Hot Girls Cry

Shelsea Sanchez is the founder and CEO of conscious lifestyle brand, Peachyality and The Peachy Way online course. From making body-building history as a former IFBB Bikini Pro, to pouring her focus into running her own salon, Shelsea has spent over 15 years in the beauty and wellness space and nothing has stopped her yet! Shelsea mentors a plethora of women through her online course and by hosting live-streams. With her eager commitment to provide a safe space for humans to feel inspired, empowered and nurtured, she encourages others to live their best life by sharing her tools of taking an inward approach to gaining external success.

In this episode, Shelsea and Valerie define "inner-work" and how personal development can completely transform your external results. Both have experienced pivotal year in their careers and shared how their practices have impacted the trajectory of their lives. From career, to fitness, to finances - becoming self-aware, improving your mental health, practicing meditation and gratitude can change your entire life and outlook.

Key Takeaways:
- Becoming self-aware and forgiving yourself for past mistakes are the first steps towards growth.
- Meditation can help you recognize how you think about yourself and the situations at hand, allowing you to retrain your thought processes.
- Inner-work is not a one time transformation, it's an ongoing and constantly evolving journey.
- Practicing gratitude can transform your mindset and improve your happiness.

Connect with Shelsea:
https://www.instagram.com/shelseasanchez/
Take her course:
https://courses.thepeachyway.co/

Books and resources we mentioned:
The Big Leap - https://www.amazon.com/Big-Leap-Conquer-Hidden-Level/dp/0061735361
Conscious Living - Gay Hendricks - https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B002C949OK&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_jA-0FbBV4P4SN
Becoming Supernatural - Joe Dispenza - https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Supernatural-Common-People-Uncommon/dp/1401953115/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1HBVQLM1D4GMR&dchild=1&keywords=becoming+supernatural&qid=1607722663&s=books&sprefix=becoming+superna%2Cstripbooks%2C174&sr=1-1
You Are The Guru - https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Guru-Difficult-Certainty/dp/B08DSKCXCP
Alive OS Course - Suzy Batiz https://aliveos.suzybatiz.com

On this episode I'm sharing the story of how I quit my 9-5 job, started my company and scaled it to a 6-figure agency in 1 year.
I share ALL the details from how I knew I was ready to quit my job, how I quit, how much monday I had saved, how I got paying clients, how I grew my team and where I'm at now.
I want this to be a super raw and transparent episode! It's the real real for any aspiring entrepreneurs or anybody who is on this journey with me!
I'd love to hear your feedback and if you'd like more solo episodes!

Katie is a personal finance coach who's been blogging about money since 2017 and has worked with more than 50 one-on-one coaching clients. Whether you have a negative balance in your checking account or recently inherited half a million dollars, she's seen (and consulted) through it all. Her mission is to help every woman become obsessed with being in the driver's seat of their finances – and think differently about how to use money as a tool for true happiness.

In this episode, Katie and Valerie discuss how your money mindset comes down to your self-awareness. Katie shares how our relationship with money stems from childhood and the financial situation we grew up in. Valerie and Katie share how social media plays a roll in millennial money habits and how we can get back to the basics in order to gain financial control.

Key Takeaways:
-Think back to childhood in order to better understand your relationship with money.
-Establish what it costs to live your current lifestyle and use that as a baseline to develop better habits.
-Money can be very emotional and plays an impactful role in every aspect of our lives.
-Our lack of education around money can be debilitating.
-Take your power back by establishing your current financial situation, doing research and taking baby steps.

Connect with Katie:
https://www.moneywithkatie.com/
https://www.instagram.com/moneywithkatie/

Taylor Norris is an online fitness coach and entrepreneur. She helps women achieve food freedom and body confidence without binge eating ever again. Her programs have a heavy emphasis on balanced meal plans to avoid any restrictions. If you have repeatedly "fallen off the wagon" or “yo-yo” dieted , Taylor finds what works for you and your lifestyle long-term. She is extremely passionate about helping others feel good, and in turn, look good!

In this episode, Valerie and Taylor discuss diet culture, cultivating a sense of self-love and confidence and how your mindset controls your eating habits. Taylor shares how your lifestyle and confidence changes when you change how you think about yourself. She shares her journey from yo-yo dieting and overthinking her diet to an improved mindset and lifestyle.

Key Takeaways:
- Mindset plays a huge part in your lifestyle.
- Online diet culture is fucked up!
- You become what you think about.
- Stop binge-eating and listen to your body.
- Work with your body, not against it.
- Be kind to yourself as you learn what your body needs.


Connect with Taylor:
https://www.instagram.com/taylornorrisfit/

Jackie Ahern is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist specializing in women's health, eating disorders, mental health nutrition and holistic wellness. She believes that the mind and the body are deeply connected; therefore integrated and holistic care is necessary to support our journey to health and happiness. Her approach encompasses principles of mindful and intuitive eating as well as body positivity. Jackie's goal is to empower women to make healthful, nourishing choices in their nutrition and lifestyle so that they can spend more time focusing on their true passions.

Jackie joins Valerie for another episode to discuss how your nutrition affects the menstrual cycle and can lead to hormonal imbalances. They dive into period myths, how our culture has normalized to have irregular cycles and why nutrition can transform your period from being painful to normal, beautiful cycle.

Key Takeaways:
Track your cycle to know if there are any irregularities that may lead to a hormonal imbalance.
Hormone Imbalances can cause:
Migraines
Cystic acne
Blood clots bigger than a quarter
Having your period less than 3 days or longer than 8 days
Your cycle is a few days longer than usual
-Society taught us to suppress and ignore any issues with your cycle and to expect “bad” symptoms
- You don’t have to go through a painful cycle!
- Birth control isn’t always the cure for hormonal imbalances!
- Depending on your cycle phase, you need different amounts of nutrients.
- Lack of nutrients, fats and calories leads to impaired or lack of ovulation
- Track your symptoms and eat regular meals to prevent any irregularities of your cycle!
- Prioritize your mental health and physical health!

Connect with Jackie:
https://www.jackieahernnutrition.com/
https://www.instagram.com/mindbodyrd/
https://www.facebook.com/jackieahernnutrition/

Jackie Ahern is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist specializing in women's health, eating disorders, mental health nutrition and holistic wellness. She believes that the mind and the body are deeply connected; therefore integrated and holistic care is necessary to support our journey to health and happiness. Her approach encompasses principles of mindful and intuitive eating as well as body positivity. Jackie's goal is to empower women to make healthful, nourishing choices in their nutrition and lifestyle so that they can spend more time focusing on their true passions.

In this episode, Valerie and Jackie discuss the food and diet culture, the three categories of how food plays a role in mental health and tips to transforming your food lifestyle. Jackie dives deep into how your eating habits affect your mental health and how to take back your power from overthinking meals to trusting your body again.

Key Takeaways:
- There can be food trauma because of generational eating habits or childhood memories.
- The 3 categories of how food plays a role in mental health:
Timing of food & blood sugar balance
Composition of meals
Gut and microbiota
- The most basic form of self-care is feeding your body!
- People struggle with mental health in different ways, such as high functioning anxiety, panic attacks, etc.
- The toxic food culture we live in is normalizing satisfaction from missing meals or eating less.
- You can cause damage through your food choices, but can also prevent and improve your mental health.
- When we don’t eat our body activates the body stress responses.
- Schedule out your meals throughout the day and commit!
- Fall into intuitive eating and learn to trust your body.
- Prioritize your mental health and physical health!

Connect with Jackie:
https://www.jackieahernnutrition.com/
https://www.instagram.com/mindbodyrd/
https://www.facebook.com/jackieahernnutrition/

Amanda Montgomery is a business lawyer who understands legal representation is not a one-size fits all endeavor. Passionate about empowering women, Amanda set her business' mission to help small businesses and entrepreneurs look out for their best interests.

Valerie welcomes Amanda Montgomery back on the podcast to discuss all the nitty, gritty details of voting, how to get accurate and current information on candidates, and why it is important to vote especially as a young adult. Now with more accessible political information, Amanda shares the dos and don’ts when reading political articles on social media and why it’s important to always fact check the stories. Most importantly, they discuss the importance of voting, even if you think it doesn’t affect you!

Key Takeaways:
-VOTE VOTE VOTE
- Make the effort to research and figure out your values to vote accordingly.
- Don’t believe everything you read on social media or online regarding politics.
- Be suspicious and question articles covering politics. They can sometimes be biased or missing important details to the story.
- It’s by design that young people are not encouraged to vote.
- You have to reprogram yourself to understand that you are powerful, and your vote does matter!
- Come into your power and voice to encourage others to vote, use your influence.
- The laws passed now will continue to have an effect on you down the years.
- Your vote has a ripple effect on every branch of government (local, state, federal).
- October 13-30th is early voting for Texas, make sure you are registered by October 5th.

Ballotpedia - shows voters their entire ballot based on their address.

Voterly - gives high level profiles of each candidate, along with donor history of incumbent candidates.

Know Your Vote - helps you compare candidates by their platforms and recent speeches and tweets.

Politifact - (nonpartisan) checks accuracy of tweets and speech comments from political candidates.

VoteTexas - (non-partisan) assists Texas voters with registration and request of mail-in ballot for eligible voters, along with instructions for voting locations and ballot contents. (This is also the Secretary of State's website.)


Connect with Amanda:
https://www.amontgomerylaw.com/
https://www.instagram.com/amontgomerylawyer/

Rachel Maine is on a mission to turn the world into a more sex-positive place. Through her company Wellness Sexpertise, Rachel gives people a comfortable space to own their sexual selves. She serves on the Board of Directors for Pure Romance, is a podcast host called Owning Your Sexual Self and works as a sex therapist within a private practice.

Rachel comes back to the You Glow Girl Podcast to discuss how society projects what is considered “professional” in the corporate and entrepreneurial world. Valerie and Rachel discuss how society has taught women that you must hide who you are, be modest and dress a certain way in order to maintain professionalism in any workplace. They share experiences from their corporate jobs and how they were sexualized because of society’s idea of women in a workplace.

Key Takeaways:
- Society ridicules women for who they are, especially in the corporate and entrepreneurial world.
- What you wear doesn’t define your skill set.
- Parents, teachers and adults teach young girls short skirts and tank tops are sexual and an inappropriate thing.
- Society has taught us that young girls are a sexual object based on what they wear.
- Despite what you are wearing, you deserve respect.
- Normalize what your kids are doing and embrace their personality.


Connect with Rachel:
https://www.instagram.com/the_rachel_maine/?hl=en
https://www.wellnesssexpertise.com/
https://www.facebook.com/pureromance.byrachel.12

Niki Davis-Fainbloom is a sexuality writer, educator and coach. She has worked at Mount Sinai Hospital for the past three years as a lecturer, training students and professionals about consent, sexual violence prevention and sexuality. She writes sex-ed articles for several magazines including Pornhub, Gen X Magazine and Future of Sex. The goal of her writing and workshops is to help people develop the skills to have healthier, sexier and more satisfying romantic and sexual relationships.

In this episode, Niki returns to the You Glow Girl Podcast to discuss the importance of consent in sex and relationships. She shares the misconceptions of consent and how it isn’t just for sex, but in also in our everyday activities. Niki and Valerie share their personal experiences with consent, or lack of. Since the “me too” movement, so many women have shared their personal experiences with sexual harrassment, assualt and rape. In a society where women are told to be modest, act like a lady and where the responsibility is placed on the women - we need to be educated our young adults about respect, consent and mutual exchanges.

Key Takeaways:
-Porn sites have become a form of education for consent and the treatment between a man and a woman when it should merely be treated as an entertainment platform.
-Consent isn’t always verbal and can be translated through body language as well.
-Unless it’s a hell yes, it’s a hell no!
-Being in a relationship doesn’t automatically guarantee consent.
-Consent isn’t just about sex. Consent is needed in every encounter or interaction you have, especially with strangers.
-Giving consent once doesn’t automatically guarantee ongoing consent.
-It is important to respect your partners’ answer the first time,repeatedly asking or guilting someone into a different answer is manipulative and toxic.
-Someone’s appearance, clothing or behavior is not an invitation or sexual harassment.

Consent Tea Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8

Connect with Niki:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/niki-davis-7ba20a125/
https://www.instagram.com/missbloomsexeducator/
https://www.facebook.com/niki.davis.7

Doni Brown is the founder and owner of Pivot Cosmetics - a CBD cosmetics line created to promote self-care among women of color. Doni is primarily known as a Dallas Influencer and she dedicates her platform to teaching and empowering other women, to start their own beauty and fashion product lines! Over the past 5 years, she has helped numerous businesses and personal brands, transform their marketing strategies and increase their digital reach through her consulting and workshops.

Valerie and Doni discuss the importance of skin care and how CBD skin care can improve many skin issues. They also discuss how your lifestyle and diet can play a role in your skin. Doni shares that her gluten intolerance led her to shift her diet which improved her skin. Doni shares her story of how she started Pivot Cosmetics, her mission towards promoting wellness and self-care for women of color and discussing the skin care issues women of color have.

Key Takeaways:
- CBD used in skin care products may reduce inflammation, help even out skin tone and increase moisture.
- The amount of CBD you use on your skin can affect the end result.
- Many mainstream skin care products are filled with heavy chemicals that harm your skin by stripping your nutrients and natural oils.
- Filler ingredients dilute the effects on your skin and only gives sensation to your skin while prolonging the process to improve skin care issues.
- Your body absorbs what you use on your skin but won’t necessarily fix any issues in your body.
- If you have intense skin issues, it could be a reflection of bigger health problems from the inside.


Connect with Doni:
https://pivotcosmetics.com/
https://www.instagram.com/PIVOTCOSMETICS/?hl=en
https://www.instagram.com/thedonibrown/?hl=en
https://www.donibrown.com/