Healing With Grace - Trauma healing through mind, body, spirit, and faith

I recorded this last November but never published it. I guess I needed to just talk through what my nervous system was feeling.

Regardless, the message is still relevant today....maybe even more so. There's a lot going on and some, are good and even great, and there's some that makes us want to just crawl under our blanket and try to soothe ourselves.

I don't profess to know the answers to all of life's questions and concerns but I do know that there is wisdom to, "Be not moved". We can bend with the wind but we are not meant to be carried about "to and fro".

And how can we do this? Great a really, really good anchor. Even Jesus Christ. Let Him be your anchor, your rock, your foundation. Let Him do the heavy lifting.

Love,

Hyo

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...In reality, we have both! And that's ok. It's part of the human experience on this earth. We aren't supposed to be perfect....we're on the road of perfecting ourselves....it's a journey and not a destination. So, get fearless in finding out your anger patterns. It's going to be ok. I promise. Trust me when I say that I'm still on this journey of self-confronting my anger patters and leaning into the wisdom of what it is trying to tell me about my Self.

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Anger

Anger is a natural human emotion that serves an important purpose in our emotional landscape, but how we experience and express it makes all the difference.

Healthy anger functions as a signal that something is wrong and needs attention. It typically:

• Is proportional to the situation

• Motivates constructive problem-solving

• Protects legitimate boundaries

• Leads to appropriate assertiveness

• Dissipates once addressed

• Involves awareness and responsibility for the emotion

When expressed healthily, anger can strengthen relationships by communicating needs clearly and respecting others' perspectives. It often follows a pattern of recognition, regulation, and resolution. 

• Differentiation:  Anger is like a flag - telling you that a boundary has been crossed.  I could be a physical boundary, mental, emotional, or psychological - there isn’t safety.  So where do you not feel safe?

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Unhealthy anger becomes problematic when it:

• Is disproportionate to the triggering event

• Manifests as explosive outbursts or prolonged resentment

• This leads to verbal or physical aggression

• Gets suppressed entirely, turning inward

• Damages relationships repeatedly

• Controls the person rather than being controlled

• Becomes chronic or the default emotional response

Unhealthy anger often creates a cycle where the person feels justified in their rage while causing harm to themselves and others.

Healthy anger tends to resolve issues and create positive change. Unhealthy anger typically creates more problems than it solves, damaging trust and emotional well-being.

Would you like me to explore any specific aspect of anger management in more detail?

Healthy AngerUnhealthy AngerThe Difference in Outcomes

Healthy anger tends to resolve issues and create positive change. Unhealthy anger typically creates more problems than it solves, damaging trust and emotional well-being.

Would you like me to explore any specific aspect of anger management in more detail?

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Bio:

Charmaine Horn, BSN, RN, EFTMP-C, is a Registered Nurse, Certified Qigong (pronounced "Chee-Gong") Instructor, and Certified EFT Practitioner. After working 8 years as a psychiatric nurse, she realized that the psychiatric medications she gave to her patients rarely seemed to help improve her patients' symptoms long-term. She left her nursing job in 2020 to discover holistic healing methods that can help people heal from emotional and mental health issues. That is when she ultimately discovered Qigong, which she used to help herself heal from burnout, anxiety, and grief. Charmaine is now on a mission to help people overcome stress, anxiety, and depression with Qigong so they could live a more joyous and fulfilling life. 

(For more details, check out my About Me page!)

Titles/Credentials:

• Registered Nurse (Credential: BSN, RN)

• Certified 200-Hour Qigong Teacher

• Certified Master Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Practitioner (Credential: EFTMP-C)

• Certified Tai Chi Easy Practice Leader

• Certified Somatic Coach

• Certified Life & Weight Loss Coach

• Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) 6-Week Program Completion

• Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) 10-Week Program Completion

  
  

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  21-Day Qigong Challenge: https://oasisqigong.com/21daychallenge 

  
  

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For questions: [email protected]

Resources from this episode:

"Boundaries", by Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend HERE

Dr. David Hawkins HERE

Doctrine & Covenants 10:1 - 3 HERE

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"Tell me not your politics or religion.  Tell me only your suffering". - Louis Pasteur

"Life is suffering".- First of four noble truths of Buddhism

I never found the question, "What is the purpose of suffering", to be very helpful..  

Rather, I'd like to pose another question (or two) with you instead...

"What is suffering calling you to do?"

I heard this question asked by Dr. James Hollis and it stopped me dead on my tracks (well,, not really because I was driving).

And then another question came up from that...

What is suffering calling me to Become?"

I've been marinating on these two questions and felt a nudge to make it into a podcast episode.  

So, my friends, get ready with pen and paper and be prepared to do some curious inquiry.

#lds #divorceanddiscipleship #hyonorthcoaching #hyonorth #sacredsuffering #choiceandaccountability #jesus #grace #healingwithgrace #godislove

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Dr. Suess mentions in that book, “Oh the Places You’ll Go”. 

You can get so confused

that you'll start in to race

down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace

and grind on for miles cross weirdish wild space,

headed, I fear, toward a most useless place.

The Waiting Place...

...for people just waiting.

Waiting for a train to go

or a bus to come, or a plane to go

or the mail to come, or the rain to go

or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow

or the waiting around for a Yes or No

or waiting for their hair to grow.

Everyone is just waiting.

Waiting for the fish to bite

or waiting for the wind to fly a kite

or waiting around for Friday night

or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake

or a pot to boil, or a Better Break

or a string of pearls, or a pair of pants

or a wig with curls, or Another Chance.

Everyone is just waiting.

What are we waiting for?....I call those the “unmet blessings”, the “unanswered prayers”.  And to be in that waiting place can be so painful.  I can feel that even within myself.  It’s like a sinking feeling that makes me want to cave into myself.  But whatever you’re feeling as you are thinking about this, I want to invite you to carve out “sacred space” and allow it to be there for just a moment….at least through this episode.  

D&C 90:29

D&C 67:13-14

D&C 24:16

D&C 56:2-4

D&C 82:13-14

D&C 35:25-26

D&C 136:17-18

D&C 43:29

D&C 42:61-62

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I remember as a kid saying, in a taunting voice, “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” Boy, was I wrong because I had plenty of words thrown at me and they did hurt.  Like I can still remember some of them.  AND, I remember throwing out words to others that I know was hurtful to them.  (Sigh).  What I wouldn’t give to take those forms of sticks and stones back.  In reality, a lot of my healing has been around words that were said by others and words said to my own Self.  And maybe this episode has to do with a bit of healing within me and I hope that it will bring insight and healing to you as you may be identifying moments and memories where words were used to hurt and define you in ways that have had a negative impact in your life.  

I want to take the “Somatic Life Coach” approach about the impact on words, especially when directed toward our Self.  Ok, just saying that made me realize that I always take that approach as well as integrating the teachings of Jesus Christ and how as disciples of Him, we can implement words in our lives to help you and I to move along what President Nelson calls the “covenant path.”   You will hear me share personal stories, stories by my clients, and how, as a somatic life coach, I address these concerns in a session.  I hope that as I share the different tools I use and why I use them, you’ll find them helpful in your own personal circumstances.

Helpful links from the episode:

Words Matter (2024 April General Conference) Link

3 Nephi 19 Link

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To learn more about Hyo North, a Trauma-informed Somatic Life Coach:

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“Nourish”, a weekly newsletter click here

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