Episode Nineteen: [Miik Wells – Inner Equity]

In this episode, Miik shares his connection with his work with the audience through Nicole's testimonial, offering a glimpse into his approach to mental wellness. He provides strategies for key areas where individuals with BPD often struggle. The episode also features interactive "Game Time" segments, where he discusses the importance of untangling personal patterns, rewriting your story, and embracing authenticity. He concludes with powerful closing thoughts that resonate with anyone on a mental health journey. Tune in for an engaging and transformative discussion aimed at supporting your mental wellness journey.

Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

Here is the episode breakdown:

Guest:

• Miik Wells

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/insiit.miik

In this episode, you will hear:

• 0:00 Intro

(Beginning of Interview)

• 1:07 Nicole’s Opening Statement
• 1:57 Introduction to Miik Wells
• 3:23 Self-Attunement and Inner Equity
• 8:14 Nicole’s Session Testimonial with Miik
• 10:07 Miik’s Connection With His Work
• 16:13 Strategies for the Five Key Areas Where Individuals Struggle with BPD
• 26:01 Game Time: Untangling Your Patterns
• 28:29 Game Time: Rewriting Your Story
• 30:32 Game Time: Free To Be Me
• 32:43 Miik’s Final Words

(End of Interview)

• 34:45 Nicole Closing Statement
• 35:08 BPD Daily Mantra
• 35:24 Outro
• 36:43 “FREQUENCY” by Stella: https://youtu.be/p2BpRCBnx-I?si=cLiifYtOLEoeWQdq

Episode Resources:

• Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/

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• “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFT

Connect with the Host:

Nicole Darby: [email protected]

Credits:

Host: Nicole Darby

Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIII

Sound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Podcast Producer: Nicole Darby

Research Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In this episode, Nicole, Dr. Gregory Serfer, and Melanie Jones explore the fear of abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). They discuss how this fear affects relationships and daily life, sharing personal experiences, insights, and strategies for managing this challenging aspect of BPD. Whether you're looking to understand BPD better or seeking practical advice, this episode offers valuable guidance on navigating fear and abandonment.

Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

Here is the episode breakdown:

Guest:

• Dr. Gregory Serfer

Email: [email protected]

Book: “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFT

Quora: https://www.quora.com/profile/Gregory-Serfer

• Melanie Jones: [email protected]

In this episode, you will hear:

• 0:00 Intro

(Beginning of Interview)

• 1:07 Nicole’s Opening Statement
• 2:24 Introduction to Dr. Gregory Serfer and Melanie Jones (and Handsome Dan)
• 8:00 The Importance of Fear of Abandonment Concerning BPD
• 13:22 Follow up: Can Fear of Abandonment Play into Other Emotions/Thoughts
• 18:36 Mel’s Perspective: Fear of Abandonment
• 23:30 Relationships with a Person with BPD (pwBPD)
• 29:06 Advice For Confronting Discards
• 32:07 Mel’s Perspective: Tips to Avoid the Fear of Abandonment
• 35:20 Nicole’s Perspective: Tips to Avoid the Fear of Abandonment
• 38:44 More Strategies (Continued)
• 39:58 Testing, Self-Awareness, and More Perspectives
• 47:15 Resources, Solutions, Planning, and Support
• 49:08 Mel and Gregory’s Final Words

(End of Interview)

• 49:52 Nicole’s Closing Statement
• 50:15 BPD Daily Mantra
• 50:31 Outro
• 51:50 Ion Like That by Jane Handcock: https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=j5oo3U0QeLQ

Episode Resources:

• Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/

Connect with the Host:

Nicole Darby: [email protected]

Free BPD Support Resources and Weekly Support Group (Wednesdays): https://www.showmegrace.org

Credits:

Hosts: Nicole Darby, Dr. Gregory Serfer, Melanie Jones, "Handsome Dan" -Yeti microphone

Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIII

Sound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Podcast Producer: Nicole Darby

Research Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

Episode Seventeen: [Movement with Marcia]

Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

In today’s episode, Nicole talks with Marcia Jones, a counselor who combines fitness with her therapy sessions. They discuss why Marcia chose to blend fitness with counseling, how it helps her clients, and ways to work with those who might be hesitant. Marcia also offers advice on overcoming shame and joins in a "Myth or Truth" game to clear up common misconceptions about fitness and mental health.

Guest:

• Marcia Jones

Website: https://www.psycorefit.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psycorefit

In this episode, you will hear:

• 0:00 Intro
• 1:05 Nicole’s Opening Statement

(Beginning of Interview)

• 2:04 Introduction to Marcia Jones
• 3:38 What Was the Motivation for the Integration of Fitness into Counseling?
• 7:59 How Was Fitness Integrated for the Clients?
• 11:12 How Do You Approach a Resistant Client?
• 15:35 A Different Approach and Tips Against Shame
• 20:24 A Game: Myth or Truth
• 30:17 Marcia’s Final Words

(End of Interview)

• 34:33 Nicole’s Closing Statement
• 34:56 BPD Daily Mantra
• 35:11 Outro
• “Keep Going” (Chosen) by Sevena - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQ4dqv4Wx_0

Episode Resources:

• Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/
  • Weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brain
  • Career Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3

• Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org

Connect with the Host:

Nicole Darby

Email: [email protected]

Free BPD Support Resources and Weekly Support Group (Wednesdays): https://www.showmegrace.org

Credits:

Hosts: Nicole Darby

Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIII

Sound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Podcast Producer: Nicole Darby

Research Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

Episode Sixteen: Eating Disorders with Tatum Carter

In this episode, Nicole is joined by Tatum Carter, a Community Outreach Liaison at the Eating Recovery Center, to explore the intricate connection between Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and eating disorders, with a focus on marginalized communities. Tatum offers valuable insights into common myths, challenges, and key triggers related to eating disorders. The discussion also delves into crucial advocacy steps and initial steps toward wellness for those impacted. Tune in for practical guidance and Tatum's inspiring final words on mental wellness.

Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

Guest:

• Tatum Carter

Eating Recovery Center: https://www.eatingrecoverycenter.com

Asessment Line 1-877-756-4832

Email: [email protected]

In this episode, you will hear:

• 0:00 Intro

(Beginning of Interview)

• 1:09 Opening Statement
• 2:08 A BPD Statistic
• 3:28 Introduction of Tatum Carter
• 4:38 What Led You to Work of Mental Wellness?
• 5:43 Common Myths Amongst Eating Disorders (ED)
• 9:21 Eating Disorder Challenges in Marginalized Communities
• 12:24 What Are Some Challenges of ED We Need to Address?
• 14:06 What Are Some High-Level Triggers?
• 18:15 Advocacy Steps for Marginalized Communities
• 23:18 First Steps to Wellness
• 24:46 Tatum’s Final Words

(End of Interview)

• 25:55 Closing Statement from Nicole
• 26:17 BPD Daily Mantra
• 26:34 Outro
• 27:51 “[Who?] Keeps Changing Your Mind (Daniel Bowie and Roy Rox Mix)” by South Street Player: https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=-xNkReWoAZw

Episode Resources:

• Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/
  • Weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brain
  • Career Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3

• Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org

Connect with the Host:

Nicole Darby

Email: [email protected]

Free BPD Support Resources and Weekly Support Group (Wednesdays): https://www.showmegrace.org

Credits:

Host: Nicole Darby

Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIII

Sound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Podcast Producer: Nicole Darby

Research Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

Episode Fifteen: [Eve’s In-Between Diagnosis]

In today’s episode, Nicole sits down with a mental health warrior, Eve to have a conversation about her journey with mental health from adolescence to now. They cover the impacts of mental health, and misdiagnosis, and reflect on their communities and influences on how they perceive their mental health.

Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

Guest:

• Eve

In this episode, you will hear:

• 0:00 Intro
• 1:07 Introduction to Eve’s Interview

(Beginning of Interview)

• 1:46 Eve’s Introduction and Opening Conversation
• 3:42 How Are You Doing?
• 4:36 Early Symptoms of BPD in Adolescence
• 6:52 Early Diagnosis
• 12:19 Knowledge about BPD Before Diagnosis
• 14:40 Misdiagnosis and Medical Stigma on BPD
• 15:55 Quiet BPD
• 17:46 Steps to Recovery and Thoughts on Diagnosis
• 20:59 The Impact of Mental Health
• 22:05 Eve’s Thoughts on Her Journey
• 24:55 Love Letter to BPD

(End of Interview)

• 26:18 Closing Statement from Nicole
• 26:38 BPD Daily Mantra
• 26:55 Outro
• 28:12 “Northface” by Sinazza x Kagan: https://tinyurl.com/Sinazza-x-Kagan

Episode Resources:

• Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/
  • Weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brain
  • Career Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3

• Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org

Connect with the Host:

Nicole Darby

Email: [email protected]

Free BPD Support Resources and Weekly Support Group (Wednesdays): https://www.showmegrace.org

Credits:

Hosts: Nicole Darby

Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIII

Sound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Podcast Producer: Nicole Darby

Research Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

Episode Fourteen: Mel Jones & Dr. Serfer

In this episode, Dr. Gregory Serfer, author of "I Am Still Right Here," and Melanie Jones explore the complexities of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) through real-life experiences. Dr. Serfer narrates Mel's crisis story - which provides insightful perspective on how people see pwBPD. Mel resides in South Africa and the conversation aptly sets the stage for a raw, honest discussion on BPD's ups and downs, the lack of available support and it's impact, and common misunderstandings. They share clinical and firsthand insights on BPD misinterpretations, stress tolerance, and necessary healthcare changes for better diagnosis and support.

Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

Guests:

• Dr. Gregory Serfer & Melanie Jones

Mel's Email: [email protected]

Gregory's Email: [email protected]

Book: “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFT

In this episode, you will hear:

• 0:00 Intro
• 1:07 Trigger Warning
• 1:31 Introduction to Melanie Jones (Mel) & Dr. Gregory Serfer
• 2:06 Mel’s Crisis Story narrated by Dr. Serfer

(Beginning of Interview)

• 7:35 Beginning of the Interview
• 10:06 Who Is Mel Jones?
• 11:13 Who is Dr. Serfer and What Is This Book?
• 14:20 Mel’s Journey: The Ups and Downs of BPD
• 17:53 The Lack of a Support System or Tribe and The BPD Monster Amongst Friends, Family, and Partners
• 22:22 Common Misunderstanding Amongst BPD
• 29:54 The Misreading of pwBPD by Others
• 37:31 Stress Tolerance for pwBPD
• 45:52 BPD Buddies
• 53:55 What needs to change in healthcare for BPD?
• 1:01:24 The Misunderstanding of BPD Diagnosis
• 1:03:25 Final Thoughts

(End of Interview)

• 1:12:07 Closing Statement from Nicole
• 1:12:28 BPD Daily Mantra
• 1:12:45 Outro
• 1:14:02 “Gold” by Austin Millz: https://open.spotify.com/track/5Dz6wdHlI45KAOBAfMSJRS

Episode Resources:

• Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/
  • Weekly Support Group & Career Coaching

Connect with the Host:

Nicole Darby: [email protected]

Credits:

Host & Podcast Producer: Nicole Darby

Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIII

Sound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Research Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today’s episode, we introduce our crisis story, Kimbriana’s Story read by herself. Nicole sits down with a mental health warrior, Kim, and her son Ian to reflect on her experience as a person with BPD and how it affects her motherhood and relationship with her son, Ian. They share an insightful first and second perspective of parenting with bpd and look into how their relationship has evolved.

Disclaimer: Please forgive some of the audio issues with this episode. We tried our best to resolve and chose to release the episode anyway because the content is so important!

The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

Guest:

• Kim & Ian Beavers
  • Kim’s Quora: https://www.quora.com/profile/Kimbriana-Beavers

In this episode, you will hear:

• 0:00 Intro
• 1:30 Intro to Kim Story and Interview
• 2:19 Kim’s Story read by Bella (Crisis Story)

(Beginning of Interview)

• 9:53 A Introduction to Kim & Ian Beavers
• 11:43 Heredity of BPD
• 14:28 The Concerns of Being a Mother as a pwBPD
• 16:30 The Experience of a Childhood Raised By a pwBPD
• 18:06 The Age of Awareness of BPD
• 19:55 The Fear of Inheriting BPD
• 23:09 Recovery and Treatment of BPD
• 26:39 Controlling Crises while Raising A Child
• 29:21 Crises while Raising A Child (From Ian’s Perspective)
• 33:00 Kim & Ian’s Relationship In the Present
• 33:58 Final Thoughts from Ian
• 38:36 Final Thoughts from Kim
• 41:30 Love Letter to BPD

(End of Interview)

• 46:18 Closing Statement from Nicole
• 46:35 BPD Daily Mantra
• 46:58 Outro
• 48:15 Find Me Here by Sherwin Gardner: https://tinyurl.com/Blessings-Find-Me

Episode Resources:

• Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/
  • Weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brain
  • Career Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3

• Crisis Hotline - Call or Text 988 or Chat At 988lifeline.org

Connect with the Hosts:

Bella Zimmerman: [email protected]

Nicole Darby: [email protected]

Credits:

Hosts: Bella Zimmerman and Nicole Darby

Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIII

Sound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Podcast Producer: Nicole Darby

Research Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In today's podcast, we dive deep into powerful tools for mental wellness. Join us as we explore the transformative inquiry questions by Byron Katie, understand the concept of Mentalization-Based Therapy (MBT), and engage in a guided meditation for better time management, productivity, and focus.

Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

In this episode, you will hear:

• 0:00 Intro

• 1:45 Term of the Day: MBT (Mentalization-Based Therapy)

(Beginning of Tool Time With Nicole Darby)

• 4:15 Nicole & Sasha Fearce and the Effects of BPD
• 5:49 The 4 Inquiry Key Questions
• 6:14 Turnaround Statements and Mental Yoga

(End of Tool Time With Nicole Darby)

(Beginning of Meditation for Time Management, Productivity, and Focus)

• 6:49 Opening Statement to Meditation
• 7:06 Beginning of Meditation
• 21:10 Closing Statement of Meditation

(End of Mindfulness and Meditation)

• 23:16 Closing Statement from Nicole
• 23:39 BPD Daily Mantra
• 23:55 Outro
• 25:13 Closer by Goapele: https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=Tb9fkGCCV1o

Episode Resources:

- Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/

- Bi-weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brain

- Career Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3

- Crisis Hotline - Call or text 988 or chat at 988lifeline.org

- Meditable Goal Meditations: Meditation for Excellent Time Management, Productivity & Focus + Hypnosis and Affirmations: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bf7iCt980TA

Connect With Host:

Nicole Darby

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.showmegrace.org

Credits:

Hosts: Nicole Darby

Sound Engineer: Stefan

Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJ Ervin

Editor: Nicole Darby

Research Team: Tamar Brignolle

In today’s enlightening episode, Dr. Stephanie Vaughn discusses various important topics related to Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). She provides expert insights into BPD criteria and treatments, client advocacy in therapy, Radically Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy (RO-DBT), and therapy's true length and effectiveness. The episode also highlights the power of client autonomy in their mental health journey, covering aspects such as medication, therapy, and more. Join us as Dr. Vaughn shares her knowledge and experience, offering valuable tools and perspectives for those navigating the complexities of BPD.

Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

Guest:

• Dr. Stephanie Vaughn

Website: https://www.psychepllc.com

In this episode, you will hear:

• 0:00 Intro

(Beginning of Interview)

• 1:59 Introduction of Dr. Stephanie Vaughn
• 6:45 Intro to True or False/ How Do You Feel About…
• 7:46 How Do You Feel About… 260 Ways of BPD and Criteria?
• 11:05 Specific Treatments for BPD Criteria
• 14:05 How Can Clients Advocate for Therapy?
• 21:40 What is Radically Open DBT?
• 28:45 What is the True Length of Therapy?
• 32:21 Does Your Therapist Need Therapy?
• 35:00 Other Questions For Your Therapist…
• 43:00 After Effects of Medication, Multiple Opinions, and Doctor Shopping
• 46:22 True or False: Psychiatrists Should Be Focused on Only Medication, Not Personal Life
• 51:21 Client Invalidation from Psychiatrists and the Power of Autonomy
• 54:32 Dr. Stephanie Vaughn's Final Words

(End of Interview)

• 1:02:59 Closing Statement from Nicole
• 1:03:21 BPD Daily Mantra
• 1:03:38 Outro
• 1:04:54 “Stressed’ - Doechii: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=29mk5rz3m7Q

Episode Resources:

- Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/

- Bi-weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brain

- Career Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3

- Crisis Hotline - Call or text 988 or chat at 988lifeline.org

Connect With Host

Nicole Darby

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.showmegrace.org

Credits:

Hosts: Nicole Darby

Sound Engineer: Stefa Mitroi

Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJ Ervin

Editor: Nicole Darby

Research Team: Tamar Brignolle

In today’s enlightening episode, we are joined by David Toback, a mentor and trainer in Person-Centered Therapy (PCT). David shares his extensive knowledge and personal journey towards embracing PCT, offering valuable insights into how this therapeutic approach can benefit individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).

Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

Guest:

• David Toback

Website: https://replacingrisk.com/

In this episode, you will hear:

• 0:00 Intro
• 1:07 Person-Centered Therapy/Intro to Guest

(Beginning of Interview)

• 2:21 Introduction of David Toback
• 4:33 More Insight Into Person-Centered Therapy (PCT)
• 7:14 The Personal Journey Towards PCT
• 13:14 How Can PCT Help A Person With BPD (pwBPD)
• 21:28 How Can Someone Advocate for PCT In Their Recovery Plan
• 30:46 What Is The Best Approach To Discuss PCT With Your Provider?
• 39:02 David Toback’s Final Words

(End of Interview)

• 51:56 Closing Statement from Nicole
• 52:18 BPD Daily Mantra
• 52:33 Outro
• 53:52 Ziggy Funk feat. Taliwa - What You Afraid Of (DJ Spen & Thommy Davis Disco Phobia Mix) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rhDVKAEHPGg

Episode Resources:

- Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/

- Bi-weekly Support Group: https://www.showmegrace.org/the-brain

- Career Coaching: https://www.showmegrace.org/about-3

- Crisis Hotline - Call or text 988 or chat at 988lifeline.org

Credits:

Hosts: Nicole Darby

Sound Engineer: Stefa Mitroi

Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJ Ervin

Editor: Nicole Darby

Research Team: Tamar Brignolle