I Thought I Was Over This

In this episode, Dr. Kimber and special guest Mandy Ream, author and professor, explore personal growth, healing, and the journey towards self-acceptance. You're in for a heartfelt discussion on the power of friendship, vulnerability, and the challenges of seeking reassurance from others. This episode delves into the intricacies of building and maintaining meaningful relationships, sharing from personal experiences and giving practical insights. From the impact of developmental trauma to the importance of intentionality in friendships, this episode offers valuable lessons on understanding internal emotions, setting boundaries, and celebrating authenticity. Join them as they uncover the transformative power of human connection and the joy of embracing imperfection.

Three key takeaways for this episode:

1. The Power of Authentic Friendship: Dr. Kimber and Mandy explore the significance of authentic friendships that provide emotional support, acceptance, and love. They discuss the importance of intentionality in building and maintaining friendships, along with the impact of human connection on emotional well-being.
2. Vulnerability and Self-Acceptance: The episode delves into the challenges of vulnerability, self-acceptance, and seeking reassurance in friendships. They share personal experiences of struggling with insecurities, comparison to others, and the need for affirmation, emphasizing the power of acceptance and the journey of growth in relationships.
3. Overcoming Loneliness and Embracing Imperfection: The conversation emphasizes the impact of loneliness and the importance of seeking friendship and support. Dr. Kimber and Mandy highlight the value of play, celebration, and accepting imperfections in oneself and others. The episode provides insights into the significance of embracing imperfection and seeking genuine connections to overcome feelings of isolation.

MORE ON SPECIAL GUEST MANDY REAM…

Mandy Osterhaus Ream is a professor in Communication Studies in Southern California. She recently published her debut essay collection, Life As I Know It...So Far, which includes stories about parenting, Down Syndrome, mental health, and life in general through the lens of middle age.

Her work is also featured in Grub Street, Pink Panther Magazine, Literary Mama, and Remington Review. More can be found at www.mandyosterhausream.com. She is happiest in water. Instagram: @mandy.ream

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Book: Still: Making A Whole When Parts Go Missing

In this episode, Dr. Kimber Del Valle, a licensed clinical psychologist and somatic experiencing practitioner, guides you through a grounding and relaxation practice to help you prepare for sleep. Dr. Kimber provides gentle encouragement to bring awareness and relaxation to various parts of your body, focusing on breath and the sensations of comfort and safety. Throughout the episode, she emphasizes the importance of accepting and embracing the mundane and boredom as a pathway to relaxation and ultimately, falling asleep. Join Dr. Kimber as she offers her calming voice and supportive guidance to help you find peace and rest.

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Book: Still: Making A Whole When Parts Go Missing

This episode is all about slowing down, listening for the divine, and finding intention in 2024. So, grab your favorite beverage, get cozy, and let's dive in!

In this  episode, here are 5 keys that you'll learn and implement:

1. The power of reflecting and creating intentional practices in our lives to foster spiritual and personal growth.

2. How to choose a word of the year and Gretchen Rubin's 24 in 24 list to hold yourself accountable.

3. Pick three actions that cultivate delight no matter your circumstances.

4. Implementing sustainable habits and spiritual disciplines, such as stewardship and celebration, can give you the character change you hope to achieve.

5. Identify an intentional mental shift and watch its transformative effects on mood, relationships, and perspectives.

References:
Gretchen Rubin: 24 in 24 and #Write24in24: https://gretchenrubin.com/resource/24-for-2024-list/

Abbey of the Arts: https://abbeyofthearts.com

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Book: Still: Making A Whole When Parts Go Missing

Welcome to I Thought I Was Over This, the podcast where we explore ways to navigate emotions and find inner peace. In this episode, Dr. Kimber does a year in review to examine your coping strategies with the emotions of shame, grief, joy, anger, and gratitude.  Discover the themes from the past year and build awareness around both strengths and areas to grow.

Key Takeaways:

1. Dr. Kimber encourages listeners to focus on emotional processing and the cultivation of gratitude as important tools for mental well-being.
2. She emphasizes the significance of adding positive habits and removing negative ones to regulate emotions and promote personal growth.
3. Dr. Kimber recommends taking the time to review the past year, reflect on significant experiences, and track progress and growth as a means of building awareness.

Key Moments:

• 06:07 Practice breathing techniques.
• 07:42 Reflect on memories and emotions of 2023.
• 15:10 Reflect on shame triggers, cope, and track progress.
• 18:02 Manage challenges and emotions in daily life.
• 23:08 Reflect on anger experiences, process, and express.
• 29:36 Prepare for challenges, find balance, and stay present.
• 33:11 Prioritize meditation, introspection, and mindful living.
• 35:52 Find awe in nature, shifting perspectives positively.

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Book: Still: Making A Whole When Parts Go Missing

Welcome to I Thought I Was Over This, the podcast where we explore ways to navigate life's challenges and find inner peace. In this episode, Dr. Kimber shares the keys to unlocking a more present and compassionate self. From regulating emotions to embracing pain and joy, she guides you through mindfulness exercises that awaken the senses. Discover the art of affirming your aliveness, paying attention to your breath, and celebrating your sacred presence.

Key Takeaways from this episode: 

1. Regulating Emotions and Practicing Self-Compassion: Dr. Kimber emphasizes the importance of regulating emotions and practicing self-compassion to be fully present and not in a fight or flight response.
2. Acknowledging Pain and Loss: Listeners are encouraged to bring their pain points, losses, and grief into conversation. Dr. Kimber highlights the significance of acknowledging and holding space for both joy and disappointment, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion.
3. Mindfulness and Presence: Dr. Kimber guides listeners through various mindfulness exercises, such as noticing their safety, sounds, smells, taste, body temperature, and visual surroundings, to help them become more present and aware of their surroundings. Additionally, she encourages listeners to affirm their aliveness and worth, pay attention to their breath, and physically move to acknowledge their presence.

Timestamps:

• [00:00 - 00:30] Introduction by Dr. Kimber: Introducing the topic of regulating emotions and practicing self-compassion for being fully present and not in a fight or flight response.
• [00:31 - 01:15] Sponsor Message: The episode is sponsored by Dr. Kimber's book Still: Making A Whole When Parts Go Missing. Her story of loss of a stillborn child, encourages listeners to bring their pain points, losses, and grief into conversation.
• [01:16 - 05:00] Guided Practice: Dr. Kimber guides listeners through noticing their safety, sounds, smells, taste, body temperature, and visual surroundings to help them become more present and aware of their surroundings.
• [05:01 - 07:30] Affirmations and Breath: Listeners are encouraged to affirm their aliveness and worth, pay attention to their breath, make sounds on exhalation, place their hand on their chest, and notice where in their body they feel present in the moment.
• [07:31 - 10:00] Kindness and Reflection: Dr. Kimber encourages listeners to be kind to themselves and notice the positive impact of taking time to reset and be intentional. She urges the audience to reflect on both the positive and negative aspects of their lives, acknowledging and holding space for both joy and disappointment.
• [10:01 - 12:00] Acknowledging Presence: Dr. Kimber invites the audience to physically move and acknowledge their presence, reminding them that they are a sacred being who matters.
• [12:01 - 13:30] Conclusion and Resource Promotion: Dr. Kimber promotes her newsletter, A Moment of Pause, as a resource for slowing down and reflecting.
• [13:31 - 14:00] Outro: Closing remarks and teaser for the next episode.

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Book: Still: Making A Whole When Parts Go Missing

Welcome to I Thought I Was Over This, the podcast where we explore ways to navigate life's challenges and find inner peace. In this episode, Dr. Kimber guides us through a grounding practice to help reset our nervous systems and find stability amidst the chaos. Through gentle prompts and soothing guidance, she encourages us to acknowledge the weight of our bodies, connect with our breath, and release the burdens we carry. As we join Dr. Kimber on this journey of self-care, we are reminded of our resourcefulness, sufficiency, and divine love. So, find a comfortable space, take a moment to pause, and allow yourself to be re-grounded in this mindful and nurturing practice.

Key takeaways from this episode are:

1. Grounding and reset techniques: Dr. Kimber guides listeners through a practice of getting grounded and resetting the nervous system, offering tools to help manage stress and anxiety.

2. Embracing the present moment: The episode encourages mindfulness and self-awareness, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging one's feelings and creating space for relaxation and self-care.

3. Self-love and affirmation: Listeners are prompted to embrace self-love, acknowledge their worth, and recognize their intrinsic value, promoting a sense of being deeply loved and enough.

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Book: Still: Making A Whole When Parts Go Missing

In today's episode, Dr. Kimber dives into the powerful practice of pausing and allowing our emotions to move through us. We all have moments when we feel overwhelmed, disconnected, or even dissociated, and that's where PAUSE episodes come in. These episodes help us practice being present and finding that sweet spot before our fight or flight response kicks in. By pressing pause, we can let the heightened threat response come down and create space for our emotions to be felt and acknowledged. 

Being present means welcoming all emotions and giving them the space they deserve. Through simple cues like softening our eyes or noticing our breath, we can bring ourselves back to the present moment. We'll explore techniques to relax our bodies, such as releasing tension in our forehead, hands, and even placing our tongue off the roof of our mouth. 

Throughout this episode, we'll also practice affirmations, particularly the powerful mantra of "I am enough," to cultivate a sense of self-worth and connection. We'll learn how to bring warmth and support to our bodies, whether through gentle hands on our chests or seeking support from others. 

As always, we'll emphasize the importance of recognizing when professional help may be needed and how seeking the guidance of a therapist can be instrumental on our healing journey. 

Together, we'll discover that our bodies are containers for emotions, each with their unique ways of manifesting. We'll explore the significance of naming and acknowledging all our emotions, as suppressing them can lead to unintended consequences. 

From dominant emotions that may push others aside to the importance of being aware of our emotional patterns and building connections with safe people, it's time to embrace our emotional superpowers. 

So, join us as we soften and invite emotions into our sacred space and learn to wait for clarity before taking action. Together, we'll uncover the strength and presence within ourselves, fostering connections both with others and with ourselves. 

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Book: Still: Making A Whole When Parts Go Missing

Today we have a very special guest joining us. Please welcome Anietie Ukpe-Wallace, also known as Tia. Tia is a pelvic health physical therapist who specializes in working with individuals navigating pregnancy, postpartum, and pelvic floor issues, as well as women experiencing pregnancy loss. 

In today's episode, Tia shares her personal journey with baby loss and infertility and the work she does supporting individuals who have had similar journeys. We'll delve into topics such as manual therapy, emotional and psychological factors that impact fertility, and the importance of finding resilience after loss. Tia's story is a testament to the power of community support and the need to honor and sit with our grief. 

In this episode you'll discover -
1. The importance of holistic care: Tia emphasizes the need for a comprehensive approach to addressing fertility issues and pregnancy loss, considering physical, emotional, and psychological factors. This includes manual therapy, abdominal work, and pelvic floor muscle treatment, which can help release tension and support overall well-being.

2. The power of community and support: Tia highlights the significance of finding a supportive community when experiencing grief and loss, especially in the context of pregnancy loss. Sharing experiences, seeking understanding, and being heard can greatly aid in the healing process and provide much-needed support during challenging times.

3. Resilience through self-care and finding joy: Tia emphasizes the importance of self-care and finding moments of joy while navigating grief and loss. This includes rituals and ceremonies as well as exploring practices like yoga and meditation. By acknowledging and honoring their experiences, individuals can cultivate resilience and growth, even in the face of adversity.

So, let's dive in and explore the world of fertility, loss, and reclaiming hope! Stay tuned for an insightful and heartfelt conversation.

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Book: Still: Making A Whole When Parts Go Missing

In this episode of I Thought I Was Over This, Dr. Kimber delves into her personal journey of grief and loss, sharing insights from her book, Still Making A Whole When Parts Go Missing. Dr. Kimber emphasizes that her book resonates with a wide range of individuals who have experienced various forms of loss, not just pregnancy or baby loss. She discusses the importance of taking time while reading the book, especially when processing birth traumas and grief.

The episode explores Dr. Kimber's personal struggle with envy and dark thoughts when encountering pregnant women, highlighting the need for self-kindness and acknowledging these feelings. She discusses the complexity of her marriage and the decision they faced about whether to stay together or separate. Despite their issues, she acknowledges her husband's love and tried to avoid bringing more devastation to their daughter's life.

The episode wraps up by discussing her experience of visiting a cemetery and the emotions and challenges that arise during such visits. She emphasizes the importance of honoring her lost loved one while also taking care of oneself. Dr. Kimber shares personal insights and reflections on her grief journey, highlighting the relief and presence she eventually found after years of grief.

Throughout the episode, there are practical suggestions for managing grief, such as grounding oneself in the present moment by connecting with the earth and not fixating on signs or messages.

Overall, this episode of I Thought I Was Over This offers a raw and honest exploration of grief, loss, and healing, with Dr. Kimber sharing her personal experiences and practical advice for navigating the complex emotions surrounding baby loss and other forms of grief. It serves as a compassionate and relatable resource for anyone seeking companionship and understanding in their grief journey.

Resources:
Empty Arms
New Hope Grief Support

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Book: Still: Making A Whole When Parts Go Missing

Welcome to another episode of I Thought I Was Over This! 

In today's episode, Dr. Kimber is joined by two incredible guests, New Hope Grief Support's David Leonard (executive director) and Chris Cano (Director of Bereavement Services), who will share their insights and experiences in the realm of grief support.

David, a self-proclaimed "high-functioning griever," takes us on a journey through his own grief and the pivotal moment that led him to seek support. Chris shares with us his journey of being around death for most of his life and how experiencing the layers of grief surrounding divorce eventually led him to New Hope. 

We'll learn about the transformative power of grief support groups and the profound impact it has on people's journey without loved ones. Together, Chris and David invite us to explore the intersection of death, dying, grief, and spirituality.

Get ready for a heartfelt and enlightening conversation as we delve into the complexities of grief and the power of community support. 

Join us as we uncover the stories and lessons that will resonate with anyone who has experienced loss and remind us all that there can indeed be new life (though never without the hole of grief) after death.

Resources:
New Hope Grief Support Community: https://www.newhopegrief.org/

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Book: Still: Making A Whole When Parts Go Missing