God Attachment Healing

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It seems like nowadays, it is popular for Christians to be deconstructing their faith. However, we have to understand that this has happened since the beginning of Christianity. The difference today is that after deconstructing, there are many who do so to excuse their sin and try to create their own version of who Jesus is, and if He does not fit into their mold, then they abandon Him completely. But why is this happening? 

On today's podcast, Justin Kintzel and I discuss what deconstruction is, why some Christians stay and others abandon their faith in Christ, explore the dangers of the prosperity gospel, and elaborate on why having a sound theology is important to deconstruct in a healthy way. 
 
We also discuss the following topics: 

• Justin's personal testimony on deconstruction
• Cultural do's and don'ts
• Cultural Christianity
• What God teaches us during suffering
• Learning how to discern the Scriptures and apply it to our lives
• Being careful with who we listen to, and
• How growing up in the church can make us blind to our lack of fully and accurately understanding the Bible

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I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling. 

Send Me Questions on Attachment

Have you ever read the Psalms and felt like they took the words from the depths of your heart? Many of them are words filled with pain and suffering, and other times they are words full of joy and thanksgiving. As we'll explore today, there are a particular set of Psalms known as laments and they make up a significant amount of them. 

The question is, what is their purpose? We'll explore this and more in today's podcast. Prof. Matt and I discuss why the Psalms are critical for the life of a Christian and how we can find healing in connecting with the sentiments that the authors describe in these Psalms. 
 
We discuss the following topics: 

• Introducing  the topic with key verses from Psalm 119
• What are the Psalms of lament?
• What is the context behind them? 
• What can we learn from these Psalms?
• Confession and forgiveness
• How do these lament Psalms bring healing to hurting hearts?, and
• What are some steps Christians can put into practice after today's episode?  

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I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling. 

Send Me Questions on Attachment

Attachment styles are such an integral part of how we do relationships, and it is especially important to understand how ours operates within our own family dynamics. In fact, our familial relationships most accurately depict what our attachment styles are. 

When we learn how our attachment styles influence our ability to relate, regulate our emotions, parent better and develop self-awareness and self-compassion, we can relate better in our relationships. All of these skills become especially important in the process of adoption. My guest, Dayna Kumar, shares what her process of adoption looks like on this episode. Dayna and I also discuss the following topics:

• Learning about the different attachment styles 
• How attachment styles affect our parenting 
• Learning how to attune to our children,
• Learning how to self-regulation to better co-regulate
• What the different stages and phases of parenting looks like
• How to develop self-awareness and self-compassion
• What the process of adoption looks like, and
• How adoption applies to the Gospel

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ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling. 

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Learning how to heal from our relationship with God requires us to go back to the basics. The basics of Christian life are easily identifiable: emotional regulation, prayer, filling our mind with Scripture, seeking strong Christian community, and serving others. 
 
On today's episode, I discuss how the practicing the basics of Christian life can helps us heal in our relationship with God.  I also discuss the following topics:

Experience all the emotions you are having

• They’re just emotions 
• Here are some examples of strong emotions felt by the Psalmists:
  • Psalm 22:1-2; 42:3, 5, 11; 55; 77:1-3; 88:13-16

Pray with Honesty, Humility, Awe and Patience

• “Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy” by Mark Vroegop 
• His key point was that we just need to keep praying
• Cry out to God
  • The key here is to allow yourself to feel the depths of the pain you are experiencing.
• Pray your struggles
  • Everyone struggles and we all have friends we can share these struggles with (Gal. 6:2) but the purpose of sharing our struggles with Him is because He understands.
• Pray your questions
  • God will carry out his will in our lives and we sometimes do not understand 
  • God WILL listen and He WILL empathize with our questions
  • God DOES care about those questions. 
• Pray the Gospel
  • John 3:16-19
  • Romans 5:8-11
  • 2 Cor. 5:21

Fill Your Mind with Scripture

• Psalm 119 is the longest chapter in the Bible, in the largest book in the Bible (chapters-wise) and the focus of it is on the importance of the Word of God in our lives. 
• Just continue to fill your mind with Scripture.

Connect with a strong biblical community

• Who we surround ourselves with will affect how we view our faith in Jesus and how we live out the work of the Holy Spirit in our lives. 
• It is an encouragement to be with each other, encourage each other, struggle together and be open with one another. 
• I remember learning that the Latin word for compassion is compassion which means “to suffer with”.  
• Supporting verses
  • Psalm 33:1-3
  • Proverbs 27:17
  • Romans 12:4-5
  • Hebrews 10:24-25

Serve One Another

• Use your gifts
• Serving each other provides opportunities for humility
• Serving each other allows for your gifts to be used to bless others 

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Here are some resources mentioned:
Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy
Is Crying Good for You?

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ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling. 

Send Me Questions on Attachment

The process of grieving looks different for everyone. It does not always look the way we want it to look, nor does it always follow the stages in the exact order in which it is presented. I think we can all agree that there are different types of suffering that bring on different levels of pain, and there is no greater pain a parent can experience than the loss of a child.  And with that pain, comes the experience of grieving which brings up the question for us as believers, do we grieve differently than non-believers do? How can we trust God through the grieving process? 
 
 On today's episode, Tyler and I discuss why this topic is so important to Christians who have experienced loss, but especially for parents who have lost a child
 
I also discuss the following topics: 

• How Tyler and his parents came to faith in Jesus Christ
• What parents can teach us about Who God is
• Most of Christian life is "caught not taught" by what we see in our parents
• Experiencing the loss of a child
• How rare talking about miscarriages is
• Experiencing grief by going from denial to anger
• Negative messages that enter our minds and hearts during loss
• The need for Christian community
• The ministry of presence
• Was coping with the first loss worse than the second?
• God is sovereign over all
• Believing "It's my fault" and "Is God punishing me?" 
• Lastly, 

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Here are some resources Tyler Cooper mentioned:
Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy
Heaven
You Asked Podcast
 
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Send Me Questions on Attachment

Guilt and shame are probably the most common emotions we experience in our fallen nature. It has been a prevalent issue since the fall of Adam and Eve. Shame and guilt can cripple us from accepting forgiveness and moving forward in the plans and calling that the Lord has called us to, and it significantly affects how we relate to God and others in our lives. 
 
 On today's episode, I discuss why this topic is important and how it is relevant to Christians's relationship with God. 
 
I also discuss the following topics: 

• Distinguish the difference between guilt and shame
• Reference OT and NT examples of people in the Bible who experienced both emotions
• Discuss and elaborate on the sources of shameful thinking
• Mention some common shame messages people have
• Provide some antidotes to shame and
• Lastly, explore what steps we can begin to take manage our guilt and shame.

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Having copious amounts of information about God is not the same as KNOWING God. Knowing God is much more than knowledge, but having the knowledge is a good start.

For those of us who grew up in the church, we often take for granted how being brought up in the church has given us a foundation of knowing God at a cognitive level. However, as we get older, we move that understanding to a more intimate understanding of God as our faith is tested through the fire and trials of life. In essence, we experience God at a deeper level that we would never have experienced had we not gone through the suffering needed to conform us into the image of Christ. 
 
 On today's episode, Charles Reynolds and I discuss the importance of Scripture, prayer and Christian community to know God intimately.
 
We also discuss the following topics: 

• Why we should study Scripture,
• How God views us individually and collectively as humankind, 
• Sharing verses of encouragement that help us know God deeper,
• Defining prayer,
• Exploring what we should pray for, 
• What prayer does for us as believers,
• What we should look for in Christian community, 
• Why church and community is important, and
• Lastly, what our responsibility is to that community

Check out Charles's podcast "Hired by God" on Youtube here.

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Send Me Questions on Attachment

We all need forgiveness. Forgiveness is a key factor in receiving the gift of salvation. Jesus forgives our sins when we repent from them and turn towards Him. Jesus forgave the most heinous of sins, including the past, present and future ones. The Bible says that "if we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins" (1 John 1:9). But even though this is a hallmark of the Gospel, it is probably one of the most difficult for Christians to accept and practice.  
 
 On today's episode, Dr. Jichan Kim and I discuss the difficulties in accepting God's forgiveness as well as extending it to those who have hurt us deeply. 
 
 We also discuss the following topics: 

• Do we need to forgive ourselves before we can accept God’s forgiveness, or are self-forgiveness and accepting God’s forgiveness separate concepts?
• What are the greatest barriers to self-forgiveness or accepting God’s forgiveness?
• How do we know we are forgiven by God?
• What is the measuring stick for know if we have forgiven others?
• Are there different stages of forgiveness?
• How do we distinguish between forgiveness and reconciliation, because these two principles are often conflated?
• What does “loving the person” who hurt us look like after we forgive them?
• What are the greatest barriers to forgiving others? 
• Lastly, what does the Bible say about forgiveness? 

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ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling. 

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Tragedies in life often move us to question God's goodness. It's natural and understandable to have that response.  However, as we'll learn today, God is always working in the background to bring beauty from ashes. He is always in control. He always knows what He will be doing with the pain we experience and will use our suffering to bring glory to his name. 

On today's episode, Cyrus and I discuss how the tragedy of the genocide in Rwanda, the process of forgiveness, and his personal testimony of how God used the death of his daughter to be a blessing to orphans in Central Africa. 

We also discuss the following topics: 
- The genocide in Rwanda
- Forgiveness is an ongoing work
- Rwanda makes forgiveness a core value of their culture
- Families and offenders reconcile
- The power of God's Word in helping us forgive
- What forgiveness looks like
- A pastor's testimony
- The cost of Jesus going to the cross in order to forgive our sins
- Cyrus shares his testimony of when he and his wife lost his daughter
- Lastly, how God used this to help him open up an orphanage called Irene's Home of Hope

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ABOUT ME 👇
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Send Me Questions on Attachment

Most individuals, at some point in their lives, have experienced a form of trauma. Some experience trauma related to natural disasters and events that they have no control over, while others experience interpersonal trauma which involves intentional and/or unintentional damage to a person's physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health. When it's all of these together, it causes significant damage to a person's overall well-being. 

On today's episode, Sharon and I discuss how the pastors and leaders can address trauma and healing within the church using a trauma-informed approach. This includes using a biblical worldview, but focuses on understanding the physiological and emotional effects that trauma has on the body. God created our bodies with the ability to heal themselves, but He also included a huge part of that trauma healing to include having safe and secure relationships within the body of Christ. May we continue to foster these types of relationships in our Christian communities to bring healing to those hurting within the church. 

We also discuss the following topics: 
- What is trauma and what does it look like? 
- God's alarm system
- Different responses to trauma
- Biblical examples of traumatized individuals
- How safety and security heals trauma
- How to provide people language for their trauma
- Lastly, what the church and pastors can do to help. 

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I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.