200 Shari Brase-Smith RN, MS on Hospice Education, Facility Care, and Having Hard Conversations

Host Marie Betcher, a registered nurse and former hospice nurse, marks episode 200 of Hospice Explained with guest Shari Brase-Smith RN, MS, a hospice nurse, educator, and author. Shari recounts her nursing background since 1978 and how the rapid deaths of her husband and mother shaped her understanding of end-of-life needs, emphasizing that even experienced clinicians are often unprepared because healthcare and society focus on curing and avoid dying discussions. She describes why families and facility staff lack clear, practical guidance on what dying looks like, symptom management, and when to involve hospice, especially in nursing homes and assisted living. Shari explains her books are organized for quick, crisis-time answers, highlights the importance of conversations about wishes and forgiveness, and shares her Christian-focused poetry book on grief and hope.

00:00 Welcome and Disclaimer

00:29 Episode 200 Guest Intro

02:27 Shari's Nursing Journey

03:31 Personal Loss and Whirlwind

07:24 Why End-of-Life Education Matters

11:24 Books Filling the Resource Gap

17:02 Eating and Drinking at End of Life

19:17 Starting Hard Conversations

23:27 Forgiveness and Peace

27:28 Helping Facility Staff Work With Hospice

32:09 Poetry Faith and Grief

37:21 Closing Thanks and Subscribe

https://sharibrase-smith.com/

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Maire introduces a partnership with Suzanne Mayer RN inventor of the cloud9caresystem.com, When patients remain in the same position for extended periods, they are at high risk of developing pressure injuries, commonly known as bedsores. One of the biggest challenges caregivers face is the tendency for pillows and repositioning inserts to easily dislodge during care.(Suzanne is a former guest on Episode #119)

When you order with Cloud 9 care system, please tell them you heard about them from Hospice Explained.(Thank You)

Marie's Contact [email protected] www.HospiceExplained.com

Finding a Hospice Agency

1. You can use Medicare.gov to help find a hospice agency,

2. choose Find provider

3. Choose Hospice

4. then add your zip code

This should be a list of Hospice Agencies local to you or your loved one.

199 At What Point Do We Say Stop? A Brother's Death, CPR Trauma, and Why End-of-Life Wishes Must Be Discussed Early with Gabrielle Elise (Gabby) Jimenez

Host Marie Betcher welcomes back hospice and palliative care nurse, end-of-life doula, and The Hospice Heart founder Gabrielle Elise (Gabby) Jimenez to share the story of her brother Ben's death and why earlier end-of-life conversations matter. After years of estrangement, Gabby spent 18 days at Ben's bedside as he was mostly nonresponsive on a ventilator and tube feeds, then briefly woke and repeatedly said "yes" to escalating life-sustaining measures, creating conflict between what Gabby believed he'd want and what he voiced. When Ben suddenly deteriorated, Gabby arrived to find a chaotic CPR code and ultimately told the team to stop, allowing Ben's final minutes to be quieter with his daughter. They discuss how traumatic and violent CPR can be for medically fragile patients, how staff must follow expressed wishes without prior directives, and the importance of advance directives, POLST/MOST forms, and clearly communicated plans so loved ones can confidently honor a person's choices.

00:00 Welcome and Disclaimer

00:29 Meet Host and Guest

02:31 Ben Hospitalized Reunion

04:16 Wakes Up and Choices

07:51 Code Blue Saying Stop

10:38 Aftermath and Regrets

12:22 CPR Trauma Explained

20:08 Advance Planning Tools

26:58 Marie's Brothers Story

32:08 When CPR Helps or Hurts

34:47 Have the Conversation

36:12 Final Takeaways and Goodbye

https://www.thehospiceheart.net/

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Maire introduces a partnership with Suzanne Mayer RN inventor of the cloud9caresystem.com, When patients remain in the same position for extended periods, they are at high risk of developing pressure injuries, commonly known as bedsores. One of the biggest challenges caregivers face is the tendency for pillows and repositioning inserts to easily dislodge during care.(Suzanne is a former guest on Episode #119)

When you order with Cloud 9 care system, please tell them you heard about them from Hospice Explained.(Thank You)

Marie's Contact [email protected] www.HospiceExplained.com

Finding a Hospice Agency

1. You can use Medicare.gov to help find a hospice agency,

2. choose Find provider

3. Choose Hospice

4. then add your zip code

This should be a list of Hospice Agencies local to you or your loved one.

198 Hospice Explained: Eric Horwith on End-of-Life Planning and Navigating Grief

Host Marie Betcher, a registered nurse and former hospice nurse, interviews Eric Horwith, a social worker and UPMC regional director of business development who focuses on improving timely access to hospice, palliative care, and home health services and teaches at the University of Pittsburgh. Eric shares how his father's unexpected death forced urgent end-of-life decisions without advance planning, reinforcing the need for earlier conversations and legal documents. He describes his mother's peaceful death at 83 and his subsequent intense grief, which led him to write the Amazon-available guide, "Grief Exists Because Love Persists: Navigating Life After Loss," emphasizing grief as individualized and something to move through while honoring a loved one's legacy. Eric outlines his university course covering hospice, palliative care, organ donation, autopsy, cultural considerations, and advance care planning. He advises researching hospice providers, noting hospice is a benefit regardless of ability to pay and highlighting publicly reported quality metrics.

00:00 Welcome and Disclaimer

00:41 Meet Eric Horwith

02:33 Eric's Story and Calling

04:56 Sudden Loss and Planning Ahead

07:41 Mom's Peaceful Passing

09:23 Why He Wrote the Grief Guide

10:06 Grief Exists Because Love Persists

12:28 Grief Nuggets and Marathon Metaphor

15:37 Honoring Barbara's Legacy

16:42 Teaching Death and Dying

24:07 Hospice Access for Underserved

28:13 Final Takeaways and Goodbye

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Maire introduces a partnership with Suzanne Mayer RN inventor of the cloud9caresystem.com, When patients remain in the same position for extended periods, they are at high risk of developing pressure injuries, commonly known as bedsores. One of the biggest challenges caregivers face is the tendency for pillows and repositioning inserts to easily dislodge during care.(Suzanne is a former guest on Episode #119)

When you order with Cloud 9 care system, please tell them you heard about them from Hospice Explained.(Thank You)

Marie's Contact [email protected] www.HospiceExplained.com

Finding a Hospice Agency

1. You can use Medicare.gov to help find a hospice agency,

2. choose Find provider

3. Choose Hospice

4. then add your zip code

This should be a list of Hospice Agencies local to you or your loved one.

197 Author Dr. Jerry Woodbridge on Children's Grief, Widowhood, and Writing the Loved, Lost, Won Series

In Hospice Explained episode 197, host Marie Betcher, a registered nurse and former hospice nurse, interviews educator and author Dr. Jerry Woodbridge about grief, faith, and her writing. Dr. Jerry shares her background in education and educational technology, her sudden widowhood in 2004 when her husband died one day after a colon cancer diagnosis, and the impact on her children, including her son's unspoken panic attacks and a difficult move from Florida to Indiana. She describes how journaling, faith, and ballroom dancing supported her grief, leading to her widow's devotional Trading My Sorrows for the Joy of the Lord. Prompted by a TEDx conversation, she wrote the children's grief novel Joy Overcame Sorrow with a companion Joy's Journal, and released book two, The Intersection, about twin loss and survivor's guilt. She is also researching a future book about a military family's loss and emphasizes moving between sorrow and joy through love.

00:00 Welcome and Disclaimer

00:38 Meet Dr. Jerry Woodbridge

03:21 Sudden Loss and Widowhood

05:38 Parenting Through Grief

10:15 Adoption and Added Complexity

10:53 Writing Through Grief

14:55 Joy Overcame Sorrow

19:26 The Intersection Twin Loss

22:35 Anticipatory Grief and Faith

24:38 Turning Pain Into Purpose

26:28 Final Reflections and Goodbye

https://www.drjerrylwoodbridge.com/books

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Maire introduces a partnership with Suzanne Mayer RN inventor of the cloud9caresystem.com, When patients remain in the same position for extended periods, they are at high risk of developing pressure injuries, commonly known as bedsores. One of the biggest challenges caregivers face is the tendency for pillows and repositioning inserts to easily dislodge during care.(Suzanne is a former guest on Episode #119)

When you order with Cloud 9 care system, please tell them you heard about them from Hospice Explained.(Thank You)

Marie's Contact [email protected] www.HospiceExplained.com

Finding a Hospice Agency

1. You can use Medicare.gov to help find a hospice agency,

2. choose Find provider

3. Choose Hospice

4. then add your zip code

This should be a list of Hospice Agencies local to you or your loved one.

196 Six-Year Anniversary Reflections and CPR Considerations at End of Life

In episode 196 of Hospice Explained, host Marie Betcher, a registered nurse and former hospice nurse, marks what she considers the podcast's six-year anniversary since beginning work on it in August 2020 and reflects on how it grew far beyond the 20 episodes she originally expected. She highlights a recent Facebook post from The Hospice Heart by nurse educator Gabby Jimenez about her brother's end-of-life and CPR experience, encourages listeners to read it, and notes plans to invite Gabby back after her prior appearance on episode 168. Marie discusses key considerations about CPR at end of life, especially for elderly patients, including risks like fractures due to weakened bones and low likelihood (less than 5%) of leaving the hospital after CPR, urging families to discuss these realities in advance. She invites listeners to share personal stories by emailing her.

00:00 Welcome and Disclaimer

00:29 Episode Intro and Host

00:49 Six Year Podcast Milestone

01:42 Gabby Jimenez Spotlight

02:37 CPR End of Life Realities

03:09 Risks for Elderly Patients

03:35 Making the CPR Decision

04:28 Share Your Story Invite

05:25 Closing Thanks and Subscribe

https://cprcertificationnow.com/blogs/mycpr-now-blog/cpr-for-the-elderly-special-techniques-and-considerations

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Maire introduces a partnership with Suzanne Mayer RN inventor of the cloud9caresystem.com, When patients remain in the same position for extended periods, they are at high risk of developing pressure injuries, commonly known as bedsores. One of the biggest challenges caregivers face is the tendency for pillows and repositioning inserts to easily dislodge during care.(Suzanne is a former guest on Episode #119)

When you order with Cloud 9 care system, please tell them you heard about them from Hospice Explained.(Thank You)

Marie's Contact [email protected] www.HospiceExplained.com

Finding a Hospice Agency

1. You can use Medicare.gov to help find a hospice agency,

2. choose Find provider

3. Choose Hospice

4. then add your zip code

This should be a list of Hospice Agencies local to you or your loved one.

195 Funeral Planning, Grief, and Hospice: Bob Arrington on Why Celebrating a Life Matters

Host Marie Betcher, a registered nurse and former hospice nurse, interviews Bob Arrington, NFDA spokesperson and longtime Tennessee funeral director, about how funeral service supports the grief journey and why planning matters. Arrington explains that families don't call a funeral director just to bury or cremate, but to begin adjusting to a "new normal," and that skipping any kind of service often makes grief harder for family and community. He encourages pausing to honor a life even with simple gatherings, and stresses that pre-planning (not necessarily pre-paying) reduces emotional stress by preventing loved ones from making major decisions in crisis. They discuss hospice as a major benefit that supports care and dying at home, grief resources through NFDA and Alan Wolfelt, the importance of individualized grief timelines, and NFDA's "Have the Talk of a Lifetime" conversation cards.

00:00 Welcome and Disclaimer

00:28 Meet Host Marie

00:41 Introducing Bob Arrington

02:47 Bob's Funeral Calling

03:59 Why Services Matter

08:57 Community Grief Ripples

11:53 Grief Support Resources

15:37 When Grief Becomes Physical

17:53 Funeral Process Explained

21:49 Preplanning Without Fear

27:45 Prepay vs Emotional Relief

31:05 Hospice and Final Takeaways

33:06 Contact and Closing

https://www.nfda.org/

Link to Bob's episode "Death It's a Living"

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt3573530/

https://www.nfda.org/your-business/business-resources/remembering-a-life/have-the-talk-of-a-lifetime/conversation-cards/

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Maire introduces a partnership with Suzanne Mayer RN inventor of the cloud9caresystem.com, When patients remain in the same position for extended periods, they are at high risk of developing pressure injuries, commonly known as bedsores. One of the biggest challenges caregivers face is the tendency for pillows and repositioning inserts to easily dislodge during care.(Suzanne is a former guest on Episode #119)

When you order with Cloud 9 care system, please tell them you heard about them from Hospice Explained.(Thank You)

Marie's Contact [email protected] www.HospiceExplained.com

Finding a Hospice Agency

1. You can use Medicare.gov to help find a hospice agency,

2. choose Find provider

3. Choose Hospice

4. then add your zip code

This should be a list of Hospice Agencies local to you or your loved one.

194 Pet Grief and Disenfranchised Loss (with Hospice Chaplain Jessica Shannon)

Host Marie Betcher, a registered nurse and former hospice nurse, interviews board-certified hospice chaplain and author Jessica Shannon in episode 194, focusing on pet grief. They discuss pet loss as "disenfranchised grief," often experienced as lonely and minimized by society, and describe anticipatory grief that begins as pets age and decline. Jessica explains how pet grief can be as intense as human loss, may trigger cumulative grief when an animal is tied to a deceased loved one, and includes grieving routines and caregiving roles after a pet dies. She shares her experience losing multiple dogs and the impact of euthanasia decisions, notes that surviving pets also grieve, and offers guidance to acknowledge the grief as real, allow time, and not rush into getting another pet. Jessica also mentions her memoir, The Sum of Grief: A Daughter's Memoir, about "grief math," which includes animals' roles in coping with loss.

00:00 Welcome and Disclaimer

00:29 Meet Host and Guest

01:37 Why Pet Grief Matters

03:38 Anticipatory Grief Signs

05:41 Lonely Disenfranchised Loss

07:09 Stories of Multiple Losses

10:09 Pets as Connections

14:42 Routine and Caregiver Role

16:49 Rehoming After Death

19:28 Practical Pet Grief Tips

21:43 Animals Grieve Too

22:36 Book Plug and Wrap-Up

23:55 Final Thanks and Outro

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Maire introduces a partnership with Suzanne Mayer RN inventor of the cloud9caresystem.com, When patients remain in the same position for extended periods, they are at high risk of developing pressure injuries, commonly known as bedsores. One of the biggest challenges caregivers face is the tendency for pillows and repositioning inserts to easily dislodge during care.(Suzanne is a former guest on Episode #119)

When you order with Cloud 9 care system, please tell them you heard about them from Hospice Explained.(Thank You)

Marie's Contact [email protected] www.HospiceExplained.com

Finding a Hospice Agency

1. You can use Medicare.gov to help find a hospice agency,

2. choose Find provider

3. Choose Hospice

4. then add your zip code

This should be a list of Hospice Agencies local to you or your loved one.

193 From Grief Math to Spiritual Play: A Journey with Chaplain Jessica Shannon

Hospice Explained host Marie Betcher (RN and former hospice nurse) interviews board-certified chaplain, writer, certified grief coach, and hospice bereavement coordinator Jessica Shannon. Jessica explains how chaplains provide interfaith support without proselytizing and help families find hope in whatever sustains them, including in complex situations where family members draw on different sources such as faith or science. She describes pediatric spiritual play—rooted in child development and adapted from Jerome Berryman's Godly Play—using tools like bibliotherapy, coloring prompts, and "emotional Uno" to help children express feelings and process illness and grief, sometimes facilitating honest family conversations about dying. Jessica also discusses adapting these approaches for adult bereavement support and introduces her book, The Sum of Grief, based on her mother's sudden death when Jessica was 17years old, and her later experience of "grief math" as she approached her mother's age at death, with a future episode planned on pet loss.

00:00 Welcome and Disclaimer

00:29 Meet Host and Guest

03:53 Chaplaincy and Bereavement Role

07:07 Pediatric Spiritual Play Basics

08:42 Bibliotherapy Case Story

10:44 Working With Parents Too

13:27 Interfaith Support and Hope

15:57 Spiritual Play Tools and Games

23:28 Adapting Play for Adults

25:41 Her Book and Grief Math

34:47 Closing and Pet Loss Teaser

36:40 Final Thanks and Subscribe

https://www.sutrahouse.com/books/cml077vxw0000lb04pa71ymyu

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Maire introduces a partnership with Suzanne Mayer RN inventor of the cloud9caresystem.com, When patients remain in the same position for extended periods, they are at high risk of developing pressure injuries, commonly known as bedsores. One of the biggest challenges caregivers face is the tendency for pillows and repositioning inserts to easily dislodge during care.(Suzanne is a former guest on Episode #119)

When you order with Cloud 9 care system, please tell them you heard about them from Hospice Explained.(Thank You)

Marie's Contact [email protected] www.HospiceExplained.com

Finding a Hospice Agency

1. You can use Medicare.gov to help find a hospice agency,

2. choose Find provider

3. Choose Hospice

4. then add your zip code

This should be a list of Hospice Agencies local to you or your loved one.

192: Cynthia Cisneros on Home Hospice, Symptom Management, and Team Support

Host Marie Betcher, a registered nurse and former hospice nurse, interviews Cynthia Cisneros RN in episode 192 about her nursing career and hospice experience. Cynthia describes studying at UCLA, earning a nursing degree in 1981, and working in orthopedics, pediatrics, oncology, and with early AIDS patients before moving into home health and then hospice, where she was mentored by a pioneer nurse, Margaret, and later worked in palliative care and home hospice evaluations. Cynthia emphasizes that families often wish they had started hospice sooner because it brings peace through symptom management, education, and emotional support from the full interdisciplinary team, including social workers, chaplains, pharmacists, and volunteers. She discusses the benefits of home hospice—control, no visiting hours, and 24/7 on-call nurse support—along with concerns about inconsistent comfort-med dosing in facilities and the need for education, including reassurance that morphine provides comfort and does not kill patients.

00:00 Welcome and Disclaimer

00:43 Meet Cynthia Cisneros RN

02:40 From Oncology to Hospice

03:58 Why Hospice Helps

05:37 The Hospice Team

06:37 Volunteers and Nurse Humor

07:43 Home Hospice Benefits

10:13 Morphine Myths and Facilities

13:19 On Call Support at Night

14:21 When Death Often Happens

16:03 Learn Before You Need It

16:41 Margaret and Early Hospice

18:33 Closing and Subscribe

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Maire introduces a partnership with Suzanne Mayer RN inventor of the cloud9caresystem.com, When patients remain in the same position for extended periods, they are at high risk of developing pressure injuries, commonly known as bedsores. One of the biggest challenges caregivers face is the tendency for pillows and repositioning inserts to easily dislodge during care.(Suzanne is a former guest on Episode #119)

When you order with Cloud 9 care system, please tell them you heard about them from Hospice Explained.(Thank You)

Marie's Contact [email protected] www.HospiceExplained.com

Finding a Hospice Agency

1. You can use Medicare.gov to help find a hospice agency,

2. choose Find provider

3. Choose Hospice

4. then add your zip code

This should be a list of Hospice Agencies local to you or your loved one.

191 Jack Clifford on EECP, Self-Advocacy, and Supporting Loved Ones at End of Life

Host Marie Betcher, a registered nurse and former hospice nurse, interviews retired US Coast Guard E9 Jack Clifford, author of "EECP: The Most Underutilized Therapy in Medicine," about his experience declining emergency triple-bypass surgery after being hospitalized in January 2021 with severe coronary artery disease and instead pursuing enhanced external counterpulsation (EECP). Jack describes researching options, advocating for a pause in urgent medical "pipelines," and traveling to access EECP before financing a home machine and using it nearly daily, reporting improvements he attributes to vascular/endothelial effects. He shares resources (eecplocator.com and his books, offering free copies by email) and discusses end-of-life support: meeting people where they are, respecting decisions to continue or stop treatment, reducing isolation by simply sitting with someone, and focusing on quality time and acceptance. He also recounts his grandmother and uncle with Parkinson's choosing voluntary stopping of eating and drinking and dying peacefully.

00:00 Welcome and Disclaimer

00:29 Meet Marie and Jack

02:47 Facing Emergency Bypass

05:18 Researching Alternatives

06:28 What Is EECP

08:10 Daily Treatment Mission

09:10 Listening to Symptoms

09:54 How to Reach Jack

10:51 Navigating Life Threats

14:31 A Peaceful Passing Story

15:56 Voluntary Stopping Eating

17:27 Caregiver Purpose and Presence

19:50 Loneliness and Simple Help

21:29 Final Advice and Wrap Up

23:27 Closing and Subscribe

https://eecplocator.com/

https://eecpbook.com/

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Maire introduces a partnership with Suzanne Mayer RN inventor of the cloud9caresystem.com, When patients remain in the same position for extended periods, they are at high risk of developing pressure injuries, commonly known as bedsores. One of the biggest challenges caregivers face is the tendency for pillows and repositioning inserts to easily dislodge during care.(Suzanne is a former guest on Episode #119)

When you order with Cloud 9 care system, please tell them you heard about them from Hospice Explained.(Thank You)

Marie's Contact [email protected] www.HospiceExplained.com

Finding a Hospice Agency

1. You can use Medicare.gov to help find a hospice agency,

2. choose Find provider

3. Choose Hospice

4. then add your zip code

This should be a list of Hospice Agencies local to you or your loved one.