HOW TO LIFE - Adulting for the 21st Century

#100- Welcome to my party! I am celebrating 100 episodes of helping you learn How To Adult!

We are all on this adulting journey together, and I am not the only one with information to share.
  
In this episode, I want you to know that we are all striving, learning, overcoming, and achieving throughout our lives. Everyone is. You can never know it all. 

But we live in a time where it is so easy to learn, teach and share, and I think that because of that we have the potential to self-actualize faster than ever before. 

My whole platform is to make you feel okay about where you are right now and give you some information that might help you.

So over the last few weeks, I have been asking you, the audience, a few questions about where you are on your adulting journeys. Four questions, actually. 

So in sharing them, I hope that you hear something that resonates with you. 

Or that you will realize that you are not the only one who is having some trouble at the moment. 

Or you might discover something that you didn’t even consider or you learned something unexpected. 

And of course, I want you to recognize and celebrate when you have accomplished something that you were afraid of and be proud of yourself! Acknowledge that win.

Show notes at:

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#99- This is another one of my NO-Fear episodes because we are going to break down the concept of credit cards, explain their many benefits, really highlight the potential downside, explain how and why so many people get into credit card debt, and how to avoid that.

It really just comes down to understanding how this tool works.

And who better to explain this than Reid Garcia. Remember, Reid? 

I interviewed him back in Episode 46 talking about how to prep your kitchen so that you can feed yourself - another huge life skill. On that show he summarized his course, Kick Start Your Kitchen, which is catered to the beginner all the way to the advanced cook, as well. 

Reid is the founder of Helpful For Life and also teaches life skills that you may have missed earlier in your life. 

We all have some holes in our adulting arsenal and I think Reid and I make a pretty good team in helping to fill some of those.

He is here today to talk about his latest helpful creation called, "Swipe Right: the comprehensive guide to getting the most out of your credit card use".

Let's unravel the mystery of credit cards!

Show notes can be found at:

howtolife.com/099

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#98_ Today we are talking about the benefits of EMDR therapy. We are talking about mental health and how to overcome things that may be holding you back from being the best version of yourself.

There are many ways to achieve good mental health. There are many different types of therapies. Different things work for different people.

I would like to offer this other therapy that you may not have known about. I didn’t know much about it before this interview.

It is called EMDR therapy and it is incredibly effective.

Rotem Brayer is a certified EMDR therapist and the founder of The Art and Science of EMDR, a platform designed to educate EMDR therapists. And he is in private practice in Denver, Colorado as well.

He is here to answer my questions about EMDR. This is a very good summary that will help you learn more about, it and see if it is something you might want to pursue.

You never know, this could be the answer you have been looking for.

Show Notes at

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#97 - Today’s topic is about how to face the fear of change. 

Things are always changing. They have to so that we can grow and expand. 

Honestly, you would be pretty bored if you didn’t shake it up once in a while.

Change can be exciting but the unfamiliar is definitely uncomfortable at first. And sometimes, that discomfort may be so bad that you kind of get stuck and stay in what is familiar because at least it is familiar. 

There are ways to get past the fear of change.

Michelle Pontvert is here today with some advice and strategies that you can use to overcome the blocks. They are simple tips that you can definitely follow so that you can enjoy the journey to your new adventure!

Show notes at:
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#96 - Today we are talking about SELF CARE.

That’s right. Putting yourself first. Looking out for number one. Creating boundaries. 

Ooooh, that feels uncomfortable, doesn’t it? 

It sounds so…selfish. To be selfish is considered a negative trait. We have put it in our heads that if we have responsibilities to others and we take some time for ourselves we are being selfish.

I would really like to change this perspective. 

And perhaps this can be best done by describing the action of taking some time for ourselves as SELF CARE instead of selfish.

Selfish is not caring about anyone else but you.

Self Care is about taking care of yourself first so that you are in the best position to care for others.

My guest today is Janine Kenna cohost of the Kind-Hearted Badass Podcast and community. She agrees with me and she and her partner are on a mission to empower everyone to nourish their souls and fuel up. 

When you are out there giving your all, working hard, solving problems, leading, and caring for others; when the demands on your time are stretched, and that is most of us, you must take care of yourself.

You stop and fill up your car tank is on empty. Why wouldn’t you do this for yourself?

Did you ever think of it that way?

In this podcast, Janine will share her message and give you some tips so that you can do it too!

Show notes can be found at:

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Are you ready for the monthly Storytime edition?

March 1 is an especially great day for me because it is my daughter’s birthday, so this story is for her.

It doesn't matter how old you get, you are never too old for a bedtime story. 

Today I am reading Madeline, by Ludwig Bemelmans. 

Why did I love this story so much? I was obsessed with it and all of the Madeline stories.

This one is the original. It’s short. It’s sweet. And it will bring back some fond memories.

Thank you for listening to the storytime series. 

They are well-liked, so I will continue to check in here every month for this special edition podcast.

Enjoy this story even more by watching it with the pictures:

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#95- Parenting a special needs child is a skill that you really cannot train for.

No matter how much you try to prepare for adulthood, there are some things that can really throw you for a loop.

One of those things is parenthood. That is hard enough.

But a whole new set of challenges that you may be facing now is being a parent to a special needs child. 

But like anything where you are completely in the dark, there is always a light that will help you find your way. And it is my hope that this episode will give you some guidance and support if you are facing this challenge or you want to help someone else who is.

My guest today is Wayne Pellitier, the creative director of the branding and web design company Resonant Pixel.

Wayne is the father of a child with Malan Syndrome and he talks honestly about the emotions and experiences of having a child with special needs. He also speaks of the community and resources that are available, and how to find what you need.

And of course, the many blessing that a child, neurotypical or special needs, brings to your life and this world. 

Show notes at:

howtolife.com/095

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#94_ The topic today is not one that is usually talked about. I don’t know why, but there is not much out there about it. 

Today we are talking about how to settle into a new community.

This could be moving to a new country where you will experience perhaps a new language, new culture, homesickness.

This could also be beginning a new job, going away to college, or even starting a new school or moving to a new neighborhood.

It is usually a bit more difficult than you thought with plenty of discomfort, and feeling out of your element. 

It is hard to adapt to a new place where you don’t know anyone and no one knows you. It is hard to be an outsider.

The unfamiliar is uncomfortable.

How do you ask for help about this? Is what you may be feeling normal? Is it really a thing?

Trudy Rankin is an online business coach in Australia, but she is originally from the Pacific Northwest. 

She grew up constantly moving as a child and had to learn how to adapt and fit it quickly. 

She has been in Australia for 30+ years now, but she knows well the feeling of overwhelm and loneliness when you are the new kid on the block. 

In this interview, she would like to help out those who may be feeling the discomfort of culture shock while setting into a new community.

Don’t be sad, you’re not alone and you will be okay.

Show notes at:

howtolife.com/094

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#93 - Last week’s show was about how to fail successfully, meaning that failure often leads to success. 

 It is just a learning experience. You don’t really know that until some time has passed and you look back and realized that you are where you are because of those past failures and experiences.

It often makes you wiser, more resilient, and humble.  These are all good things.

Today we are continuing on along the same vein. 

 This podcast episode is for anyone who is taking the long and winding road through life. It doesn't mean you are lost or will wander forever.

I am speaking with Jeff Gargas who is the successful COO of the Teach Better Team which supports and helps teachers increase student engagement and success.

It took him some time to get there.

This talk is about his journey, but it also about searching, wandering, and yes, failing. It is about reflecting on the experiences in your life, finding meaning in them, and discovering the common denominator behind them. 

It was through his own experiences that Jeff discovered the common theme; he enjoyed helping others. That was his purpose and he turned that purpose into a very successful business.

If you are wandering or feel lost right now, you will be happy to know that nothing is random and you ARE on your way.

 Show notes at:

 howtolife.com/093

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#93 - Last week’s show was about how to fail successfully, meaning that failure often leads to success. 

It is just a learning experience. You don’t really know that until some time has passed and you look back and realized that you are where you are because of those past failures and experiences.

It often makes you wiser, more resilient, and humble.  These are all good things.

Today we are continuing on along the same vein. 

This podcast episode is for anyone who is taking the long and winding road through life. It doesn't mean you are lost or will wander forever.

I am speaking with Jeff Gargas who is the successful COO of the Teach Better Team which supports and helps teachers increase student engagement and success.

It took him some time to get there.

This talk is about his journey, but it also about searching, wandering, and yes, failing. It is about reflecting on the experiences in your life, finding meaning in them, and discovering the common denominator behind them. 

It was through his own experiences that Jeff discovered the common theme; he enjoyed helping others. That was his purpose and he turned that purpose into a very successful business.

If you are wandering or feel lost right now, you will be happy to know that nothing is random and you ARE on your way.

Show notes at:

howtolife.com/093