Having It A.L.L.

Do you hold the expectation that your relationship must check off all of your fulfillment boxes? How about your job, are you telling yourself that your job must be the perfect alignment of your passions, gifts and talents? I don't know where I picked up this story, but somewhere in my life I convinced myself that my partners (girlfriends and then wife), were SUPPOSED to fulfill me in every way: sexually, emotionally, mentally, socially, and every other way I can think of.

When was the last time a family member set you off? Family has this amazing ability to press our buttons like nothing else. They seem to know exactly what to say and how to say it to get behind our defenses, and find those tiny areas where they can trigger a huge emotional eruption. And they do is so effortlessly. It's enough to make you feel incredibly anxious, angry and defensive just thinking about it!

What happens when we derive our sense of security, wisdom, power and guidance from our family? By the title of this episode you can guess that my argument is "Nothing good comes from that!" In my life, I've experienced the consequence of attaching my happiness, sense of peace and overall wellbeing to the perceptions of my family. The result was an emotional rollercoaster that, at times, I'm still trying to get off. 

What is faith? How does it differ from religion and spirituality? And how can you grow faith in your life? If you've ever asked yourself these questions then you're going to get some answers in this episode! I wanted to explore faith today because I know for myself, the idea of faith wasn't always clear to me. In my mind I connected faith with religion, so when I left religion in my teen years I also left faith.

What do you do when your relationship feels forced? When you feel like you're at an emotional crossroads and both decisions ahead of you feel scary? In today's episode I'm answering a listener email from "Kim". I talk about: - Self worth conversations - Confidence and fulfillment - Being at a relationship crossroads - Consequences of asking deep questions I know that a ton of you will be able to relate to this conversation!

How aware are you of the connection between your emotions and your ability to keep commitments? Until recently, I really didn't think much about it. But a few things have come up with me recently that really shines the spotlight on how huge of a roll my emotions play in my decision making. 

Transparency and authenticity have certainly been theme of this podcast recently! And for great reason. There is no abundant loving life when we're living lives of withhold, fear and attachment. It just doesn't happen. I experienced this lesson first hand recently, and in today's episode I'm sharing with you that experience and the 5 lessons I learned.

How often are you speaking your truth, displaying courage over consideration and sharing the thoughts, feelings and ideas that are really on your heart? How frequently are you being UNAPOLOGETICALLY YOU, without all the things you do, say and wear on to please others?

Today's episode is all about the importance of speaking your voice and showing up authentically in every interaction.

Are your most intimate relationships (sexual and otherwise) creating healing, empowerment and joy within you?

For years my paradigm around sex and intimate relationships was fixed. I viewed sex as a way to have fun, make babies, and relieve stress. And all of my sexual encounters pretty much fell into those boxes. 

I also had a very fixed view around relationships, marriage, and masculinity. I had beliefs about how relationships were supposed to look and operate, what marriage meant and the rules of engagement within that type of agreement, and how men were supposed to act and feel within all of that. 

Yet, my views and paradigms about relationships didn't match with what I felt I wanted to experience. My head and my heart were pulling me in opposite directions. What I was modeled and taught was clashing with how I felt, and I didn't know what to do.

The result was an immense amount of guilt, shame, confusion, frustration and a whole host of other emotions that I laid onto myself to deal with this internal state of flux.

Today I am at a much different place. I have a new understanding of what's possible within the most intimate of relationships. 

This episode is incredibly vulnerable for me because I'm talking about something that I've only hinted at before. I share the style of LOVING and the style of LIVING that I've chosen for myself, one that created the biggest opportunities within me for personal growth, healing and transformation. 

How are you sacrificing your joy, abundance and greatness by killing possibility?

In today's episode I'm sharing an experience I had recently that shined light on how I was completely destroying possibility in my life. This self-destructive habit was operating completely on auto-pilot, and I know I'm not alone!