Impact Ready

This episode explores the topic of saboteurs, which are the inner critics and negative self-talk that can sabotage us. Saboteurs are learned stories that we create in our heads as a result of our lived experiences, and they can influence our thoughts, behaviors, and emotions. Everyone has saboteurs, and it's important to become aware of them in order to change our behavior and feel more empowered. Some common saboteur personas include the perfectionist, people pleaser, martyr, controller, victim, and judge. Saboteurs are rooted in fear and the belief that our needs won't be met. Steph talks about how to begin to identify saboteurs and how to manage them.

In this episode, Steph discusses the importance of bringing extraordinary energy to achieve extraordinary outcomes in life. She highlights the disconnect between wanting big dreams and goals but bringing lackluster or inconsistent energy to the process. Steph emphasizes the need for self-awareness, intention, and consistency in cultivating and maintaining high energy levels. She describes doing an energy audit to assess the energy you bring to your daily life. By being aware and intentional about their energy, we can align it with our desired outcomes and have a greater impact.

This conversation is about effective communication and the importance of listening. Steph shares a helpful acronym, W.A.I.T. (Why Am I Talking), as a reminder to be mindful of your intention in conversation and prioritize listening. The majority of people are terrible listeners, often just waiting for their turn to talk. To be an impactful person, listening needs to be a top skill. Active listening involves being curious, open-minded, and setting aside ego. It's one of the keys to being a person of impact.

Steph explores the concept of desires and how they contribute to a fulfilling life. She discusses the when-then trap, where people believe that achieving certain goals will bring them fulfillment, but often find that it doesn't. Steph emphasizes that desires are the root feelings that make life meaningful and suggests focusing on the motivation behind tasks and goals. She identifies some of the core desires that many people share and encourages listeners to identify their own desires and align their actions with them to experience more fulfillment.

In this conversation, Steph discusses the importance of celebrating wins and the negative impact of constantly striving for the next goal without recognizing the achievements. She introduces the concept of 'the gap' and 'the gain', where the gap represents always looking ahead and feeling like you're falling short, while the gain is about looking back and acknowledging your progress. Steph emphasizes the need to integrate the wins to upgrade your self-identity. She challenges listeners to audit their big wins and encourages them to celebrate and level up their self-perception. By doing so, they can become more confident, capable, and impactful.

In this episode, Steph discusses the importance of using agreements instead of expectations in relationships. She explains how expectations can lead to resistance and conflict, while agreements create mutual understanding and trust. Steph shares how she applied this concept in her relationships with her stepdaughters and how it transformed their interactions. She also highlights the benefits of using agreements in work, marriage and friendships. The challenge to you? Let go of your expectations to live a more stress-free life.

In this episode, Steph emphasizes the importance of validating and acknowledging others by telling them 'You're doing a good job.' She discusses how the need for true quality connection is stronger than ever in today's world, where people feel isolated and lonely despite being more connected through the internet. Steph shares a personal story about her wife's battle with breast cancer and how she realized the power of acknowledging and encouraging each other. She encourages listeners to spread this simple message of acknowledgement and support to the people in their lives.

Discipline is essential for having a powerful impact in the world. However, the word discipline often carries negative connotations and can lead to feelings of shame and guilt. One way to reframe discipline? Think of it simply as one who follows a plan that you set for yourself. When assessing your own self-discipline, consider if you lack energy, if you haven't taken ownership of your plan, or if you're not willing to be uncomfortable. Steph breaks down these 3 key questions you might ask yourself, and how to get honest about your self-discipline game.

This episode discusses the impact of external influences on our mindset and suggests monitoring and controlling our input to have a positive output. When we are aware of what's coming in, we can be more intentional about what's coming out energetically. Steph describes various actions that can contribute to positive output. Consistency and practice are highlighted as key factors in maintaining a positive mindset.

A major characteristic of people who have a powerful impact in the world is their ability to see what's possible. They see possibility beyond their current circumstances and abilities. Many people struggle to see things beyond their current circumstances or ability. It's crucial to believe there could be something different or bigger, even if the current circumstances don't support it. Spending time visualizing a new future and focusing on possibilities creates positive change and powerful impact.