In The Messy Relationship Podcast

If you have an anxious attachment style, decision-making can feel overwhelming. In this episode, Jan explores how to make values-based choices, stop anxiety-driven urgency, and trust yourself without constant doubt.

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In Episode 15 of In The Messy Podcast, Jan explains why anxiety makes decision-making feel urgent, how anxious attachment skews choices, and how to distinguish anxiety-driven urges from true intuition. Learn nervous system tools to make calm, values-aligned decisions you can stand behind.

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If you struggle with anxious attachment, fear of abandonment, or emotional spirals in relationships, this episode is for you. In Episode 14 of In The Messy Podcast, registered psychotherapist Jan shares how to heal anxious attachment from the inside out using evidence-based therapy approaches like IFS, EFT, DBT, and EMDR. Learn why anxious attachment isn’t a life sentence, how nervous system healing creates real change, and the emotional skills needed to build secure, healthy relationships. This episode includes personal insights, real client transformations, and a clear path toward feeling calm, grounded, and worthy of love.

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In this episode, host Jan, a registered psychotherapist in Ontario, explores the deeply familiar fear of “running out of time.” Whether it’s relationships, career, mental health, or life milestones, Jan unpacks why this anxiety shows up, how social comparison and attachment patterns fuel it, and what’s happening in the nervous system when urgency takes over. Through real client examples and a compassionate, trauma-informed lens, she shares practical coping tools—from grounding and journaling to reframing self-talk, prioritizing small steps, and building long-term emotional resilience. This episode is a reminder that you don’t have to fix everything at once, and that meaningful change begins by focusing on what you can control, right now.

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In this episode of In The Messy Podcast, psychotherapist Jan leads you through a calming grounding exercise to help ease anxious attachment and settle your nervous system. With gentle breathing, body awareness, and soft affirmations, you’ll learn how to feel safer in your body and quiet the urge to stay on high alert.

This short practice is perfect for anyone who feels anxious in relationships, struggles with overthinking, or needs a moment to slow down and reconnect with themselves

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In this episode of In The Messy Podcast, psychotherapist Jan opens up about one of her biggest friendship failures and explores why facing our fears is so difficult—but life-changing. Learn how exposure, physical resilience, and the anterior mid-cingulate cortex (AMCC) help you overcome fear, build emotional strength, and break old patterns. Perfect for anyone struggling with anxiety, self-doubt, or past mistakes.

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In this episode, we dive into the roots of anxiety—where it comes from, why it sticks, and how your brain keeps old fear stories alive. Through personal reflection and practical tools, you’ll learn how to name your fear, separate instinct from irrational worry, and rebuild safety through gentle exposure. A compassionate roadmap for anyone ready to shift from reactivity to resilience.

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In this episode, we explore what happens when anxiety takes over after being triggered. Through a client’s real-life story, you’ll learn why anxiety is a neutral signal from your body, how to recognize when you’ve moved outside your window of tolerance, and how to ground yourself using research-based tools like the 5-4-3-2-1 method and the STOP technique. With mindfulness and self-awareness, you’ll discover how to move from overwhelm to clarity and begin using anxiety as a guide instead of a barrier.

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In this episode, we dive into anxious attachment—what it is, how it develops, and the patterns that keep it alive. Through relatable stories, research-based insight, and practical tools, you'll learn how to recognize anxious attachment in yourself, understand its roots, and take steps toward building more secure, fulfilling relationships. 

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In this episode, we unpack the truth about disorganized attachment—what it really means, how it forms, and how healing is possible. Through honest reflection, research-based insight, and practical strategies, you'll learn how to recognize this attachment style and take empowering steps toward secure, connected relationships. 

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