Boundaries & Grace with Taylor Chandler

High Effort, Low Return: When you’re doing the work for two


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I illustrate the over-functioner/under-performer dynamic. These are high-effort people who get low returns in their relationships. The markers of the dynamic are clearly laid out as well as the consequences of allowing this problem to persist. I share about my over-functioning past and how I changed in order to get what I give in relationship.

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Timestamps:

00:03:30 Introduction to the Over-functioner / Under-performer Dynamic

0:04:00 Marker #1 -  “This relationship will fall apart”

00:04:23 Marker #2 - You’re drained

00:05:19 Marker #3 - When they pull away, you give more

00:09:49 Marker #4 - You’re managing, not partnering

00:10:54 Marker #5 - You negotiate your needs

00:14:23 When the problem persists

00:18:31 Solving the problem

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