I Get It

I have had moments that I questioned if my child was possessed by demons. Truly. The tantrums were out of control and happening daily. Where did I fail as a parent? Good news-- these fits weren't because I was a bad mom. I just didn't know how these kids brains worked and functioned. I had no idea their brains literally become disconnected from themselves. Today, I discuss the steps I take when my toddler starts kicking and screaming over the wrong color sippy cup.

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I have thought it.... "Why did I have my kids?"

 "Why did I have so many kids?" 

"My husband has it so much better than I do."

This season has been hard... for all of us. And, truthfully, I have had moments bitterness has tried to creep into my heart... ok, it has tried to storm in like the great flood. There have been dark moments of deep resentment as I stare over another sink full of dishes. I know I am not alone, and I know that it can happens even in the happiest of marriages. So, how do I fight it? How do I fight against the frustration I have because I am not fulfilled by teaching my kid 2+2? I break this down in this blunt, candid episode. Turn on the nightlight, because it gets a little dark in there.

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Marriages all go through seasons and with those seasons roles change, people change, and our ability to support each other in every way changes. But what is your goal? Who do YOU want to be in your marriage... roommates, teammates, partners, or one? We go through each one, times we have been there, and what we did to shift marriage to the next level.

So often we are held back not by our actual circumstances but because of the stories we tell ourselves. These lies can put us in boxes in our careers, marriage, and in creating the life we deeply want. We break down how to find out what beliefs you are holding on to, and how to work to overcome them.

You are tired, in a hurry, or emotionally spent, but your partner is practically begging you to take your clothes off. Yup! We are talking about sex in today's episode & the power & purpose of a quickie. We talk about the NEED of sex, the boundaries we have set, and what conversations we have before jumping in the bed... or the backseat of our van. Quickies serve a purpose but can be a fun way to enjoy sex!

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Have I mentioned that marriage is hard? haha. It is even harder when we don't have the foundational need of safety within it. Today, we dive into what Wes and I have done to keep each other safe in normal times, so in seasons of disconnect we can make it to the other side. Boundaries allow relationships to produce the love and intimacy we all desire. Your partner can't feel their love language you are giving them until they feel safe with you. We also talk about broken trust in relationships. 

We have those long days, weeks, months (if you are someone who holds everything in)... then it just takes one wrong move... one side eye... one joke that throws you over the edge. It catches the other person off guard because normally, whatever happened wouldn't be a big deal. Why are you freaking out?? Well, because there is a lot going on under the surface. Today, we talk about how to worth through those moments, how NOT to work through those moments, and you get to hear some of our own personal triggers that I know many of you can relate to.

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Back in 2010, I learned a theory that changed my entire life. Yup, I am literally a different person because of it. It is: You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. But there is more to it... listen to find out how to really know who is in your brain space & what they are contributing there. Because what they contribute... you contribute. Plus find out my original list that is a bit... awkward. 

As always, thanks for being here. 

About three years into our marriage I had a realization... I kind of sucked as a spouse compared to Wes. On today's episode, I talk about why, the questions I ask myself to change my mindset, AND the benefits of going the extra mile. It is all about showing up for each other and not just being on the team but working towards being MVP.

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This weekend Wes & I were able to have a last minute, much needed getaway. We were desperate to have time to reconnect with ourselves and each other. On today's episode, we talk about roadblocks couples face that prevent time alone together, how expectations will dictate if that time is a success, and give tangible tips.  We also share why planning is SO important... so you don't find yourself in the same situation we did :/ 

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