost. You just know there's a gap between the life you're living and the one you're capable of — and that gap is getting harder to ignore.

Every week, I pull apart the mental patterns that keep capable people stuck — comfort disguised as patience, avoidance disguised as strategy, mediocrity dressed up as balance. I bring in philosophy, personal stories from the trails and the trenches, and conversations with people who decided to stop waiting.

This isn't a show about hacks. It's about the harder work: getting honest with yourself, building the discipline to act on that honesty, and becoming someone you'd actually respect.

Keep getting after it.

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I crossed the finish line at 2:56 and couldn't walk right for weeks. Sub-three marathon, shot hip flexors, and a lesson I should have learned a long time before that parking lot.

Going fast has a price tag. You just don't see it at the finish line.

In this episode I'm getting honest about three places I went out too hard too early: a race, a training block, and this podcast, and what each of them cost me. This is about learning to tell the difference between the pace that looks good and the pace that actually gets you there.

Ally and I are expecting, and something she said recently stopped sparked the idea for this episode. It changed how I'm thinking about pacing far beyond running or work. Some miles you get back. Some you don't.

What you'll take away from this episode:

• Why the cost of going too hard almost never shows up when you expect it
• How the ego sets a pace that serves your image instead of your goals
• The one question I ask myself before every episode that changed how the show grew
• Why patience and low effort are not the same thing
• Five specific actions you can take this week to recalibrate your pace

If you've ever burned out before the finish line, felt behind on a goal, or wondered whether pushing harder is actually the move, this one is for you.

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You're not lazy. You're not lost. You just know there's a gap between the life you're living and the one you're capable of — and that gap is getting harder to ignore.

Every week, I pull apart the mental patterns that keep capable people stuck — comfort disguised as patience, avoidance disguised as strategy, mediocrity dressed up as balance. I bring in philosophy, personal stories from the trails and the trenches, and conversations with people who decided to stop waiting.

This isn't a show about hacks. It's about the harder work: getting honest with yourself, building the discipline to act on that honesty, and becoming someone you'd actually respect.

Keep getting after it.

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You're not stuck. You know exactly what you need to do, you just haven't decided to do it yet. And that's costing you more than you think.

In this episode, I take you inside one of the most pivotal moments of my life: a hotel room in Hollywood, California, where the weight of months of avoidance brought me to my knees. What happened next changed everything, because I finally made the decision I'd been walking past for months.

I dig into why the feeling of being "stuck" is actually a story we tell ourselves, the real cost of living in limbo, and exactly how to make a decision when you don't feel ready. This one's going to hit home.

What you'll walk away with:

• Why "stuck" is a story, not a state — and how to see through it
• The true cost of indecision (it's not just time)
• Why loss aversion and ego protection work together to keep you exactly where you are
• How to make a decision before you have the full plan
• Five specific actions you can take this week to stop avoiding and start moving

If there's a decision you've been treating like a situation, I hope this helps. 

If this one hit home, share it with someone who needs to hear it. And if you haven't left a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify yet, it takes 60 seconds and it genuinely helps.

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You're not lazy. You're not lost. You just know there's a gap between the life you're living and the one you're capable of — and that gap is getting harder to ignore.

Every week, I pull apart the mental patterns that keep capable people stuck — comfort disguised as patience, avoidance disguised as strategy, mediocrity dressed up as balance. I bring in philosophy, personal stories from the trails and the trenches, and conversations with people who decided to stop waiting.

This isn't a show about hacks. It's about the harder work: getting honest with yourself, building the discipline to act on that honesty, and becoming someone you'd actually respect.

Keep getting after it.

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There is a version of you that already knows what it needs to do. 

It knows the race to sign up for, the conversation you've been avoiding, the thing you keep circling. It's waiting on the other side of something uncomfortable.

The hard things are coming whether you're ready or not. The only question is whether you've been training for them — or hiding from them. 

In this episode, I'm getting into something I think about more than almost anything else: voluntary discomfort. Why the hard things you choose on purpose are the exact things that prepare you for the hard things life throws at you without warning.

This isn't a bro culture episode. It's not about suffering as a personality. It's personal — and I think it'll say something about your life too.

What you'll walk away with:

• A framework for understanding voluntary vs. involuntary discomfort — and why the first category is the only training ground for the second
• The real reason most people avoid hard things (it's not laziness — it's a misread of what fear is actually telling you)
• Why building discomfort tolerance is a trainable skill, not a fixed trait — and how to start building it this week
• The story of my friend Brayden Galbraith, who runs every single day and is training for the Leadville 100 — and what his example says about showing up in every area of life
• Five specific, low-barrier actions you can take this week to start building capacity for hard things

I share a story from my own life in this one that I haven't talked about much — the version of me in high school who faked injuries to sit out practice and searched for answers online instead of doing the work. That guy cost me something. This episode is about making sure he doesn't cost you something too.

If this episode hits home, share it with one person who needs to hear it. And if you've been rocking with Getting After It, a rating on Apple Podcasts or Spotify goes further than you know.

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I hope today’s episode sparked something within you to pursue your dreams and unlock your true potential. If you found value in it, consider sharing it with someone who might need that same push.

Getting After It is for those who. want to silence their self-doubt. Refuse to be owned by comfort. Understand their limits are man-made and breakable. We live in a time of constant comparison. Social media drowns us in highlight reels and overnight success stories. But what most people don’t see is the grit behind it all. The reps. The quiet mornings. The sacrifices. The failures.

You are just getting started. Keep Getting After It. 

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The reason you can't do the hard thing isn't motivation. You can't sit still, and that reflex is quietly eroding your capacity to do anything that matters.

In this episode, I break down why distraction is pain management, not a focus problem, and what it actually costs you to keep reaching for the escape hatch. 

From a long training run at mile 10 where the boredom hit hard, to walking through New York and watching hundreds of people miss one of the most alive cities on earth, I wanted to be honest about a habit most of us don't even realize we have.

You'll walk away knowing:

• Why your phone habit isn't a willpower problem (and what to do instead)
• How I use a device called the Brick to remove the choice entirely
• What Ally figured out about phones that most people never do, and how you can apply it to your own life
• Why your best ideas are already in you; and what's blocking them
• The 30-minute phone-free challenge to start this week

This is something I've been sitting with for a while, and if I'm being straight with you, I'm just as guilty as you are. Phones are addicting. 

But I genuinely believe some of your best ideas are locked inside you right now, and they can't get through when every quiet moment is filled with someone else's content.

If this episode hits you, share it with one person who needs to hear it. 

Leave a rating on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, it takes 30 seconds and helps more people find the show. And if you want to reach out, find me on Instagram.

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I hope today’s episode sparked something within you to pursue your dreams and unlock your true potential. If you found value in it, consider sharing it with someone who might need that same push.

Getting After It is for those who. want to silence their self-doubt. Refuse to be owned by comfort. Understand their limits are man-made and breakable. We live in a time of constant comparison. Social media drowns us in highlight reels and overnight success stories. But what most people don’t see is the grit behind it all. The reps. The quiet mornings. The sacrifices. The failures.

You are just getting started. Keep Getting After It. 

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You haven't lost your discipline. You've lost your energy. And those are two completely different problems that require two completely different solutions.

In this episode, I'm getting honest about where I am right now — mentally drained from work, fighting to hold on to the habits that used to come easy — and what I'm learning about why discipline actually breaks down. Not the surface-level stuff. The real reason. The one most people in the self-improvement space won't say out loud.

What you'll walk away with:

• Why willpower failure is usually a depletion problem, not a character problem
• Why discipline is a skill you build — and can lose — just like muscle
• What it actually looks like when discipline becomes your lifestyle (my mom, 5 days a week for 7 years)
• Why sometimes the most disciplined thing you can do is rest
• 5 practical ways to rebuild when you're running on empty

I'm not on the other side of this one yet. I'm in it with you. Let's figure it out together.

If this hit for you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. And if you haven't left a rating on Apple or Spotify yet — it takes 30 seconds and it means everything for the show.

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I hope today’s episode sparked something within you to pursue your dreams and unlock your true potential. If you found value in it, consider sharing it with someone who might need that same push.

Getting After It is for those who. want to silence their self-doubt. Refuse to be owned by comfort. Understand their limits are man-made and breakable. We live in a time of constant comparison. Social media drowns us in highlight reels and overnight success stories. But what most people don’t see is the grit behind it all. The reps. The quiet mornings. The sacrifices. The failures.

You are just getting started. Keep Getting After It. 

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The safest decision you ever made might be the one that's quietly destroying you. Comfort doesn't look like weakness, it looks like a steady paycheck, hitting your numbers, and being good at something you hate. 

That's exactly what makes it so dangerous.

In this episode, I'm getting personal. Ally joins me as I talk about something I've been struggling with, the slow realization that playing it safe was costing me more than any risk ever could, and what the trails taught me about the kind of person I refuse to let comfort turn me into. 

This one isn't theoretical, I'm still in the middle of it.

What you'll walk away with:

• How to recognize the comfort trap before it's taken years from you
• Why your fear of risk is probably aimed at the wrong thing
• The honest questions to ask yourself when something needs to change
• How to move with intention instead of just blowing everything up
• One simple challenge to take back control, this week

I'm not through this yet, guys. But that's exactly why I wanted to talk about it. If you're sitting with that quiet feeling that something needs to change, this episode is for you.

If this one hit home, share it with someone who needs to hear it, it genuinely helps more than you know. And if you haven't already, drop a rating on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. It takes thirty seconds and it helps the show reach more people.

Keep Getting After It, my friends. 

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I hope today’s episode sparked something within you to pursue your dreams and unlock your true potential. If you found value in it, consider sharing it with someone who might need that same push.

Getting After It is for those who. want to silence their self-doubt. Refuse to be owned by comfort. Understand their limits are man-made and breakable. We live in a time of constant comparison. Social media drowns us in highlight reels and overnight success stories. But what most people don’t see is the grit behind it all. The reps. The quiet mornings. The sacrifices. The failures.

You are just getting started. Keep Getting After It. 

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Loneliness is rising everywhere.

But the problem isn’t that people don’t know anyone. The problem is that most people lack consistent, meaningful interaction.

In this episode of the Getting After It Podcast, Brett shares a personal story about moving to Utah alone, starting the podcast when no one was listening, and the powerful realization that human connection is something we must actively build.

The truth is simple:

If you want a village, you have to be a villager.

This episode explores the psychology of loneliness, the importance of community, and practical strategies you can use to build real friendships in a disconnected world.

You’ll learn:

• Why loneliness is increasing in modern life
• The difference between knowing people and having connection
• How shared effort and struggle build friendships faster
• Why most people are waiting for someone else to initiate
• Five practical ways to build real community

If you’ve ever felt alone, stuck in routine, or disconnected from people around you, this episode will give you practical tools to start building the relationships that make life meaningful.

Because villages don’t appear by accident. They’re built. One conversation, one invitation, and one shared experience at a time.

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I hope today’s episode sparked something within you to pursue your dreams and unlock your true potential. If you found value in it, consider sharing it with someone who might need that same push.

Getting After It is for those who. want to silence their self-doubt. Refuse to be owned by comfort. Understand their limits are man-made and breakable. We live in a time of constant comparison. Social media drowns us in highlight reels and overnight success stories. But what most people don’t see is the grit behind it all. The reps. The quiet mornings. The sacrifices. The failures.

You are just getting started. Keep Getting After It. 

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This week shook me.

Not because I failed publicly.
Not because I got injured.
But because things that used to feel easy suddenly became heavy.

I started a new role. The pressure increased. My mental load expanded. And when I went out to run 30 miles… I only ran 10.

What hurt wasn’t the missed miles.

It was the story my mind told me afterward.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why growth often feels like regression
• The psychology of imposter syndrome
• Performance growth vs. capacity growth
• How stress affects physical output
• How to stabilize when your identity feels threatened
• Tactical ways to manage pressure without unraveling

This episode is for anyone who feels like they’re falling behind — when in reality, they may be leveling up.

If you’re in a season where things feel heavier…

Don’t waste it.

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I hope today’s episode sparked something within you to pursue your dreams and unlock your true potential. If you found value in it, consider sharing it with someone who might need that same push.

Getting After It is for those who. want to silence their self-doubt. Refuse to be owned by comfort. Understand their limits are man-made and breakable. We live in a time of constant comparison. Social media drowns us in highlight reels and overnight success stories. But what most people don’t see is the grit behind it all. The reps. The quiet mornings. The sacrifices. The failures.

You are just getting started. Keep Getting After It. 

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Why do intelligent, capable people stay stuck?

In this episode of the Getting After It Podcast, we break down the psychology behind “elegant excuses” — the refined, reasonable-sounding justifications that keep us from taking action. Most people think they need more motivation to grow in their career, improve their health, or level up their life. In reality, they’re often negotiating with themselves in subtle ways that feel responsible… but prevent movement.

I share a personal story about staying in a job longer than I should have, convincing myself that patience and loyalty were strategic. What I eventually realized was simple: no one was going to architect my future for me. Growth requires initiative.

We explore:

• Why indecision often hides fear
• How smart people rationalize delay
• The difference between patience and avoidance
• Why motivation is unreliable
• How hesitation slowly reshapes identity
• The importance of agency in career growth and personal development

Featuring insights inspired by Naval Ravikant and Søren Kierkegaard, this episode dives into how indecision becomes identity — and what it costs over time.

If you feel stuck in your career, training, business, or relationships, this conversation will challenge you to examine whether you truly lack motivation… or whether you’ve simply built a comfortable excuse.

Stop waiting.
Stop negotiating.
Move.

Keep Getting After It.

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I hope today’s episode sparked something within you to pursue your dreams and unlock your true potential. If you found value in it, consider sharing it with someone who might need that same push.

Getting After It is for those who. want to silence their self-doubt. Refuse to be owned by comfort. Understand their limits are man-made and breakable. We live in a time of constant comparison. Social media drowns us in highlight reels and overnight success stories. But what most people don’t see is the grit behind it all. The reps. The quiet mornings. The sacrifices. The failures.

You are just getting started. Keep Getting After It. 

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