Niki Davis-Fainbloom is a sexuality writer, educator and coach. She has worked at Mount Sinai Hospital for the past three years as a lecturer, training students and professionals about consent, sexual violence prevention and sexuality. She writes sex-ed articles for several magazines including Pornhub, Gen X Magazine and Future of Sex. The goal of her writing and workshops is to help people develop the skills to have healthier, sexier and more satisfying romantic and sexual relationships.
In this episode, Niki returns to the You Glow Girl Podcast to discuss the importance of consent in sex and relationships. She shares the misconceptions of consent and how it isn’t just for sex, but in also in our everyday activities. Niki and Valerie share their personal experiences with consent, or lack of. Since the “me too” movement, so many women have shared their personal experiences with sexual harrassment, assualt and rape. In a society where women are told to be modest, act like a lady and where the responsibility is placed on the women - we need to be educated our young adults about respect, consent and mutual exchanges.
Key Takeaways:
-Porn sites have become a form of education for consent and the treatment between a man and a woman when it should merely be treated as an entertainment platform.
-Consent isn’t always verbal and can be translated through body language as well.
-Unless it’s a hell yes, it’s a hell no!
-Being in a relationship doesn’t automatically guarantee consent.
-Consent isn’t just about sex. Consent is needed in every encounter or interaction you have, especially with strangers.
-Giving consent once doesn’t automatically guarantee ongoing consent.
-It is important to respect your partners’ answer the first time,repeatedly asking or guilting someone into a different answer is manipulative and toxic.
-Someone’s appearance, clothing or behavior is not an invitation or sexual harassment.
Consent Tea Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8
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