Hilda's Shoulder

In Nigeria,it's socially frowned on for a woman to have remarried multiple times.

Divorcees and widows try to "get it right" to avoid a divorce.

I'm sharing with you, things that you and your Beau-to- be need to open about and discuss before you walk down the aisle again.

listen!

I hope this helps!

Why people cheat and how to identify a cheater.

It is a common subject of discussion that Nigerian like or love money and will do anything for it.

It is also said that Nigerian women make demands from their men as if it is an entitlement. Is it so? Listen to what I have to say and draw your own conclusions.

Trust is a very big deal for couples because of their past relationships and what they have heard people do to others.

Trust unfortunately cannot be bought with money and does not grow on trees. It is something that is deliberately worked at. Each party must be vulnerable to other if there is really trust. The more the vulnerability the more the Trust.

Are there reasons for not trusting? Of course there are! But,there are also many reasons why you should.

When trust is broken can it be come back? Of course it can!

Listen to what I've got to say about it!

Naija Man I'm sure you've experienced that "fart" sound that comes from the vagina when you're intimate with your woman!

It's not evidence of her illness or that she has been with numerous sexual partners!

It's just science!

Listen and learn!

It is the preference of our culture for the man to be the breadwinner of the home.

Sometimes he is not so lucky. His wife may have more money than him or he may have no money at all.

What expectations are on the woman in this situation?

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For Naija Women, spilling your guts in to-to about your ex-lovers may not work out for your relationship most of the time if you are with a typical Naija Man.

A Naija woman must understand the man she is with and reveal very key information about her past on a need-to-know basis.

Quite unfairly,Naija men tell women their relationship war stories on a whim and the women are usually not offended.

Listen and give me feedback!

Is it money for sex or sex for money? Is it sex for sex ?

What are your thoughts? Would you give sex for no money? Is it right to give sex with no expectation from your partner or spouse?Listen and share your views with me here on Anchor or via email - [email protected]

I got feedback from male listeners saying they wanted me to do a sequel to "Naija Women and Bad Sex.So,this is it!

Naija Women are very strong individuals who have a lot on their plate like many women all over the world.Whether she is a homemaker or working wife/woman or Mom,the activities she is involved in physically weighs her down and this sometimes makes her give bad sex or no sex at all.

This piece speaks to the Naija woman and asks her to get in touch with her "self sexy side" She should not use up all her energy everyday but save some to please and be pleased by her man.

For the Men,let your woman long for you and be patient and consistent with showing her just how she can pleasure you and be pleasured!

Naija Women should stop suffering in silence.If your partner or Husband truly values you,he should appreciate an honest cry from his woman.He should not be ofended if she tells him that she is not being satisfied sexually .

The couple should work on removing the culprit that is preventing them from enjoying sexual bliss.If it is a medical condition that can be

treated then, that's the way to go!

Women should stop feeling that if they tell their husbands exactly what they want sexually then they are giving their partner or spouse the

impression that they have had a coloured past. If you can't be open with him,who can you be open with?

Lets get rid of bad sex!