Friends are great. But they can also be exhausting. What’s the best way to strike the balance between being there and burning out? Amy Wilson, author of Happy To Help: Adventures of a People Pleaser, and cohost of What Fresh Hell, shares her thoughts. 

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Jolenta and Kristen read some of the many stories you’ve shared about the topics we’ve recently covered on the show - AI friends, friends with kids, and platonic significant others. 

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By popular demand, Kristen is sharing an episode of one of her other shows: Mayo Clinic's Health Matters. This episode is about ADHD and features one of the most knowledgable and compassionate voices in the ADHD world, Dr. Robert Wilfahrt. To hear more episodes of Health Matters, subscribe here: https://mcpress.mayoclinic.org/podcasts/health-matters/

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Jolenta and Kristen try on a tip from Ophira Eisenberg, record audio diaries, report back. 

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*Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Kristen and Jolenta live by The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage'' by Mel Robbins. To hear the entire episode and get lots of other great bonus content, including a live monthly book club with Kristen and Jolenta, join patreon.com/listentobythebook 

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Is it possible to hold onto friendship after one of you has kids and the other doesn't? Ophira Eisenberg, host of the podcasts Parenting is a Joke and Ask Me Another, shares her thoughts. 

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Jolenta and Kristen try on Rhaina Cohen’s tips for nurturing their other significant others.  

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For some of us, our greatest life partner isn’t a spouse, it’s a friend. How can we make the most of these kinds of partnerships? Jolenta and Kristen get tips from Rhaina Cohen, author of The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center.

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Jolenta and Kristen try on Lindsay Goldwart’s tips for befriending chatbots. 

What do they have to offer? And do they really help, or make things worse?

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*Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Kristen and Jolenta live by The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change Your Life, and Achieve Real Happiness, by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. To hear the entire episode and get lots of other great bonus content, including a live monthly book club with Kristen and Jolenta, join patreon.com/listentobythebook 

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