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How Grindr, Gucci & Guilt Are Ruining Your Retirement | Queer Money Ep. 591


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Today’s tea? The three saboteurs keeping gay men broke.

We’re getting real about what’s actually draining your retirement savings—and no, it’s not just brunch and bad decisions (though we’ll get there). First up: hookup culture. Apps like Grindr have us chasing dopamine hits instead of dividends, making it harder to think long-term when instant gratification is just a swipe away.

Next, let’s talk designer drama. From the outside, it’s giving “fabulous,” but inside the bank account? It’s giving “maxed out.” The pressure to flex with luxury brands can lead to spending that’s more about validation than value.

And finally, we’re unpacking the emotional baggage—guilt, shame, and that quiet voice saying we should be further along by now. Spoiler: You’re not alone.

Let’s ditch the shame, ditch the scarcity, and start building the fabulous future we deserve. 💅

Takeaways:
  • Swipe now, stress later. That instant gratification life? Cute in the moment, brutal for your retirement account.
  • Silence = sabotage. Shame keeps a lot of gay men from talking about money—and that silence is costing us our futures.
  • Label who? The obsession with luxury is serving looks—but also serving financial stress. That Gucci bag won't fund your golden years.
  • Hookups cost more than cab fare. Casual flings might be fun, but they can seriously mess with your mental health and your money mojo.
  • Keeping up with the Instagays? The pressure to be polished and perfect is pricey—and it’s stealing cash from your long-term goals.
  • Opportunity cost is real, babe. Every dollar and minute you spend now is one less toward your dream retirement villa in Sitges.

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