In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ress takes us on a deep dive into the quiet prisons we build in the name of safety. She unpacks how survival mode can trick us into believing that control equals security ; when in truth, it often keeps us small, tense, and disconnected.

Through real, relatable examples like overworking because we don’t trust rest, being hyper-independent to avoid disappointment, or shutting down emotionally to feel safe, Ress invites listeners to pause and reflect: Are the structures in your life protecting you, or are they caging you?

This conversation is both grounding and liberating . A reminder that emotional safety isn’t found in rigid control, but in trust, softness, and connection. Ress challenges us to audit the personal “rules” we live by and to allow those structures to evolve as we do. She closes with a soulful call to action: Trust yourself. Let your life be a living, breathing structure .One that grows with you, not against you.