Having It A.L.L.

Today we're talking about new year resolutions and why so many of us fail at keeping them going year after year. I look at the statistics behind new years resolution failure, the most common resolutions set each year, and explore some reasons why they fail and tips to avoid failure. I also share an interesting psychological angle into why we don't succeed with our resolutions. But all of this is overshadowed by the #1 reason why we fail to accomplish our new years resolutions, which I share at the end. 

It's 2 days before the new year, and I want to talk about NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS. I've got some statistics and psychology in this episode, and I'll link to all of the resources that I used in the show notes on Fireside Network. What you'll hear in today's episode:

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In today's episode I'm talking about the consequences of brutal honesty. There can be a tremendous amount of fear and anxiety associated with honesty, despite the freeing impact that complete honesty can have on ourselves and in our relationships.

This episode was inspired by an article I read titled "The Pros And Cons Of Brutal Honesty". The following quote from the article sets up this episode perfectly:

"People that stop growing are individuals who decide they can no longer handle brutal honesty. " I believe part of what it means to love someone unconditionally - yourself included - is being honest with them. Honest with how they are showing up, your feelings towards them, how you experience them, what you'd like to experience with them, what you see for them, the impact they have on your life. This show is about rewriting beliefs, moving through fears, discovering your truth, and viewing life through a lens of abundance and love -- and getting there, for most of us, takes growth. What you'll hear in this episode:

In today’s episode I’m talking with Dr. Tiffany Stewart on living life on your own terms and using visualization and goal setting to create the life you want to live.

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Remember in grade school when we wanted to be excused from class to go to the bathroom, what did we need to make that happen? A permission slip!

Well, somewhere between then and adulthood many of us neglected to drop that belief when it came to living our most joyful and authentic lives! We believe that permission is needed to create a life that we are passionate to live.

My guest today has built her career off of rescripting that belief and helping people create the life that they want.

Dr. Tiffany Stewart. Tiffany is a mother, coach, professor, counselor, businesswoman and speaker. Her passion is to help individuals who may be stuck in some area of life, tap into their power and give themselves permission to step into their purpose and create the life they want to live. What you'll hear in this episode:What you'll hear in this episode:

In today's episode I'm going in with Anthony Strayhorn on his Epic Challenge - an area of his life where he is feeling stuck, frustrated, confused and unable to make a change. We’re getting personal, we’re getting real, and we’re playing for breakthroughs!

Anthony's Epic Challenge is about learning how to toe the line between consideration and courage with his clients. He is a personal fitness coach and works with people who are looking to shift their fitness, lifestyle and consciousness. Anthony is looking to tap into his compassion more, but not at the expense of tough love. It's the balance of these two things he's striving for. 

No small feat. But that's why it's called an EPIC Challenge afterall!

Once again, some of the things we discuss in this episode may not be for young ears so you may want to vet this one before letting the kiddos listen.

In today's episode I talk to Jake Heilbrunn about his inspiring story of dropping out of college to go on a soul searching journey through Central America, all captured in his new book "Off The Beaten Trail".

This self discovery journey gave Jake the opportunity to overcome fears, expand his perspective, and inspire himself to do (and be) things he didn't think possible.

Not only is the book itself an example of intention at work, but also the way that Jake sought out funding and endorsements.

Jake is also a speaker who uses his story to inspire people to follow their intuition and believe in their own greatness.

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In this episode I'm talking all about Gratitude. I'm giving you 7 things you probably haven't heard before about gratitude. We're talking about gratitude in your personal finances, tools for helping you form a gratitude habit, how gratitude can improve your relationships, the power of gratitude to totally flip your mood, how we feel more gratitude for experiences rather than things, and why gratitude in conflict is more powerful than forgiveness or acceptance.

I used a few resources to create the list for this episode and I'm going to post them all in the show notes at www.FiresideNetwork.com. Just go there, select this show from the Shows list, and click on today's episode.

 If you have some tips, thoughts or stories on gratitude, I'd love to hear them. Reach me on my personal email address at [email protected]. I'd particularly love to hear how you've cultivated a regular gratitude habit into your life. If you send me your tips I'll do a follow up to this episode where I share them on air.

In this episode I tear apart the concept of “work-life balance” and explain why it’s dangerous, leads to unhealthy living, and why we have to replace it with a healthy and sustainable construct.

We’re all familiar with the idea of work-life balance. It’s a phrase and concept we’ve been fed for years. But have you really thought about the implications? What the phrase implies? And have you been able to create a work-life balance in your life for a significant period of time, and kept it going?!

I consider myself a student of balance. Truly, it’s something that when I realized I needed I got into action (both on the doing AND being side), to create a healthier balance of all things important in my life. For the past almost 4 years I’ve been playing a health and fitness game called the YourDay Balance Game (yup, “balance” is in the title!). I’ve tried different tools and trackers and systems to create balance, and I’ve discovered some powerful things about the concept of “work-life” balance that I want to reveal on this episode.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

It’s Epic Challenge time again! That means I’m going in with my guest on the area of their life where they are feeling stuck, frustrated, confused and unable to make a change. We’re getting personal, we’re getting real, and we’re playing for breakthroughs!

This week I’m joined by Kelly Lynn Prime. Kelly’s Epic Challenge is about releasing self judgement, shifting the conversation of the inner critic, and surrendering to unconditional love.

No small feat. But that's why it's called an EPIC Challenge afterall!

Once again, some of the things we discuss in this episode may not be for young ears so you may want to vet this one before letting the kiddos listen.

I’ve talked about facing fears a number of times on this show.

Most people who have a "self help" type of show probably talk a lot of about fears. And for great reason: Fears keep us from experiencing LOVE in life.

You can boil your decisions down to a choice between fear and love, and that includes your decision on how and who to BE in life.

So yes, fear is worth talking about!

Today I’m sharing with you a powerful new way to look at your fears, and what it takes to overcome them, that gave me one of those "mind = blown" moments when it was told to me.

This new paradigm around overcoming fears was shared with me by my coach, Day Adeogba, and has completely shifted how I think about and step into fears in my own life.

Chew on this:

“Fear is like butter, and courage is like fire.”

What does this mean? Well, I’m unpacking this powerful statement in today’s episode.

What you’ll hear in the episode.