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The holiday season can be a busy and stressful time of year but it's also a wonderful time to take inventory and simplify areas of your life that have become cluttered. Removing what is no longer serving you creates what we call “The Void” in the Cycle of Transformation- making space for more intentional shifts to happen. In this episode, we discuss ways you can invite spaciousness into your life including decluttering the following:

• Your physical environment
• Your calendar/ time commitments
• Your mental space/ focus/ attention
• Your emotional and spiritual space

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Ryan and Heidi join special guest Stefanie Faye of the Mindset Neuroscience Podcast to discuss the importance of real connection in a high-tech world where social media, text, and email are becoming the most common ways people communicate. Learn about what we are missing and why we need more voice and face-to-face communication as humans. 

About Stefanie: 

Stefanie is a former researcher and has spent parts of her career measuring electric conductance of the skin (GSR), facial electromyography (EMG), and heart rate.

She currently works with quantitative electroencephalography (QEEG), rhythmic sinus arrhythmia (heart rate variability), neurofeedback, and transcranial magnetic stimulation for clinical treatment at an intensive outpatient mental health clinic.

Her graduate research at New York University and fieldwork at the NYU Phelps lab for Neuroscience Research, the NYU Institute for Prevention Science, and Yeshiva University's Albert Einstein College of Medicine focused on the cross-section of self-directed neuroplasticity, family emotional climates, and empathy.

For the past decade, She has been teaching and consulting in countries all over the world by combining scientific insights and her training in monasteries with meditation masters from India, Africa, and Vietnam.

She is the host of the Mindset Neuroscience Podcast and currently works as a neurotechnology facilitator and coach.

Connect with Stefanie:

Website: www.stefaniefaye.com

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This week Ryan and Heidi are joined by Andrew Dowler- Exercise Physiologist, Acupuncturist, Yoga, and Qigong teacher to discuss the physical, mental, and emotional healing power of somatic movement. 

Want more? Check out Episode #12 Cultivating Energy Through Breathwork with Andrew Dowler

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In this episode, Ryan and Heidi share a raw and real story about a struggle they had in their marriage and how they had both unconsciously been sabotaging their relationship. They uncover how to know when you are sabotaging or "upper limiting" yourself in your marriage, career, business, or any other area of life and what you can do to begin to change your self-concept and core beliefs. 

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Ryan and Heidi discuss the practice of "I SEE YOU" and what it can look like to no longer attach to the thoughts and stories that hold us back from fulfilling our true potential or having the relationships and experience of life we truly desire. Being able to see others through new eyes in each moment is a POWERFUL practice that can transform every single relationship in your life. 

• When we pause and become more present with ourselves and those around us, we can open the door to new levels of connection
• Suppressing, repressing, and denying these aspects of our experience actually strengthens the energy behind them
• When we are able to bring out attention, allowance, and acceptance of our own perceived limitations of inner critical self-talk, we begin to dissolve the power behind it
• Noticing the narratives our thoughts that are running in our head and without resistance, we can just become aware and say "I see you"
• When you begin to let go of those separate parts it's like cleaning the windshield- You can now see more of what is true instead of constantly being stuck in the stories and narratives
• At our core, as human beings, we all want desperately to be SEEN
• We must stop holding others to our view of them based on how they showed up as in the past
• If you are unwilling to truly SEE yourself you are denying yourself the most important human need, belonging 
• When you can belong to yourself it will change the game in every area of your life
• Do you want to experience more love? Make yourself easier to love by loving yourself first
• As we begin to liberate energy by letting go of the separate self-- we begin to find our true capacity for connection and love

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Ryan and Heidi discuss the importance of us as parents being able to use the tools of co-regulation and objective noticing to teach self-regulation to our children. 

• We all what our children to have a competitive edge in life- to be emotionally intelligent, resilient, and confident about taking on any challenge in life
• In the US culture, we have noticed how many men are raised to suppress their emotions as they are growing up
• Downplaying our children's physical sensations that are leading to big emotions teaches our kids to question, ignore, and mistrust their own internal experience 
• Diminishing the signal of pain teaches our children that they are bad or wrong for feeling
• The goal is to allow ourselves to feel fully in one moment and to let go in the next
• The old model vs. the new model of parenting a child through their own discomfort
• What is co-regulation? Co-regulation involves one person staying present for another through a challenging experience such that the stressed individual experiences greater self-awareness
• How to practice the 3 A's: Attention, Acceptance, Allowance
• Using objective noticing to help our children identify the sensations they are experiencing without the "thought story they may want to attach to the experience 

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Ryan and Heidi discuss several concepts related to experiencing and overcoming resistance that comes with growth and change. 

• Ryan shares about his experience attending the Unbeatable Mind Experience with their 9-year-old son. 
• Experiencing a dip after a big highlight or high in life is completely normal and part of the growth process 
• The feeling of loss we can have when making changes in life is directly related to the death of the "old self" in the form of thought patterns, beliefs, and outdated habits
• Putting resistance on a rubber band can stretch it to the point where there is a snap back which can be related to the dip we feel after a growth spurt 
• The "crab theory" and you can relate it to your internal domain 
• Stepping into the unknown with the expectation of resistance 

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Ryan and Heidi discuss how self-development can often be associated with feeling selfish as parents and how when we work on ourselves in service to others we can make a greater impact on our kids, teams, and communities.  

Key points: 

• Working on yourself is the most impactful way you can help your kids and those you lead is working on yourself. 
• Ryan shares how there was a time in his life when he didn't understand the need for self-development
• We live in an instant gratification world that doesn't always align with developing ourselves
• The only way to be selfless- is to first be selfish- otherwise, you are pouring from an empty cup
• Cleaning the windshield is a great place to start- this takes recognizing what we don't want and what the end result is if we choose not to take personal responsibility
• Examine the  ways you may be getting instant gratification or avoiding/ buffering and ask yourself if those behaviors or habits really serve you
• "Start making change a habit"- begin to change things and get used to the feeling of change- lean into the resistance 

Connect with Ryan & Heidi:

Website: www.ihpcoaching.com

IG: @integrated.mindset

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Ryan and Heidi join special guest Stefanie Faye of the Mindset Neuroscience Podcast to discuss the natural learning process for humans and what that means for us as parents and caretakers. 

Key points: 

• Stefanie shares how she became interested in neuroscience and her deep desire to understand human behavior 
• What is self-directed neuroplasticity? 
• Parents and primary caregivers make the greatest impact on the life of a child 
• A human's primary objective in learning is to survive which means we must be as adaptable as possible
• The human learning process is what sets us apart from other species
• When we're born we don't have much mastery of our environment but we grow and learn based on feedback from those around us which is mostly non-verbal through signals like facial muscle movement, pupil dilation, etc.
• The first things we learn about our environment come from very subtle signals (based on internal state changes) from our caretakers or parents- this teaches us how we should respond to the environment (stressful or relaxed)
• Repetitive data comes from seeing our parents react to outside stimuli to help us decide what is safe or unsafe and what we should potentially avoid
• We can train our responses by intentionally exposing ourselves to physiological discomfort such as ice baths, workouts, etc. 
• The power of "Don't tell them, show them" is that kids need sensory motor stimulation to learn by seeing and not just being verbally told

About Stefanie: 

Stefanie is a former researcher and has spent parts of her career measuring electric conductance of the skin (GSR), facial electromyography (EMG), and heart rate.

She currently works with quantitative electroencephalography (QEEG), rhythmic sinus arrhythmia (heart rate variability), neurofeedback, and transcranial magnetic stimulation for clinical treatment at an intensive outpatient mental health clinic.

Her graduate research at New York University and fieldwork at the NYU Phelps lab for Neuroscience Research, the NYU Institute for Prevention Science, and Yeshiva University's Albert Einstein College of Medicine focused on the cross-section of self-directed neuroplasticity, family emotional climates, and empathy.

For the past decade, She has been teaching and consulting in countries all over the world by combining scientific insights and her training in monasteries with meditation masters from India, Africa, and Vietnam.

She is the host of the Mindset Neuroscience Podcast and currently works as a neurotechnology facilitator and coach.

Connect with Stefanie:

Website: www.stefaniefaye.com

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In this episode, Ryan and Heidi explore the concept of both the victim and creator orientations from David Emerald's book The Power of TED (The Empowerment Dynamic). 

Key Points Discussed: 

• Ryan shares about a time he recognized he was in a victim mindset
• Learn about the three roles within each of the orientations (Victim or Creator) and how to know where you are on the scale at any given moment 
• The Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT): Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer
• The Empowerment Dynamic (TED): Creator, Challenger, and Coach

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