Send Me Questions on Attachment

Suffering in life is inevitable. The Scriptures teach us in John 16:33b that "...In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” Jesus prepares our heart for suffering by making us aware that it is coming, but how do we actually respond when it does come? 

On today's episode, Spencer and I discuss how Christianity in Western culture has had an imperfect or one-sided view of God that has impacted how they view suffering in their lives. Is it all really worth it? Will God really use this for my good? How long do I have to wait to see the Lord's hand in the midst of my suffering? There are a lot of questions that, we as Christians, ask when we're suffering, but Spencer alludes to the fact that we might not know the answer to the "Why?" of our suffering, but it is important that we remain obedient and patient in the process to see God work in our lives. He will change our hearts in the process. 

We also discuss the following topics: 
- The need for both truth and grace
- The reality of suffering
- The purpose of suffering
- Eliminating the tension of suffering and wrestling with God
- How to manage our emotions during suffering 
- Lastly, waiting on God's timing to show us the purpose of suffering 

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, feel free to  email me at [email protected].

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MY HOPE FOR YOU
I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

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One of the key factors that influences how we view God, outside of how our parents view God and the church, is the type of religious background we grew up in. Mormonism, in particular, has a strong impact on the people who are part of it. They are often taught that they can become a god and, if that's the case, 

On today's episode, Madison Palica and I discuss what it was like for her to grow up in the Mormon church. She discusses the struggles and difficulty in needing to deconstruct to truly understand who God is. However, this led her down a path of trying out different religious and spiritual practices that led her further away from God. Thankfully, Jesus opened her eyes and she gave her life to Him a few years ago. 

We mainly discussing the following topics: 
- What it was like for her to grow up in the Mormon church
- What damaging views the Mormon church has
- What it was like for her to deconstruct her Mormon faith
- Not deemed worthy enough to enter the temple
- Believing that God is emotionally abusive
- Turning to other religions and unhealthy spiritual practices - new age, witchcraft, meeting with a medium, crystals, psychedelics, spirit guides, transcendentalism
- And lastly, what Madison has learned about Jesus since she was saved

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, feel free to  email me at [email protected].

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MY HOPE FOR YOU
I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

Send Me Questions on Attachment

Our parents play a key role in our understanding of who God is and how we can relate to Him. Fathers, in particular, play a key role because we refer to God as our Father so the model and example that they set for us really gives us a foundation for we think God feels and thinks about us. 

On today's episode, Dr. Josh Waltman and I discuss how becoming fathers has given us a greater understanding of God's love and grace for us. Since both of us grew up in strong, conservative Baptist backgrounds, we share how that gave us a strong desire to stand up for the truth of God's Word, but that it also may have blinded us from being able to see God's grace and love towards us and all humanity. 

We mainly discussing the following topics: 
- What have we learned about God since becoming fathers? 
- What was it like to group in a Southern Baptist churches? 
- We share experiences of how God has shown his grace and love in our own lives
- How we can show grace and love to our children while also helping them orient that grace and love with truth
- Lastly, we share the importance of understanding the Gospel to have a complete understanding of God's truth, love and grace. 

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, feel free to  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

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MY HOPE FOR YOU
I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

Send Me Questions on Attachment

So, what is this podcast about? This is a podcast dedicated to helping Christians understand why they relate to God in the way they do. I explore how our early childhood relationship with our parents--specifically with how they met or did not meet our needs--influences how we relate to ourselves, the church, and to God.

On today's episode, I discuss the purpose of starting this podcast. I share with you some personal experiences that taught me about how I related to God and how much of it was influenced by my relationship with my parents. Seeing how my parents related to God and the church set a foundation for me to build on, but there were a lot of lessons I had to learn on my own to understand how I related to God, the church, and myself. 

I'll be discussing the following: 
- What is attachment theory and who developed it?
- What role do our parents have in our understanding of relationships? 
- How their influence in understanding those relationships also impacts the way we relate to God
- How to understand and rewrite your story
- Lastly, I'll provide some practical steps you can take to understand your attachment style to better your relationship with God. 

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, feel free to  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

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MY HOPE FOR YOU
I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

Send Me Questions on Attachment

Are you "ready to date"? How about the person that you're considering to date? Are they ready? 

On today's episode, we'll explore the different kinds of thoughts and beliefs we have about being ready, and hopefully, we'll understand that when people ask if they're "ready to date", they are actually asking a much more deeper, personal, and meaningful question. The question that is really being asked is, "Am I 'good enough' to date?"

To help us understand what this can look like in Christian relationships, I'll be discussing the following: 
- What do we mean when we ask if we're "ready to date"?
- How do I know if the person I'm considering to date is "ready"? 
- Am I "good enough"? 
- What characteristics and factors should I look for to know that I'm ready to date?, and 
- Lastly, I'll provide some practical steps you can take to identify in yourself--and others--your readiness to date. 

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, feel free to  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

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ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

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MY HOPE FOR YOU
I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

Send Me Questions on Attachment

On today's episode, I'll be discussing the red flags in Christian relationships, but specifically on observing how you and the person you're dating relate to one another. Oftentimes, we are so used to behaving the way that we do in relationships without realizing how we may be harming the other person and even ourselves by not being aware of the negative ways in which we relate.

If you want to know how people “truly are”, see how they respond when they’re under stress or when they’re given power.  This is crucial to observe in dating relationships.

To help us understand what this can look like in Christian relationships, I provide some biblical advice to implement to counter what John Gottman calls the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: 
- First, I discuss some obvious red flags that lead you to leave the relationship immediately, 
- then, we discuss some more subtle red flags, and 
- lastly, we discuss Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. 

Scriptures used in this episode: 

• Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. – Eph. 4:29
• A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. – Prov. 15:1
• A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back. – Prov. 29:11
• By pride comes nothing but strife, But with the well-advised is wisdom. – Prov. 13:10
• Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Eph. 4:32
• But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, - Gal. 5:22
• Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. – Eph. 4:2
• When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. – Prov. 11:2
• Before a downfall the heart is haughty, but humility comes before honor. – Prov. 18:12

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

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ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Support the show

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
@godattachmenthealing

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God Attachment Healing

MY HOPE FOR YOU
I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

On today's episode, I'll be discussing the red flags in Christian relationships, but specifically on observing how you and the person you're dating relate to one another. Oftentimes, we are so used to behaving the way that we do in relationships without realizing how we may be harming the other person and even ourselves by not being aware of the negative ways in which we relate.

If you want to know how people “truly are”, see how they respond when they’re under stress or when they’re given power.  This is crucial to observe in dating relationships.

To help us understand what this can look like in Christian relationships, I provide some biblical advice to implement to counter what John Gottman calls the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: 
- First, I discuss some obvious red flags that lead you to leave the relationship immediately, 
- then, we discuss some more subtle red flags, and 
- lastly, we discuss Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. 

Scriptures used in this episode: 

• Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. – Eph. 4:29
• A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. – Prov. 15:1
• A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back. – Prov. 29:11
• By pride comes nothing but strife, But with the well-advised is wisdom. – Prov. 13:10
• Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Eph. 4:32
• But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, - Gal. 5:22
• Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. – Eph. 4:2
• When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. – Prov. 11:2
• Before a downfall the heart is haughty, but humility comes before honor. – Prov. 18:12

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

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ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/slandajr)

Send Me Questions on Attachment

Forgiveness is one of the most important aspect of our relationship with Jesus. It is based off us repenting from our sins, accepting Jesus into our hearts, and accepting his forgiveness for our sins. But, what does accepting this forgiveness look like? What does it look like in our interpersonal relationships? And, what does it look like to to apply self-forgiveness? 

For those who have experienced shame, forgiveness may be a difficult concept to grasp, be it in their interpersonal relationships their relationship with God, and it often leads Christians to believe that they are not deserving of forgiveness. This is not true. 

On this episode, Dr. Kim shares with us the different facets of forgiveness as well as the importance of it for healing from hurts:  
- Defining forgiveness and reconciliation,
- The need to have a sense of right and wrong in order to forgive, 
- Discussing divine forgiveness, self-forgiveness, and interpersonal forgiveness, and
- How shame impacts the way we view forgiveness.

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

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ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Support the show

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
@godattachmenthealing

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MY HOPE FOR YOU
I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

Forgiveness is one of the most important aspect of our relationship with Jesus. It is based off us repenting from our sins, accepting Jesus into our hearts, and accepting his forgiveness for our sins. But, what does accepting this forgiveness look like? What does it look like in our interpersonal relationships? And, what does it look like to to apply self-forgiveness?

For those who have experienced shame, forgiveness may be a difficult concept to grasp, be it in their interpersonal relationships their relationship with God, and it often leads Christians to believe that they are not deserving of forgiveness. This is not true. 

On this episode, Dr. Kim shares with us the different facets of forgiveness as well as the importance of it for healing from hurts:  
- Defining forgiveness and reconciliation,
- The need to have a sense of right and wrong in order to forgive, 
- Discussing divine forgiveness, self-forgiveness, and interpersonal forgiveness, and
- How shame impacts the way we view forgiveness.

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
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ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/slandajr)

Send Me Questions on Attachment

On today's episode, I'll be discussing the red flags in Christian relationships. So many couples today are dating without asking questions that are critical to aligning with some key Christian values that are instrumental to their own personal walk with Christ. 

I discuss what Christian belief "red flags" to look out for if you're about to enter or are in a dating relationship:  
- Deconstruction - "I'm in the process of reconstructing my faith", 
- Does not see the church as important for Christian growth - "I'm not committed to any local church, but God knows where I stand with Him", and
- Family tradition of going to church - "Church has always been very important to me because my family has always been religious".

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

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ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Support the show

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
@godattachmenthealing

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God Attachment Healing

MY HOPE FOR YOU
I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.