Valentine’s Day is here, and if you and your spouse are feeling more like roommates than lovers, you are not alone.

In this episode, I sit down with listener Allie, who bravely shares her story of feeling disconnected in her marriage—something so many couples experience, especially after kids. She and her husband are caught in the classic standoff: she needs emotional connection to feel physical desire, and he needs physical intimacy to feel emotionally close. Sound familiar?

We unpack why modern relationships struggle in this way, why you shouldn’t blame yourself (or your partner), and—most importantly—how to move forward together. If you’re feeling stuck in the roommate phase, this episode is your roadmap out.

PLUS: I’ve created a free guide to help you and your partner start strengthening your partnership in just 20 minutes a week. It’s available exclusively for Sounds Like Therapy listeners, so grab it now!

🔗 Get the Free Guide: https://www.andreaburkly.com/partnerbetter

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