We're diving into a topic I've felt a lot lately - FEAR. But this isn't the inner critic, perfectionist, imposter syndrome kind of fear. Instead, it's the fear that happens when you're stepping into a bigger space. It's the fear that comes along with reclaiming yourself, taking risks, and moving towards your goals and dreams, whether that's taking a new job, starting a business, moving, taking a relationship to the next level - or anything else big in your life. It can still be overwhelming and require some deep breathing to get through it, but it's also a light forward. It is a fear to FOLLOW. 

In this episode we'll cover:

• What caused this big fear to come up in me recently
• How to tell the difference between inner critic fears to quiet and big fears to follow
• What to do when big fear hits so you can move through it - and towards what you really desire

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Do you feel like you're being pulled in a million different directions? Like you have way too many priorities and they all feel important and you aren't sure what to do about it? 

In this episode, I'll share insights from my own experience and concrete steps you can take to get off the hamster wheel, recover from burnout, and create some space to just BE. Because it's not fun to feel like you're always running from place to place without enough time to even take a breath. You CAN create a different way of living. 

We'll cover:

• The deep belief that needs to change in order to say no and do less
• How to make the hard decisions about what needs to go when everything feels important
• Dealing with guilt and fear when you start setting boundaries

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In the last episode we talked about feeling like you're TOO much. Today we're flipping to the other side of the spectrum - feeling like you're not enough. This feeling can show up in so many ways in your life - feeling like you're not doing enough at work or in your community, like you're not a good enough mother, wife, friend, daughter, like your body isn't good enough, thin enough, or desirable enough, like you're not making enough money or growing your business fast enough. When you feel like you're not enough in any part of your life, you're on a constant hamster wheel of proving, pleasing, and perfecting to show your worth. 

In today's episode we'll discuss:

• How not being a mother led Heather to feeling like she's not enough
• Why you are always worthy, lovable, and enough
• How to really believe you are enough

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Have you ever felt like you're too much? Like your emotions, energy, or presence is too much for other people to handle? Were you taught to make other people feel comfortable at the cost of being yourself? NO MORE. If you're tired of shrinking, quieting, filtering, censoring, and minimizing yourself and want to break free and let ALL of you out into the world, you need to listen to this episode. 

We'll cover:

• Why so many women feel like they're too much
• The feedback Heather got in her corporate career that caused her to hold full self back
• What you can do to embrace your too muchness and be FREE

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You know that little whisper at the back of your heart guiding you to start a business, write a book, take time off and travel, go live at the beach, enter your art into a gallery show - or whatever it is for you? We all have it. Sometimes you know what your secret dream is - and other times it's been buried under the rules you've been handed, like worrying about what people will think if you pursue that dream, fear of failure, or feeling like it's selfish to go after what you want. Either way, that secret maybe attainable dream is still alive within you. In this episode, we'll start to uncover your dreams, goals, and desires - and take steps to explore moving towards them.

We'll dive into:

• A Facebook memory from 13 years ago that absolutely FLOORED Heather - and inspired this entire episode
• Overcoming the barriers that stand in the way of exploring your wishes, dreams, and desires
• Dealing with the inner critic that tells you it's too risky, not possible, you're not good enough, etc, etc, etc
• Getting curious and taking steps towards your dreams without having to jump and hope a net will catch you

More resources:

• Ten Journaling Prompts To Reconnect To Yourself
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• Get Heather's book, An Overachiever's Guide To Breaking The Rules
• Connect on LinkedIn

Is it hard for you to slow down? Uncomfortable to do less? Do you feel a guilty pull back to your to-do list when you try to relax? Or like you have to be productive all the time? If you're nodding your head right now, this episode is for you. 

We'll discuss:

• Why it's so hard to slow down
• Three strategies to start doing less
• The life-changing epiphany that allowed me to do less with greater ease

You can use these approaches to recover from burnout, set boundaries, create space for creativity, and just FEEL GOOD - in your body, mind, and spirit. It's time to give yourself permission to do less.

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The Ultimate Guide To Saying No At Work

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Welcome to the very first episode of Create Your Own Rules For Life! On today's episode, I share my story of going from exhausted overachiever and perpetual over-doer to creating my own rules for life. 

We'll dive into:

• The root causes of my perfectionism and overachieving
• The unlikely connection between my weight, body, and overachieving
• How I broke the rules telling me I always had to be productive and successful - and took on a new rule that changed my life

My journey has been imperfect - and it continues today! At the same time, I experience a level of freedom and joy I didn't know was possible just a few years ago. I want the same for you. I want all of us to recognize the rules we've been handed that keep us burned out, tight, and tucked in so that your full self can step out into the light. It's time to stop should-ing and start living.

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