Daniel and Sarah go on a fantastic voyage of perception covering complicated stuff about your reality and the imagined life with the people you left behind on the road. We then develop the concept of “ to be or be seen” meaning being the first person or having the indirect viewpoint. The 4th wall in movies of not looking into the camera. Fleabag discussed. Engaging directly, soliloquies and asides. Blur compared to focus. Getting your life in focus through experimentation. Daniel worried that photos are never out of focus these days. No sense of getting it spot on by under and over compensating, Knowing when you are the centre of the universe…that subliminal blip. Making eye contact with stage actors. We discuss Laura Wade’s play “The Watsons” (Jane Austin unfinished) in which the actors revolt when the plot goes thin and much more.

Daniel has a Kabbalah mystic moment when his bill at Aldi is exactly £10. Your “go-to” recipes which nobody would ever challenge. Daniel talks pickles for a wedding, underground smoked meats and cold smoked nuts. Sarah talks Egusi West African soup, macaroni cheese (or is cheese and macaroni) and scrambled eggs. Daniel loses his rag over Sarah’s aunt’s rogue ingredients and admits childhood trauma over breakfast at hotels with his Dad. Sarah wants to destroy family harmony with cooking competitions. Should you teach the next generation or leave them with fond memories of your creations. Your food legacy and much more.

Daniel and Sarah open with a discussion about love expressed in words and deeds and when the two do not match. The danger of simplistic ideas like Ibram X Kendi which view everything through the lens of race. Challenging lazy acceptance and going with the herd. Denying your individuality. Evolution and adaptation compared. No need for God in Darwin’s world. Daniel upsetting dinner party guests (relax, he was a lawyer). Transgender fashion discussed. How the fashion of switching to oat milk or soya creates other problems. Framing your identity in an authentic process and being prepared to speak up for what you believe. BLM founders questioned. Merit vs favouritism. Hiding behind the conventional wisdom and fashionable causes without looking deeper. Intersex discussed and much more…..

Sarah and Daniel get started with a chat about staring, letching and leering. Giving off the right signals. Significance of a pear ring. History of ice cream making. Link to contraception. Weird family remedies. Daniel’s low tolerance of alcohol and graduation to a proper drinker. Moving on to discuss the power and purpose of fashions in clothes, shoes, sexual focus, spectacles and food. The dangers of being an unthinking fashionista. Disposable fashion. What you are saying through your public choices and how risqué you are prepared to be. Testing public reaction. Daniel goes out in pyjamas. Blue rinse brigade and hair colouring. Pleasing yourself or impressing others?

Sarah fesses up. Garrison Keillor, Stephen Spielberg, John Ford and Akira Kurosawa all get a look in as Daniel and Sarah struggle to find the perfect angle. Sarah is drawn headless by Derek Boshier. Daniel annoys the queue at the police car pound by expounding on friction and badly written warnings. Facial symmetry and attraction. Your better side. Rules of portrait photography. Laughing on the other side of your face and much more.

Imagine a world where every awkward, difficult situation could be solved with a voucher from your annual relationship allowance. Wig nights. Plus AI bots and humour. Learning how to stand, sit and walk. Buddhist philosophy. Heckling stand up comedians. Mixing metaphors. Daniel’s obsession with Lizzie. Balaclavas vs Balalaikas vs Baklavas and much more.

Strap yourself in for an incredible conversation. Stage kisses and the dangers of sexual assault. Sarah reached a continue kissing or slap moment. Poem structure. Iambic pentameter or Haiku? Difference between secrets and privacy explored. The need to lie to preserve secrets. Trusting someone with a secret. Secret desires. Elvis Costello “For Other Eyes” discussed. Weird expressions of love through DIY. Taking secrets to the grave. The burrowing worm will find your secrets. Is going to a strip club a suitable venue for a works outing. The disgusting “it will always be our little secret”. Dangers of pillow talk. Doing a number 2 at a dinner party. And so much more.

Sarah and Daniel confront the world of bewildering choice, dangling baubles and equip you to navigate a safe course. Menus, clothes, confectionery, spectacles, hats, hairstyles, holidays, cocktails, tasting menus, regrets over poor choices…..they all make you the person you are. Daniel would choose Sarah every time when strolling the pretty girls in the podcast aisle. You are the podcast you choose.

Daniel propositions Sarah. Time theft as a concept. Being paid for wasted time. Airplane delays. Your whole life wasted with the wrong person. Euthanasia discussed and dangers of having money incentives to end life. Calling 999 and wasting emergency services time. Martin Allen and fake history. Taking time to stop and stare. What Daniel thinks of spending time with Sarah and vice versa.

Sarah and Daniel are joined by Jayne, a true flower and foraging expert, to discuss how to beautify your home on any or no budget. From love , to death, to arriving as dinner guests, we explore the proper place of floral decorations and how to prolong their life. Daniel has little to say until jugs are mentioned. Take 5 minutes a day better to connect with the natural world. If you can’t name more than 5 flowers something is badly wrong. Shape up. Get on top of the gypsophilia. Life is not meant to be a bed of roses.