Ill Advised with Stefani & Ray

In this week’s episode, Stefani and Ray read from “Dear Abby.” A woman struggles to support her daughter through divorce when she learns about their open marriage. An ornate cut glass cake stand is the final straw after a writer feels snubbed by their family friend. Finally, a young woman is torn about her parent’s divorce after her father lays blame directly on her. [Rapaura Springs Sauvignon Blanc, 2022]

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Out of the Vault: This week, the Biffs bring you an episode with unaired segments from previous recordings. From Boston Globe's Love Letters, Stefani and Ray discuss a twenty-four years old's serial monogamy and her plea to ditch the habit. From The Slate's How To Do It, the Biffs learn about garden party- and kitchen table-polyamory when a writer's efforts at having all of their partners at their birthday party are stalled due to group dynamics.

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The Biffs take on Reddit’s Am I The Assh*le again this week. A man’s culinary skills are challenged when his sister’s boyfriend marches out in a huff in search of his own hot sauce. When a man is sniffed by a dog at a pet-friendly eatery, he barks at it’s owners. Self-sufficiency is a lesson best learned at self-check out. Finally, a grown man is butt-hurt and lashes out against his girlfriend’s daughter for referring to him as creepy during school drop-off. [Casillero del Diablo Sauvignon Blanc, 2022]

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In this week's episode, the Biffs, Stefani and Ray, read from the Reddit Am I The Asshole (AITA) thread. A man begs for judgement after serving his stay-at-home-mom wife with a performance evaluation based on the way she parents their children. Another Redditor brings her case before the internet after her roommate snitches on her to the landlord for refusing to move her sofa. [Miguel Vinho Verde]

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Sally Land's Dear Deidre of the Sun.co.uk takes the stage this week, with some controversial advice topics. What do you do when the man of your dreams turns out to be your long lost half-brother - and you want to keep sleeping with him? A man is pocket dialed by his wife and listens in to her moans and groans before busting her at home. A love child threatens a family's livelihood. [Bonterra Zinfindel, 2021]

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Natalie Bencivenga’s "Ask Natalie" is the center of the Biffs' conversations this week. It’s one thing to sleep with your best friend’s boyfriend, but it’s another thing entirely to keep it from her. A man questions his fidelity after hiding a sex toy purchase from his ailing wife. Finally, a cheating husband wants to have a sleepover with his mistress where he and his wife still live and share a home. It’s an episode of anecdotes and witty banter between Stefani and Ray. [Skouras Moscofilero, 2021]

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In this week’s episode, Stefani and Ray read from Boston.com’s Love Letters, by Meredith Goldstein. A retreat from the familiar and the mundane inspires a left-field marriage proposal that the first writer only sees as a bandage to their problems. In the second letter, a woman introduces her boyfriend to her mother only to find out about their past sexual relations. Listen on to see what the Biffs have to say [Oyster Bay Pinot Gris, 2022]

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In Best of the Biffs (Part V), listen to some of Stefani and Ray’s favorite questions from episodes 82 - Lemme Project These Hands, 79 - Polly Want a Condom, and 73 - Mt Me Beautiful. A man’s mismatched sex drive has him asking Natalie Bencivenga if opening his marriage is a good idea. ChatGPT gives the Biffs a wild scenario of a parrot blabbing about their owner all over the neighborhood. Eleanor Gordon-Smith publishes a response to a woman who’s witnessing the return of the mistress that ruined her marriage.

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Stefani and Ray take to the Washington Post this week to read from Carolyn Hax's advice column. Nice guys finish last when a man's political correctness overrides chivalry. A woman questions whether to tell her five-month-old and three-year-old about her mother-in-law’s extra marital affairs. When a man’s mental health conditions start to affect his adult children, a mother ponders her place in divulging that information. [Spring Sangria w/ Coppola Pinot Grigio, 2022]

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In this week’s episode, your Biffs talk advice from How to Do It’s (Slate.com) Rich Juzwiak. In the first question, the Biffs discuss a scenario where ex-lovers, apart for thirteen years, come back together only for one of the men to be completely put off by his roommate's comfortable appearance. Lastly, a woman is having a hard time trusting her husband when she uncovers his lies and his hidden panty and anal sex toy fetish. Stefani and Ray also talk red flags: Who’s are they? [The Dreaming Tree Pinot Noir, 2021]

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