Startup Dad

Dan Doty is the founder of Fatherhood Unlocked – a company that is helping Dads win at work, build deeper family connections and thrive in relationships. He’s also a writer, wilderness guide and has been an inner city high school teacher. Through his work Dan is at the forefront of the global men’s movement to help Dads be better at all aspects of life. His most recent project, Fatherhood Ready, is a course and community that helps prepare men for fatherhood. He’s also a husband and the father of three kids! In our conversation today we discussed:

* The exciting and historical changes in the role of fatherhood

* Why the role of fatherhood is changing

* The differences between how we were raised by our fathers and how they were raised by theirs

* The transition into fatherhood as a rite of passage

* Parenting in the time of great technical and societal change

* All about Fatherhood Ready and what it means to prepare for fatherhood

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Where to find Dan Doty

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dan-doty-18a50719/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodunlocked/

* Fatherhood Unlocked: https://www.fatherhoodunlocked.com/

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:48] Welcome

[2:10] Dan’s Professional background

[4:24] Most surprising aspect of your work?

[6;38] Childhood and destiny

[9:58] Balancing of bonding & wilderness

[12:03] Dan’s life now

[14:20] Their decision to start a family

[20:24] What is driving this historical change?

[23:08] Dan’s wife as a spiritual guide and intuitive

[25:14] Sense of “fit”

[26:52] Earliest memory of becoming a dad

[29:09] Differences in emotion from kid to kid

[30:29] Rite of passage into fatherhood

[35:37] Advice  to younger Dan

[37:48] Advice to ignore?

[38:37] Fav book to read to kids?

[40:34] Frameworks

[43:46] Area where you and partner don’t align?

[44:26] Role of fatherhood in this time?

[48:16] What’d he give up to be a father?

[50:25] How does he recharge his batteries?

[52:00] Mistake as a father?

[54:04] How does he recover when losing his temper?

[57:07] Where to find Dan

[58:53] Lightning round

[1:01:11] Thank you

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Show references:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodunlocked/

Fatherhood Unlocked: https://www.fatherhoodunlocked.com/

Fatherhood Ready: https://www.fatherhoodready.com/

Meat Eater: https://www.netflix.com/title/80126646

Evryman: https://evryman.com/

RIchard Reeves: https://richardvreeves.com/

REI: https://www.rei.com/

Match.com: match.com

Anthony Bourdain: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anthony_Bourdain

0.0 Productions: https://zeropointzero.com/

Will To Change by Bell Hooks: https://bellhooksbooks.com/product/the-will-to-change/

Jason Mraz: https://jasonmraz.com/

Martha’s Vineyard: https://www.mvy.com/

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs: https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html

Moana: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt3521164/

Princess Bride: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0093779/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_0_tt_8_nm_0_in_0_q_the%2520princess%2520bride

Maine: https://www.maine.gov/portal/index.html

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Carla Naumburg, PhD is a clinical social worker and the best-selling author of five parenting books. These include her international bestseller, How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids (Workman, 2019), as well as You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent; Ready, Set, Breath and Parenting in the Present Moment.. Her latest, which is recently published and the topic of this podcast is How to Stop Freaking Out, the (completely swear-free) middle-grade adaptation of How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids. She’s also a wife (making her second appearance on the pod) and the mother of two kids. In our conversation today we discussed:

* Everything about her newest book and the philosophy behind it

* How she first got into writing

* What it takes to research and write a book

* The inspiration behind How to Stop Freaking Out

* The five different types of freakouts

* Why kids freak out

* How to model and teach emotional regulation in our kids

* An extensive discussion on kids, smart phones and social media

Listen now on Apple, Spotify, Overcast and YouTube.

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Where to find Carla Naumburg

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carlanaumburg/

* Carla's Website: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/

* Carla's Books: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:43] Welcome

[2:54] How did she start writing?

[5:15] Carla’s Childhood

[6:43] Her newest book

[8:13] Inspiration for How To Stop Freaking Out

[10:26] The Process for writing a book

[12:42] How a metaphor from her last book didn’t translate to this one

[14:58] Teaching middle schoolers

[20:29] The types of freakouts

[25:44] Why do kids freak out?

[30:18] Modeling/teaching emotional regulation

[36:04] How do parents navigate freakouts/how do we shrink our buttons?

[43:52] Smart phones/social media and kids

[50:42] Waiting on phones plan

[55:39] The book

[56:17] Lightning round

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Show references:

Carla and Josh on Startup Dad - youtube.com/watch?v=YiaE6ZmaOIQ

How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t with Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent: https://www.amazon.com/How-Stop-Losing-Your-Kids/dp/1523505427

You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent: How to Practice Self-Compassion and Give Yourself a Break: https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Not-Parent-Self-Compassion/dp/1523517115

Ready, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family: https://www.amazon.com/Ready-Set-Breathe-Practicing-Mindfulness/dp/1626252904/

Parenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters: https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Present-Moment-Focused-Matters/dp/1937006832/

How to Stop Freaking Out: The Ultimate Guide to Keeping Cool When Life Feels Chaotic: https://www.amazon.com/How-Stop-Freaking-Out-Ultimate/dp/1523518243/

Sweet Valley High: https://www.amazon.com/Sweet-Valley-High-138-book-series/dp/B08LGKQMDM

Mount Everest: https://www.britannica.com/place/Mount-Everest

Oprah: https://www.oprah.com/index.html

The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt: https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/dp/0593655036

Taylor Swift: https://www.taylorswift.com/

Snapchat: https://www.snapchat.com/

First Phone: A Child's Guide to Digital Responsibility, Safety, and Etiquette by Catherine Pearlman PhD LCSW: https://www.amazon.com/First-Phone-Digital-Responsibility-Etiquette/dp/0593538331

Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World by Devorah Heitner: https://www.amazon.com/Screenwise-Helping-Thrive-Survive-Digital/dp/1629561452/

Caillou: https://en.caillou.com/

Bluey: https://www.bluey.tv/

MacGyver: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0088559/

My Fair Lady: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0058385/

The Breakfast Club: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0088847/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1

Dirty Dancing: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0092890/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Kyle Lacy is the Chief Marketing Officer of Jellyfish—a platform that helps developers make data-backed decisions on resource investments. Across two decades he has built companies like Lessonly, Openview, Salesforce and ExactTarget. He’s also a husband and the father of two kids. In our conversation today we discussed:

* Managing work, life and parenting appropriately

* Handling stress across the different facets of your life

* Dispelling the myth about separation of ‘church and state’ between family and work

* Learning how to put your kids before yourself

* The role of nature vs. nurture in parenting

* The most important invention ever - the pee pee teepee

* How most parenting advice is complete crap

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Where to find Kyle Lacy

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kylelacy

* X: https://x.com/kyleplacy

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:33] Welcome

[2:10] Kyle’s Professional background

[4:26] What life was like growing up

[6:12] Siblings

[6:24] Do your siblings have give you parenting advice?

[6:53] His family now and how he met his wife?

[9:06] Are his kids back to school?

[10:59] Decision to start a family

[12:34] Work/life balance

[15:27] Support network

[17:23] Separation of “church and state”

[19:58] Earliest memory after becoming a father?

[22:43] Dads and emotions

[24:11] Putting kids before yourself

[26:37] Surprising aspect of fatherhood

[28:18] Advice for younger Kyle?

[29:55] Advice to ignore?

[31:29] Fav book to read to kids

[32:14] Nature vs. Nurture

[33:27] Parenting frameworks

[35:29] How Kyle’s parenting style evolved

[38:02] Did parenting change you as a manager?

[40:53] When do he and his partner not align

[44:02] Kid’s relationship to tech

[47:42] Mistake as a father?

[48:33] Follow along

[50:11] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Jellyfish:https://jellyfish.co/

ExactTarget (now Salesforce): https://www.salesforce.com/

Lessonly (now Seismic): https://seismic.com/lessonly/

OpenView: https://openviewpartners.com/

Sam Richard LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sam-crowell-richard/

Sam Richar Twitter: @SamCRichard

Spokane, Washington: https://www.visittheusa.com/destination/spokane

Indianapolis, Indiana: https://www.visittheusa.com/destination/indianapolis

Anderson University: https://andersonuniversity.edu/

Twitter Marketing for Dummies: https://www.amazon.com/Twitter-Marketing-Dummies-Kyle-Lacy/dp/0470930578

Branding Yourself: How to Use Social Media to Invent or Reinvent Yourself

by Erik Deckers & Kyle Lacy: https://www.amazon.com/Branding-Yourself-Social-Reinvent-Biz-Tech/dp/0789749726

CodeSweep (now HCL Software): https://www.hcl-software.com/appscan/products/appscan-codesweep

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/

Orange Theory: https://www.orangetheory.com/en-us

Greenlight: https://greenlight.com/

Linda Flanagan Episode: youtube.com/watch?v=YLqEX8lZeFI

Pee pee tee pee: https://www.amazon.com/Peepee-Teepee-Sprinkling-WeeWee-Cellophane/dp/B000NM3DFY

What to Expect When You’re Expecting: https://www.amazon.com/What-Expect-When-Youre-Expecting/dp/0761187480

Boston, MA: https://www.boston.gov/

Calvin & Hobbes: https://www.amazon.com/Complete-Calvin-Hobbes-Bill-Watterson/dp/1449433251

Dogman: https://pilkey.com/series/dog-man

Gemstone Dragons: https://www.samanthamclark.com/gemstone-dragons/

Diary of a Wimpy Kid: https://wimpykid.com/

Big Nate: https://www.amazon.com/Lincoln-Popularity-Nothing-Possibly-Strikes/dp/0062968610

Crocs: https://www.crocs.com/

Jibbitz: https://www.crocs.com/c/jibbitz

Josh & Carla’s Episode: youtube.com/watch?v=YiaE6ZmaOIQ

New Balance white shoes: https://www.newbalance.com/men/shoes/all-shoes/

Nike: https://www.nike.com/

Bush’s beans: https://www.bushbeans.com/en_US/

The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt: https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/dp/B0C9N2L56X/

Apple Vision pro: https://www.apple.com/apple-vision-pro/

Tesla: https://www.tesla.com/

iPad: https://www.apple.com/ipad/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/

Diaper Genie: https://diapergenie.com/

Colts: https://www.colts.com/

Corvette: https://www.chevrolet.com/upcoming-vehicles/2025-corvette-zr1

Pink Fong: https://www.pinkfong.com/en/

Baby Shark: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNVE4szbMrOZk9IheX8vHbQ

Home Alone: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0099785/

Gettysburg: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0107007/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Kevin Hanaford is an engineering leader at popular chat application, Discord where he oversees security, safety, privacy and platform teams. His career has included companies like Microsoft, PayPal, Amazon, Salesforce, and autonomous vehicle company, Cruise. In addition to his roles at some of the most significant technology companies of the last two decades he’s also a husband and the father of two kids. In our conversation today we discussed:

* How his Dad started the local ISP in his home town

* How the world of internet safety and trust has shaped his perspective on parenting

* Frameworks and principles that he and his wife hold dearly for their family

* The relationship he wants his daughters to have with technology

* Balancing the demanding, 24/7 job of security with a commitment to his family

* His earliest and most surprising memories of becoming a Dad

* How he explains to his kids what Dad does for work

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Where to find Kevin Hanaford

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kevinhanaford/

* Kevin’s Website: https://kevinhanaford.com/

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:34] Welcome

[1:47] How we got connected (thank you Behzod!)

[2:37] Kevin’s professional background

[4:48] His Dad starts an ISP

[6:57] Life now

[9:58] Partner’s work

[11:09] Decision to start a family

[13:57] Earliest memory of becoming a dad

[16:44] Most surprising thing since becoming a dad

[18:16] Advice for younger Kevin

[20:34] Advice to ignore

[23:07] Frameworks

[28:53] Where do you and your partner not align?

[32:38] Kid’s relationship with technology

[40:21] Managing job and family

[44:28] Explaining to kids what you do for work

[45:24] Mistake you have made as a dad

[47:51] What is one thing you gave up to be a dad?

[51:04] Follow along

[52:02] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Discord:https://discord.com/

Microsoft:https://www.microsoft.com/en-us/

PayPal: https://www.paypal.com/us/home

Amazon: amazon.com

Salesforce: https://www.salesforce.com/

Cruise: https://www.getcruise.com/

Moonfall Inc: https://moonfallink.com/

Sour Patch Kids: https://www.amazon.com/Sour-Patch-Kids-Chewy-Candy/dp/B003EMOPMK

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/

Inside Out 2: https://movies.disney.com/inside-out-2

TikTok: tiktok.com

Halo: https://www.xbox.com/en-US/games/halo

Dr. Pepper:https://www.drpepper.com/s/

Mtn. Dew: https://www.pepsicopartners.com/pepsico/en/USD/PEPSICO-BRANDS/MTN-DEW%C2%AE/c/brand_mtnDew

Topo Chico: https://www.coca-cola.com/us/en/brands/topo-chico

Xbox Live: https://www.xbox.com/en-US/live

Destiny: https://www.amazon.com/Destiny-Standard-PlayStation-4/dp/B00BGA9Y3W

Stardew Valley: https://www.stardewvalley.net/

Insulated coffee mugs: https://www.amazon.com/YETI-Stackable-Insulated-Stainless-MagSlider/dp/B0CCJYXC4M

New Balance: https://www.newbalance.com/

Vans: https://www.vans.com/en-us

Britney Spears: https://britneyspears.com/

Oops I Did It Again: youtu.be/CduA0TULnow?si=4MEX39dbqu9C2uOE

Tina Turner: https://www.thetinaturner.com/

Taylor Swift: https://www.taylorswift.com/

Coco Melon: https://www.netflix.com/title/81273085

Star Wars Trilogy: https://www.imdb.com/list/ls052192052/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Martin Pannier is a French entrepreneur who started the company Primo to help small and medium-sized businesses get their IT work right for new employees. He’s worked as a product leader at iziwork, Gusto and several others. In addition to being a founder he’s also a husband and the father of one young daughter. In our conversation today we discussed:

* Raising a daughter in a multicultural family

* How to avoid the temptation to view parenting as an accomplishment

* Why not to focus on over-optimization of parenting

* Maintaining relationships outside of the family when it’s hectic

* The balance of two working parents when one is a founder

* His most surprising aspects of becoming a Dad

* A few things he learned very quickly after his daughter was born

* Having a newborn and running a company

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Where to find Martin Pannier

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinpannier/

* Primo: https://www.getprimo.com/

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:37] Welcome

[1:51] Background

[5:25] Martin’s Childhood

[8:25] Martin’s Family

[11:58] Did he have to convince his wife to move to France?

[15:09] Their decision to start a family

[17:23] What it’s like having a newborn & running a company?

[21:53] Multicultural parenting styles

[25:56] Terrible parenting advice

[28:04] Earliest memory of becoming a father

[30:07] Parenting as an accomplishment

[34:22] What surprised you the most about becoming a dad?

[35:39] Diaper changing competition

[36:43] What did you learn after having your daughter?

[39:34] How he has prioritized maintaining relationships outside the house

[41:04] Favorite book to read to Juno?

[42:02] Family language in a multilingual household

[43:57] How has having child/starting company impacted your life?

[45:58] What he hopes for his daughter’s relationship to technology

[50:03] What’d he give up to become a dad?

[51:39] Mistakes made as a dad

[53:25] Where to follow Martin

[54:44] Rapid fire / lightning round

[1:00:40] Thank you

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Show references:

iziwork: https://www.iziwork.com/fr/

Gusto: https://gusto.com/

Paris, France: https://www.britannica.com/place/Paris

Seine: https://www.britannica.com/place/Seine-River

World Bank:https://www.worldbank.org/en/home

French Space Agency: https://www.esa.int/Enabling_Support/Space_Engineering_Technology/Centre_National_D_Etudes_Spatiales_CNES

Siqi Chen’s Startup Dad Episode: youtube.com/watch?v=I2Nm5Mkj0s0

Sheep In A Jeep: https://www.amazon.com/SHEEP-JEEP-Nancy-Shaw/dp/0395470307

War and Peace: https://www.amazon.com/War-Peace-Vintage-Classics-Tolstoy/dp/1400079985

Where The Wild Things Are: https://www.amazon.com/Where-Wild-Things-Maurice-Sendak/dp/0060254920

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs: https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/what-is-maslow-hierarchy-of-needs

Baby Camera: https://www.amazon.com/Monitor-5Display-Pan-Tilt-Zoom-Temperature-Lullabies/dp/B09GM8JZM9/

Hatch Lights: https://www.hatch.co/

The Expectant Father: https://www.amazon.com/Expectant-Father-Ultimate-Dads-Be/dp/0789212137

Lion King: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0110357/

Honey I Shrunk The Kids: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0097523/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Linda Flanagan is a freelance journalist, researcher, and former cross-country and track coach. She is the author of numerous articles on youth sports and the book Take Back The Game - How Money and Mania Are Ruining Kids Sports—And Why It Matters. She is a founding board member of the NYC chapter of the Positive Coaching Alliance and her writing has appeared in The Atlantic, Runner’s World and NPR’s Mindshift. In addition to being a lifelong athlete she’s also the mother of three grown children. In our conversation today we discussed:

* The inspiration behind Take Back The Game

* The role of her father in her life as an athlete and how that shaped her perspective on sports

* The differences between fathers and mothers and their impact on daughter participation in sports

* The key changes in how youth sports have transformed with the influence of money and increasingly high stakes

* Changes in family dynamics and parental expectations; the influence of the Name Image and Likeness rules (or NIL)

* Early sports specialization and its effect on children’s physical and mental health

* How to make sports fun again

* Success stories in communities implementing positive change in youth sports

* Advice to parents who want to support their children’s athletic interests without falling into the mania

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Where to find Linda Flanagan

* Website: https://lindaflanaganauthor.com/

* X: https://x.com/lindaflanagan2

* IG: https://www.instagram.com/Lindaflanagan_author/

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:51] Welcome

[2:15] Childhood

[3:26] Linda’s Kids

[3:57] Coaching career

[4:52] Realization that kid’s sports needed reform

[8:06] What role did Linda’s father play in her athletics?

[11:32] Differences between fathers and mother’s impacting daughters in sports

[13:07] Key changes in sports regarding money

[21:33] NIL - Name, Image and Likeness

[25:05] Early sports specialization

[29:43] Alternatives to specialization

[33:56] Organizations that have implemented positive change

[39:11] Role of tech and media on sports

[42:43] Role of coaches

[44:26] Advice for parents

[50:28] Changes for the next decade

[53:01] Where to find Linda

[54:33] Rapid fire / Lightning round

[58:22] Thank you

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Show references:

Take Back the Game, How Money and Mania are Ruining Kids Sports and Why it Matters by Linda Flanagan: https://www.amazon.com/Take-Back-Game-Ruining-Sports/dp/059332904X

ESPN Wide World of Sports: https://disneyworld.disney.go.com/destinations/wide-world-of-sports/

NIL: https://iconsource.com/what-is-nil/

NFHS: https://www.nfhsnetwork.com/

Families and Sport Lab at Utah State, Travis Dorsch: https://cehs.usu.edu/families-in-sport-lab/people/faculty/travis-dorsch

Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World by David Epstein: https://www.amazon.com/Range-Generalists-Triumph-Specialized-World/dp/0735214484

Tiger Woods: https://tigerwoods.com/

The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt: https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/dp/0593655036

Free Range Kids by Lenore Skenazy: https://letgrow.org/free-chapter/

Peter Gray (professor at BC): https://www.bc.edu/bc-web/schools/morrissey/departments/psychology-neuroscience/people/affiliated-and-emeritus/peter-gray.html

Jason Targoff: https://www.cambridgeyouthsoccer.org/Default.aspx?tabid=1309964&mid=1365147&newskeyid=HN1&newsid=437883&ctl=newsdetail

Pick up Sports App: https://pickupsports.co/pages/app-1

Steve Magnus: https://www.stevemagness.com/

Ferber Method: https://www.sleepfoundation.org/baby-sleep/ferber-method

WSJ article, When Junior Heads to College, Helicopter Parents Turn to Empty-Nest Coaches: https://www.wsj.com/lifestyle/relationships/helicopter-parents-empty-nest-coaches-868b5600

Wizard of Oz: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0032138/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Rob Schutz is a serial entrepreneur and the co-founder of multi-billion-dollar online health company, Ro. He has also founded the domain name service company, Snagged. He invests alongside me in the 20Growth fund. In addition to his skill as a founder he’s also a husband and the father of two kids. In our conversation today we discussed:

* How to set a good example for your kids in how you treat others

* Not putting too much pressure on yourself to have hard and fast rules or systems

* Adjusting your life to be more present

* The emotions and feelings you go through as a new Dad

* The most surprising aspects of fatherhood

* The difference between the relationship he wants his kids to have with technology vs. social media

* Some exciting new rapid fire/lightning questions!

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Where to find Rob Schutz

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robschutz/

* X: https://x.com/rob

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:29] Welcome

[1:59] Professional background

[3:45] Rob’s Childhood

[6:39] Rob’s family

[8:15] Starting a company

[10:58] Decision to start a family

[11:57] Music

[12:30] Earliest memory of being a dad

[14:43] Setting a good example for kids

[16:43] Is this perspective how you/partner were raised?

[18:39] What emotions arose when becoming a dad

[23:08] Most surprising things you’ve learned?

[26:20] What does “being present” mean to you?

[30:59] Advice to younger Rob

[33:14] Advice to ignore

[34:23] What book do you gift new dads

[35:04] What book do you read to your kids?

[35:47] Frameworks

[38:52] Balance of parenting

[41:52] How has parenting evolved

[45:13] Aligning as parents

[47:33] Kid’s relationship to technology

[51:51] Mistake as a dad

[53:10] Follow along

[53:56] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Ro: https://ro.co/

Snagged: https://www.snagged.com/

20 Growth Fund: https://www.thetwentyminutevc.com/20vc-fund/

Bark Box: https://www.barkbox.com/

University of McMaster: https://www.mcmaster.ca/

IBM: https://www.ibm.com/us-en

Isaiah House:https://isaiahhouse.org/

Penn State: https://www.psu.edu/

Cornell:https://www.cornell.edu/

Habitat for Humanity: https://www.habitat.org/

Mega Touch Machine: https://www.arcade-museum.com/Videogame/megatouch-video

Crunch Labs:https://www.crunchlabs.com/

Finasteride: https://ro.co/lp/medications/hair-loss/

Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook for New Dads by Gary Greenberg & Jeannie Hayden: https://www.amazon.com/Be-Prepared-Gary-Greenberg/dp/0743251547

The Book with No Pictures by B. J. Novak: https://www.amazon.com/Book-No-Pictures-B-Novak/dp/0803741715

Snapchat: https://www.snapchat.com/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/en/

iPad: https://www.apple.com/ipad/

Cloth diapers: https://www.grovia.com/

Tesla: https://www.tesla.com/

Is It Cake: https://www.netflix.com/title/81333845

Mighty Ducks: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0104868/

Goonies: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0089218/

Blockbuster: https://www.blockbuster.com/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Adam Nash is a long-time Silicon Valley executive, investor and advisor. He was the President and CEO of Wealthfront, a Product executive at Dropbox and LinkedIn, and teaches a course on personal finance for engineers at Stanford. He is currently the co-founder and CEO of Daffy, the donor-advised fund for you and a champion of charitable giving. In addition to his long and successful career he’s also a husband and the father of four kids! In our conversation today we discussed:

* How to raise financially literate kids

* How to think about the question of “am I financially ready for children” and is that the right question

* How to teach your kids about charitable giving and philanthropy

* The challenges of starting a company as a parent

* The concept of “super powers” at work and at home

* How to talk about money with your wife and kids

* How to do financial planning in your household

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Where to find Adam Nash

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamnash/

* X: https://x.com/adamnash

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:41] Welcome

[2:47] How did you develop your passion for finance?

[5:31] When are you financially ready for children?

[12:05] Was financial literacy part of childhood?

[14:55] Kids ages and background

[15:25] Decision to start a family

[18:26] Guardrails

[23:35] Conversation with partner about startup

[27:12] Concept of superpowers

[31:56] Advice to younger Adam

[35:49] Advice to ignore

[38:53] How do you build financially literate children?

[44:09] What is a DAF?

[51:18] Your family’s philanthropy & impact

[53:51] Financial review

[57:27] Financial apps

[58:48] Mistake as a dad

[1:03:57] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Daffy: https://www.daffy.org/

Wealthfront: https://www.wealthfront.com/

Dropbox: https://www.dropbox.com/home

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/feed/

Stanford: https://www.stanford.edu/

Quicken: https://www.quicken.com/

Steve Jobs: https://www.britannica.com/money/Steve-Jobs

DonorsChoose: https://www.donorschoose.org/

Greenlight: https://greenlight.com/

Monterey Bay Aquarium: https://www.montereybayaquarium.org/

Acorns: https://www.acorns.com/

Plenty: https://www.withplenty.com/

Apple watch: https://www.apple.com/watch/

Jewish Community Center: https://jcca.org/

Cars: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0317219/

Animal House: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0077975/

Back To School: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0090685/

Real Genius: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0089886/

Star Wars: https://www.starwars.com/films

Back To The Future: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0088763/

Toyota Sienna: https://www.toyota.com/sienna/

Honda Odyssey: https://automobiles.honda.com/odyssey

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Andrew Capland is the founder of Growth coaching and advisory, Delivering Value. He’s also been the Head of Growth at Postscript and Wistia and was an early employee at Hubspot. He’s a loving husband and the father of two kids, including one who was 6 weeks old during our chat! In our conversation today we discussed:

* Going from one kid to two and thriving with a newborn

* Managing your life and paternity leave as a Solopreneur

* The support structures needed with a second kid

* Bottle washing hacks!

* What do you do when you and your spouse are both exhausted?

* What to do with different religious values in the household

* How to set yourself up for success with clients and a newborn

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Where to find Andrew Capland

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewcapland/

* X: https://x.com/acapland

* Delivering Value: https://deliveringvalue.co/

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:24] Welcome

[1:42] Professional background

[3:02] Inspiration for pod

[4:52] Childhood

[8:12] Family now

[9:15] First date with wife?

[9:56] How old are your kids?

[10:34] What does your wife do for work?

[10:58] Decision to start a family

[13:17] First thing you remember when 6 week old was born?

[15:15] Support structures w/ second kid

[17:41] Paternity leave as a solopreneur

[19:17] How to manage new parenthood and soloprenuer

[21:19] Transition from 1 to 2 kids

[24:00] Any bottle washing hacks?

[24:50] Earliest memory of becoming a dad

[25:59] Emotions w/ first child vs. second

[27: 22] What are some surprising things you discovered?

[28:14] Advice to younger Andrew

[29:57] Advice to ignore

[31:10] Favorite books to read to your kids?

[32:09] Frameworks

[32:59] What do you do if you’re both exhausted?

[33:59] How has parenting evolved 

[36:10] Where do you and your partner not align?

[37:45] Differences in religions amongst couples

[40:14] Kid’s relationship to technology

[42:25] What is something you gave up to be a dad?

[43:59] Recharge batteries

[44:59] Mistake as a dad

[46:31] Follow along

[47:47] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Andrew’s Podcast: https://media.deliveringvalue.co/t/show

Adam’s episode of Andrew’s Podcast: https://media.deliveringvalue.co/p/how-to-deal-with-overwhelm-imposter

Delivering Value: https://deliveringvalue.co/

PostScript: https://postscript.io/

Wistia: https://wistia.com/

HubSpot: https://www.hubspot.com/products/get-started-f049

Kings: https://www.playatkings.com/

Bright Horizons: https://www.brighthorizons.com/

Little Blue Truck Makes a Friend: https://www.amazon.com/Little-Blue-Truck-Makes-Friend/dp/0358722829

Little Blue Truck Leads the Way:https://www.amazon.com/Little-Blue-Truck-Leads-board/dp/0544568052

iPad: https://www.apple.com/

MiniMeis backpack: https://us.minimeis.com/

Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook for New Dads by Gary Greenberg & Jeannie Hayden:

https://www.amazon.com/Be-Prepared-Gary-Greenberg/dp/0743251547/

Toy Story: https://toystory.disney.com/

Jaws: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0073195/

Nantucket: https://www.nantucket-ma.gov/

Kia Telluride: https://www.kia.com/us/en/telluride

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Jordane Giuly is a 3x co-founder having started French Fintech unicorn Spendesk and most recently SMB financing company Defacto. As a French entrepreneur he brings an interesting, international perspective to parenting and company building. He’s a loving husband and the father of two kids. In our conversation today we discussed:

* Comparing California cuisine to French cuisine

* The differences in parenting support between France and the U.S.

* Deciding how many kids to have

* Raising kids internationally while starting a company

* Paternity leave for startup founders

* Doing diaper changes while talking to investors

* Watching your own parents become grandparents

* How becoming a Dad has influenced his leadership style

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Where to find Jordane Giuly

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jordane-giuly/

* X: https://x.com/jordanegiuly

Where to find Adam Fishman

* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:28] Welcome

[1:55] Jordane’s professional life

[3:46] How does CA cuisine compare to France?

[4:41] Jordane’s childhood

[6:44] His sister as a co-founder

[7:33] Support structures in France for parents

[10:32] Startup founder support system

[12:28] His family now

[15:19] Starting a company & raising a kid at the same time

[16:38] Changing diapers during investing calls

[18:41] His wife’s career

[19:54] Amount of kids discussion

[20:49] Earliest memory of becoming a dad

[22:37] Having a “super hairy kid"

[24:25] Most surprising thing about being a dad

[26:09] Young grandparents

[26:32] Advice for younger Jordane and what to ignore

[29:30] Fav book to read to his kids?

[30:45] Parenting frameworks

[32:45] Grandparents for childcare

[32:53] How has Jordane’s parenting style changed from one to two kids?

[35:30] Has being a dad changed his leadership style?

[37:47] What do Jordane and his wife not agree on?

[39:47] Relationship he wants his kids to have with tech?

[40:55] Recharge batteries

[41:54] Will he be running in the streets during the Olympics?

[42:43] Mistakes made as a dad

[43:37] What did he give up to become a dad?

[44:01] Where to follow along

[44:36] Rapid fire

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Show references:

Spendesk: https://www.spendesk.com/

DeFacto:https://www.getdefacto.com/

Stanford: https://www.stanford.edu/

Open Classrooms: https://openclassrooms.com/en/

Daft Punk: https://www.daftpunk.com/

Queen: https://queenonline.com/

Where the Wild Things Are: https://www.amazon.com/Where-Wild-Things-Maurice-Sendak/dp/0064431789Paris Olympics: https://olympics.com/en/paris-2024

Seine River: https://www.britannica.com/place/Seine-River

Birkenstocks:https://www.birkenstock.com/us

Stupid rabbit show: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Simon_(French_TV_series)

Star Wars: https://www.starwars.com/

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For sponsorship inquiries email: [email protected].

For Startup Dad Merch: www.startupdadshop.com 

Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/