How do I know if I’m settling? How do I know if this person/job/house/situation is as good as it gets? Actually, as it turns out, you really DO know deep inside, you just often choose to ignore it. And we’ve all done it… some of us still do. We settle in love, work and life because it’s easy, safe and comfortable. It’s a way to hedge our bets against disappointment (i.e. dating someone you’re pretty sure would never run out on you). The problem is, settling is painful, and it comes from a scarcity mindset because you’re afraid there might not be anything better. And let me tell you, that is existing; it’s not living. Learn how to stretch yourself out of being comfortably numb.