As a child of The Spirit, you are not supposed to suffer except the instance of you taking up your cross to follow Jesus, which is born out of love for Him. People suffer in life because of their own foolishness. Ignorance is when you don’t know, while foolishness is when you don’t know, but think you do.
In your relationship with The Holy Spirit, focus on your personal metamorphosis and growth, and receive grace to forget about other people. Trying to fix a person will bring misery upon you.
In our lives, our destinations and routes to it are fixed, but what determines the experience is our choices/free will. No one can resist the will of God. The Kingdom of God is a state where there is zero resistance to God’s will. When His grace is at work in you to do His will, your journey becomes blissful.