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People sometimes tell Ali that they wish their marriage was like her 20+ year marriage to broadcaster George Stephanopoulos. They just seem to be a golden match. So in this episode she is exploring what “couple envy” is and informing her marriage fans - don’t! Psychologist and writer Dr. Joshua Coleman says couple envy is really just part of our basic human nature - to compare and contrast. He and Ali also talk about why it’s better if your spouse is NOT your best friend, why it’s actually good for a marriage to commiserate with friends about partners, and the critical keys to sustaining a long relationship…oh, and “sex envy” is a thing too!

If you have questions or guest suggestions, Ali would love to hear from you. Call or text her at (323) 364-6356. Or email go-ask-ali-podcast-at-gmail.com. (No dashes)

Links of Interest:

Dr. Joshua Coleman

The Atlantic: Dr. Joshua Coleman

The Key to Escaping the Couple-Envy Trap

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Trigger Warning: please be advised there is detailed discussion about assault and abuse of minors. 

What does a parent do when they feel like their child is in danger and is looking for help? They jump on the internet and start clicking. What they might find is a bunch of info about places all over the country they  can send their kid to for rehabilitation and family unification. Sounds great, right? What they might not know, though, is that these places are unlicensed, unregulated, off the oversight grid and very often abusive. 

In fact, influencer Paris Hilton went before the Utah state congress last year to share her traumatic experience at The Provo Canyon School. She and other survivors, including our guest, have continued the campaign for reform of “The Troubled Teen Industry” at the federal level.

Ali’s guest Caroline Cole is the host of Trapped in Treatment, executive produced by Paris Hilton, and shares her own experience at one of these facilities as well as where the fight for regulation is now, including The Accountability for Congregate Care Act.

If you have questions or guest suggestions, Ali would love to hear from you. Call or text her at (323) 364-6356. Or email go-ask-ali-podcast-at-gmail.com. (No dashes)

Links of interest:

Trapped in Treatment Podcast: https://trappedintreatment.com/

Unsilenced (Non-Profit): https://www.unsilenced.org/

Breaking Code Silence (Non-Profit): https://www.breakingcodesilence.org/

NeuroClastic (Autism collective): https://neuroclastic.com/

In the news:

KUER - Hard to Shut Facilities Down (3/22/22): https://www.kuer.org/health-science-environment/2022-03-22/even-after-serious-allegations-heres-why-shutting-down-a-teen-treatment-facility-in-utah-is-no-easy-task

KUER - Paris Hilton Goes to Washington (10/20/21): https://www.kuer.org/politics-government/2021-10-20/paris-hilton-and-activists-brought-change-to-utahs-troubled-teen-industry-now-they-are-pushing-for-a-new-federal-law

KSL - Utah State Bill 127 Signed (04/06/21): https://ksltv.com/459317/paris-hilton-on-hand-for-signing-of-bill-regarding-youth-care-centers/

Salt Lake Tribune - The Troubled Teen Industry (08/30/20): https://www.sltrib.com/news/2020/08/30/inside-utahs-troubled/

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It’s the lifecycle of many friendships. Sometimes they ebb and flow and other times they come to a crushing end. And just like in romantic relationships it’s hard to be on either side of the “we need to talk” table. Friendship expert and coach Danielle Bayard Jackson seems to have all the right words for every scenario, including the testy times. Just make sure, she says, you’re not severing ties prematurely. Having that talk might not only save the relationship, but bring you closer. Danielle also gets into the fundamentals of friendship, managing expectations, and moving on after a breakup. //

If you have questions or guest suggestions, Ali would love to hear from you. Call or text her at (323) 364-6356. Or email go-ask-ali-podcast-at-gmail.com. (No dashes) //

Links of Interest:

Danielle Bayard Jackson: https://www.betterfemalefriendships.com

The Friend Forward Podcast: https://www.betterfemalefriendships.com/podcast

Tend and Befriend: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/200009/tend-and-befriend

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Our dreams are telling us something. Sidarta Ribeiro, author of The Oracle of Night, the History and Science of Dreams, says if a person looks at all of the clues dreams provide, powerful insights can be learned for ourselves and also our communities. But in today’s culture with late nights, addiction to screen time, alcohol and antidepressants, our dreams and our connection to our deeper selves are suffering. Two things that can help, though, are writing them down and talking about them. But don’t bother buying that dream dictionary. He says only the dreamer can really know what they mean. //

If you have questions or guest suggestions, Ali would love to hear from you. Call or text her at (323) 364-6356. Or email go-ask-ali-podcast-at-gmail.com. (No dashes) //

Links of Interest:

The Oracle of Night, by Sidarta Ribeiro:

https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/553072/the-oracle-of-night-by-sidarta-ribeiro/

The Dawn of Everything by David Graeber and David Wengrow:

https://us.macmillan.com/books/9780374157357/thedawnofeverything

NPR: https://www.npr.org/2022/01/19/1074118733/the-way-we-dream

Time Article: https://time.com/6105881/sleep-dreams-sharing-meaning/

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Does it seem the whole world has lost its collective mind? We are a polarized country, for sure, but Imran Ahmed says fundamentally we are no different than we’ve ever been. It’s just that online social media and big tech are using behavioral psychology, mathematical algorithms, and the protection of current legislation to have their way with our heads and consequently, as evidenced by January 6th, our fists. Imran gives us practical ways to stop the madness and predicts new protective legislation for us and our kids is coming. //

If you have questions or guest suggestions, Ali would love to hear from you. Call or text her at (323) 364-6356. Or email go-ask-ali-podcast-at-gmail.com. (No dashes) //

Links of Interest:

Center for Countering Digital Hate: www.CounterHate.com

The murder of Jo Cox, MP:

https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-38079594

The Great Reset:

https://www.bbc.com/news/blogs-trending-57532368

Facebook Whistleblower Frances Haugen:

https://www.nytimes.com/live/2021/10/05/technology/facebook-whistleblower-frances-haugen

Section 230 of the Communications Decency Act of 1996:

https://www.theverge.com/21273768/section-230-explained-internet-speech-law-definition-guide-free-moderation

Antitrust:

https://www.cnbc.com/2021/09/23/ftc-chair-khan-outlines-vision-for-antitrust-enforcement-consumer-protection.html

Kids Online Safety Act:

https://techcrunch.com/2022/02/16/senators-propose-the-kids-online-safety-act-after-facebook-haugen-leaks/

https://www.washingtonpost.com/technology/2022/02/16/kids-online-safety-act-unveiled-blackburn-blumenthal/

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Enough already! We are entering the third year of a worldwide pandemic and this whole time our lives have been a grind. Researcher and author Eve Rodsky says women’s unpaid labor has increased by 153%. And as physician Dr. Aditi Nerurkar says, we’ve gone from a short-term acute condition to a long-term chronic condition. So how do we deal? How do we get interested in our own lives again? How can we function better? Eve and Dr. Aditi say we need to find space - not only physical space but the mental and personal space to explore and be creative - a “unicorn space” - because a creative life is a connected life. They are co-hosts of Time Out: A Fairplay Podcast. //

If you have questions or guest suggestions, Ali would love to hear from you. Call or text her at (323) 364-6356. Or email go-ask-ali-podcast-at-gmail.com. (No dashes) //

Links of Interest:

Time Out: A Fairplay Podcast:

https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1119-time-out-a-fair-play-podc-91037429/

Hedonic vs. Eudaimonic Happiness:

https://www.thoughtco.com/eudaimonic-and-hedonic-happiness-4783750

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If you’re like Ali, you may be curious why all the buzz around Bitcoin. It kinda seems crazy, right, a rogue monetary system completely made up by some guy? But it hasn’t fizzled away. In fact, cryptocurrency seems to be only gaining validation and steam. So perhaps it’s time to understand it, even just a little bit. Crypto billionaire Mike Novogratz, a pioneer of the industry, presents Crypto 101. He explains what it is, why it got a bad name in the early days, how it works now and how it will most likely work in the future…and speaking of future…Mike says it’s called the Metaverse. Fasten your seatbelts! //

If you have questions or guest suggestions, Ali would love to hear from you. Call or text her at (323) 364-6356. Or email go-ask-ali-podcast-at-gmail.com. (No dashes) //

Links of Interest:

Losing Millions Due to Password Loss:

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/01/12/technology/bitcoin-passwords-wallets-fortunes.html

Irene Dao:

https://cointelegraph.com/news/irenedao-nfts-causing-a-stir-on-crypto-twitter

5 Things to Know About 3-D NFTs:

https://smartmfg.io/5-things-to-know-about-3d-nfts/

The Constitution Dao:

https://www.theverge.com/22820563/constitution-meme-47-million-crypto-crowdfunding-blockchain-ethereum-constitution

https://www.cnbc.com/2021/11/18/constitutiondao-crypto-investors-lose-bid-to-buy-constitution-copy.html

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New moms want help. Most of them experience some combination of anxiety, depression, insecurity, isolation and exhaustion. New moms also want to know they’re not alone. So what do they do during the 3am feeding time? They scroll. Journalist and host of the podcast Under the Influence Jo Piazza was one of these new mommies. When she snapped out of her postpartum daze she realized Instagram was bombarding her with mommy “influencers” and they were all trying to sell her something. Mommy influencers are all over social media making all kinds of money, but it’s a tough grind, with no safety nets but lots of hate, and their kids may pay the highest price. Piazza joins Ali to share what her in-depth reporting has uncovered. As dark as it can be, she still has respect. //

If you have questions or guest suggestions, Ali would love to hear from you. Call or text her at (323) 364-6356. Or email go-ask-ali-podcast-at-gmail.com. (No dashes) //

Links of Interest:

Under the Influence With Jo Piazza: 

https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1119-under-the-influence-with-76687187/

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/under-the-influence-with-jo-piazza/id1544171101

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What is it about romantic comedies that leave such a soft spot in people’s hearts? And if that’s truly the case, where the heck did they go? Ali and Variety magazine’s Jenelle Riley have a heart-to-heart on all the ins and outs of rom-coms like the significance of streaming services, the increased diversity (finally) and the impact of the MeToo movement on our beloved stories. Jenelle shares her surprising favorites!

Plus, Ali went to social media to ask YOU if you think rom-coms are dead and what rom-com you can watch over and over again. And, boy, did you answer. We got a very enthusiastic response. Unfortunately we could not include all of the wonderful comments in the episode, but the verdict: Rom-Coms are NOT dead! //

If you have questions or guest suggestions, Ali would love to hear from you. Call or text her at (323) 364-6356. Or email go-ask-ali-podcast-at-gmail.com. (No dashes) //

Links of Interest:

Variety’s Awards Circuit Podcast Co-Hosted by Jenelle: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/variety-awards-circuit/id1536666553

Jenelle’s Play, “A Kind of Love Story”, (an homage to rom-coms) is available at:

https://www.stagerights.com/allshows/a-kind-of-love-story/

https://www.amazon.com/Kind-Love-Story-Jenelle-Riley/dp/194625939X

75 Best Rom-Coms Ever (According to Marie Claire)

https://www.marieclaire.com/culture/g4017/best-rom-coms/

Why We Need Romantic Comedies More Than Ever at This Moment (People))

https://people.com/movies/do-we-need-romantic-comedies-more-than-ever-this-woman-argues-that-we-do/

A Genre Reborn: Inside the Evolution of the Rom-Com (CNN)

https://www.cnn.com/2021/08/29/entertainment/romantic-comedy-evolution-trnd/index.html

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Women out there: Do you know how your life is sure to change? Menopause is called “The Change” for a reason. It’s nothing to bury your head about. The secret to fighting helplessness or fear is empowerment and nothing empowers like knowledge. Sally Mueller, co-founder of Womaness.com, and Dr. Ekta Kapoor, Mayo Clinic endocrinologist and menopause expert, are pioneering the menopositivity movement through education, community support and products designed specifically to address the needs of women in perimenopause and menopause. They go through what to expect, how to prepare, the importance of education, treatments available, changing the message, and more. This is a must listen for women - and men - of all ages. The earlier you’re prepared, the better off the future will be. //

If you have questions or guest suggestions, Ali would love to hear from you. Call or text her at (323) 364-6356. Or email go-ask-ali-podcast-at-gmail.com. (No dashes) //

Links of Interest: //

Womaness.com

Womaness Facebook After Party Group

National Women’s Health Network

Early Menopause

Time Magazine

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