On today's episode, I'll be discussing the red flags in Christian relationships. So many couples today are dating without asking questions that are critical to aligning with some key Christian values that are instrumental to their own personal walk with Christ. 

I discuss what Christian belief "red flags" to look out for if you're about to enter or are in a dating relationship:  
- Deconstruction - "I'm in the process of reconstructing my faith", 
- Does not see the church as important for Christian growth - "I'm not committed to any local church, but God knows where I stand with Him", and
- Family tradition of going to church - "Church has always been very important to me because my family has always been religious".

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

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My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

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For my 50th episode, I decided to do an episode on answering questions about shame in relationships. This is an important topic, because I think most couples have something that they have experienced in their past which can be shameful to share in a relationship. 

It can also breed fear, because if you share this experience from you past, you essentially place the ball on the other person's court and they get to decide whether they want to continue in a relationship with you, or if they want to distance themselves from you. It can be very unnerving to experience rejection after being vulnerable with someone, but in order to grow in intimacy in relationships, these painful experiences must be shared. 

In this episode, I discuss how shame manifests itself in romantic relationships:  
- back to Genesis,
- the "hiding" element of shame, 
- the "oversharing" element of shame, 
- asking the tough questions about each other's past, and 
- learning how to move forward. 

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

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ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Support the show

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
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MY HOPE FOR YOU
I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

For my 50th episode, I decided to do an episode on answering questions about shame in relationships. This is an important topic, because I think most couples have something that they have experienced in their past which can be shameful to share in a relationship. 

It can also breed fear, because if you share this experience from you past, you essentially place the ball on the other person's court and they get to decide whether they want to continue in a relationship with you, or if they want to distance themselves from you. It can be very unnerving to experience rejection after being vulnerable with someone, but in order to grow in intimacy in relationships, these painful experiences must be shared. 

In this episode, I discuss how shame manifests itself in romantic relationships:  
- back to Genesis,
- the "hiding" element of shame, 
- the "oversharing" element of shame, 
- asking the tough questions about each other's past, and 
- learning how to move forward.

If you have any questions or comments on this topic, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
https://bit.ly/2UyNeLa​

FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK:
https://www.facebook.com/samlanda23/​

ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/slandajr)

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The Bible warns us about "wolves in sheep's clothing" and one of the most evident ways in which we see them at work is when they prey on women in the church. They find ways to integrate themselves into the functions of the church by being charismatic, ideas-filled, enthusiastic, and articulate speakers. For some, they may not see this as a problem, but for those of us who have encountered the profiles of such characters before, we see it almost immediately.  

Even Jesus, Luke, Paul, and Peter warn us about them.
"Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves." - Matthew 7:15

"I know that after my departure fierce wolves will come in among you, not sparing the flock;.. - Acts 20:29

"For such men are false apostles, deceitful workmen, disguising themselves as apostles of Christ. And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. So it is no surprise if his servants, also, disguise themselves as servants of righteousness. Their end will correspond to their deeds." - 2 Corinthians 11:13-15

"But false prophets also arose among the people, just as there will be false teachers among you, who will secretly bring in destructive heresies, even denying the Master who bought them, bringing upon themselves swift destruction. And many will follow their sensuality, and because of them the way of truth will be blasphemed. And in their greed they will exploit you with false words. Their condemnation from long ago is not idle, and their destruction is not asleep." - 2 Peter 2:1-3

We have to protect our brothers and sisters in the church from these "wolves in sheep's clothing, and hopefully, by you tuning in today, you can discover how and also how to minister to the women who are scarred by the detrimental effects of clergy sexual abuse. 

Tune in today as Sandy and I discuss the following:
- Sandy's testimony on how she was groomed, sexually abused, and manipulated,
- How the church responded to the sexual abuse, 
- What the church told her to do in response to the sexual abuse, 
- How this experience changes one's view of church and God, and 
- How to respond to women who have been sexually abuse in the church. 

If you'd like to more know about this topic or more about Sandy's story you can visit her website or buy her book below:
Sandy Kirkham's website - https://bit.ly/3EHWpza 
"Let Me Prey Upon You: Breaking Free from a Minister's Sexual Abuse" - https://amzn.to/2Zq1ps8 

If you have any questions or comments at all, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

Support the show

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MY HOPE FOR YOU
I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

The Bible warns us about "wolves in sheep's clothing" and one of the most evident ways in which we see them at work is when they prey on women in the church. They find ways to integrate themselves into the functions of the church by being charismatic, ideas-filled, enthusiastic, and articulate speakers. For some, they may not see this as a problem, but for those of us who have encountered the profiles of such characters before, we see it almost immediately.  

Even Jesus, Luke, Paul, and Peter warn us about them.
"Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves." - Matthew 7:15

"I know that after my departure fierce wolves will come in among you, not sparing the flock;.. - Acts 20:29

"For such men are false apostles, deceitful workmen, disguising themselves as apostles of Christ. And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. So it is no surprise if his servants, also, disguise themselves as servants of righteousness. Their end will correspond to their deeds." - 2 Corinthians 11:13-15

"But false prophets also arose among the people, just as there will be false teachers among you, who will secretly bring in destructive heresies, even denying the Master who bought them, bringing upon themselves swift destruction. And many will follow their sensuality, and because of them the way of truth will be blasphemed. And in their greed they will exploit you with false words. Their condemnation from long ago is not idle, and their destruction is not asleep." - 2 Peter 2:1-3

We have to protect our brothers and sisters in the church from these "wolves in sheep's clothing, and hopefully, by you tuning in today, you can discover how and also how to minister to the women who are scarred by the detrimental effects of clergy sexual abuse. 

Tune in today as Sandy and I discuss the following:
- Sandy's testimony on how she was groomed, sexually abused, and manipulated,
- How the church responded to the sexual abuse, 
- What the church told her to do in response to the sexual abuse, 
- How this experience changes one's view of church and God, and 
- How to respond to women who have been sexually abuse in the church. 

If you'd like to more know about this topic or more about Sandy's story you can visit her website or buy her book below:
Sandy Kirkham's website - https://bit.ly/3EHWpza 
"Let Me Prey Upon You: Breaking Free from a Minister's Sexual Abuse" - https://amzn.to/2Zq1ps8 

If you have any questions or comments at all, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
https://bit.ly/2UyNeLa​

FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK:
https://www.facebook.com/samlanda23/​

ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/slandajr)

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Christians love reading the Psalms! It brings us peace, comfort, truth, and joy. But, it also brings to the forefront the various emotions of everyday life: sadness, depression, anxiety, anger, and fear. The Psalms teach us much about how God interacts with us through the difficulties and tribulations of everyday life. 

On today's episode, Dr. Gary Yates addresses the following questions:
- Why do Christians love reading the Psalms?, 
- What purpose do the Psalms have in the lives of believers?
- How should Christians approach reading the Psalms?, 
- What do the Psalms teach us about God, man, sin, and shame?, and 
- Do the Psalms address shame and guilt outside of Psalm 51? 

If you have any questions or comments on this topic or would like me to share your thoughts on future episodes, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
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ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Support the show

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
@godattachmenthealing

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MY HOPE FOR YOU
I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

Christians love reading the Psalms! It brings us peace, comfort, truth, and joy. But, it also brings to the forefront the various emotions of everyday life: sadness, depression, anxiety, anger, and fear. The Psalms teach us much about how God interacts with us through the difficulties and tribulations of everyday life. 

On today's episode, Dr. Gary Yates addresses the following questions:
- Why do Christians love reading the Psalms?, 
- What purpose do the Psalms have in the lives of believers?
- How should Christians approach reading the Psalms?, 
- What do the Psalms teach us about God, man, sin, and shame?, and 
- Do the Psalms address shame and guilt outside of Psalm 51? 

If you have any questions or comments on this topic or would like me to share your thoughts on future episodes, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
https://bit.ly/2UyNeLa​

FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK:
https://www.facebook.com/samlanda23/​

ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/slandajr)

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First of all, let me say that my guest, Patrick Hubbard, and I love the church. The church is the Bride of Christ and as Christians, we must learn to love her more and more as the day of Christ draws near when He will return for his Bride. 

That being said, we also know that Christians who go to church have also caused a lot of pain for our own brothers and sisters in Christ. 

In this episode, Patrick and I discuss what those issues are. We address the following: 
- What is the church?
- How is the church been a blessing?
- How has the church hurt people?
- Why does hurt happen within the church?
- How can Christians biblically respond to being hurt?, and
- How can the church respond? 

If you have any questions or comments on this topic or would like to share your own story of deconstruction or personal growth, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
https://bit.ly/2UyNeLa​

FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK:
https://www.facebook.com/samlanda23/​

ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Support the show

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
@godattachmenthealing

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God Attachment Healing

MY HOPE FOR YOU
I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.

First of all, let me say that my guest, Patrick Hubbard, and I love the church. The church is the Bride of Christ and as Christians, we must learn to love her more and more as the day of Christ draws near when He will return for his Bride. 

That being said, we also know that Christians who go to church have also caused a lot of pain for our own brothers and sisters in Christ. 

In this episode, Patrick and I discuss what those issues are. We address the following: 
- What is the church?
- How is the church been a blessing?
- How has the church hurt people?
- Why does hurt happen within the church?
- How can Christians biblically respond to being hurt?, and
- How can the church respond? 

If you have any questions or comments on this topic or would like to share your own story of deconstruction or personal growth, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
https://bit.ly/2UyNeLa​

FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK:
https://www.facebook.com/samlanda23/​

ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/slandajr)

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Deconstruction has been a word we have been hearing more and more in Christians circles, and it is something that I both am empathetic towards but also very concerned for how common its become. Though a stage of questioning one's faith is expected in the life of a Christian, it seems that it has made many today turn away from their long-held beliefs than helping them grow in their relationship with Christ. 

Tune in today as Josh and I discuss the following:
- What is deconstruction?,
- Who is deconstructing?, 
- Is it good for Christians to deconstruct?, 
- Why are Christians deconstructing?, and 
- How can the church leaders and mature believers help Christians who are in this stage of deconstruction? 

If you have any questions or comments on this topic or would like to share your own story of deconstruction or personal growth, please  email me at [email protected].

Remember to please LEAVE A REVIEW for the podcast as it helps get the word out to a larger audience, and remember to SUBSCRIBE and/or follow on Itunes, Spotify, Stitcher, GooglePlay, and all other podcast platforms.

If you're on Facebook and/or Instagram, I'd greatly appreciate it if you SHARE this episode! :)

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
https://bit.ly/2UyNeLa​

FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK:
https://www.facebook.com/samlanda23/​

ABOUT ME 👇

My mission is to provide Christians with content on how to address spiritual and mental health issues within the church. In fact, I often address shame and its effects on relationships within the church. 

I look forward to walking alongside you as we draw closer to Christ!

Support the show

FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM:
@godattachmenthealing

FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK:
God Attachment Healing

MY HOPE FOR YOU
I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

ABOUT ME 👇
I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.