Earlier this week, my guest Chloe Cherry talked about how she felt safer when she was acting in adult films than when she working as a waitress in the service industry. It was a perspective a lot of people took issue with, including my past guest Mia Khalifa. Today I share the reaction to Chloe’s comments: Mia’s response via Tik Tok and what friends of mine who have worked as both waitresses and strippers have to say. I also read comments and submissions from listeners like you.

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After moving to Miami at 18 to become an adult film actress, Chloe worked in porn for six years before she was cast in Season 2 of Euphoria. Unlike other adult film actors who I’ve spoken to, Chloe was very intentional about pursuing her career in porn. Today we discuss Chloe’s perspective on sex work, how and why she’s deliberately commodified her body, and the differences between acting in the adult film industry and Hollywood.

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There is such an emphasis on the importance of truth-telling in our culture, but is honesty really always “the best policy”? In honor of the new year, I'm talking about the ethics of honesty in intimate relationships and how kindness and tact should, at times, come before candidness.

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Olivia Ponton has a built a massive following on Tik Tok and landed a place in Sport’s Illustrated 2022 Swimsuit addition. Today we discuss what the last few years of her life have been like, the commodification of one’s body and being a queer woman in the spotlight. Today’s episode includes discussions surrounding eating disorders and body dysmorphia.

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It’s easy to write people off as “toxic” and cut them out of your life completely. But have we taken the culture of boundaries too far? Today I read from an article published in The Atlantic entitled “That’s It. You’re Dead to Me.” and discuss the “toxic” phenomenon that millennials and Gen Z have come to rely on.

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Bella’s first photo shoot was at 6 weeks old. She grew up in Hollywood, and today on the pod she talks about her experience of being simultaneously sexualized and shamed as an adolescent in the limelight. You can check out Bella’s jewelry line, Thorne, at thornedynasty.com

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I finally did it. In honor of me downloading my first dating app, I bring in my best friend, Kat, a former swiping pro to discuss the pros and cons of matching with strangers online. And yes, we even read some of my DMs.

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Andrea is a critic at New York magazine and the author of Females. Her searing critiques of writers like Ottessa Moshefegh and Bret Easton Ellis are as hilarious as they are insightful. Her essay “On Liking Women” has been credited as launching the “second wave” of transgender studies. I first met Andrea when she profiled me around the publication of my book and we have since become friends. We talk about writing, flirting via text, gender politics and so much more.

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Jealousy has been on my mind since we posted the episode on Ethical Non-Monogamy. Dozens of you came to me with the same feedback: "I could never, I'm too jealous". Today I take a closer look at the emotion we all seem to have the most shame and fear around. I talk about Ethan and Harper's relationship in White Lotus, read from the chapter on jealousy in The Ethical Slut and take some advice from Tik-Tokers on how to understand ourselves and our relationships better by learning to examine our jealousy.

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Drew Afualo has taken over TikTok by taking a no holds barred approach to eviscerating dudes who share racist, misogynistic commentary online. But the best part? She’s really, really funny. Today we discuss her Samoan heritage and its influence on her politics, why she doesn’t consider being called “fat” an insult, accountability in the age of the internet, her distinction between “nice” and “kind” and so much more.

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