Carla Naumburg, PhD is a clinical social worker and the best-selling author of five parenting books. These include her international bestseller, How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids (Workman, 2019), as well as You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent; Ready, Set, Breath and Parenting in the Present Moment.. Her latest, which is recently published and the topic of this podcast is How to Stop Freaking Out, the (completely swear-free) middle-grade adaptation of How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids. She’s also a wife (making her second appearance on the pod) and the mother of two kids. In our conversation today we discussed:

* Everything about her newest book and the philosophy behind it

* How she first got into writing

* What it takes to research and write a book

* The inspiration behind How to Stop Freaking Out

* The five different types of freakouts

* Why kids freak out

* How to model and teach emotional regulation in our kids

* An extensive discussion on kids, smart phones and social media

Listen now on Apple, Spotify, Overcast and YouTube.

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Where to find Carla Naumburg

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carlanaumburg/

* Carla's Website: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/

* Carla's Books: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:43] Welcome

[2:54] How did she start writing?

[5:15] Carla’s Childhood

[6:43] Her newest book

[8:13] Inspiration for How To Stop Freaking Out

[10:26] The Process for writing a book

[12:42] How a metaphor from her last book didn’t translate to this one

[14:58] Teaching middle schoolers

[20:29] The types of freakouts

[25:44] Why do kids freak out?

[30:18] Modeling/teaching emotional regulation

[36:04] How do parents navigate freakouts/how do we shrink our buttons?

[43:52] Smart phones/social media and kids

[50:42] Waiting on phones plan

[55:39] The book

[56:17] Lightning round

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Show references:

Carla and Josh on Startup Dad - youtube.com/watch?v=YiaE6ZmaOIQ

How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t with Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent: https://www.amazon.com/How-Stop-Losing-Your-Kids/dp/1523505427

You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent: How to Practice Self-Compassion and Give Yourself a Break: https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Not-Parent-Self-Compassion/dp/1523517115

Ready, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family: https://www.amazon.com/Ready-Set-Breathe-Practicing-Mindfulness/dp/1626252904/

Parenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters: https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Present-Moment-Focused-Matters/dp/1937006832/

How to Stop Freaking Out: The Ultimate Guide to Keeping Cool When Life Feels Chaotic: https://www.amazon.com/How-Stop-Freaking-Out-Ultimate/dp/1523518243/

Sweet Valley High: https://www.amazon.com/Sweet-Valley-High-138-book-series/dp/B08LGKQMDM

Mount Everest: https://www.britannica.com/place/Mount-Everest

Oprah: https://www.oprah.com/index.html

The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt: https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/dp/0593655036

Taylor Swift: https://www.taylorswift.com/

Snapchat: https://www.snapchat.com/

First Phone: A Child's Guide to Digital Responsibility, Safety, and Etiquette by Catherine Pearlman PhD LCSW: https://www.amazon.com/First-Phone-Digital-Responsibility-Etiquette/dp/0593538331

Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World by Devorah Heitner: https://www.amazon.com/Screenwise-Helping-Thrive-Survive-Digital/dp/1629561452/

Caillou: https://en.caillou.com/

Bluey: https://www.bluey.tv/

MacGyver: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0088559/

My Fair Lady: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0058385/

The Breakfast Club: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0088847/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1

Dirty Dancing: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0092890/

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