Is married 4 times a red flag?  Her friends and family think so.  Should she marry him ?  we discuss on this Thursday OPP

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"My sister in law has been hosting Thanksgiving at her house around lunch time for several years. We all make a couple dishes and show up. We prefer the early afternoon lunch time on Thanksgiving because my family goes to the deer camp 2 hours away after we eat.

We get a text from the sister in law that says, "I would like to have Thanksgiving this year at our house, but I want to take a vote. Would anyone be opposed to an afternoon meal, like 4/5? I know we usually do lunch but, lets call him Charlie, sleeps from 12-3 so he would miss it all. (fyi he turns 2 next month). But, I also know you go to deer camp."

My husband and I were both annoyed. Are you serious? A Nap? Not that she has to go to her in-laws for Thanksgiving, it's naptime. I would have rather her just said, this year we need to have it later in the day and never mention the nap. Why are we letting a toddler's nap time dictate our Thanksgiving plans? I have 2 older children of my own and I know how crucial a nap can be, but I would have never even thought to revolve my Thanksgiving plans, a HOLIDAY to remind you, or ask anyone else to revolve their plans around my toddler's nap time. You nap where you nap! Back in the day you bust a blanket out and make a pallet. Will this kid look back when he's a grown man and say, "Mom, remember when I was 2 and I missed Thanksgiving?" It sounds so ridiculous to me. Thanksgiving I think of family, togetherness, chaos, and lots and lots of naps. Let him nap in the middle of it or DON'T!

She knows what our vote is and it doesn't matter. She sent a text yesterday saying "Afternoon it is!" There is a part of me that doesn't want to to go. I think it's so rude of her, like her kid is more superior than we are. We discussed going to the camp earlier and having our own dinner down there. What would you do?"

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"My daughter-in-law is angering me. She sent an email to everyone in our family telling us not to buy gifts for the three grandchildren for Christmas. She says this year instead of getting gifts she wants each family member to make a donation to a charity in the name of one of the children. I love the idea, but also hate the kids won't be getting any gifts. They're young and have been waiting all year for Santa to come. I think my daughter-in-law is ruining Christmas. She's hard-headed and won't change her mind. I also think she's being selfish and doing this more for herself than the kids because they are too young to understand. Is this bad parenting?"

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"I don’t even know where to begin. My husband and I are heavily involved in our local school system. Over the past two months, he has been spending a lot more time at my daughter’s choir practice. My suspicions led me to check his phone. I found flirty messages between him and the choir director. At this point, there is no physical cheating, it’s just nauseating cutesy messages. Here’s the kicker. She’s not just some random school employee, she’s the assistant principal’s wife. So now, every week I’m sitting at practice watching her lead the choir with my husband sneaking glances at her. I’m torn. On one hand, I want to expose them. The school deserves to know. On the other hand, if this scandal goes public, it could destroy the choir and the kids, break apart families, and make me look like the bad guy. Help me navigate this mess before I lose my mind. I told my sister and she said the kids come first. Do they or do I?"

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Poolboy's son disappeared for a little while the other day and gave Poolboy a bit of a scare. Thankfully he was fine, but we heard some great stories just like his!

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"My birthday is today and I asked my husband to spend time together on the porch. So I paused his anime show, now he's mad at me for interrupting his anime when he is taking his dad and mom, our nephew, and our kids to a weekend trip for my birthday. The problem is the he always puts his family over what we had planned, aka what his dad wants to do for "MY" birthday trip! So I was hoping I could have a few minutes with him but now I feel like my birthday doesn't matter and never will as long as it's convenient to his family"

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"Thanksgiving is coming up and it seems like we won’t be celebrating with my whole family. My oldest brother’s wife and my mother are feuding right now. My sister in law asked my mother not to do 1 thing with her two kids and my mother did just the opposite. My sister in law said mom could only see her kids if she came to their house to be monitored since she can’t follow the rules set forth. My mom took that as she’s not allowed to see her grandchildren anymore. My mom went and dropped off all of the kids toys, clothes etc from her house off on the porch when they weren’t home and the kids got off the bus to see this. Mom went to the school a few weeks later and spoke with the kids and had lunch with them without informing my brother or sister in law about this visit. My sister in law had her removed from the list of people who could visit the kids. With Thanksgiving coming up, my mom wasn’t going to come as my brother and sister in law were hosting. My youngest brother told my mom she needed to squash the animosity for the day and come be with her kids and grandkids. Mom agreed. Sister in law decided she doesn’t want mom there now and made that known. Mom isn’t coming and now little brother isn’t either. I have to have Thanksgiving lunch with my oldest brother and then do Thanksgiving dinner with my youngest brother and mom. No one is asking me to pick sides, but it feels like no matter what choices I make as far as who I see or spend time with, it is going to upset the other. I’m not sure what to do at this point. Do help them work through this or stay out of it all together? I’m hosting Christmas this year and the whole family is invited. I feel like if this isn’t settled, Christmas may be a complete disaster. HELP!"

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The way the sun comes through the Dallas Cowboys stadium has been blinding some of their players. It's a design flaw that is costing them. What's a design flaw in your home?

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Some special stories for the 13th of the month!

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"My boyfriend and I have been going together for almost two years. He is in love with me and may soon propose. I love him, but have come to the realization that I am not in love with him. My family is definitely in love with him and is hoping for a proposal. It would mean a lot if I married him. I'm not sure what to do. Is my family's love for my boyfriend the reason I should stay with him? I certainly could do a lot worse. I have no idea what to do. Please help me. I don't want to let my family down, but I also have to think about myself"

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