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ILP: Adulting on Your Own Terms Pt 3

Lori discusses a framework for achieving a fulfilling adult life, emphasizing that vision = goals + body cues + community. She explains how setting clear, achievable goals, such as reducing overwhelmed days or minimizing food waste, can help manage expectations and improve daily life. Body cues, like emotional responses serve as real-time metrics. Community involvement is crucial for collective care and sharing responsibilities, such as grocery shopping with roommates. Lori encourages listeners to apply this framework to their own lives, refining goals & body cues over time, & to consider how their actions influence & are influenced by their community.

Transcript

https://otter.ai/u/wzxzQ4IHrbvPgKv5guOHnh3Qp_U

Action items

• Identify a vision for an area of your adult life.

• Determine the goals, body cues, and community aspects that can support that vision.

• Share any insights or questions that come up from applying this framework.

Outline

Vision Equals Goals Plus Body Cues Plus Community

• Lori introduces the concept of vision = goals + body cues + community.

• Putting language to one's vision to make it tangible & relatable is highlighted.

• They share a personal anecdote about avoiding goals due to pathological demand avoidance (PDA) & the subsequent re-sentimenting of goals.

• Goals are likened to setting boundaries or "bumpers" in a bowling alley to manage expectations & avoid overwhelm.

Setting Realistic Goals and Sub-Goals

• Lori provides examples of achievable goals, such as reducing the number of days feeling overwhelmed & making more mindful food purchases.

• The process of breaking larger goals into manageable sub-goals is discussed, such as creating a clear list of work deliverables.

• The importance of having data & facts to advocate for oneself in meetings is emphasized.

• Lori shares her initial resistance to goals due to external expectations & the need for self-defined metrics.

Body Cues as Real-Time Metrics

• Lori explains that body cues can serve as real-time metrics for progress, complementing external metrics that take time to materialize.

• Ex. of body cues include feeling less emotional spikes when dealing with food waste & spending less time in the grocery store.

• Identifying & recognizing body cues  maintains motivation & belief in one's vision.

Community as a Support System

• Lori discusses the role of community in achieving one's vision, referencing the saying that we are the sum of the five people we spend the most time with.

• The concept of collective care & community care is introduced, highlighting  intergenerational & systemic nature of dysfunction.

• The importance of doing one's part & bringing in community to support one's vision is emphasized.

• Ex. of involving community in goals, such as sharing grocery shopping responsibilities with roommates, are provided.

Practical Steps to Implement the Vision Formula

• Apply the vision formula to different aspects of life, starting with defining an ideal day.

• The process of identifying goals, body cues, & community involvement is outlined.

• The flexibility of the vision formula allows for refinement & adjustment based on personal experiences.

Engaging with the Community and Reflecting on Personal Vision

• It’s important to acknowledge the collective influence on one's life & the role of community in achieving personal goals.

• Adulting on one's own terms emphasizes the interconnectedness of individual actions & community support.

• Ex. of community involvement empowering & shifting dynamics within relationships are pr

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In this episode of the Improviding Life Podcast, Lori explores the concept of redefining "adulting" to align with personal values and desires. She encourages listeners to envision their ideal day, using a tool called "A to C" to delve deeper into their thoughts. Lori emphasizes the shift from a rigid vision board to a mood board, focusing on desired emotions and feelings rather than specific, curated images. She also announces her upcoming initiative, "Nurture November," aimed at fostering community, relationships, and personal growth. Additionally, she introduces "Live More with Lori," a personalized two-week life coaching program to help individuals curate their ideal adult life.

Transcript

https://otter.ai/u/n769aXcJveRpbp3IAm-fyM_Vkw0

Action items

• Explore the idea of an "ideal day" and identify aspects of it that can be incorporated into one's current life.

• Shift from a "vision board" approach to a "mood board" to capture the desired emotions and experiences.

• Follow along with the host's "nurture November" theme across various platforms.

• Consider signing up for the "Live More with Lori" one-on-one coaching program.

Outline

Defining an Ideal Day

• Lori introduces the episode, focusing on redefining what it means to "adult" and how to practice it in a way that aligns with one's own values and reality.

• The first exercise involves contemplating whether an ideal day is possible .

• Go deeper by questioning if/why productivity must be a part of their ideal day and to dream beyond current constraints.

• Build a self-defined idea of an ideal day; ex. being responsible for only necessary tasks and using the rest of the time intentionally.

Exploring an Ideal Day

• Lori provides an example of an ideal day that includes slow mornings, visiting the park, working on a favorite project, socializing with friends, and relaxing at home.

• Listeners are encouraged to pause the episode and reflect on their own ideal day.

• The importance of micro-dosing the ideal day, suggesting small steps towards the ideal day  make it more attainable.

• Practicing these small steps helps in building a relationship with the ideal day, making it more accessible and achievable.

Transitioning from Vision Boards to Mood Boards

• Lori discusses the shift from vision boards, which focus on curated, exact images, to mood boards, which focus on desired emotions and feelings.

• The mood board approach encourages listeners to consider how they want to feel in different moments, such as having a slow morning, socializing, or working on a project.

• This approach allows for a variety of ways to achieve the desired emotions and moods, making the ideal day more flexible and achievable.

Practical Application and Personal Reflection

• Lori encourages listeners to practice the exercises and reflections discussed in the episode, pausing as needed to allow for deep contemplation.

• The goal is to redefine adulting in a way that feels humane and aligned with one's values, setting a positive example for self and others.

• Listeners are reminded that while constraints exist, there is still the ability to have choice and to create a fulfilling adult life.

Announcements and Upcoming Events

• Lori announces the theme for November, "Nurture November," focusing on nurturing communities, relationships, and the business.

• The goal is to slow down towards the end of the year while having a clearer and less crowded plate for the future.

• The episode includes a teaser for the launch of "Live More with Lori," a one-to-one life coaching offering opening November 1.

• The coaching program aims to help listeners live thei

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ILP: Adulting on Your Own Terms Pt 1

Lori Crawford explores the concept of "adulting" on the Improviding Life Podcast, emphasizing the need to redefine and personalize it. She critiques traditional views of adulting as miserable, isolating, and unsupportive, rooted in outdated and harmful structures like capitalism and patriarchy. Crawford shares her own experiences, highlighting the generational impact on her view of adulthood and the challenges of student loan debt. She encourages listeners to reflect on their inner parental voices, media influences, and to question whether they believe in the possibility of a fulfilling, joyful adult life. Crawford also promotes her one-on-one mentorship program aimed at helping individuals live their adult lives on their own terms.

Transcript

https://otter.ai/u/w3PZE-5yCZo-GFiYR5bBo7iSJA4

Action items

• [] Reflect on whose voice you hear first when you "mess up" and where your expectations of the "right way" to adult come from.

• [] Consider what character or persona you think has "their shit together" and examine the similarities and differences between that character and yourself.

• [] Explore whether you believe an "ideal" adult life is possible and if you feel worthy of receiving it.

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Our How Human Design Helps Me Human series continues with a solo episode exploring how I approach self-regulating through my undefined and open Human Design energy centers.

As a Mental Projector I have 2 of the 9 centers defined, which means a LOT of openness in my chart.

This episode clarifies the difference between having an undefined and an open center, and speaks to my experience with my 4 undefined and 3 open centers including how I look to those centers to clues to how I can best regulate my nervous system and take more humane care of myself.

Remember to send a “text” through the Improviding Life buzzsprout page so I can respond in our next episode!

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Rachel Star is an Astrologer, Human Design practitioner, Cosmic Queen, and an overall ICON in the world of self-embodiment

And she’s this weeks guest!

We explore aspects of Astrology and Human Design natal charts that help us identify and life through our values

And how living life as ourselves not only makes life more livable, but makes us ICONIC!

You can join Rachel’s upcoming course on Human Design authority (decision making) types here!

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Grab your HD charts and note what centers you have defined (hint: they’ll be colored in!)

These are your super powers you’re meant to share with the world

And they also may be where you’ve been told your energy is big or too much by those around you

I’m sorry if that was your experience, it certainly was mine

And now that I know better, that my defined Head and Ajna are what make me me, I am absolutely re-sentimenting these energies for my own wellbeing and so you get the best of me

If something in this episode inspires you, share your thoughts with me through Buzzsprouts new Fan Mail feature where you can ask your questions and I’ll respond in our next episode! 

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The Improviding Life Podcast welcomes Karyn Paige as our first guest for our How Human Design Helps Me Human series! We discuss our own entry ways into Human Design, how HD can support our anti-oppression and liberation practices, and how to be critical lovers by holding ourselves and one another accountable as we pursue being in right relationship despite the presence and heaviness of systemic oppression.


More About Karyn: Karyn Paige is a certified Informed Practitioner of Human Design, a facilitator, speaker and coach. Her work centers the experiences of Women of Color from an intersectional perspective. She is here to help people find alignment by blending energy work and self-compassion to imagine the possibilities of a liberated world for themselves and the collective.

Links:

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It’s Human Design season on The Improviding Life Podcast!

Join me for the upcoming How Human Design Helps Me Human Series where I will be sharing my personal experience with the Human Design energy system and inviting other HD practitioners and change makers onto the pod to share their own experiences, ways of serving, and change making magic through the lens of Human Design

To get your own Human Design chart, you can enter your birth time, date, and location here

Next week we have a delightfully robust conversation with a very special guest

Until then, enjoy this dive into How Human Design Helps Me Human

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Ep 47 - Resting to Receive and Being a Gate Tender with Isabel Bagsik

In today’s episode we are joined by Isabel Bagsik, Creativity Wellness Guide and very nourishing human to share space with!

The TLDR:

Your Creative Calling is Medicine

-Why so many visionaries and change makers who identify as women, BIPOC, LGBTQIA+, or as the child of immigrants feel like there aren't enough hours in the day for rest and self care, let alone creativity and play

-How toxic capitalist ideals need you to believe your creativity should "just be a hobby" or "isn't worthy if it's not productive" and how to rewrite this narrative

-Why the prioritization of rest and creativity is the secret to an abundant income that lets you help support your loved ones, donate to causes you care about, and travel the world

-How to connect with your inner child to experience liberated play that takes you from discouraged and unmotivated to overflowing with creative enthusiasm and momentum

More about Isabel and how you can work together:

Isabel Bagsik (she/her) is a Creativity Wellness Guide and art director who works with visionaries and changemakers ready to honor their inherent creative wisdom without the burnout.

She has a double Bachelor's degree in Design & Digital Media from UC Davis, founded the Brown Papaya Magazine, and designed for nonprofits, multi-billion corporations, and even your fave celebrities (ex: Target, Google, Michelle Obama, Stephen Curry).

With 10+ years designing, strategizing, event organizing, and space holding for 400+ folks of diverse backgrounds (especially women, BIPOC, and LGBTQIA+), she nurtures your creative spirit to finally get your ideas launched, get you compensated, and find your soul community.

She supports your goals through 1:1 mentorship, group programs, and intimate community experiences.

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unconventionalbliss.com

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And to learn more about The Girl Who Sees, visit here