In this episode we're looking at making the best of situations - acceptance of what's going on for ourselves. 

When things happen to us, our sympathetic nervous system is activated - our fight, flight and freeze response. Accepting what happens in our lives can help to bring our nervous system out of the fight, flight, freeze response and back to our executive functioning so that we can get on with our lives in a healthy and sustainable way. 

In order to do this, we can accept. Feel the feelings and think the thoughts, which will help us to move on. 

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Fay - https://www.fayblakey.com 

Rebekah - https://www.quest4est.co.uk

Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: https://www.wahhoo.co.uk

Talking about being ready to do something. Being ready is actually a decision that we make!

What does this mean?

It means we make a decision to do something - rather than waiting for the motivation to start.

Sometimes we get out dopamine from things that fly in the face of the things we want to achieve - so making the decision to do something means that you have to be aware of what could stop you, how it makes you feel, think and behave - and what needs to be different. 

Keep the end result in mind!

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Fay - https://www.fayblakey.com 

Rebekah - https://www.quest4est.co.uk

Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: https://www.wahhoo.co.uk

A special episode. This is number 100! A milestone.

We're celebrating being in pursuit of the better you!

We're re-visiting the essence of the podcast and chatting about what it means to us to be in pursuit of the better us. 

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Fay - https://www.fayblakey.com 

Rebekah - https://www.quest4est.co.uk

Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: https://www.wahhoo.co.uk

In this episode, we're joined by Dr. Tony Cerella ACC, who talks to us about transitioning from a long standing service in the US Army.

How this is, when 23 years of your life and identity is one thing, to then being in a whole new world. 

Tony talks about navigating his feelings, his meaning, his worth - for himself and his family. 

He talks about being coached at the start of his transition and how coaching changed his life - so much so, that he is now trained as an ICF accredited coach, to coach others.

You can connect with Tony on LinkedIn here.  

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Fay - https://www.fayblakey.com 

Rebekah - https://www.quest4est.co.uk

Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: https://www.wahhoo.co.uk

How can we have difficult conversations in a healthy and productive way?

Often we avoid the difficult conversation - but in doing this, we're not helping ourselves - it doesn't make the issue go away. 

Difficult conversations and situations will always exist - and subjects might be emotive, so we need to consider how we need to be in order to sort them out well. 

Understanding the person we're having the conversation with is vital and setting up the communication so that it's objective (perhaps processes need to be in place).

Simon Sinek says it's important to lean into having these conversations - he has a model - FBI - it sounds really effective, you can learn more here.

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Fay - https://www.fayblakey.com 

Rebekah - https://www.quest4est.co.uk

Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: https://www.wahhoo.co.uk

What happens when you don't feel creative? When you're not on it. How do you turn those feelings around? What does creativity even mean to you?

We're talking here about how creativity may look different to how you think it should - perhaps we need to be creative about how we're creative. Are you giving yourself permission to think that you can have good ideas and be creative?

Creativity doesn't always come when you want it to. You likely won't be creative when you're sat at your desk. Your brain needs some downtime in order to fire those creative thoughts - doing different things helps. 

Have a listen to hear our thoughts on how you can ignite your creativity. 

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Fay - https://www.fayblakey.com 

Rebekah - https://www.quest4est.co.uk

Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: https://www.wahhoo.co.uk

We've realised we actually disagree with each other on something! Shock horror!

Fay is very much an 'all or nothing' kind of person.

Becki is more 'slow and steady wins the race'.

We both have the same goal at the moment - but we're approaching it from different ways. We'll have to wait to see which may work better - if any!

But when you consider how you approach your goals - which way works best for you?

Contact

Fay - https://www.fayblakey.com 

Rebekah - https://www.quest4est.co.uk

Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: https://www.wahhoo.co.uk

Talking about jealousy today in this episode - what does this mean for us when we're feeling all the feels of jealousy. 

Becki and I invite you to think about when you last felt jealous and what was going on there? What was it all about?

Often, we can feel jealous because we're feeling 'I wish...' 'I want to do that too.' Wishing we'd done something that we're seeing others do. 

We explore if it's healthy to be a bit jealous, but what happens when it gets more than just a bit. 

Questions you can ask about your feelings: Why am I feeling like this? What do I want to do about this? What's feasible for me to do right now? How might I like to feel differently?

Contact

Fay - https://www.fayblakey.com 

Rebekah - https://www.quest4est.co.uk

Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: https://www.wahhoo.co.uk

How are you at speaking up in meetings?

Are you shy? Do you not like the sound of your voice? Do you think your opinions aren't valid?

What would give you the confidence to speak up in meeting?

Facilitation of meetings is important to consider when being or feeling able to speak up in meetings. How are you being included? - How are you including others?

It's important to have your voice heard in meetings - this is where innovation happens, collaboration, getting known for who you are - and also to be able to support your team so that you can be effective as a team.

In this episode, we share tips to help you start contributing in meetings - giving you the confidence to do so. 

We reference Greg Ballard  - Agree & Commit, Disagree & Commit - you can watch the clip here. 

Contact

Fay - https://www.fayblakey.com 

Rebekah - https://www.quest4est.co.uk

Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: https://www.wahhoo.co.uk

How clear are you on who you are and what you do so that you can be impactful and influential in your role?

Are you trying to influence someone - who maybe can't be influenced? How much time are you spending here? What might you need to do or think differently?

A useful tool to help you understand how you can think and do differently, is Stephen Covey's circles of influence. It helps us realise what we can control and what we can't. And as such, what do you need to let go of?

When we shift the external want inwards, we realise how impactful we truly are. We're letting the negative energy go. 

Contact

Fay - https://www.fayblakey.com 

Rebekah - https://www.quest4est.co.uk

Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: https://www.wahhoo.co.uk