Today, we are talking all about the EGO.. you know… that sabotaging voice in your head that tells you that you aren't good enough or you shouldn’t invest in yourself even though you’ve been stuck in the same place forever.

Doing ego work transformed my life, body, relationships and business. It helped me stop sabotaging my health and my body and gave me the confidence to start a side hustle and then eventually leave my 9-5 and build my business!

Ego work is for you if you...

After doing ego work you’ll notice:

It’s where I began my personal development work and it’s changed every part of my life. The Holistic Psychologist was the catalyst for me doing ego work back in 2018 and it’s been such a journey 🙂

I’m so excited to hear what you think!

Be sure to screenshot the podcast and tag me on IG (@samaltieri) 💞💞 and tell me your top takeaway!!

Catch ya next week :)

You know that expression “The path is created by walking, not waiting”? It’s one of my favorites because, well, it’s true!

Life is there for the taking. Everything we want, we can have. But we have to be the ones to take the steps and do the thing. We have to set boundaries to protect our energy. We have to surround ourselves with people who can see what’s possible for us. We have to believe that we are worthy and use our power to create the life we want.

I used to be fearful of saying what I wanted to say. I was worried people wouldn’t like it or wouldn’t like me, and they would leave. But then I realized they’re not the people I’m meant to have in my life. I started following my heart. Every time I felt something, I just did it. I did the next thing and the next thing and before I knew it, the world had opened for me.

Today I’m talking about how we can learn to let go of what doesn’t serve us and use the power of visualization to get clear on our path and how we want to feel in our lives.

We may not be able to see the whole path all the way to the ending, but that’s the beauty of it: we’re not meant to. We can use the power of visualization in our mind’s eye in real life and dreams, set the boundaries we need, and follow our desires. They are the secret roadmap to exactly where we are meant to go. We can’t conceive the magic of it all, but by following our highest excitement and taking back our power, we can’t go wrong.

This week’s episode is SO exciting. Not only is it the first episode back after a 3-month hiatus, but I am reintroducing the podcast’s new name: “Be More Real with Sam Altieri.” This is a mini episode where I share why I needed to take a 3 month break, what happened with my eating disorder in 2020 once COVID hit and I moved in with my now fiancé, and what caused me to gain 15lbs. I also give you a sneak peek into how I stopped bingeing, judging myself and started eating intuitively and being happy in my skin. The podcast is dedicated to my Dad, my biggest mirror and fellow healer. ( love you Dad!) He inspired the new name because when I was younger and brought over some friends who were down to earth, he’d call out how real they were. I didn’t fully understand what that meant until I rediscovered who I was. Now, as my most confident myself, I decided that this is the perfect name for the podcast. PLUS! I now have a YouTube Channel! My channel will be THE go-to place where I will be sharing my own healing journey, more spirituality, and manifestation, as well as my business growth and how to be a successful entrepreneur while maintaining alignment, freedom, and happiness! Be sure to subscribe to my channel and let me know what you think in the comments! This will be the first episode of a kickass 2021. So make sure you subscribe so you don’t miss an episode or chances to be featured on my podcast!

In our final episode of Balance with Sam for 2020, I talk to my amazing coaching clients about manifesting money, how visualizing our desires can help find clarity on our path and the internal shift we can make to embody a queen mindset.

Often we can go through life and we're on autopilot. We're doing our thing and we can feel undisciplined and inconsistent. We don't show up for ourselves and we’re all over the place. Moving the queen mindset allows us to be present and in our power. We show up every moment with self-awareness and consistency that creates our wave and embodies our essence.

Top Takeaways

You are worthy right now. I used to have so many beliefs about who I could be or how far I could go or what I could do. I felt that I wasn’t worthy of success. It’s just not true. You are worthy, deserving, and enough. Right now. Let that sink in. You can also have goals but those goals do not make you any less worthy or enough. Use the mantra “I'm satisfied with where I'm at and eager for more.” You can feel that you are enough right now and also want more. They may happen in different stages, at different paces and in different ways that you could've never ever imagined for yourself. But stop limiting yourself.

Think about what you really want and be what you want to attract. You need to be a vibrational and energetic match for the things you desire. If you're always frustrated, complaining, feeling victim, you're going to attract more circumstances like that. If you are feeling grateful, even for the smallest things, you're going to attract more of that. When your energy is high, you attract that. Think about money. Money is always working for you. Progress is always working for you. Clients are always coming to you. Business is always happening for you. Opportunities are always coming for you. Be open to them.

Practice visualizing the future. Close your eyes and feel it. When you close your eyes and imagine that thing that you desire and you feel into it, you actually feel it in your body (I get tingles!) That's gratitude. That is the feeling of abundance. Your brain doesn't know the difference between a real thing and an imagined thing. The more you can imagine the thing, the faster you manifest it, the faster it shows up. Trust that money is on its way to you. Trust that your business is growing. Trust that clients are coming. Trust that whatever is happening in your life that you want to happen is coming for you as long as you declare it and know it to be true.

In this episode, I talk with Le’nise Brothers, a registered nutritionist, yoga instructor and founder of Eat, Love, Move. She’s an expert in women's health and well-being determined to help women fix their period pain.

Growing up in Toronto, Le’nise saw her mom continually have very heavy, very painful periods and experienced the same thing when she started menstruating. Having grown up thinking it was normal, she watched her friends having light periods with barely any pain and started to think, “Why don’t I have that?” This started her journey to figure out why she was experiencing the pain she was. After trying the pill, supplements and a number of other methods, she eventually figured out a way of eating that calmed her body down during her period. She then went back to university and trained as a registered nutritionist, specializing in women’s health and menstrual cycle hormones.

Top Takeaways

Start to honor the menstrual phases: menstruation, the follicular phase, ovulation and the luteal phase. Start tracking your menstrual cycle and learn what affects it. It can be as simple as knowing when your period starts and when it ends or you can make it as detailed as you want it to be. It's really important to know that not everyone has a 28 day menstrual cycle and that the days will change. Tune into your body and understand what impacts your cycle. For example, stress is a huge factor. We’ve been taught that a certain amount of stress is normal so when you start tracking your cycle, you need to be really honest with yourself about how much stress you are actually under.

While your diet can have a negative impact on your cycle, it’s not about restricting what you’re eating or removing foods. Le’nise works with her clients from a place of adding their diet, not taking away. Being a woman in this world, we get taught to restrict, to minimize, to try to reduce ourselves and this creates toxic patterns around so many areas of our lives, especially around food. When you start saying, “I'm going to add this”- it really changes your mindset around food.

Period pain isn’t “normal” and you don’t have to stay in that place of frustration and pain. It’s something that anyone who has a period is taught to accept as a part of life and it is common but that doesn’t make it normal. If you’re experiencing period pain, this is your chance to take ownership of tha. Turn inward and ask yourself, “What can I do about this?”

Today’s episode of Balance WIth Sam is a recording of a recent group coaching call with my girls! We talk about one of the most important parts of finding freedom from food, how to become more intune with your body and the parallels between your bank account and your body!

Top Takeaways

The only purpose of food is to satiate hunger and for our health. That’s it. If we’re not eating for these reasons, we’re using it as a way to fill our lives when something is missing. Whether it be something in a relationship or in our work, we use food to fill a void. Start practicing, listening, turning, inwards, asking yourself why you are eating. Are you really hungry? Or is it something else?

Focus on and trust your intuition. Our bodies already have cues we need. It has the fullness cue that knows when it’s had enough. It has the hunger cue to let us know when it needs fuel. But sometimes we're just so disconnected from our bodies because we've been in our heads for so long that we have no idea. We make decisions based on what we've been told or what we believe. “I don’t deserve this” or “I’m not worthy”. But when you listen to our body, you open yourself up to being able to hear people when they say that you are enough and know that it’s true.

Notice when you are avoiding and challenge it. One of the areas of my life that always caused a lot of anxiety was my bank account and I see this a lot in my clients. It’s the avoidance attachment pattern. For example, when your relationship with money is not as healthy as you would want it to be, it's easier to not look at it. It’s easier to not deal.  But it's not going to get any better if we don't face it. It's the same with what you put in your body. It’s easier to not observe and be mindful of what we eat but it doesn’t make us feel good. When you avoid, you don't fail but you can't make it better.

One thing is how you do everything. If you are intentional with your eating, you're going to be intentional with your spending, with your communication, with your relationship, the sex you have and the clothes you buy. You're just going to be intentional. Remember, you have the power. You can take it one little baby step at a time.

You’ve got the choice. Choose the woman you want to be over the woman you were.

On today’s episode of Balance With Sam, I’m joined by the amazing Brid McNulty. Brid is a food and body coach, and she also helps high achieving women heal their relationship with food and their body.

Brid grew up moving around a lot as a child but it was a move to Moscow in her teen years, taking her away from her friends and everything she’d known, when she started to feel alone. Turning to food for comfort, she started to double her dinner portions without realizing and gained 22 pounds in the last two years of high school. Like so many of us, Brid turned to dieting, quick fixes and extreme workouts to try and lose the weight but, as she experienced upheaval in her life, she spiralled even more in university She felt that urgent need to “fix” herself.

Top Takeaways

Mastering your mindset can make a world of difference. Be aware of what your mind and body are telling you and give yourself the space. It’s about creating an awareness of your critical thoughts and work towards letting go of them. They will always be there but you don’t need to subscribe to them. Remember, you don't have to control what you can trust. When you trust that your body will find a healthy weight and the food is going to balance itself out, it will.

Find the balance and make the choice. Once we become more aware of our emotions and in tune with what we are feeling when the urge to binge hits us, we can start to move towards making a choice. It’s okay that sometimes you might want to eat that whole pizza and that’s okay. It’s about knowing that certain foods will make you feel good and finding that balance.

Find body neutrality. You don’t necessarily have to love your body but if you can accept it and be neutral about it, the critical thoughts will quieten. Incentivize the shift for yourself. For example, Brid created a pot for herself and every time she brought herself back into neutral after a negative thought, she would put a dollar in the pot. Then, when she gets to a more positive place, she uses that money to pamper herself. Find the fun and reward yourself.

Above all, remember to go easy on yourself and work from a place of love.