Venerable Robina discusses the three poisons - attachment, aversion, and ignorance. Attachment is a junkie that only wants everything to be nice, it's this fragile child in us, that can only handle everything going nicely, and when we understand this, we will totally understand trauma. What arises when attachment doesn't get what it wants, that's called aversion, and it's the interplay of these two that is the source of the problem. Trauma is an undealt with problem.

From the Buddhist view of the mind, there's not a single thing we ever experience that ever goes astray, everything stays in the mind. It goes into the memory but we bury it, at some point you can't live in denial, it's going to come up at some point. When it's an intense thing, especially violence, then you suppress it, you push it away, you don't want to look at it, so it goes in there, and that is what a trauma is.

We don't have the means to deal with dramas, we don't have the analysis, we get guilty, we think it's all our fault, we push it away and we don't deal with it, we don't know how to deal with it, we haven't been taught.

Our tragedy in our culture, we wait until serious things happen, until we're having a mental breakdown or panic attacks. We don't have methods for dealing with our mind, our attitude, or our interpretation of the event. The trauma is your own mind, the event is the external, we don't know how to interpret our mind, which is the response to the event, and that's the skill we have to learn!

Questions about - past abuse and current relationships, the death of a best friend, terminal illness, letting go and advocacy, specific practices or teachings most useful for dealing with abuse, dissolving anger by understanding and accepting karma, trauma and grief, and how useful is it to go back into past experience and how do you think about them without wallowing?

Vajrayana Institute, Sydney, 26th April 2025.