Send Me Questions on Attachment

So, what is this podcast about? This is a podcast dedicated to helping Christians understand why they relate to God in the way they do. I explore how our early childhood relationship with our parents--specifically with how they met or did not meet our needs--influences how we relate to ourselves, the church, and to God.

On today's episode, I discuss the purpose of starting this podcast. I share with you some personal experiences that taught me about how I related to God and how much of it was influenced by my relationship with my parents. Seeing how my parents related to God and the church set a foundation for me to build on, but there were a lot of lessons I had to learn on my own to understand how I related to God, the church, and myself. 

I'll be discussing the following: 
- What is attachment theory and who developed it?
- What role do our parents have in our understanding of relationships? 
- How their influence in understanding those relationships also impacts the way we relate to God
- How to understand and rewrite your story
- Lastly, I'll provide some practical steps you can take to understand your attachment style to better your relationship with God. 

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, feel free to  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

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MY HOPE FOR YOU
I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

Send Me Questions on Attachment

Are you "ready to date"? How about the person that you're considering to date? Are they ready? 

On today's episode, we'll explore the different kinds of thoughts and beliefs we have about being ready, and hopefully, we'll understand that when people ask if they're "ready to date", they are actually asking a much more deeper, personal, and meaningful question. The question that is really being asked is, "Am I 'good enough' to date?"

To help us understand what this can look like in Christian relationships, I'll be discussing the following: 
- What do we mean when we ask if we're "ready to date"?
- How do I know if the person I'm considering to date is "ready"? 
- Am I "good enough"? 
- What characteristics and factors should I look for to know that I'm ready to date?, and 
- Lastly, I'll provide some practical steps you can take to identify in yourself--and others--your readiness to date. 

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, feel free to  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

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My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

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MY HOPE FOR YOU
I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

Send Me Questions on Attachment

On today's episode, I'll be discussing the red flags in Christian relationships, but specifically on observing how you and the person you're dating relate to one another. Oftentimes, we are so used to behaving the way that we do in relationships without realizing how we may be harming the other person and even ourselves by not being aware of the negative ways in which we relate.

If you want to know how people “truly are”, see how they respond when they’re under stress or when they’re given power.  This is crucial to observe in dating relationships.

To help us understand what this can look like in Christian relationships, I provide some biblical advice to implement to counter what John Gottman calls the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: 
- First, I discuss some obvious red flags that lead you to leave the relationship immediately, 
- then, we discuss some more subtle red flags, and 
- lastly, we discuss Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. 

Scriptures used in this episode: 

• Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. – Eph. 4:29
• A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. – Prov. 15:1
• A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back. – Prov. 29:11
• By pride comes nothing but strife, But with the well-advised is wisdom. – Prov. 13:10
• Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Eph. 4:32
• But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, - Gal. 5:22
• Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. – Eph. 4:2
• When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. – Prov. 11:2
• Before a downfall the heart is haughty, but humility comes before honor. – Prov. 18:12

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
https://bit.ly/2UyNeLa​

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https://www.facebook.com/samlanda23/​

ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Support the show

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
@godattachmenthealing

FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK:
God Attachment Healing

MY HOPE FOR YOU
I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

On today's episode, I'll be discussing the red flags in Christian relationships, but specifically on observing how you and the person you're dating relate to one another. Oftentimes, we are so used to behaving the way that we do in relationships without realizing how we may be harming the other person and even ourselves by not being aware of the negative ways in which we relate.

If you want to know how people “truly are”, see how they respond when they’re under stress or when they’re given power.  This is crucial to observe in dating relationships.

To help us understand what this can look like in Christian relationships, I provide some biblical advice to implement to counter what John Gottman calls the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: 
- First, I discuss some obvious red flags that lead you to leave the relationship immediately, 
- then, we discuss some more subtle red flags, and 
- lastly, we discuss Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. 

Scriptures used in this episode: 

• Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. – Eph. 4:29
• A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. – Prov. 15:1
• A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back. – Prov. 29:11
• By pride comes nothing but strife, But with the well-advised is wisdom. – Prov. 13:10
• Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Eph. 4:32
• But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, - Gal. 5:22
• Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. – Eph. 4:2
• When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. – Prov. 11:2
• Before a downfall the heart is haughty, but humility comes before honor. – Prov. 18:12

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
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ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Send Me Questions on Attachment

Forgiveness is one of the most important aspect of our relationship with Jesus. It is based off us repenting from our sins, accepting Jesus into our hearts, and accepting his forgiveness for our sins. But, what does accepting this forgiveness look like? What does it look like in our interpersonal relationships? And, what does it look like to to apply self-forgiveness? 

For those who have experienced shame, forgiveness may be a difficult concept to grasp, be it in their interpersonal relationships their relationship with God, and it often leads Christians to believe that they are not deserving of forgiveness. This is not true. 

On this episode, Dr. Kim shares with us the different facets of forgiveness as well as the importance of it for healing from hurts:  
- Defining forgiveness and reconciliation,
- The need to have a sense of right and wrong in order to forgive, 
- Discussing divine forgiveness, self-forgiveness, and interpersonal forgiveness, and
- How shame impacts the way we view forgiveness.

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
https://bit.ly/2UyNeLa​

FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK:
https://www.facebook.com/samlanda23/​

ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Support the show

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
@godattachmenthealing

FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK:
God Attachment Healing

MY HOPE FOR YOU
I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

Forgiveness is one of the most important aspect of our relationship with Jesus. It is based off us repenting from our sins, accepting Jesus into our hearts, and accepting his forgiveness for our sins. But, what does accepting this forgiveness look like? What does it look like in our interpersonal relationships? And, what does it look like to to apply self-forgiveness?

For those who have experienced shame, forgiveness may be a difficult concept to grasp, be it in their interpersonal relationships their relationship with God, and it often leads Christians to believe that they are not deserving of forgiveness. This is not true. 

On this episode, Dr. Kim shares with us the different facets of forgiveness as well as the importance of it for healing from hurts:  
- Defining forgiveness and reconciliation,
- The need to have a sense of right and wrong in order to forgive, 
- Discussing divine forgiveness, self-forgiveness, and interpersonal forgiveness, and
- How shame impacts the way we view forgiveness.

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
https://bit.ly/2UyNeLa​

FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK:
https://www.facebook.com/samlanda23/​

ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Send Me Questions on Attachment

On today's episode, I'll be discussing the red flags in Christian relationships. So many couples today are dating without asking questions that are critical to aligning with some key Christian values that are instrumental to their own personal walk with Christ. 

I discuss what Christian belief "red flags" to look out for if you're about to enter or are in a dating relationship:  
- Deconstruction - "I'm in the process of reconstructing my faith", 
- Does not see the church as important for Christian growth - "I'm not committed to any local church, but God knows where I stand with Him", and
- Family tradition of going to church - "Church has always been very important to me because my family has always been religious".

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
https://bit.ly/2UyNeLa​

FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK:
https://www.facebook.com/samlanda23/​

ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Support the show

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
@godattachmenthealing

FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK:
God Attachment Healing

MY HOPE FOR YOU
I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

On today's episode, I'll be discussing the red flags in Christian relationships. So many couples today are dating without asking questions that are critical to aligning with some key Christian values that are instrumental to their own personal walk with Christ. 

I discuss what Christian belief "red flags" to look out for if you're about to enter or are in a dating relationship:  
- Deconstruction - "I'm in the process of reconstructing my faith", 
- Does not see the church as important for Christian growth - "I'm not committed to any local church, but God knows where I stand with Him", and
- Family tradition of going to church - "Church has always been very important to me because my family has always been religious".

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
https://bit.ly/2UyNeLa​

FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK:
https://www.facebook.com/samlanda23/​

ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Send Me Questions on Attachment

For my 50th episode, I decided to do an episode on answering questions about shame in relationships. This is an important topic, because I think most couples have something that they have experienced in their past which can be shameful to share in a relationship. 

It can also breed fear, because if you share this experience from you past, you essentially place the ball on the other person's court and they get to decide whether they want to continue in a relationship with you, or if they want to distance themselves from you. It can be very unnerving to experience rejection after being vulnerable with someone, but in order to grow in intimacy in relationships, these painful experiences must be shared. 

In this episode, I discuss how shame manifests itself in romantic relationships:  
- back to Genesis,
- the "hiding" element of shame, 
- the "oversharing" element of shame, 
- asking the tough questions about each other's past, and 
- learning how to move forward. 

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
https://bit.ly/2UyNeLa​

FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK:
https://www.facebook.com/samlanda23/​

ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Support the show

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
@godattachmenthealing

FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK:
God Attachment Healing

MY HOPE FOR YOU
I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. 

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling. 

For my 50th episode, I decided to do an episode on answering questions about shame in relationships. This is an important topic, because I think most couples have something that they have experienced in their past which can be shameful to share in a relationship. 

It can also breed fear, because if you share this experience from you past, you essentially place the ball on the other person's court and they get to decide whether they want to continue in a relationship with you, or if they want to distance themselves from you. It can be very unnerving to experience rejection after being vulnerable with someone, but in order to grow in intimacy in relationships, these painful experiences must be shared. 

In this episode, I discuss how shame manifests itself in romantic relationships:  
- back to Genesis,
- the "hiding" element of shame, 
- the "oversharing" element of shame, 
- asking the tough questions about each other's past, and 
- learning how to move forward.

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
https://bit.ly/2UyNeLa​

FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK:
https://www.facebook.com/samlanda23/​

ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!