The KYLO Show

How to Build a Culture That Heals


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Broadcasting live from Cleveland, Ohio, Danny and Brittney Serpell tackle some of the most urgent and complex issues facing the Church today—from fallen leaders and disconnected marriages to the everyday challenge of offering correction without losing connection. With real audience questions and vulnerable stories, this episode unpacks how a lack of accountability and self-awareness is tearing apart families, marriages, and ministries—and what we can do to build cultures of truth, trust, and transformation.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • Why so many churches and leaders are breaking down—and how to prevent it
  • The dangers of “king-style” leadership and how it isolates pastors from correction
  • How to offer correction in marriage without punishing or controlling
  • The difference between healthy shame and toxic shame—and how to tell which one you’re using
  • How to build a marriage culture where truth is welcome, not weaponized
  • What repentance actually looks like (it’s not just saying “I’m sorry”)
  • Key Takeaways:

    • Unaccountable leaders aren’t just at risk—they’re already isolated. Culture breakdown starts at the top when connection is replaced by control.
    • Marriage correction without self-awareness leads to resentment and disconnection. You can’t disciple your spouse into being like you.
    • Healthy shame leads to change and reconnection. Toxic shame leads to punishment and hiding.
    • If you’re spending more than 5 minutes explaining how hurt you are, you're probably doing it wrong. Tell the truth about you—not them.
    • Repentance isn’t confession. It’s change. And it only works when both parties stay connected and do the work.
    • Join the Conversation:
      Have you experienced correction that restored trust—or caused disconnection? What helped you grow through it? We’d love to hear your story.

      Stay Connected:
      Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com
      Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose
      Instagram: @brittneyserpell


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