Hope to Recharge

As the Jewish Holiday of Shavuot approaches, Matana faces her Trauma, as this was the date that she had her first panic attack, which was the drive behind creating this podcast and creating a space dedicated to helping those in need who also suffer from depression and anxiety.

In this solo episode, Matana shares her gratitude on having found a path to recovery and the techniques that she implements daily, to keep her on track and recovery.

Thank you for listening to Hope to Recharge! if we are important to you, help us out and Leave us a review on iTunes. It makes a huge difference!

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Work 1 on 1 with Matana - With our 1 on 1 coaching program, you can work directly with Matana. Get a free 30-minute fitting tryout call to see if this is right for you. You do not have to walk through your mental health struggle alone. Because as always, together is better!

There is no substitute for a listening ear. Get Your Free 30 Minute, 1 on 1 Consultation Today.

https://hopetorecharge.com/1on1/

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As we all know, sharing can help others. We are here to support each other and to learn from each other. In mental health, Together is better.

If you need more support in your mental health journey please reach out to us in our private Facebook group.

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Interested in joining our monthly Mastermind Group? 

Find out more info here! www.hopetorecharge.com/Mastermind

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Suicide Hotlines:

USA: 1-800-273-8255
USA Crisis (Text): 741-741
Canada: 1-833-456-4566
United Kingdom: 116-123
Australia: 13-11-14
International Suicide Hotlines:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines

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Connect with us!

• Website: https://hopetorecharge.com/
• Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2079694042156503/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matanajacobs/

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3 WAYS THAT YOU CAN HELP THE PODCAST:

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Today’s episode of Hope to Recharge is sponsored by https://Betterhelp.com/hopetorecharge. 

Betterhelp.com is the world’s leading provider of online therapy. Their mission is to make professional counseling accessible, affordable, and convenient, so anyone who struggles with life’s challenges can get help, anytime, anywhere.

Head to https://Betterhelp.com/hopetorecharge for 10% off your first month of services. IMPORTANT: Be sure to click this link in order to get the 10% off code.

Dr. Karin Anderson Abrell shares her story of choosing to let her core values lead her life, even when others don’t understand. She was unwed until her 40’s because she would not settle for a marriage that did not align with her values. Because of this experience, much of her work has been about helping others thrive as a single person.

Our decisions and feelings are based on values. We need to understand our core values before we can begin the work of changing our thoughts and our mindset because values are the foundation for our thoughts. We also need to understand what is most important to us before we enter into commitments such as marriage. In most situations, partners need to agree on religion, because it permeates so much of our lives. if one’s partner thinks your beliefs don’t make sense, it will be hard to connect with them or make decisions together.

How do we determine what our core values are? One good indicator of a value is that one get into fights with people about it. Maybe it’s punctuality, finances, politics, religion, expectations, or your definition of success. Pay attention to what makes you angry, and then ask why. What is the reason behind your strong emotion? Is it respect? Safety? 

Exploration of the values handed down to you by your family of origin is an important part of the process of individuation. If you want to know what your values are, you must find out if you really agree with what you were taught as a child. Your parents might not approve,, but if the rules you live by do not sit well in your soul, you will might not find the happiness you seek. You might even have a meltdown and end up questioning everything anyway, so you might as well do the work now, before you fall apart.

Therapy is a great place to find out who you are and how to grow to live without compromising your values. Finding the right therapist can be a challenge, especially if you are not aware of what your values are. If your therapist does not believe that your values are important, it will be hard for you to make progress. Don’t despair - keep looking until you find someone who aligns with what is important to you.

At the end of this episode, Dr. Karin and I discuss the power of positive mindset practices. We have both personally improved our lives so drastically by making simple changes like taking time for gratefulness and choosing to smile. We have committed to staying mentally healthy, and to do that, we need a positive outlook. You can find a lot of information on this topic in other episodes of Hope to Recharge.

Thank you for listening to Hope to Recharge! if we are important to you, help us out and Leave us a review on iTunes. It makes a huge difference!

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Work 1 on 1 with Matana - With our 1 on 1 coaching program, you can work directly with Matana. Get a free 30-minute fitting tryout call to see if this is right for you. You do not have to walk through your mental health struggle alone. Because as always, together is better!

There is no substitute for a listening ear. Get Your Free 30 Minute, 1 on 1 Consultation Today.

https://hopetorecharge.com/1on1/

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As we all know, sharing can help others. We are here to support each other and to learn from each other. In mental health, Together is better.

If you need more support in your mental health journey please reach out to us in our private Facebook group.

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Interested in joining our monthly Mastermind Group? 

Find out more info here! www.hopetorecharge.com/Mastermind

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Connect with Dr. Karin Anderson Abrell:

Website: https://loveandlifemedia.com/ 

Podcast: https://loveandlifemedia.com/topics/podcast-posts/ 

Ask a Question: https://loveandlifemedia.com/ask-a-question 

Instagram: @dr.karin

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dr.KarinAndersonAbrell

Book: Single is the New Black; Don’t Wear White till it’s Right

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Quotes:

“Does this person fit in the movie of my life?” @SarahBlakley @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“Take charge of your thoughts; take charge of your life.” @KarinAndersonAbrell @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“It’s okay to be okay. It’s not a sin, even though people are struggling.” @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“It's not fake positivity. It's noticing where the positive is and elevating it.” @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“Figure out what drives you, what you want to achieve and you can achieve it.” @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

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Topics Discussed:

• Finding your core values
• Finding a life partner who aligns with your values
• Practicing positivity and mindfulness

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Suicide Hotlines:

USA: 1-800-273-8255
USA Crisis (Text): 741-741
Canada: 1-833-456-4566
United Kingdom: 116-123
Australia: 13-11-14
International Suicide Hotlines:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines

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Connect with us!

• Website: https://hopetorecharge.com/
• Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2079694042156503/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matanajacobs/

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3 WAYS THAT YOU CAN HELP THE PODCAST:

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• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_DkYMcco7pSrkKk6wU5p7w

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Today’s episode of Hope to Recharge is sponsored by https://Betterhelp.com/hopetorecharge. 

Betterhelp.com is the world’s leading provider of online therapy. Their mission is to make professional counseling accessible, affordable, and convenient, so anyone who struggles with life’s challenges can get help, anytime, anywhere.

Head to https://Betterhelp.com/hopetorecharge for 10% off your first month of services. IMPORTANT: Be sure to click this link in order to get the 10% off code.

Borderline Personality disorder is often stigmatized and rarely mentioned in public circles as a topic of discussion. There is much shame around it and those diagnosed with it often keep it clandestine and private so as not to be exposed for the darkness they carry within them.

Dr. Kobernick is a licensed clinical psychologist and the Founder and Director of The CBT/DBT Center. DBT stands for Dialectical Behavior Therapy which is a "behavior therapy". She helps patients target behaviors in order to affect how they are feeling. The additional layer here is Dialectics - which is a type of philosophy that states that there are always multiple truths and more than one way of looking at something in our world. This is important because it helps us to see the grays rather than getting stuck in the black and white.

Having big emotions is a wonderful thing. People with big emotions can be the best artists, musicians, lovers, parents and nurturers. But, those emotions need to be navigated with the right skills and tools. Learning mindfulness and how to listen to her emotions helped Dr. Kobernick in her own childhood with big emotions. 

The two elements that Dr. Kobernick focuses on when she treats patients with DBT are acceptance and change. So, the way it works is at any given moment a patient needs to accept reality as it is and they are working towards change in their lives. They both - acceptance and change - need to exist. You cannot push for change if you are not in acceptance.

Thank you for listening to Hope to Recharge! if we are important to you, help us out and Leave us a review on iTunes. It makes a huge difference!

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Work 1 on 1 with Matana - With our 1 on 1 coaching program, you can work directly with Matana. Get a free 30-minute fitting tryout call to see if this is right for you. You do not have to walk through your mental health struggle alone. Because as always, together is better!

There is no substitute for a listening ear. Get Your Free 30 Minute, 1 on 1 Consultation Today.

https://hopetorecharge.com/1on1/

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As we all know, sharing can help others. We are here to support each other and to learn from each other. In mental health, Together is better.

If you need more support in your mental health journey please reach out to us in our private Facebook group.

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Interested in joining our monthly Mastermind Group? 

Find out more info here! www.hopetorecharge.com/Mastermind

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Connect with Dr. Kobernick:

https://www.thecbtdbtcenter.com

https://www.themindfulwoman.org

email: [email protected]

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Quotes:

“You can do nothing, you can fix it, you can change how you feel about it, or you can make it worse, right. Or you can accept.” @Dr. Chaya Lieba Kobernick @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“If you really passionate what you do and you really want to change people's lives, then you have to think about what actually works and not about what feels right.” @Dr. Chaya Lieba Kobernick @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“Skills are not exclusive for therapists. Anybody can pick up a book and can read about these skills and learn these skills.” @Dr. Chaya Lieba Kobernick @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“My child is a block of marble. I have to chip the block of marble to create David the statute.” @Dr. Chaya Lieba Kobernick @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“(Be) willing to stay committed to being alive, even with suicidal urges” @Dr. Chaya Lieba Kobernick @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

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Topics Discussed:

• Committing to doing treatment 
• Different parts of DBT
• Skills to discuss with a therapist
• Setting Boundaries

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Suicide Hotlines:

USA: 1-800-273-8255
USA Crisis (Text): 741-741
Canada: 1-833-456-4566
United Kingdom: 116-123
Australia: 13-11-14
International Suicide Hotlines:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines

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Connect with us!

• Website: https://hopetorecharge.com/
• Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2079694042156503/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matanajacobs/

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3 WAYS THAT YOU CAN HELP THE PODCAST:

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2) Spread the word via social media.   It costs nothing.

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• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matanajacobs/

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3) Subscribe to us on:

• iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hope-to-recharge/id1464788845
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• Stitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/heather-parady-2/hope-to-recharge
• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_DkYMcco7pSrkKk6wU5p7w

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Today’s episode of Hope to Recharge is sponsored by https://Betterhelp.com/hopetorecharge. 

Betterhelp.com is the world’s leading provider of online therapy. Their mission is to make professional counseling accessible, affordable, and convenient, so anyone who struggles with life’s challenges can get help, anytime, anywhere.

Head to https://Betterhelp.com/hopetorecharge for 10% off your first month of services. IMPORTANT: Be sure to click this link in order to get the 10% off code.

As we enter into May, Mental Health Awareness Month, we discuss our gratitude at having reached this milestone, one episode at a time. Reaching a 2 year mark is only because of you, our listeners and in this short episode, we invite you to share your story with us:

- What does "Mental health Awareness" mean to you?

- How have you gained from the Hope to Recharge podcast, to help your awareness?

We invite you to email [email protected], comment or join our Facebook group and let us know!

Thank you for listening to Hope to Recharge! if we are important to you, help us out and Leave us a review on iTunes. It makes a huge difference!

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Work 1 on 1 with Matana - With our 1 on 1 coaching program, you can work directly with Matana. Get a free 30-minute fitting tryout call to see if this is right for you. You do not have to walk through your mental health struggle alone. Because as always, together is better!

There is no substitute for a listening ear. Get Your Free 30 Minute, 1 on 1 Consultation Today.

https://hopetorecharge.com/1on1/

—————————————————————————

As we all know, sharing can help others. We are here to support each other and to learn from each other. In mental health, Together is better.

If you need more support in your mental health journey please reach out to us in our private Facebook group.

—————————————————————————

Interested in joining our monthly Mastermind Group? 

Find out more info here! www.hopetorecharge.com/Mastermind

—————————————————————————

Suicide Hotlines:

USA: 1-800-273-8255
USA Crisis (Text): 741-741
Canada: 1-833-456-4566
United Kingdom: 116-123
Australia: 13-11-14
International Suicide Hotlines:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines

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Connect with us!

• Website: https://hopetorecharge.com/
• Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2079694042156503/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matanajacobs/

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3 WAYS THAT YOU CAN HELP THE PODCAST:

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• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_DkYMcco7pSrkKk6wU5p7w

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Today’s episode of Hope to Recharge is sponsored by https://Betterhelp.com/hopetorecharge. 

Betterhelp.com is the world’s leading provider of online therapy. Their mission is to make professional counseling accessible, affordable, and convenient, so anyone who struggles with life’s challenges can get help, anytime, anywhere.

Head to https://Betterhelp.com/hopetorecharge for 10% off your first month of services. IMPORTANT: Be sure to click this link in order to get the 10% off code.

Lisa Wells is raising a son with Borderline Personality Disorder. As a little boy, her child was diagnosed with ADHD. He was throwing furniture, had to be taken out of school and went through all kinds of treatment. He endured a lot of ridicule, punishment, and rejection from school staff for not behaving in the way they expected. Lisa assumes this contributed to the trauma which led to him to develop BPD and an older teen. 

Lisa shared with me her strategies for staying afloat while her son is drowning. One of the components needed to able to care for your loved one’s high-needs is to realize that you can't be available for them 24/7. You are human too, and if you don't take care of yourself, you won't have anything left to give. This can be terrifying because there are so many “what if’s” and lack of control when you don't do everything that they need. In the long run, if you both want to enjoy your life more and be able to be available without burning out, you cannot place all of the responsibility for their survival on yourself. You sometimes have to let go, and that's okay. 

Another major strategy Lisa utilizes on a daily basis, is to recognize and measure her physical and emotional capacity to help somebody else. If her son is calls her on the phone, Lisa will pause and take notice if she has at least 50% of her capability to deal with whatever situation might be. If she's already feeling overwhelmed by other things in life -- lacking sleep, the dog barking, and she's involved in getting something done, she takes a “self-care break”, works on her mindset to bring herself back up to at least 50%, and then chooses to reach out and support her son.

Lisa has come to realize that the best way to help her son is simply using the practice of radical acceptance. No judgement. If he's only wearing one shoe, she won’t say something negative or critical, but just rolls with it. If he really wants some cigarettes, she will actually go buy them for him. If she shows up in his space, and it is clear that he really just needs to be left alone, she leaves. Fighting against whatever is going on in his life that isn't immediately life-threatening only makes him feel criticized, which can be a big trigger. Lisa chooses to believe that he's doing the best he can, and doesn't push him to be anyone besides who he is in that moment. 

She communicates her boundaries with her son. When he has a meltdown, she will calmly say that she will not tolerate being yelled at. When a conversation starts to go off track, she will clearly tell him that she's not leaving forever; she just really needs to go get dinner on the table or do some other task, and she will call him again in a couple hours when they both have had time to regroup. Because so much that happens in his life seems like an emergency, it can be hard for him to understand how his mom could choose to not help him in his seemingly desperate situation, but she is working to help him understand that she is a person too, and her needs are just as legitimate as his own.

Lisa relates how funny he is and how good he is at the things he's passionate aboutand often invites him over to help her with a project and delights in seeing how he finds the quickest and most efficient way to solve the problem she has presented him with. He loves to help out others. If he has a few extra dollars, he’ll go give it to a homeless person because he knows what it is like to be on the street. He loves being encouraging and making jokes with his neighbors and those around him. BPD is not all darkness. Those suffering from it are full of light… just often not for themselves.

Thank you for listening to Hope to Recharge! if we are important to you, help us out and Leave us a review on iTunes. It makes a huge difference!

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Work 1 on 1 with Matana - With our 1 on 1 coaching program, you can work directly with Matana. Get a free 30-minute fitting tryout call to see if this is right for you. You do not have to walk through your mental health struggle alone. Because as always, together is better!

There is no substitute for a listening ear. Get Your Free 30 Minute, 1 on 1 Consultation Today.

https://hopetorecharge.com/1on1/

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As we all know, sharing can help others. We are here to support each other and to learn from each other. In mental health, Together is better.

If you need more support in your mental health journey please reach out to us in our private Facebook group.

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Interested in joining our monthly Mastermind Group? 

Find out more info here! www.hopetorecharge.com/Mastermind

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Connect with Lisa:

(Business Website): https://lisarwells.com

Quotes:

“The last thing he needs is for me to be pointing stuff out to him if he’s having a rough day… So, I thought, “I’ll just kind of be with him,” and “How can I help him?” Instead of my mind immediately going to, “Why cant he?” It was, “How can I?” “@LisaWells @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“Don’t react. Breathe. Stop. Pause.” @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“If I can’t answer the phone with a smile, I probably shouldn’t be answering the phone.” @LisaWells @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“Instead of just slapping a label on it, what I’d like to do is to work toward asking him, “Tell me what you’re feeling right now.” … at least we can work through feelings rather than slapping a label on it and just saying, “Well, then, there’s nothing we can do about it.”” @LisaWells @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

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Topics Discussed:

• Coping strategies for caregivers
• “Empathy with boundaries”
• Doing away with judgement
• Dealing with your child self-medicating
• Raising multiple children when one has severe health issues
• NAMI; the importance of peer support for caregivers

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Suicide Hotlines:

USA: 1-800-273-8255
USA Crisis (Text): 741-741
Canada: 1-833-456-4566
United Kingdom: 116-123
Australia: 13-11-14
International Suicide Hotlines:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines

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Connect with us!

• Website: https://hopetorecharge.com/
• Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2079694042156503/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matanajacobs/

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3 WAYS THAT YOU CAN HELP THE PODCAST:

1) Subscribe via iTunes and leave a review.  It costs nothing. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hope-to-recharge/id1464788845

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2) Spread the word via social media.   It costs nothing.

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• Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2079694042156503/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matanajacobs/

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3) Subscribe to us on:

• iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hope-to-recharge/id1464788845
• Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/00AIhRZOxKNOvenz32gGeK
• Stitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/heather-parady-2/hope-to-recharge
• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_DkYMcco7pSrkKk6wU5p7w

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Today’s episode of Hope to Recharge is sponsored by https://Betterhelp.com/hopetorecharge. 

Betterhelp.com is the world’s leading provider of online therapy. Their mission is to make professional counseling accessible, affordable, and convenient, so anyone who struggles with life’s challenges can get help, anytime, anywhere.

Head to https://Betterhelp.com/hopetorecharge for 10% off your first month of services. IMPORTANT: Be sure to click this link in order to get the 10% off code.

When Brina and Paul began to date, he was magnetic and charming. They had a connection from the first moment together having a drink. People at work had complained about Paul, saying he was aggressive and difficult. Brina never witnessed that side of him until about 6 months into their relationship, after Paul had too much to drink at a party. Not long after, Paul was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, after having been together almost 4 years and they had just gotten engaged.

Brina knows every side of him, so when he begins to act in unexpected or scary ways, she is able to see the hurting child within, who just wants to be loved. Often, his emotions and expressions don’t match. He might be feeling happy, but he displays anger, because he breaks things. If he’s feeling angry, he displays deep sadness, sobbing. With the help of therapists, Brina has learned how to help him communicate his emotions and needs and to accept and honor her needs as well.  She has learned to communicate clearly with him what her plans and boundaries are, so that he feels less abandoned when she needs to do something “without him”. 

I asked Brina if she ever feels guilty for triggering a mental health episode in Paul’s life. She explained to me how she understands that she is not responsible for the emotional response Paul might have to a choice that she has made. However, if she knows that something is likely to trigger him, she feels that she does have a responsibility, to at least prepare to make that choice, in the safest way possible. If Paul ever feels that Brina has knowingly hurt him, or vice versa, together, they choose a time when they can both calmly have a conversation about what happened.  

Brina shared with me how much Paul has given to her and changed her life for the better. He is fun, energetic, and brilliant. When Brina comes up with  a hair-brained idea, he takes it as an intellectual challenge and figures out how to make it happen. Paul is able to draw her out of her shell, in ways she never thought possible. Without him, she might never have felt comfortable being on a podcast like this! Despite all the challenges, Paul has given her confidence and permission to dream of her own success.

Thank you for listening to Hope to Recharge! if we are important to you, help us out and Leave us a review on iTunes. It makes a huge difference!

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Work 1 on 1 with Matana - With our 1 on 1 coaching program, you can work directly with Matana. Get a free 30-minute fitting tryout call to see if this is right for you. You do not have to walk through your mental health struggle alone. Because as always, together is better!

There is no substitute for a listening ear. Get Your Free 30 Minute, 1 on 1 Consultation Today.

https://hopetorecharge.com/1on1/

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As we all know, sharing can help others. We are here to support each other and to learn from each other. In mental health, Together is better.

If you need more support in your mental health journey please reach out to us in our private Facebook group.

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Interested in joining our monthly Mastermind Group? 

Find out more info here! www.hopetorecharge.com/Mastermind

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Connect with Brina:

Facebook

Instagram

Quotes:

“People that live with Borderline don’t have to be alone.” @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“Never go to the same therapist as your partner… they have this bias going into my treatment based on how they had treated him.” @BrinaMcNally @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“Give yourself grace. Not every moment am I going to be madly in love with him. Not every moment am I going to have the most compassion for him, and not every moment am I going to keep my temper and my cool with him.”  @BrinaMcNally @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“Abandonment is a huge issue for people with Borderline. Any time there’s a perceived abandonment -- it doesn’t even have to be an actual abandonment. It could just be you’re getting up to go to the next room, and they’re like, “Wait! Where are you going??”” @BrinaMcNally @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

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Topics Discussed:

• How Brina came to be in a relationship with someone who has BPD
• Seeing loved ones as people who are hurting and struggling to communicate
• The misconceptions people have about those with BPD
• How to lovingly support someone with BPD and still take care of yourself

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Today’s episode of Hope to Recharge is sponsored by https://Betterhelp.com/hopetorecharge. 

Betterhelp.com is the world’s leading provider of online therapy. Their mission is to make professional counseling accessible, affordable, and convenient, so anyone who struggles with life’s challenges can get help, anytime, anywhere.

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Hannah Galliers has navigated through her journey with Borderline Personality Disorder, known in the United Kingdom as Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder (EUPD). Although Hannah's official diagnosis with BPD was recent, she has been on a healing journey through meditation and mindfulness practices and other therapies for several years. As with many people with BPD, she grew up in a broken environment where she was not allowed to process emotion. In college, she faced recovery from sexual assault, and shortly after, one of her best friends passed away. The realization that the path she was walking might lead to her death, pushed her to seek support for her mental health.

It has taken years for Hannah to finally receive the official diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder. Her upbeat demeanor and lack of skills to recognize and communicate her feelings kept the depth of her struggle from being recognized by both herself and the professionals she interacted with. Finally, when she got in to see a psychiatrist about a possible ADHD diagnosis, that doctor redirected her to BPD. Unfortunately, the best-known treatment for this disorder (DBT) is not readily available in England, so Hannah has not yet begun that course. The practices that have served her best in coping with BPD have been placing consistent structure in her day, reflecting on her long-term progress, and keeping her mindset open and positive.

Hannah started this journey without a lot of support, but as she has chosen to be open about her struggles and work hard to feel better, she found the love of her life. She and her partner Michael, have a baby and a home and will soon be married. Michael has been very patient with her and been able to recognize when the illness is talking and not his beloved Hannah. Together, they navigated through pregnancy that was made more difficult not only by BPD but also COVID lockdown. Before Michael, she had typical experiences with romantic relationships: the ups and downs, emotional breakups, and instability… but today, there is hope. People like Michael do exist out there, who are willing to communicate, take everything with a grain of salt and a pound of patience, and to keep their loved one with BPD accountable to do what they need to feel better.

Thank you for listening to Hope to Recharge! if we are important to you, help us out and Leave us a review on iTunes. It makes a huge difference!

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Work 1 on 1 with Matana - With our 1 on 1 coaching program, you can work directly with Matana. Get a free 30-minute fitting tryout call to see if this is right for you. You do not have to walk through your mental health struggle alone. Because as always, together is better!

There is no substitute for a listening ear. Get Your Free 30 Minute, 1 on 1 Consultation Today.

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Connect with Hannah:

Facebook: Hannah Galliers

Instagram: @Hannah Galliers

Website: www.mymindfulnesscoach.co.uk/

Quotes:

“Everything that I’ve been through has led me to this moment, and everything I have now, I’m very grateful for, and I wouldn’t change it for anything.” @HannahLucyGalliers @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“Part of my recovery is owning my truth and accepting it rather than just ignoring what’s going on”. @HannahLucyGalliers @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“It’s all bad stories. All you hear is about how, the people who are really ill and really need help, all you hear is about how they’re manipulative and trying to seek attention, when, actually, coming through my eyes, they just want to be loved half the time, and they just haven’t really received that in their life” @HannahLucyGalliers @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“If you only love yourself 10%, if someone loves you 20%, that seems amazing. But if you love yourself 100%, someone’s really gotta get up there to be amazing. And don’t settle because you’re worth so much more”. @HannahLucyGalliers @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

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Topics Discussed:

• Borderline Personality Disorder (Emotionally Unstable
• Personality Disorder)
  
• The struggle to be diagnosed and find treatment
  
• Romantic relationships with BPD
  
• Pregnancy with BPD

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Suicide Hotlines:

USA: 1-800-273-8255
USA Crisis (Text): 741-741
Canada: 1-833-456-4566
United Kingdom: 116-123
Australia: 13-11-14
International Suicide Hotlines:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines

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Today’s episode of Hope to Recharge is sponsored by https://Betterhelp.com/hopetorecharge. 

Betterhelp.com is the world’s leading provider of online therapy. Their mission is to make professional counseling accessible, affordable, and convenient, so anyone who struggles with life’s challenges can get help, anytime, anywhere.

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Debbie DeMarco Bennett grew up in a difficult home situation and moved to foster care as a teen. She went through her own Hell, and chose to go back, to help those who live there. For Debbie, recovery started with a diagnosis. She was hospitalized with dehydration. Because her emotions were so strong, her nerves caused her to throw everything up. Her partner and her best friend came to the E.R. and told her, that if she didn’t figure out what was causing these emotional responses and get help, they would abandon her. She told the hospital staff what her mental state was. The psychiatrist recognized some of her symptoms, did a diagnostic checklist, and diagnosed her with BPD. Debbie was relieved that there was a name for what she was experiencing, that she wasn’t the only one, and that the doctor had given her this hope: there was a treatment created specifically for people with her disorder called Dialectical Behavior Therapy, and their hospital had groups where she could go through the skills training course.

As she began recovery, Debbie started writing a blog and created a Twitter account where she processed and documented what she learned. Her hope, was that another human might read her account and relate to her story. Soon, she had thousands of followers and messages pouring in from readers, many of whom were asking how they could access a therapy group. She realized she could offer them the hope that she had found, and started DBT Path. Now, dozen staff members later, they are able to offer DBT groups and other supports to people who are currently struggling in the same way she had been just a few years ago.

There is hope for those with Borderline Personality Disorder and their communities. People with BPD have often been through horrific amounts of trauma and just may be some of the strongest people alive. They are waiting to be given a chance to heal, improve their lives, and contribute all the good they have to offer to their communities. People with BPD are so often immediately dismissed as a “hopeless case” or rejected and feared because of their unexpected behaviors. The stigma around this diagnosis is stronger than of almost any other mental illness. However, with education and proof of recovery, that stigma is slowly lifting. As people are able to find the right support system and persevere towards healing, the illness is not as destructive.

Thank you for listening to Hope to Recharge! if we are important to you, help us out and Leave us a review on iTunes. It makes a huge difference!

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Work 1 on 1 with Matana - With our 1 on 1 coaching program, you can work directly with Matana. Get a free 30-minute fitting tryout call to see if this is right for you. You do not have to walk through your mental health struggle alone. Because as always, together is better!

There is no substitute for a listening ear. Get Your Free 30 Minute, 1 on 1 Consultation Today.

https://hopetorecharge.com/1on1/

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As we all know, sharing can help others. We are here to support each other and to learn from each other. In mental health, Together is better.

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Connect with Debbie:

Emotionallysensitive.com

Phone: 415-326-DBT5

Email: [email protected]

Facebook:@EmotionallySensitive.DBTpath

Twitter: @dbtpath

YouTube: DBTPath

Pinterest: DBT Path

Instagram: @dbtpath

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Quotes:

“I don’t like this, but I can handle it.” @DebbieDeMarcoBennett @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“There’s not a lot of sympathy or a good understanding for people with this disorder... Education is needed. These are hurting people.” @DebbieDeMarcoBennett @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“They were never taught how to regulate their emotions, and they were never taught how to handle the different things that come up within them. How are they supposed to know unless someone is willing to meet them where they’re at-- even if they’re being nasty, even if they’re having trouble with lying or cutting themselves…? Somebody has to meet this person right where they’re at and love them and care for them and show them respect and have that empathy and that space to listen and to begin to help them”.  @DebbieDeMarcoBennett @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

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Topics Discussed:

• Why BPD is so stigmatized
• Hope for those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder
• The benefits of DBT groups

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Suicide Hotlines:

USA: 1-800-273-8255
USA Crisis (Text): 741-741
Canada: 1-833-456-4566
United Kingdom: 116-123
Australia: 13-11-14
International Suicide Hotlines:
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Today’s episode of Hope to Recharge is sponsored by https://Betterhelp.com/hopetorecharge. 

Betterhelp.com is the world’s leading provider of online therapy. Their mission is to make professional counseling accessible, affordable, and convenient, so anyone who struggles with life’s challenges can get help, anytime, anywhere.

Head to https://Betterhelp.com/hopetorecharge for 10% off your first month of services. IMPORTANT: Be sure to click this link in order to get the 10% off code.

In this short solo episode, Matana outlines the coming episodes dedicated to discussing Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) with those affected by it. From being diagnoses to determining the elusive diagnosis, this crippling disorder causes shame, panic and few known treatment options. The stigma is real, but those suffering need not be alone. Join us in upcoming episodes and hear firsthand how those affected are determined to persevere.

After a close friend loses her eldest son, Matana flew in to be there with her in time of tragedy. While Passover was too short of a Holiday, it provided the needed time to reflect about the important things in life and how we can each make a difference to those hurting around us.

Thank you for listening to Hope to Recharge! if we are important to you, help us out and Leave us a review on iTunes. It makes a huge difference!

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Work 1 on 1 with Matana - With our 1 on 1 coaching program, you can work directly with Matana. Get a free 30-minute fitting tryout call to see if this is right for you. You do not have to walk through your mental health struggle alone. Because as always, together is better!

There is no substitute for a listening ear. Get Your Free 30 Minute, 1 on 1 Consultation Today.

https://hopetorecharge.com/1on1/

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As we all know, sharing can help others. We are here to support each other and to learn from each other. In mental health, Together is better.

If you need more support in your mental health journey please reach out to us in our private Facebook group.

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Interested in joining our monthly Mastermind Group? 

Find out more info here! www.hopetorecharge.com/Mastermind

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USA Crisis (Text): 741-741
Canada: 1-833-456-4566
United Kingdom: 116-123
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Today’s episode of Hope to Recharge is sponsored by https://Betterhelp.com/hopetorecharge. 

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Within the next 24 hours, more than 3,000 teenagers in the United States will attempt to take their own lives. Seventeen of them will succeed. Jackie Simmons' daughter, Stephanie, shared that statistic when delivering a speech which would change lives and inspire teens to come together with Stephanie's sisters and to create, "The Teen Suicide Prevention Society."

When Stephanie was 14, she attempted suicide for the first time. Over the next several years, her mother placed her in different types of treatment programs, but never spoke with her directly about what she was going through. When Stephanie stood up and gave that speech, Jackie realized her huge mistake. Her daughter suggested to the audience, the solution to teen suicidality was prevention, not intervention, and that kids should be talked to about mental health, suicide, and strategies to deal with any difficulties they encounter before they were having a problem with it.

That is the basis of their society. Today, they train people to be emotionally and mentally resilient and provide tools to talk with loved ones about suicide, before it appears to be a problem. Those who join the Teen Suicide Prevention Society receive a script on talking with their teens about suicide, tools to learn about where they stand, and to learn skills in mental and emotional resilience, and support from trained and professional staff. Joining is free, and access to most of the programs they offer are also free of charge.

Thank you for listening to Hope to Recharge! if we are important to you, help us out and Leave us a review on iTunes. It makes a huge difference!

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Work 1 on 1 with Matana - With our 1 on 1 coaching program, you can work directly with Matana. Get a free 30-minute fitting tryout call to see if this is right for you. You do not have to walk through your mental health struggle alone. Because as always, together is better!

There is no substitute for a listening ear. Get Your Free 30 Minute, 1 on 1 Consultation Today.

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As we all know, sharing can help others. We are here to support each other and to learn from each other. In mental health, Together is better.

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Connect with Jackie:

Learn about & Join the Society

YouTube Channel

Jackie's Facebook

Make a Donation

Jackie's Book on Amazon: "Make it a Great Day"

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Quotes:

“[I am] able to say with absolute certainty, that the silence on this topic is killing us. It's deadly.” @JackieSimmons @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“Here's a myth: people who attempt to die by suicide, whether they die or not, they're not looking to die. They just can't figure out how to live. They just don't know how to live with the pain… It's not a fascination with death. It is literally, that's the only option they can see in that moment.” @JackieSimmons @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“What if there's no sign of struggle? … the first sign is often a [suicide] attempt.“ @JackieSimmons @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“The reality is according to Freud, suicidal thoughts are normal. They're part of the natural problem solving abilities of the brain. They're part of our worst case scenario mechanism. They are there for a reason they can spur problem-solving if we let it.” @JackieSimmons @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

“Whatever age your kid is now, now is the right time to start… we can't afford to wait. We can't afford to wait for there to be signs, for us to think that there's a risk factor, for there to be some reason to have the talk.” The reason to have the talk about suicide is because they're still breathing. @JackieSimmons @MatanaJacobs #HopetoRecharge

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Topics Discussed:

• Teen suicidality
• Talking about suicide with loved ones
• Building emotional and mental resilience
• Preventing suicide proactively, not just reacting to an attempt or cry for help

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Suicide Hotlines:

USA: 1-800-273-8255
USA Crisis (Text): 741-741
Canada: 1-833-456-4566
United Kingdom: 116-123
Australia: 13-11-14
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines

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Today’s episode of Hope to Recharge is sponsored by https://Betterhelp.com/hopetorecharge. 

Betterhelp.com is the world’s leading provider of online therapy. Their mission is to make professional counseling accessible, affordable, and convenient, so anyone who struggles with life’s challenges can get help, anytime, anywhere.

Head to https://Betterhelp.com/hopetorecharge for 10% off your first month of services. IMPORTANT: Be sure to click this link in order to get the 10% off code.