I am so excited to bring you this interview with Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier, founder of TheShmuz.com and author of the new book, 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make.

We dove into a really interesting discussion about how men and women communicate differently, how we perceive and give criticism differently, and how changing our approach can have a powerful impact on our marriages.

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Check out Rabbi Shafier's book here

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Sometimes it's not about coaching yourself, it's about acceptance.

It's so easy to fall for the myth that we're supposed to always feel good.

Ironically, thinking we're always supposed to feel good... feels terrible.

It creates so much resistance.

Today I'm sharing one of my "one of those days" days. And I know you have them, too. Here's how we can allow them, which actually allows us to tap into a deeper level of our own truth and helps us move past and through so much more easily.

I love Purim + Thought Work!

So many women struggle on Purim. It's normal-- but it's not necessary.

Tune in to hear how you can make a thought-plan for Purim to make it a day more meaningful and enjoyable (yes even with the wildness, the mess, the over-sugared kids, and the vomiting husband)!

Want to join us next month? We'd love to have you in our community! kaylalevin.com/coaching to get on the wait list!

Pursuing happiness tends to make it even more elusive.

Most of the women I know and work with know that sitting on the couch with bonbons when life is feeling a little unsatisfying is not going to do the trick. So in this ongoing conversation about self-care, I’m going to make another distinction that I think can help us.

There are activities that make your life better..

and there’s rest.

And both are critical.

When we use “self-care-type activities” to FEEL BETTER (to feel happy, fulfilled, enjoying our life), I’m not sure it’s so effective.

When we rest because we are so drained or depleted that there are no happy thoughts to think, (or–please–catch yourself before you get to this point when you can) we set ourselves up to rejoin a life that has meaning and purpose which then leads to real fulfillment and happiness.

You can rest on your couch or at a 5-star-spa for all I care, but know that your rest isn’t going to give you what you really need. It’s crucial, but it’s function is just to get you back in the game.

It's about to be one of the busiest seasons of the year and I want to give you a skill to get back a lot of your time.

One of the main reasons we waste time is called buffering. Buffering is any time we engage in an activity and we lose out in the end--usually to avoid some negative emotion, whether that's loneliness, disconnection, boredom, anxiety... pick your poison :)

Today I'll go over how to identify your buffers, why it's so crucial that you learn the skill of NOT buffering, and how you can go about it.

This week we are revisiting and going deeper on the whole idea of mashpia/mekabel AKA provider/receiver.

What does this concept mean in the context of a Jewish marriage?

What is the Jewish ideal for how a woman "receives"?

What have we picked up from other cultures about what it means to be provided for, and what downsides does that bring?

How can we strengthen ourselves without burning ourselves out or neglecting our own needs?

Excited to share this episode with you.

If you want to take this work deeper, make sure to join us in How to Glow next month at kaylalevin.com/coaching

This week I'm offering you a tool to help you get more clear on what you want from your marriage. 

So much of the time, we "hint" at what we want and really believe we've been clear.

There are a few tools I teach to help you do a self-check of whether your communication was clear enough and what to do about the vulnerability we feel when we make a real, authentic request from our husband.

Ready to take this work further?

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This episode is a long time coming! Many women struggle with feeling a REALLY strong negative reaction when their husband is sick--whether annoyance, judgement, resentment, frustration, even fear. 

This. Is. Normal.

Even very lovely, wonderful, nurturing women struggle with this.

Today I'm going to help you with what to do about it.

HOT TOPIC today, ladies. 

Whether this is relevant to you personally or not, I encourage you to listen for the tools I share in the context of this question.

UPDATE: As of the posting of this episode, doors are open for How to Glow! GET IN TODAY for my best tools, live and written coaching, and the chance to hear other people get coached and grow from that! https://kaylalevin.com/coaching

This week I'll be discussing...

This week I want to offer some really practical solutions for when life--or your marriage--is getting really hard.

Registration opens at the end of the month for How to Glow. Join us here: kaylalevin.com/coaching