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October 04, 2024 19: Amie Barsky - Put Down Your Sword: Heal the Divide & Find True Partnership
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In the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky delves into the transformative journey of self-love and healing. She shares her personal experiences of overcoming emotional barriers and societal pressures, emphasizing the importance of self-care and authenticity. Through candid storytelling, Amie explores how past traumas and learned behaviors can create emotional armor, hindering genuine connections.
She discusses her path to dismantling this armor, fostering self-acceptance, and building trust within herself. This episode offers practical insights and tools for listeners seeking to reclaim their power and cultivate meaningful relationships.
What We Explored This Episode
3:09 Healing Relationships with Masculine Energy
5:05 The Impact of Words and Emotional Armor
6:37 Healing and Compassion at a Co-Ed Retreat
8:09 The Power of Giving and Receiving
9:41 Embracing Vulnerability in Relationships
11:13 Embracing Vulnerability as a Superpower
13:16 The Feminine Movement in 2024
Memorable Quotes"Love is not a battlefield. It's a garden. To tend to our garden is so important and to remind ourselves that our past does not define us at all.""I thought wearing the armor of independence made me strong, but the truth is, by shedding it, I became whole.""Being open is a superpower. Being vulnerable is a superpower. And being empowered and powerful and soft all at once is a beautiful superpower."Connect With Amie
Website: https://amiebarsky.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1
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17 min
September 27, 2024 18: Shattering Body Image Myths and Unlock Radical Self-Acceptance
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, our host, Amie Barsky, has a transformative conversation with women's confidence coach, Bek Antonucci, surrounding topics of body image, self-love, and radical self-expression. Bek shares her journey of overcoming societal pressures and personal challenges, including a transformative experience with a stigmatized health condition, and embracing self-acceptance and empowerment.
The conversation dissects the impact of childhood experiences on body perception, the importance of self-awareness, and the power of vulnerability. Together, they explore how women can reclaim their narratives and find confidence through self-expression and personal growth. This episode offers practical tools and inspiring stories so that you can challenge limiting beliefs and embrace your unique selves.
What We Explored This Episode
03:11 Breaking Free from Limiting Beliefs
07:35 Reclaiming Feminine Identity
09:46 Navigating Aging with Grace and Acceptance
17:59 The Journey to Body Confidence and Self-Worth
19:42 Journey to Self-Acceptance and Vulnerability
24:23 Personal Journey of Self-Discovery
25:45 The Long Game of True Health
28:08 Future of Body Positivity and Self-Expression
Memorable Quotes"I know that when I'm slimmer, women will compliment me. I know that when I have a little bit more juice on me, men will love it more. But the misconception is that we're doing it for someone else.""The more I did this work, the less I reached for food to band-aid any kind of emotion. It's about finding healthier ways to cope with emotions and understanding the role food plays in our lives.""As women, some of us are so habitual in checking in the mirror, making sure that we look okay, ensuring the fitness routine is on, eating a certain way, and checking for changes or fluctuations. Get curious about where this drive and the need for it came from"Connect with Bek
Bek’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bekantonucci/?hl=en
Bek’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@bekantonucci
Bek’s Spoify - https://open.spotify.com/show/2EteUkpcHX7jcCV1f5wGWh?si=vt_dhgEaRUCErxuKic86vw
Connect With Amie
Website: https://amiebarsky.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1
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33 min
September 13, 2024 16: Kelly Gardner - Is Selfishness the Secret to Sizzling Relationships?
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes relationship coach Kelly Gardener to discuss the complexities of self-care, relationships, and the fine line between healthy selfishness and narcissism. Kelly shares insights on how self-trust and confidence can lead to deeper connections and healthier relationships.
Together, they explore the impact of societal pressures on women, the importance of setting and holding boundaries, and how to cultivate sensuality and self-worth independent of external validation. This episode is a thought-provoking dive into modern relationships, offering practical advice and inspiring stories to help listeners prioritize their own needs and foster meaningful connections.
What We Explored This Episode
03:57 Healthy Selfishness in Relationships
07:46 Socialization of Boys and Girls
09:37 The Paradox of Selfishness in Love
13:56 The Importance of Boundaries in Relationships
16:37 The Connection Between Self-Trust and Confidence
20:01 Cultivating Sensuality and Self-Worth
22:00 Societal Standards and Body Changes
26:26 Defining Confidence
Memorable Quotes"The ugliest parts of me come out only with the people I trust the most. It's a paradox that the deepest, ugliest parts of my being surface because I trust you enough to see them. This reality, though unfortunate, is an opportunity for growth—for me and for us together.""Boundaries are not walls; they are permeable membranes that allow for connection. A good boundary doesn't require the other person's participation; it's about what you will do if your needs aren't met.""Healthy selfishness in a relationship means looking at how the issues that arise are reflections of your own experiences and triggers. It's about taking responsibility and getting curious about your own patterns."Connect with Kelly
Kelly’s Website: https://www.kellygardner.com/about-me
Kelly’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/iamkellygardner
Schedule A Call With Kelly - https://communitygardnerllc.hbportal.co/schedule/6506a876455fe4002512df98
Connect With Amie
Website: https://amiebarsky.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1
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32 min
September 06, 2024 15: Amie Barsky - Who's Really in Charge of Your Life? Decoding Your Inner Parts
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In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky delves into the transformative practice of Internal Family Systems (IFS), also known as parts work. Amie shares her personal journey and beliefs on how understanding and harmonizing the different parts of oneself can lead to greater self-awareness, acceptance, and compassion.
Through practical tools, inspiring stories, and expert advice, she expresses how to achieve freedom from limiting beliefs and societal pressures. This episode offers a deep dive into how IFS can help you make conscious decisions, improve relationships, and lead a more vibrant, fulfilling life.
What We Explored This Episode
01:52 Core Themes: Internal Family Systems (IFS)
02:32 Family Influence On Personal Development
04:07 Unveiling Unconscious Blocks
05:38 Understanding Your True Core Self
06:36 The Common Parts of You
10:15 Deep Compassion for One's Parts
Memorable Quotes"When you have a loving relationship with your parts, they do their jobs when it's appropriate, and then they step back when they're not needed. This balance allows you to make decisions from a conscious, centered state of awareness, leading to a more harmonious and fulfilling life.""Your true self is the core of you, which contains your leadership qualities, such as compassion, perspective, decision making, curiosity, and confidence. When you lead from this centered state, you can navigate life's challenges with greater ease and clarity.""All parts are good. They're actually trying to help you in one way or another. Even when their actions seem counterproductive, they are attempting to protect you from harm or discomfort, and understanding this can lead to profound personal growth."Connect With Amie
Website: https://amiebarsky.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1
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August 30, 2024 14: Amie Barsky - Top Secret for a Vibrant Life: 3 Must-Knows to Get There
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In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky discusses the connection between inner work and living a vibrant life. Amie shares her personal journey and professional insights as a Nervous System And Trauma Master Coach, emphasizing the need to take ownership of one's life and build a deep relationship with oneself.
She discusses the significance of understanding and processing stored experiences in the body, challenging limiting beliefs, and fostering patience and faith in the healing process. If you are ready to let go of lingering self-doubt, anxiety or burnout, this episode is perfect to get you started!
What We Explored This Episode
02:00 - Stepping Away From Interviews
03:43 - Living A Vibrant Life
05:03 - Core Theme: Inner Work
06:24 - The Connection Between Healing And Willingness
09:33 - Building Trust Within Body
10:25 - Unlocking A Level Of Intimacy With Self
Memorable Quotes"Our bodies don't measure the experiences. They just store the experience. Your body doesn't understand what was a big experience or a minor experience.”"Healing requires willingness—the willingness to challenge your basic beliefs of who you think you are. Whether it's people-pleasing tendencies, self-doubt, anxiety, or past trauma, all of it is connected.""It's so important to understand that it's you building a relationship with yourself and your inner child, all the versions of you, to create that safety, to say, 'I am worthy, period. I add value to the world just by being me, period.'"Connect With Amie
Website: https://amiebarsky.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1
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16 min
August 23, 2024 13: Brandan Padilla - The 5-Minute Mom Reset: How Putting Yourself First Changes Everything
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Master Coach Brandan Padilla to discuss the challenges faced by ambitious mothers. Together, they explore the subtle signs of burnout, the importance of self-regulation, and practical strategies for creating balance amidst busy schedules.
Having experience as a solo mama, Brandan shares her personal journey of balancing motherhood and time for herself. She offers insights on recognizing and addressing the early cues of stress, and emphasizes that self care is not a luxury but is an essential practice for well-being.
This episode is packed with actionable advice and inspiring stories aimed at helping mothers prioritize themselves and foster a healthier family dynamic.
What We Explored This Episode
02:09 Self-Care for Busy Moms
06:33 Signs of Dysregulation in Parenting
08:36 Window of Tolerance in Nervous System
10:53 Self-Regulation as a Tool for Self-Care
16:14 Transforming Relationship with Self Care
18:28 Involving Children in Self-Care Practices
24:10 Teaching Children Emotional Expression
29:21 Dealing with Mom Guilt
Memorable Quotes
"It's imperative that we, mamas and women, put ourselves first. If my cup is full, then anything that spills over, that's in the saucer, everyone else can drink from."
"If you are suffering from mama guilt, remember the three A's: awareness, acceptance, and action. Be aware of your feelings, accept them, and then take action to change the situation."
"Enroll your child in your self-care practice. It's going to teach them beautiful practices. You're being a generational code breaker, giving them a better future."
Connect with Brandan
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/beingbrandan/
Connect With Amie
Website: https://amiebarsky.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1
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37 min
August 16, 2024 12: Casey Warwick - Is Your Intuition the Secret to Your Six-Figure Business?
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Casey Warwick, a business embodiment coach who is revolutionizing the way women approach success in business. Casey shares her incredible journey from a military career, cut short by injury, to becoming a personal trainer and, eventually, a thriving business coach.
Casey’s story is filled with raw honesty and powerful insights about overcoming personal trauma and the importance of intuition and energetics in achieving success. Casey dives into the common blocks women face in business and how to overcome them, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and the willingness to confront and heal past traumas.
This conversation is packed with practical advice and heartfelt wisdom that you don’t want to miss. So grab your favorite beverage, get comfortable, and join us in on this empowering discussion.
What We Explored This Episode
00:00 Mental Frameworks on Guilt and Shame
02:36 Casey Warwick's Journey to Becoming a Business Embodiment Coach
04:44 Healing and Business Transformation
18:27 The Impact of Negative Influences on Women's Success
23:53 The Healing Journey
36:04 Mental Frameworks on Abundance
41:21 Casey's Business Transformation Through Stillness
Memorable Quotes
"Guilt reveals, shame conceals. Those who are guilty will unconsciously see things, so it comes up. Whereas those who are in shame, who are often the victim of the circumstance, they conceal it."
"I realized that what I was doing in business was actually a reflection of who I was as a woman. It wasn't anything to do with my strategy or how I was showing up in business. It was all the stuff that was energetically going on for me."
"I challenge anyone listening: if you're not where you want to be, identify whose voice is holding you back. That voice will control you until you take ownership of it and transform it into your own."
Episode Resources
Embodied Business Playbook by Casey Warwick- https://www.casewarwick.com/playbook
Embodied leadership Quiz- https://www.casewarwick.com/embodied-leadership-quiz
Connect With Casey
Website- https://www.casewarwick.com/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/casey.warwick
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/casewarwick/
Connect With Amie
Website: https://amiebarsky.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1
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50 min
August 09, 2024 11: Kari Azuma - Can Inner Safety Boost Your Ability to Hold Boundaries?
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes nervous system leadership coach Kari Azuma. They delve into the intricacies of the nervous system and its impact on daily life, particularly for women. Kari explains how chronic stress affects our bodies and the importance of cultivating inner safety to set and maintain boundaries. The conversation highlights the significance of understanding and addressing deep-rooted patterns of safety and threat, often established in childhood.
Kari shares insights on how to shift from a problem-oriented mindset to a solution-oriented one, emphasizing the need for self-compassion and resourcing oneself to stand in authority. This episode is a treasure trove of wisdom for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of nervous system regulation and personal growth.
What We Explored This Episode
05:09 Nervous System and Safety
18:30 Fawning Response in the Nervous System
28:52 Nervous System Work and Personal Evolution
36:42 Importance of Self-Care and Connecting with Ancestors
Memorable Quotes
"We don't have a nervous system; we are a nervous system. It's always looking for a threat, called neuroception, which means the nervous system is always listening, even when we're not thinking about it."
"Boundaries are the most activating act for our nervous system to carry out because they require us to stand in our authority and power. It can feel like confrontation, but they are also the most connecting aspect of a relationship."
"My work is really grounded in embodied leadership, rites of passage work for women, and deep root nervous system work. The combination of these is about rediscovering a deep, innate trust in yourself and building that inner world into a strong base."
Episode Resources
Polyvagal Theory - A theory that explains how the nervous system responds to stress and trauma - https://www.stephenporges.com/
Kimberly Ann Johnson - Expert in nervous system work - https://kimberlyannjohnson.com/
Connect With Kari
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kariazuma/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kari.Azuma.3?mibextid=LQQJ4d
Connect With Amie
Website: https://amiebarsky.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1
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43 min
August 02, 2024 10: Lorena Martinez - Is Your DNA Hijacking Your Self-Care?
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes clinical psychologist Lorena Martinez to explore the intersection of psychology and ancestry. Lorena delves into how generational trauma can shape our present lives, offering insights into family dynamics and the importance of reclaiming one's place in the family tree.
The conversation covers practical methods for emotional release, such as somatic practices and ancestral healing, and emphasizes the significance of self-care. Also discussed are the challenges and rewards of breaking generational cycles, particularly for mothers. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand and overcome inherited emotional patterns.
What We Explored This Episode
06:14 Psychology meets Ancestry
18:24 Ancestral Healing and Generational Trauma
20:13 Intergenerational Trauma
22:47 Generational Emotional Suppression
28:56 Acceptance and Forgiveness in Relationships
33:23 Breaking Generational Cycles
34:12 Somatics and Emotional Releasing
Memorable Quotes“The way we reclaim our power is when we take our place in our family tree. When we have been our sisters' mothers, our mothers' mothers, or when we haven't taken our role as the child, we can’t reclaim whatever life has for us.""When your grandmother was pregnant with your mother at four months, the egg that would become you was already there. So whatever your grandma lived through, you were already receiving those codes.""Our parents gave us what was given to them. Understanding that helps to step into a place of peace with what happened. They did what they knew, and we can choose to break the cycle."Episode Mentioned
Rupert Sheldrake's Research on Morphic Fields - https://www.sheldrake.org/
Family Constellation by Bert Hellinger - https://www.hellinger.com/en/family-constellation/
Connect With Lorena
Lorena’s Website - https://www.thegoodkarmalife.com/
Lorena’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/people/ThegoodKarmalife
Lorena’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/loremarti/?hl=en
Connect With Amie
Website: https://amiebarsky.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1
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38 min
July 26, 2024 9: Are Your Relationship Patterns Sabotaging Your Love Life?
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In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Emotional IQ expert Joshua Wenner. They dive into the intricacies of emotional regulation, exploring how high amounts of stress impacts our brain and behavior. Joshua shares his journey from grief and trauma work to helping high achievers heal their relationships. The conversation covers codependency, attachment styles, and societal expectations that hinder self-care.
Joshua offers practical advice on daily regulation practices and the importance of self-care for maintaining healthy relationships. Tune in for insights on transforming your life and love story through emotional awareness and self-prioritization.
What We Explored This Episode
0:00 Daily Emotional Regulation Framework
13:35 Dynamics of Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Styles in Relationships
21:52 Nervous System Responses in Relationships
27:03 Mental Frameworks for Moving from Codependency to Independence
29:04 Societal Expectations and Women's Self-Prioritization
30:05 Men's Self-Care and Nurturing Practices
35:02 Embracing Contraction and Expansion in Personal Growth
36:03 Joshua's Relationship Dynamics and Personal Growth
39:12 Embracing Duality and Grief Work
41:09 Emotional Regulation Through Breathing
Memorable Quotes"When you're high-stressed, you move into the back of your brain, which shuts off compassion, empathy, and rational thinking. Getting regulated moves you to the front of the brain, where you can consciously choose how to respond." "In codependent dynamics, the anxious person leans in with controlling energy, while the avoidant person pulls away. This yo-yo pattern continues until both learn to regulate their nervous systems and address their wounds.""Life involves a constant contraction and expansion. Embracing both joy and grief, excitement and frustration, allows us to navigate life's ebb and flow more effectively."Episode Resources
Facing Love Addiction by Pia Mellody - https://www.amazon.com/Facing-Love-Addiction-Giving-Yourself/dp/0062506048
Connect with Joshua
Joshua’s Website - https://joshuawenner.com/
Joshua’s LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuawenner/
Joshua’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/joshuamichaelwenner/?hl=en
Connect With Amie
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Website: https://amiebarsky.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1
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48 min

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