HOW TO LIFE - Adulting for the 21st Century

#92 _Living gracefully is so much easier when you are succeeding and everything is going well in your life. 

It can be a little challenging when you hit some bumps. 

And it is damn near impossible when you have failed. 

I won’t sugar coat it; failure sucks! 

The emotions and the feelings of worthlessness, self-pity, heartbreak - they are all real, and they are valid. 

But as hard as it is to believe at the moment, it can be, and often is, a wonderful opportunity to grow and succeed.

I’ve failed. I have failed big time. Most everyone has. And if it has happened to you, and you are currently licking your wounds, it is my hope that the words you are about to hear will soothe you. 

Stephan Brezinsky is an entrepreneur who has failed a few times and used the rubble as stepping stones to create his now successful media and marketing business. 

This is his story of loss to triumph. He talks about the messy middle and honestly answers my questions about the emotions, the aftermath, and how and why he got up and kept going. 

If you have comments or questions or if Stephan can help you with anything, please feel free to contact him.

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ST 18 - STORY TIME! Everyone gather around and listen to A Chair For My Mother by Vera B. Williams. 

This month's story is about turning adversity into joy. 

A young girl and her mother save coins in a jar in order to buy a big comfy chair to sit in after having lost all their possessions in a fire. 

This is a really uplifting story that focuses on the joyful spirit of loving family and friends.

Make sure to check out my YouTube channel where you can see the pictures in this book. They are colorful and bright and make the story even more enjoyable.

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Now, off to sleep or back to life.  See you next month for another Story Time.

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#91- This episode is about how to stick with the original goal when pursuing your dreams. No Plan B allowed!

But, inevitably, things do start to slow down when fear and self-doubt creep in, which it almost always does.

This is an area of adulthood that tends to plague so many of us: giving up on our dreams because of…fear and self-doubt.

Those two things derail many from living the life they want to live. 

If you want what you want then you have to keep that focus!

Having an escape plan in case it doesn’t pan out is not going to benefit you. It is too good an excuse to bail out!

Gabby Braddock is here today to talk about how to position yourself to succeed in your goals. Sometimes you need an outsider's perspective to show you that you are doing great!

Gabby is the CEO of No Plan B Consulting. She talks about her own path to success, and how she now helps others stick to their plan and see it through.

Whether you have a business that you want to succeed in, or personal goals that you want to reach, Gabby Braddock will convince you to stick to plan A.

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#90 - This has been the month of personal betterment on this show. I didn’t plan it, but I like the way it has unfolded.

We started off the year talking about goal setting. 

But how can you set a goal if you feel confused? So the next week we talked about how to get unstuck in life. 

That was good! We set a goal, we got out of the mud, now to declutter and focus. Last week we learned how to optimize productivity. 

What do we need to do to make it all stick? Repetition! And in this episode, we are going to discuss what creates a habit. It is not random.

The process of forming a habit, good or bad, is the same. 

It is easy to understand why bad habits are so hard to break when you know how they are formed in the first place.  This process is also why good habits are hard to create. 

Today, I am speaking with psychotherapist, Rotem Brayer about the science behind a habit and the ways to build a new one.

You CAN break out of an old pattern and create a new habit that brings positivity to your life. The power is within you.

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# 89- In this podcast, we are continuing with the theme of goal setting. 

So far this month, we have talked about getting unstuck, we have talked about making a plan, and today we are talking about optimizing your productivity.

Yes. This is the part where we put that plan into action and declutter all the ideas and thoughts that are loose in our minds.

This is about organizing and prioritizing all the things you want to do and need to do.

Michael Baumann is here today to summarize this great system that allows you to get things done!

If have a whole bunch of things that need to get done and you don’t know how to start, this episode is going to bring you some relief.

Show notes at:

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#88 -  Wondering how to get unstuck in life is a common problem for many people.

Boom Vision is the creation of Benjamin Yeh from his diverse background as a serial entrepreneur, corporate executive, investor, and advisor. In this episode, he is going to share his unique perspective about how to gain clarity.

Boom Vision can help you unlock your hidden breakthroughs and create a strong mind, body, and soul.

Ben is a business and transformation coach. He talks about 6 things that you can develop to help you break through walls and reach seemingly impossible goals. 

Boom Vision is all about the balance and rhythm of those 6 things and learning how to tune in to them to gain clarity, purpose, and happiness.

It is a unique paradigm that he calls holistic practicality. It focuses on 3 core pillars that will help you build a strong mindset.

Benjamin Yeh has such a calm voice and you will enjoy this inspiring episode.

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#87 - Since it is a brand new year I am going to talk about goal setting today.

Many see the new year as a blank slate. A time to set new goals and actually put some effort into making those goals a reality.

And since motivation is usually at a high at this time of year, let’s use that momentum to really make those resolutions stick.

I have been making a Goals List every year for the last 7 years. 

Before I started doing it, I just accepted whatever.  It has been a good life, but at that time I didn’t know I had a say in how things turned out or that it could be better.

So when I decided to give this goal-setting a try, I was shocked at how possible my goals were. 

I was also shocked when I realized I hadn’t been very deliberate about what I wanted in the past. 

It was like going to a restaurant and saying, “I would like some food please”. You’ll just get a blank stare, or whatever. 

You have to say what you want. 

The good news is that it is just a formula and it is a mindset thing.

And right now is a perfect time to start honing that mindset thing!

So, I am going to teach you how to go about setting your goals list.

You can use this technique for any timeframe. You can make a list of goals you want to accomplish this year, as I have done, or just one goal you want to achieve this month. 

You can make it as broad and general or as short and super-specific as you would like. The technique is the same. 

In order to reach your goals, follow this framework. It is an easy formula and you probably do most of the steps at some point, just not in an organized fashion. 

So let’s get deliberate and focused. 

Here are 7 things that I do to reach my goals every year. 

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ST 17 - It is time to snuggle up and enjoy DW The Picky Eater by Marc Brown, this month’s selection for the How To Life Story Time.

Marc Brown is the creator of the Arthur series, a collection of books about Arthur, his sister DW and all of his friends and the adventures they have. 

Arthur was also turned into a television series. Maybe you have seen it?

The book I am reading today, DW The Picky Eater, was a favorite of all four of my children. 

And honestly, it was one of my favorites to read as well. It still holds up!

Did you have a sibling that wouldn’t eat anything and was a real pain? Maybe it was you?

As you probably guessed, DW is that kid!

Enjoy this story.

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#86 -This is the How To Life Podcast 2021 Year in Review.

This is the 86th episode of the How To Life podcast, and the last show of the year.

What can be said about 2021? It was a much better year than 2020! Many things got easier, some fear was diminished, knowledge was gained, and confidence was instilled.

And this is what I received; all while doing my best to give these exact things to all of you.

You, who turn to How To Life for answers to the many questions about life skills, and about how to be the best version of yourself.

I want to make it easy for you. 

Here is what you will gain from the 2021 review

My goal is to let you in on the adulting secrets of life.  

I am here to cheer you on, soothe you when needed, and let you know that you are awesome. I also want to remind you that you are doing just fine. We are always learning, and you are right on track.

I had a lot of fun with this podcast this year. The episodes are filled with quality information and truly amazing guests. 

I am so grateful to these wonderful people who generously gave of their time and knowledge. They are all as passionate about helping you learn, grow and thrive, as I am. 

If you are new to this podcast or missed some shows, here is the How To Life podcast 2021 year in review. A 45-second highlight of each episode. I am proud of each one!

It was my first full year producing this show and I think it just keeps getting better and better.

I give you the Coaches of the How To Life Podcast Sophmore Class of 2021. 

47 coaches, 49 topics - I am so proud of each one. They are really good!

Shoutout to the Coaches and to You!

As I was putting this episode together and relistening to each show, I was overcome with gratitude for these, kind, sincere, and truly wonderful people. Each one wants to share what they know, help others, and contribute to making this world a better place for everyone. The How To Life Coaches.

I also want to thank you, who show up every week and listen to this podcast. Thank you to those who have subscribed, written kind reviews, who have left 5-star ratings, sent me sweet and supportive emails, and who have shared and spread the word. 

Thank you from the bottom of my heart! 

Having watched this show launch, shakily ascend every week, and gain strength and speed this year has been a wonder! It makes me want to keep going! This is fun!

So…..That is a wrap for 2021. 

I wish you a New Year that is filled with love and blessings, and joy and confidence!

Celebrate big. You are doing a great job in your life! There is much success in store for you!

Be safe everyone. 2022 hear we come! We got this!

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#85 - Today we are talking about transforming education, and how Open Source Learning is an evolving philosophy in meeting the needs of learners in the 21st Century.

I am speaking with Dr. David Preston, educator, consultant, and trailblazer in reforming education and changing the way students learn. 

The traditional way we are taught in school was thrown into turmoil when the pandemic hit. 

Trying to teach over the internet was a little chaotic at first, there was a little resistance, but most everyone adapted; teachers, students, administrators, parents. We all had to figure it out, and quickly at that. And, overall, it worked. 

This came as a surprise to many, but not to Dr. Preston. He has been using the public internet to engage and empower students since 2006.

Dr. Preston calls it Open Source Learning and his years of success in teaching this way are starting to gain notice. 

The pandemic proved to many others that this is a viable option to traditional brick and mortar schooling, and may very well be the model for digital transformation in education. 

It is a fascinating concept and honestly a breath of fresh air when it comes to discussing education for the 21 century.

Show notes and links can be found at:

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